When it comes to sex, it is completely normal for us to have fetishes or sexual fantasies. Everyone has them, and although not all of us are confident enough to act on these fantasies, you should never feel ashamed or guilted by the sexual fantasies that you have. Feel free to have your mind in the gutter when it comes to your erotic thoughts, and if you ever feel like exploring your own sexual fantasies, be sure to explore them with someone that you trust. Having an open and honest dialog between the two (or three, four, or five) of you is essential if everyone is to remain safe and happy.
Not sure how to act out your wildest sexual fantasies? Or do you want to find a new one to explore? Here are a few of the most common sexual fantasies you may want to try out with your partner.
DDLG stands for “Daddy Dom/Little Girl,” and although it sounds somewhat seedy, this is not the case. DDLG is simply a sexual relationship involving a dominant male that is somewhat viewed as the daddy figure while a woman plays the role of a younger girl. This sexual fantasy is ideal for a couple where one is a natural “caregiver” (the daddy) while the other is somewhat childlike (the little girl). This sexual fantasy is not to be confused with someone who is attracted to children.
Having sexual fantasies of others and wanting to dress up and act as them for yourself or your partner is incredibly normal. It could be that your partner has a sexual fantasy of someone who works in a certain industry. For instance, it could be that you want to dress up as a police officer or have your partner dress up and roleplay as a teacher. However, you could also engage in cosplay which is the act of dressing up as a character from a TV show, movie, novel, or even a video game. Le Penthouse explains the difference between roleplay and cosplay.
There are various forms of rough sex, so before you and your partner attempt it, you need to lay out some guidelines and rules. Firstly, the two of you need to explain what it is that you want to try and get out of the experience. Secondly, you both need to put rules in place such as absolute ‘do nots’ and also come up with a safe word. Rough sex could involve light choking to spitting in one another’s mouth.
For some people, they like to be in a non-monogamous relationship or allow for non-monogamy to take place. Again, this needs to be discussed so that the both of you are on the same page. Non-monogamy could mean bringing someone else into the relationship or it could involve the two of you seeing other people separately.
BDSM involves physical, sexual and psychological powerroleplay,where consenting adults engage in bondage, discipline, domination and submission. There are various levels of BDSM, so before you experiment with it, you need to (again) put rules in place.
Do you love the thought of having sex in public spaces? If so, you may wish to carry out your exhibitionist fantasies and engage in sexual fantasies in public spaces such as a public rest room. Of course, there are different levels: you could have sex in public or you could head to a hotel or even have sex with the window open.
Sexual fantasies are normal, and if you have some that you would love to carry out, it is important that you find the right person to explore these fantasies with. Be open and honest as communication is key when it comes to certain fetishes.