A lot of people have fantasies about bringing a third person into their sexual relationship, whether it is just as a one-off thing to experience a threesome, or for a more long-term way to experience new things. If you and your partner are thinking about exploring these fantasies in real life by introducing a third person into things, whether just sexually or romantically as well, then it is important to make sure you approach it the right way, to avoid things getting complicated in ways you did not anticipate.
Here, we take a look at some of the steps you need to take to make sure you have a positive experience when it comes to threesomes:
Make Sure You Both Agree on What You Want
Before you do anything about trying to make things happen with somebody else, you and your partner need to make sure you are on the same page about what you are looking for.
There are lots of different dynamics that people can have when it comes to threesomes, and you need to make sure you both have the same expectations and are both equally comfortable and excited about the idea of making it happen. If one of you is less enthusiastic or is worried that they may feel unpleasant jealousy, then it can be better for your relationship not to proceed with trying to introduce a third party and keep those fantasies as just that.
You also need to be sure that you agree on the type of experience you want to have, for instance, whether you just want the third person to be interested in having a one-off sexual encounter with you, or whether you are looking for a permanent change to your relationship that brings in an extra person.
The sexual dynamics also need to be clear before you make any attempt to approach a potential third person - for example, if you are a straight couple considering inviting another woman to join you in the bedroom, what are you both willing to do, or expecting to have happen between each of you and the new person? Will one of you mainly be watching or will you both be participating equally with the third person? Are there any acts either of you think you would feel uncomfortable about the other doing with somebody else? These are all things that you should have talked about fully before deciding to go ahead with bringing the fantasies into reality, so there are no awkward moments or hurt feelings later on.
Start Slow with Some Online Interactions
A lot of people who have tried a threesome say that it felt a lot different to how they expected, and some regret doing it due to experiencing jealousy that they weren’t expecting, or just feeling more awkward than they wanted to. To make sure this doesn’t happen to you, it can be a good idea to start slow by interacting with a third person sexually online before doing anything in person. Try watching a cam girl together as a couple, and then talk about what the experience was like and what you did and didn’t enjoy. You may find that you have so much fun doing that that you decide that it is fulfilling enough and much less complicated to just keep playing together with cam girls rather than bringing a third person in physically, or you may discover that you enjoy having a third person involved so much that you have a new enthusiasm for going ahead with approaching somebody to join you in real life. A great site to use if you want to experiment as a couple with cam girls is Babe Station, and you are sure to find someone fun and attractive to try things out with in this selection of cam girls.
Figure Out Who to Approach and How
Once you have been through the steps of talking and planning and have perhaps tried a few times successfully to have some fun with a third person online, you should probably begin considering who you want to join you, and how to approach them.
If you have a specific person in mind who you know, and you both agree that you like the idea of inviting them, then it can be best to just get together with them and be honest about your ideas. However, if you don’t know anybody like that or you want to meet someone more casually, so you don’t have to worry about anybody you already know knowing the steamy details of your sex life, then online adult dating sites can be the best option. Since you have already discussed exactly what you want, it should be easy to search on sites like this for people who are already open to similar things.
It can be exciting and fun to mix things up and add a third person to your sexual relationship, but it is always best to take things slowly and communicate the whole way through to make sure your experience is positive for everybody involved.