Do women like dominant men?
I know what you’re thinking. And I know why you’re here. The question you’re asking yourself is a product of the time we live in. A couple of decades ago, no man on earth would have asked himself if women prefer aggressive and masculine men.
Everyone knew the answer…instinctively.
What about today?
And I’m pretty sure this will soon be the new norm…
But do women really want that?
Now that I’ve shared my bed with dozens of beautiful women from all over the world, I can confidently say that the answer is…
No, no, and hell no!
Girls want to date boys and women want to date men. No matter how many times these crazy idiots come up with new weird theories that men should be more feminine, submissive, and whatnot…it doesn’t make it true.
Women love dominant men!
In fact, there are plenty of reasons for that. Today I want to share some of these reasons with you. And I hope I can convince you to stay strong in a world that wants you to be weak. Do it for the ladies.
Please don’t fall into the soy boy trap…
Why Women Like Dominant Men and Don’t Admit It
What happens when you ask the girl next door if she likes dominant men?
She’ll probably deny it. She’ll come up with some half-assed excuse along the lines of “I want a nice guy. I don’t want a dominant man because I’m a strong and independent woman and blah blah blah.”
Now let me ask you another question:
What do you think happens when the same girl has a girls’ night out?
Oh boy…you don’t even want to know it. Okay, you are not married. So I can tell you the truth. You might refuse to believe it, but the truth is that women crave a girl’s night out whenever they are ovulating. What a coincidence…
It’s not hard to figure out who she’ll choose as a sexual partner for the night.
Of course, we all know that she only dresses up in a mini skirt, wears her sexiest G-string and baths in perfume because she wants to have a drink with the girls. I feel sorry for all the men who really believe that.
A study called “do women prefer dominant men?” doesn’t believe her.
According to this study, women didn’t identify dominance as a desirable trait, but they identified several traits associated with dominance. In other words, they tried to hide the truth and failed terribly at it.
Let’s have a look at why dominance is such a desirable trait…
1. Dominant Men are Assertive and Decisive
I have news for you:
Women hate making decisions. They don’t want to be the ones who make the plans. They want a man who makes the plans for them. Girls want men who are not afraid to make a decision, no matter how small it is.
Decisiveness is an incredibly attractive trait.
I’ve never met a girl who got aroused when I said “you decide” to her. But I’ve met plenty of girls who looked at me with hungry eyes when I said “today at four. Be on time”. And according to the study I mentioned above, women prefer decisive men…and assertive men.
What’s so attractive about assertiveness?
Well, think about it. An assertive man is more likely to win an argument and to get the raise he asked for. He knows what to say and to do in order to get what he wants. Oh, and he shows the same assertiveness in his relationship.
Let’s be honest.
Women don’t really want to win the argument.
2. Dominant Men are Confident
This word shows up in every second article on my site. And there’s a reason for that. I hate to say it but without confidence you can’t make women addicted to you. That’s why I dedicated dozens of pages in my book Rise of the Phoenix to the development of unshakable confidence.
Girls love confident men and you need it to get them:
Without self-confidence, you won’t do any of these things.
3. Women Want to Follow Dominant Leaders
Do women want to be followers or leaders?
You’ve heard so much about the strong and independent women. And you’ve heard so many politicians mention that we need more women in leadership positions. Well, it would be great if they asked these future female leaders if they actually want that.
Here’s the one thing I know:
Women do NOT want to lead, especially in a relationship. As soon as attraction, lust, and raw desire are involved, 99% of girls don’t want to take the steering wheel. They want you to drive.
There’s just one exception.
If a woman doesn’t follow you, she doesn’t think you have what it takes to lead her. It sounds brutal, but it’s the brutal truth.
4. Women Like to Submit to Dominant Men
“Oh no! How can I say that? I’m such a jerk!”
White chicks love to blame men who are into Asian girls for being attracted to submissive women. That’s hypocritical because guess what? All women, no matter if black, white, Asian or from planet Vaginlustasia want to be submissive.
They want it but most of them can’t get it.
Are you ready for the shocking truth?
Women are only dominant when they see themselves forced to take this path. A woman’s refusal to submit to her boyfriend or husband speaks louder than words. This guy doesn’t have what it takes to trigger this desire.
Do you have what it takes?
5. Powerful Women Need Dominant Men like Oxygen
But what if she’s a strong and independent woman?
She can’t possibly be attracted to dominant men, right?
