Have you been through a rough break-up and you are finally ready to go out in the uncertainty and to meet new interesting women?
Are you ready to start dating again?
Don’t worry; it is easier to go from zero to hero than you might think.
Maybe you haven’t been through a breakup but you were trapped in a life that most single guys live nowadays. Most single guys out there aren’t happy, even if they try to convince their friends and family from the opposite. Most single guys don’t have the guts to approach and seduce women. They end up alone in bed every night, holding their dick in their left hand while nervously clicking through hundreds of porn sites with their right hand.
No matter if you just come out of a long-term relationship and you unlearned how to date women or if you live a single life that can be best described as a never-ending dry spell, you have the right to ask yourself how to start dating again. You deserve to do what some men have already given up on.
When I broke up with my ex-girlfriend after nearly four years of being in a monogamous relationship with her, I thought that it would be impossible for me to get a foothold in the dating world. I thought it would be impossible to ever experience an emotional and sexual connection with another woman again.
I mean, I was out of the game for nearly four years and before my relationship I was anything but successful with women. I was about to give up on my dating life. Thankfully, I decided to take a bootcamp with Sasha Daygame, in the hope that this training would teach me how to start dating again.
In the same way as Sasha helped me to get back in the dating world and to successfully seduce the women I wanted to seduce, I want to teach you how to start dating again. No matter if you come out of relationship or a dry spell, the following tips will bring you back in the game.
How to Start Dating Again: Recover from the Break-Up
In case you have just been through a long dry spell and you have unlearned how to seduce women, you can jump straight to the next subheading. Then you don’t have to worry about emotional wounds or the inability to accept that your partner is gone. The only thing you have to accept is that you haven’t had a partner for a long time, that this sucks and that you will do everything to change your situation.
If you, however, just broke up with your girlfriend or even worse, she broke up with you, you have to do some inner work before you jump right into the dating jungle.
A breakup can be hard, no matter if you are the one who said goodbye or if the girl of your dreams slammed the door in your face.
In such a situation you carry a lot of negative emotions in form of pain, fears and resentment with you. Guess what…these emotions are not really helpful when it comes to learning how to start dating again. In order to successfully seduce women you have to knock your inner game into shape. That’s exactly what we are going to do now.
Accept That it is Over
No, the first step that leads you back on the dating track has nothing to do with you going out, wiping away your tears and approaching the first girl while still thinking about your ex. Not only would this lead to one rejection after another (or maybe even a sympathy shag), but it also wouldn’t be good for your personal development.
You won’t be successful in meeting new women when your thoughts still revolve around your ex-girlfriend.
The kind of weird and slightly drunk doctor Paul would agree with me on that:
The key to learning how to start dating again has nothing to do with pretending that you don’t care about the breakup and that you are in the best emotional condition you’ve ever been. Lying to yourself doesn’t help.
Instead of forcefully trying to leave your past behind you, you should rather accept it. Accept that it didn’t work out as you wanted. Accept that the only chance you have now is to move on. Accept that it is time for a new chapter in the book of your life. By accepting that this chapter of your life is over, your brain and your heart will be able to welcome new sexual and romantic partners.
Heal Your Wounds
Do you feel angry when you think about how it ended with your ex-girlfriend?
Do you experience an overwhelming feeling of pain when you think about how she has sex with other guys?
In case question number two triggered such strong emotions in you that you punched the table so hard that your laptop nearly fell down, you definitely have to heal your wounds before I can teach you practical tips on how to start dating again.
Do what it takes to heal you wounds.
Talk to your best friends, go out and get to know new people, bury yourself in books, hit the gym and get rid of your aggression. Whatever it is that you have to do to calm down and to strengthen your inner game, do it. When you come to a point at which your wounds have healed, you are ready to make a decision.
Decide to Do It
There is only one decision you have to make: The decision to do everything in your power to learn how to start dating again. It is your choice if you are willing to take the necessary steps, including the steps that I’ve just mentioned, that lead to a fulfilling dating life after a long time of absence.
I can give you a guideline of what you should do, but you are the one who must decide if it is worth to make the effort to go back in the dating game. I know that it is worth it. I also know that my decision to learn how to start dating again after my break-up is the main reason why it is possible for you to read this article now.
How to Start Dating Again: Be Ready to Date
Now you have decided that it is time to put yourself back on the dating market and to have the time of your life. You might be ready for your new chapter but the last thing I want is that you stop writing it after the first page.
It is important that you made the decision to change your life and to learn how to start dating again but it at this stage it is also crucial that you are ready for all the new things that can happen when you go out in the world of beautiful women.
It might sound great to start dating again, but if you haven’t had any interaction with women (besides your girlfriend) for a couple of years, it is totally normal to be scared.
Before you succeed in something you have to fail a few times…
Be Ready to Fail
If your motivation only lasts until the first woman rejects you, you will never learn how to start dating again.
If you quit when it gets tough, you have absolutely no chance to survive in the dating world. If you think that it will be easy to go from zero to hero you should better go to a crack whore and get your dick sucked for a couple of bucks.
Does that sound hard?
It might, but it is the truth. If you have been out of the game for quite a long time you have to learn all the things you have already forgotten. Every learning process consists of trial and error, at least to a certain degree. The same is true for learning how to start dating again.
The willingness to fail a few times at the beginning is actually the one thing that will determine your success later on.
