“Do you even know how lucky you are? I wish I could sleep with beautiful girls from all over the world. The last time I had sex was seven months ago. Man, you are a lucky bastard!”
I just looked at my friend in the most serious way I could and said that the fact that I am able to attract, date and seduce gorgeous women has nothing to do with luck. I told him that success with women is not an accident.
He just smirked and said “yeah, right…”
His answer was the proof that he obviously believes that the only reason why some guys are good with women while others suck with the ladies is LUCK.
Gosh, you can’t imagine how much I hate this word.
Do you also believe in luck? Do you also think that success with women is like an accident? You can’t control it and it just happens without you having any influence on the outcome. A girl just accidentally types her number into your phone and you accidentally slide inside her after you were lucky enough that she took off her clothes for you.
That sounds realistic, right?
Unfortunately, a lot of guys believe in the fairytale of the lucky man who gets laid, because a higher power wanted it. I mean, you see this crazy belief in destiny whenever you watch a Hollywood movie.
The nerdy loser meets an incredibly hot girl who accidently bumped into him. Thanks to good old destiny he finds out that she just moved in the house next to him and as if it was a miracle she falls in love with him after 120 minutes of weird dialogues and a romantic kiss under the moonlight.
Then the film is over, you are still a sexually frustrated guy whose balls are already dark blue and you have to admit that destiny won’t lift you from the ground.
What Keeps Most Guys on the Ground
You are still single, you are far away from sleeping with women from all over the world and you wouldn’t even call yourself a successful seducer if somebody would put a gun to your head.
You are still on the ground.
Before you can ask yourself how to get up and rise to heaven or at least in a vagina, you should find out why you are on the ground and why you don’t have the success with women that you truly want to have.
Even though I would absolutely love to get to know you one day, I can only assume that you have the same problems as 90% of other men have. I can only assume why you think that you just don’t have the same luck as other guys who have dating lives that you can only dream of.
However, if you haven’t reached the level of success with the ladies that you truly want to reach, I am pretty confident that one of the following three aspects is a part of your life.
Excuses and Self-Delusion
I know that you think you are too fat, to short, to ugly and that your penis is exactly one centimeter smaller than the one of a professional pornstar. I know all those things and I also know why you are talking yourself into believing that this is true.
On the first sight it seems as if those excuses are nothing but regular limiting beliefs that so many of us have. However, when you look a bit closer you’ll realize that those negative beliefs that you have about yourself have a deeper purpose.
They are more than warning signs to avoid painful experiences and they are also more than conditioned assumptions that you have about yourself and your chances with the ladies.
The real power of those annoying excuses is that they trick your brain into believing that it is okay to not take action.
By making excuses you make yourself believe that your assumption that success with women is based on luck is actually true. Every excuse that you make supports your decision to not take action and to stay in the victim mentality without ever taking action.
It gives you a reason to believe that you don’t have an influence on your destiny, which is a very poisonous thing to believe.
The Search for a Quick Fix
Another misbelief that holds a lot of men back from ever dating the women they want to have in their lives is the never-ending search for a quick fix.
The belief, or let’s say the desperate illusion that there must be some magic pick up line or some “red pill” that solves your problem within a second makes it impossible for you to ever succeed.
Believing in this magic something that solves all your problems within a heartbeat is a great way of convincing yourself that working on your goals and taking massive action is not necessary. It allows you to assume that the only reason why other guys are more successful with women is because they were lucky enough to find the magic pick up line that gave them superpowers.
What if I tell you that getting superpowers without ever embarking on the hero’s journey is not possible?
There are shortcuts to success, but a quick fix that allows you to jump from the starting line straight to the finish line doesn’t exist.
Before you are able to pick the fruits of your labor, you have to plant the tree and nurture it.
“I can’t do that!”
“I could never walk up to a woman and give her a direct compliment. Other guys might be able to do that but I am not!”
I think it was Charlie Sheen, a great man who I would label as a role model if he wouldn’t destroy himself with drugs all the time, who said that “can’t is the cancer of happen”.