I recently stumbled upon an interesting article. This is one of the few articles that talk about female sexuality in an unapologetically honest way. In these article different girls, all self-proclaimed feminists describe how much they love degrading sex.
Here’s what I experienced over the years:
The stronger she is in public, the weaker she wants to be in bed. For years I avoided dating successful women because I considered them manly. One experience with a highly successful consultant changed my perception. She was a freak in the sheets.
Powerful women crave dominant men because deep down they are still little girls.
6. Dominant Men Have What it Takes to Be Successful
Successful men are attractive.
Before you scream “these goddamn gold diggers” I want you to think about why successful men are so attractive. There are plenty of rich guys who inherited a lot of money. But they can only score with hookers, strippers and money-chasing wannabe brides.
What’s the difference between these dudes and men who worked for their success?
A dominant man combines all these traits.
He has what it takes to succeed and this makes women chase him.
7. Your Dominant Voice, Walk and Posture Makes Her Drool
Women are experts in spotting dominant men.
Here’s what happens when an innocent girls gets approached by such a man:
Yeah…mhhh…that’s what women think when they look into the eyes of a dominant man who has this masculine aggressiveness in his eyes. Their hands get sweaty, their body heat increases and their pupils widen.
That happens when you walk, talk, and face her like a dominant man.
8. The Children of Dominant Men Survive
Remember what I said about the infamous girls’ night out?
It’s not hard to figure out who she’ll choose as a sexual partner for the night. That’s what I said and I won’t take it back. Married men all over the world live in denial about this fact.
But can you really deny scientific facts?
According to a study conducted by UCLA researchers, women’s mate preferences change during their menstrual cycle. Women who were ovulating preferred dominant and masculine facial features and character traits.
Here’s what Martie Haselton, a UCLA professor of psychology said:
“Women experience intricately patterned preference shifts even though they might not serve any function in the present moment.”
Here’s what that means in plain English:
“Even though it doesn’t make any logical sense, her biological programming forces her to search for dominant sperm, even if she’s in a happy relationship with Bernd Beta male.”
Some guys should make a paternity test asap.
9. Fun-Loving Girls Seek the Excitement
Do you want to date boring girls?
That’s a stupid question. I know. But I have to ask it anyway because if you like boring women who don’t want to experience anything exciting in life, you can stop reading this article.
Do women like dominant men?
Yes, but only if they are fun-loving girls who are open to new experiences.
According to a research article called “The thrill of loving a dominant partner: Relationships between preference for a dominant mate, sensation seeking, and trait anxiety”, individuals who avoid boredom and seek out exciting social activities have a strong desire for a dominant partner.
Here’s what that means for you:
If you want to date the playful and fun-loving girls you want, you need this trait.
10. Dominant Men Have Higher Testosterone Levels
Let’s talk a bit more about biology.
It’s no secret that a lot of powerful men are entitled, arrogant, and extremely hungry for success and validation. It’s also no secret that these men tend to have high levels of testosterone. And you guessed it…women are attracted to these men.
All these qualities are highly attractive to women. And no, high levels of testosterone are not linked to high aggressiveness. The myth of the toxic masculinity is not true.
In fact, a research study published in the Journal of the American Academy of Child & Adolescent Psychology discovered that teenage boys with high levels of testosterone were higher in the social dominance hierarchy.
Interestingly, these boys were also the least aggressive.
Take that toxic masculinity!
11. Women Want to Tame Untamable Men
Dominant men are hard to tame.
It’s so easy to tame a guy who has zero confidence, has never been assertive in his whole life, and hates making decisions. Women love to play with these men…but not in a good way. They tear them into pieces.
What about the confident, assertive, and decisive man?
He gets all the girls because he’s untamable.
He’s the opposite of harmless because he has options. This type of man could walk away at any moment because he has an abundance of women in his life. He has the choice. He can take Hannah, Katherine, or Sarah and she knows it.
That’s why she wants him so bad.
Summed Up Wisdom
Do women like dominant men? I guess not because society shames men for their toxic masculinity and for their immature and aggressive behavior. But is that really true? Do girls really want beta males and soy boys?
Let’s ask science. According to an interesting scientific study, women don’t admit that dominance is a desirable trait they look out for in men. But it’s funny that the same women choose several other traits that represent dominant behavior.
Let’s face it. Women want men who are confident, assertive and who make the decisions. And yes, they want to be submissive, especially in the bedroom. But don’t tell anyone that all these strong and independent women want it even more.