Be ready to go out there, to get rejected, to calibrate yourself and to eventually succeed.
Be Ready for an Adventure
In case you haven’t had any sexual experience in the past few years you probably wouldn’t describe yourself as a very adventurous guy. The same is true if you were in a long-term relationship with a girl. Maybe you know from your own experience that the words adventure and passion have absolutely no relevance in most relationships.
If your life was anything but adventurous until now, I have to warn you.
Things are about to change. Learning how to start dating again is an adventure. Connecting with women is an adventurous experience and having sex with amazingly beautiful girls is the biggest adventure you can possibly think of.
I know that you’ve been in your comfort zone for quite a long time, but in order to experience some magic you have to step out of it. Be ready for the rollercoaster of emotions that you will inevitably experience. If you really put all your heart into learning how to start dating again you will have more dates and emotional ups and downs in a week than the average man has in his lifetime. All I want is that you are mentally and emotionally prepared for this adventure.
Be Ready for New Women
Especially if you have been together with a woman for several years, the thought of having another woman in the same bed that you’ve shared for years with your ex-girlfriend can be quite disturbing. Maybe you have absolutely no problem with that and you can’t wait to have a few hot chicks in the sheets that your ex bought when you moved together.
If you really want to become successful with women again you have to become comfortable with the thought of dipping your penis in new vaginas.
If this thought freaks you out you have to take one step back and fully heal your wounds. If the thought of having great sex with new girls excites you, you are ready to go all in.
How to Start Dating Again: Go All In
Maybe you should only read one paragraph of an article a day to prepare yourself slowly for your future dating life. Maybe you should approach one woman a week to see if it is really a good idea to throw yourself back on the dating market.
Maybe, just maybe you should stop weeping and become comfortable with the decision to go all in!
Why Starting Slowly is the Worst Advice Ever
For god’s sake, you have been out of the dating game for a couple of years. Starting slowly would be the worst thing you could possibly do . Of course it takes some time to get back into the dating game but if you take things slowly the day where you really learn how to start dating again and where you have the women in your life and in your bed that you truly want, might never come.
If somebody wants to relearn how to walk after a terrible accident, one hour of rehab a day isn’t enough. If you have been in a relationship for one year (which can be comparable to an accident) and you want to relearn how to seduce women, one approach a day isn’t enough.
You either take your life in your hands and go out in the world of women again or you quit before you have even started.
Remember that I asked you to make the decision to do whatever is in your power. Starting slowly doesn’t require a lot of power, going all in does.
Refresh Your Knowledge and Skills
I don’t really know how good you were before you had your dating break but if you want you can let me know in the comments below. If you had absolutely no seduction skills and no clue how to seduce women before you stopped dating girls there is no more time to waste. Read every article you can get your hands on, read every book that is on the market and listen to every podcast that’s out there.
In case you have been a player before you decided to focus on your girlfriend, wife or internet porn, it would also be wise to focus on relearning all the dating theory that you have forgotten.
Reading through all my articles and refreshing all the theoretical topics is an absolute must.
Reacquiring your seduction skills by going out in the wilderness in order to hunt some sexy antelopes with short skirts is a different caliber. However, putting in the effort and becoming even better than you’ve been before your dating break is an indescribable feeling.
Enjoy Your New Dating Life
You have decided that you need to learn how to start dating again and you successfully mastered all the little steps that I talked about. Now it is time to carry off the bays and to enjoy an abundance of beautiful women in your life.
Even if you have read this article up to here you might not believe that it is really possible to learn how to start dating again by simply following all the steps that I shared with you. Maybe you think that you have been out of the game for too long.
Let me tell you one thing: It doesn’t matter for how long you have been out of the game.
The only thing that matters is that you are willing to do everything that is necessary in order to become successful with women again. Success will come.
Imagine how it would feel to hold a beautiful woman in your arms again…
Read this page if it feels damn good!
Summed Up Wisdom
In case you have just been through a rough break-up you have to accept that this chapter of your life is over and that it is time for a new chapter. Heal your wounds before you go to war again and make the decision to do everything that is in your power to become successful with women again.
The decision to learn how to start dating again also contains the willingness to fail and to step out of your comfort zone in order to experience some adventures. Before you go out and approach the first girl you have to be ready to welcome new women in your life and in your bed. Don’t lay back and start your dating journey slowly. Go all in and refresh your knowledge about the art of seduction and reacquire your seduction skills as fast as you possibly can. The more energy and time you invest in learning how to start dating again, the sooner you will be able to enjoy your new dating life.
Sebastian Harris says
thank you so much for your comment. Yes, it’s true. You should never stop flirting, even if you are in a relationship. Don’t get rusty.
All guys who read this I just want you to know that dating/flirting is a PERISHABLE SKILL. This means if you don’t use it, you lose it. It’s like shooting a gun or doing martial arts. Your brain will remember the basics, but your body will need to re-acclimatize to the activity. Some guys are naturals, I however am not. In fact, when I’m with a woman, literally every other female on my radar just vanishes. So when I become single again, I kind of have to flounder until I re-figure out whatever it is the fuck I’m doing. But I always come back a little bit better. In fact, as of last week, I am officially adapting to single life again. So those who aren’t naturals, listen to the immortal words of Jimi Jamison, “It will be tough, but don’t give up”.
Keep up the good work Sebastian!