Charlie, you nailed it!
Do you want to wake up next to an incredibly beautiful girl?
As long as you believe that it is impossible for you to attract beautiful women in your life, it will never happen.
I am a firm believer in The Law of Attraction and I am convinced that you will never be able to have success with women when you think that it is impossible. Success, no matter in what area of your life, is the result of our thoughts and actions and every right action starts with the right thought.
If you think that success with women is dependent on luck and that you have no control over it, you’ll experience exactly that.
What Most Guys Think about Successful Seducers
Let’s face the truth. When it comes to dating, the majority of guys are very unsuccessful. Some guys might not even consciously realize that they have a miserable dating life, because they don’t know it any different.
As you probably know from other articles I love to talk about my one friend who married this completely crazy girl who suffers from severe depression. He really thinks that he made a good catch. The sad truth is that he is not the only guy who suffers from this loss of reality.
Millions of guys are in a position where they end up in relationships with women that are anything but good for them, because they think that this is as good as it gets.
On the one hand, they are victims of the three beliefs that I just talked about and on the other hand, the perception they have about the men who are successful with women is completely biased. This leads to the tragedy that the possibility of becoming a successful seducer is either outside of their reality, or a goal that is anything but worth striving for.
The Lie of the Natural
Yes, there are men who are “naturally” good with women in the sense that they don’t have to overcome their fear of approaching women as a 26 year old virgin. However, that doesn’t mean that they are born with the ability to seduce women.
If you believe that whether or not you are successful with women depends on the amount of luck that you have in your life, it is pretty easy to say that you just don’t have what it takes. You simply weren’t born with the skills to be a ladies man. Life is unfair and unfortunately the one sperm that won the race wasn’t the one with the genetic code that you need to be a great seducer.
When you are really honest to yourself you know that nobody comes out of the womb with the ability to seduce women.
When you were a baby you were too busy shitting yourself. Talking to girls was not of interest to you. It’s definitely not an accident that you were not born with amazing seduction skills while others were.
To say that there are so-called naturals who are born with the ability to seduce one girl after another is pretty narrow-minded. Every natural had to learn the skills that you want to learn now.
The only difference between you and a natural is that they learned it in a more natural way while growing up and you begin to learn it right after you have read this article.
Women Only Go For Jerks and Assholes
Thinking that you are not born to be a great seducer is already insane, but believing that you will never have any success with women, because they only date complete jerks and assholes is like committing dating suicide.
Just because you know one girl who ended up dating a retarded jerk, because no decent man had the balls to talk to her, doesn’t mean that ALL women prefer an asshole over a guy who treats them with empathy and respect.
It is extremely tempting to generalize one certain paramount example, especially when this generalization serves as an excuse to stay in your comfort zone without ever overcoming your limitations.
I mean, why should you overcome your fears, become an amazing man and learn how to seduce women when women only date assholes and jerks?
You are a polite gentleman. We all know that making an effort doesn’t even make sense. You believe that showing up is completely redundant, because you know that you’ll lose against the drug dealers, pimps and violent alcoholics that the women of your dreams prefer over you.
Well, if you really believe that you will eventually come to the conclusion that…
“Success with Women is All About Luck…”
Is that really true? Is it really possible that a few chosen ones are destined to have sex with all the beautiful women while the majority of men are condemned to dwell in their life-sucking porn addiction until they eventually die of a stroke in front of their laptop?
By believing that success with women is all about luck, you are taking the easy way out. You stop improving, you stop learning and you stop working on yourself, because you use this stupid little word “luck” as an excuse to stay the whiny and frustrated guy you are.
Sorry when I don’t handle you with kid gloves, but it makes me sick whenever somebody looks me in the eyes and tells me that I am so lucky to have amazing women in my life.
The life I am living and the life that you want have absolutely nothing to do with luck.
Deep down you know that success with women is not an accident, so stop pretending that it’s not your fault that you don’t have the dating life that you truly want to have. In the same way as your current situation is a result of your past actions, your future situation will be a result of the actions you take from now on.
