No happy couple would want to entertain the thought of parting ways.
But here’s the harsh reality: it happens all the time.
A recent study by the American Psychological Association shows that ultimately, 50% of United States’ marriages result in divorce.
So, how can you be sure as hell that your relationship will fail (or survive)?
Well, a lot of signs come into play, such as your bedroom habits, how often you talk with each other, and the way you handle arguments, among others.
Keep reading to know the most possible reasons relationships fail.
1. Withdrawing during Arguments
Arguments are inevitable. Unfortunately, not everyone is emotionally stable to stand through an argument until it’s fully resolved.
So, once people get tired because of arguments, they may simply force the conversation to end or walk out in the middle of the argument.
Doing any of this is disrespectful to the other partner, and if it keeps happening, it may be the beginning of the end of that relationship.
Fix: Arguments are expected in a healthy relationship. And when they arise, you should try to resolve the issue at hand and never walk out on each other before settling the matter to the core.
2. Not Being on the Same Page
Sure, love may conquer all things, but not being on the same page is not one of them.
You both need to agree on basic yet essential things such as where to live, how to spend and save money, if and when to get kids, how to handle in-laws, and much more.
If you don’t agree on these decisions, that relationship may fall apart.
Fix: List the most important decisions you have to make and discuss to agree on each of them.
3. Holding Your Partner to Unrealistic Standards
When you get into a relationship, you want to make your partner happy by doing what pleases them. You expect the same in return.
Here’s the truth:
Slip-ups will happen most of the time, and when they do, a supportive partner will handle it like an adult. On the other hand, an unsupportive partner will treat the other person like they should be perfect all the time.
Frustration for both parties.
Fix: Learn to embrace your partner’s weaknesses and don’t expect them to be 100% perfect.
Of course, it goes without saying that the worst distance between two people is misunderstanding.
Miscommunication tends to occur even in the healthiest of relationships and it can lead to colossal complications, especially if you can’t handle the misunderstandings cordially.
Fix: When you discover your partner misunderstood you and they are mad over something you didn’t say or mean, apologize and clarify everything in a kind manner.
5. Lack of Emotional Intimacy
When a relationship is new, partners are close. They call each other often, meet often, and laugh all the time.
With time, they may begin to drift apart for various reasons. And we could say a normal relationship goes through this phase.
Here’s the problem:
Neglecting your partner’s emotional needs may make them insecure and lonely. At worst, they may try to find solace in someone else who’s closer and more caring.
Fix: Regardless of the reason, don’t let a significant disconnection exist between you two. Find ways to connect emotionally.
6. Money Matters
One of you might be a saver and the other a spendthrift. This will brew a conflict about finances.
We may have peculiar financial habits, but it’s important to sort things out when we get into a relationship.
Arguing over finances is a red flag, and it often leads to endless fights, making the relationship’s future bleak.
Fix: Work with a financial advisor to create the financial plan that affects both of you.
7. Varying Sex Drives
People have different sex drives and wildly different sexual fantasies.
You may want it several times a day, while your partner may be happy to go for a whole week without it.
It’s not always easy to find two people with the same sex drive in a relationship.
So, what happens when a relationship lacks a healthy sex life?
You’ll end up relating like mere friends or roommates. The emotional distance may just kill the relationship.
Fix: If you aren’t content with your partner’s sex drive, talk about it together and work out something you’ll both be comfortable with.
8. Interferences from Friends and Family
The two of you may be in a relationship, but you aren’t in a vacuum.
Third parties may make or break a relationship.
It could be anyone from a friend who takes you out to party too often to a mother-in-law who meddles with your life.
Once a third party gets a hold of the union, things can get out of control, and people may walk in different directions.
Fix: Know your boundaries and agree on how to deal with outsiders right off the bat.
This is probably the most obvious reason most relationships fail.
If you go behind your jealous partner’s back and have an affair, they know it; the relationship won’t last.
Well, the truth is, not all of us are wired to be monogamous, which is why there are some cheating and affair dating apps. These apps make cheating easy to access.
Some couples appreciate this and agree to exercise some flexibility in their monogamous relationships. This may mean bringing another person into the relationship or each of you seeing other individuals separately.
Cheating only kills a relationship if only one partner supports it and the other doesn’t.
Fix: Before having an affair outside of the relationship, subtly seek your partner’s opinion on having an ethical non-monogamous relationship. And if they consent, protect your marriage at all costs.
Abuse in relationships manifests in different forms, including physical, psychological, verbal, emotional, and/or sexual.
Any type of abuse is damaging (and traumatizing) to the victim.
Relationships should be a haven you fall back to from the crazy world out there rather than a place of danger.
So, unsurprisingly, abuse is a significant reason relationships break.
Fix: To fix an abusive relationship, seek help from a relationship/marriage therapist or counselor.
People generally say ‘relationships are difficult,’ but this is not entirely true. It’s the partners in a relationship that make it difficult. Thus, if you discover any of the reasons listed above are wreaking havoc, then work on fixing it.
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