Unless you are willing to take those actions, you will always stay the guy who is just not lucky enough.
How to Be the Lucky Guy Who Gets Laid By Accident
Do you really want that? Do you really want to waste one year after another as the guy who has no “luck” with women?
You deserve more than an average life with an average woman and an average divorce.
You deserve incredibly beautiful women who support you, who take care of you and who love you the way you are.
You have what it takes to be a man who is said to be lucky.
Stop wasting your life with excuses, negative beliefs and with unproductive gibberish about how having success with women is nothing but an accident that you can’t predict. Start to focus on the variables that make it extremely easy to predict your future dating success.
Let’s have a look at the variables that are responsible for every “accidental” sexual adventure you will have in the near future.
Decide. Just Decide
Having success with girls is not about accidents, luck or fate.
It’s about a simple decision.
Will Smith, one of the greatest actors of all time, says it best with the wise words “just decide”. Treat your career as a Global Seducer the same way as Mr. Smith treats his acting career.
Make a choice and decide:
Your journey towards becoming a great seducer starts with a simple decision. If you make the wrong decision, it also ends with this simple decision. Unfortunately, most guys end their seduction career with the first decision they make.
They decide to do absolutely nothing.
They decide to stay in the victim mentality and to behave like children who are neither able nor willing to take responsibility for their lives. That’s what little boys do. You are old and wise enough to take responsibility for your own life and to make the right decision.
What’s the right decision?
Make the decision to take action and to do whatever it takes to become successful with the ladies.
The choice is yours.
Ignore the Voice in Your Head and the Voice of Others
I already told you that making excuses and taking this stupid voice seriously that constantly tells you that you are not good enough and that it is impossible for you to attract amazing girls into your life is the fastest way to a miserable dating and sex life.
It is okay to listen to your inner voice, even when the words it throws at you are filled with negativity.
Listen to it, but don’t act upon it.
Don’t make the common mistake and take this negative voice seriously. Ignore it and focus on the short but important moments in which you think “yes, I can”.
Once you have some practice in ignoring your inner naysayer, you are ready to handle the voices around you. With a certain level of awareness it can be quite easy to ignore your inner voice, but it is a lot harder to ignore all the discouraging words you hear from other people.
Your ego is not the only naysayer you have to deal with. Our friends, your family members and even people you randomly tell that you work on improving yourself are potential naysayers that you must learn to ignore.
When I decided to pay hundreds of dollars for my bootcamp with Sasha daygame my mother thought I was crazy, my friends laughed at me and one guy I met on a party was so amused by my intent that he animated a group of five people to make fun of me.
Today I am living the life I want to live and I am dating the women who I want to date. Most of the people who laughed at me don’t have this freedom.
If I wouldn’t have ignored the people who doubted me, I would still watch porn movies every night before I cry myself to sleep.
Study Harder than Me
The moment I found out that something like the seduction community exists I went completely nuts.
I was fascinated by the fact that you could actually learn to seduce women.
Throughout my teenager years I thought that only the extremely handsome and rich guys would have the privilege to get all the girls.
The moment I realized that seduction skills are something that you can learn, I read every article, watched every video and bought every book that I could find. I studied the art of seduction in theory, put my knowledge into practice, made tons of mistakes and learned in the process.
I read at least two articles a day and I went out on the street for at least one hour a day. It took me about two years to get to where I wanted to be.
Imagine what you can achieve if you study twice or three times as hard as me. Imagine how your life could look like, if you would read ten articles every day and spent five hours on the street and in clubs picking up girls.
Study harder than me, achieve better results in less time than me and become a greater seducer than me.
As long as I can help you to date the women of your dreams I am happy to breed someone who is better than me 😉
I just told you that success is not an accident when you make the decision to study, learn and to improve as much as you can. This also means that you have to stop lying to yourself. Stop pretending that you work on your goals when you don’t.
In the same way as I could sit in front of my laptop for two hours while writing one sentence, you can walk around in the city for two hours and approach one girl. We can both say that we put in the hours, but that wouldn’t change anything about the fact that we were lazy bums.
Come on, we both can do better than that!
If we are really honest we have to admit that I can write a few thousand words within two hours and that you can at least approach ten beautiful women in this time. Do yourself a favor and don’t be the guy who approaches one girl, gets rejected and who then decides that this whole pick up thing is not for him.
Giving up is not an option!
You don’t invest your precious time in reading this article, just to back down after your first, second or third rejection. It can take 1001 approaches to experience 1001 unforgettable nights with incredibly beautiful women.
Be Ready to Fail (and to Improve)
Is it possible to never get rejected, to never mess up a date and to have sex with every single girl you approach?
Of course it’s possible. This is called a dream.
The only problem is that holding on to this dream will make it impossible for you to ever experience all the naughty, fulfilling and enriching things with women that you dream of.
If you want to make your dreams come true, you have to be willing to fail and to learn from your mistakes.
I said it before and I say it again:
The most successful seducers are the ones who failed the most!
Study, approach, get rejected, approach again, get her on a date, mess up the date, get another girl’s number, go on another date, get laid, fall in love and commit suicide after losing everything in a nasty divorce.
Make mistakes, learn from them and make the conscious decision to become better every single day.
That’s how it goes buddy. The good old get knocked down and stand up game will eventually make you realize that success is not an accident.
Smile When Someone Says that You are Lucky
In a short period of time you will be the one who gets asked why you are so damn lucky.
Your false friends, your suspicious family members and all the other doubters who you shouldn’t give a flying fuck about will soon ask you about your “accidental” success with women while they are jealously looking at you and lecherously looking at the incredibly beautiful woman you are dating.
What do you respond?
Just smile at them and say that you are a hell of a lucky guy.
Most of them aren’t ready for this controversial truth. I am incredibly proud that you are not one of them.
Summed Up Wisdom
If you think that only the lucky guys among us have the privilege to have success with women, you should open your eyes and wake up. Unfortunately, a lot of men are victims to their own excuses and self-deluding thoughts. Instead of focusing on certain changes that could change their dating life forever, they are searching for quick fixes.
In addition to that, a lot of men talk themselves into believing that some men are born to be successful seducers, while others are condemned to live average lives with average women. Oh, and of course we all know that women are only attracted to jerks. In case you really believe those lies that are nothing but a way to protect yourself from stepping out of your comfort zone, you probably think that success with women is all about luck.
It’s not. It’s about the right decisions, the dedication to work your ass off, the awareness to ignore the naysayers and the determination to fail and to improve every day. Once you have adapted this mindset, you will be the one who laughs when he gets asked why he is so lucky.
Sebastian Harris says
Some guys are naturals. Others learn it through friends. Some who are really lucky have a father who can teach them (very unlikiely in my generation). But yeah, most men need a dating coach. I was one of them.
i agree when you say that no guy is born with the ability to know how to seduce women, although sometimes its easy to disagree, because there are a lot of guys out there in which for them, knowing how to get a girlfriend is natural common sense for them, these guys probably lost their virginity in their teenage years, but i wonder where and how guys learned how to be good with women at an early age, or they learned without having to seek out help from a dating coach/seduction coach, or PUA guy.
Or some guys learn faster than others when it comes to being good at knowing how to approach and talk to women, getting a girlfriend, etc.
Sebastian Harris says
I am not richt and I don’t work in a big corporation. It’s just an excuse to not take action.
Sebastian Harris says
Putting a lot of work in your appearance is always good, no matter how lucky you were with your genetics.
I believe it also needs to be said that a lot of physically attractive people put a lot of work into taking care of their appearance.
Sebastian Harris says
David X, Johnny Soporno and Tyler Durden from RSD are definitely not the most attractive men on earth (sorry guys, I still have a lot of respect for you ;-))
It’s just a fact. Show me an ugly PUA/seducer.
Sebastian Harris says
One day I’ll convince you from the opposite 😀
Yes it’s luck, most of so called seducer are just good looking. Of course confidence also account, and it’s very easy to be confident when you are good looking.