“Why do haters hate?“
The truth is that there will always be some people who don’t like what you do, no matter what you do. Before I started this website I had a conversation with a friend of mine who is a very successful blogger and who has more haters than I have hair on my head.
During our conversation I told him about the big plans I have for Global Seducer. I also told him that I am a bit worried that too many people will hate me for what I do. I mean, it should be pretty obvious that I am writing about topics that are not completely politically correct.
I knew that I would have to face criticism from frustrated feminists, from competitors who want to bring me down and from men who pretend to be upset about my articles because they hope that this white knight behavior will get them laid.
He then told me that even if I would write about planting piece lines in warzones, somebody would criticize me for that and that I have to ignore the haters, in order to become successful. Now, one month after our conversation I ignore every negative comment that is based on pure hate without any constructive criticism and I am happy about every positive comment and e-mail that I get. Fortunately, the positive responses prevail.
Of course there are both men and women (in my case probably more women) who are potential haters. However, because I don’t want to write he/she all the time, I use the male version. No matter if you have problems with incredibly retarded guys or cheeky little misses who hate you, the big question is:
Why do haters hate?
What Hater Sees in Us
I am not the only one who has to understand the psychology behind haters. In case you are willing to embark on the path of the Global Seducer, you won’t just meet people who want your best. People who want you to stay a loser are everywhere and the best way for them to achieve this goal is by using words to bring you down.
If decide to become a Global Seducer you will develop from a shy and insecure guy who has no success with women to a self-confident man who can have any woman he wants. This automatically attracts a lot of people who will begrudge your new life. As soon as you understand why they do it, you will realize that it has nothing to do with you.
So, why do haters hate?
First of all, you have to understand that the percentage of people who REALLY hate you for what you do is extremely low.
From all the people who pretend that I am misogynistic prick, even though I love women more than anything else, maybe 1% really believe what they write or say about me.
Those are the 1% of haters that you can deal with the best. They have another opinion, they are too narrow-minded to accept other ways of thinking and they will never like you. Accepting those people is very easy, because you know exactly why they don’t like you, which is totally okay. You can’t be liked by everyone.
You Think He Sees His Enemy
If you think that all people who write or talk about you or your ambitions in a negative way are automatically against you, you adapt a wrong way of thinking that can hurt your self-esteem permanently.
When you desperately ask yourself “why do haters hate?” because you are scared that your vision, goal or idea is simply too bad to be liked by anyone, you focus all your energy on the 1% of people who really hate you.
This is a huge mistake that I also made at the beginning of my journey. I thought that everybody who told me that I am a pervert for traveling all around the world in search of love, sex and adventures saw me as his enemy. I thought that every frustrated woman or man who labeled me as a creepy sex tourist, even though I told them 100 times that I don’t sleep with girls for money, hated me as a person.
The truth is that the majority of those people don’t see you as there enemy.
The only person a hater sees in you is himself.
He Sees His Own Failure
In the course of this article we are going to look at a lot of different reasons why haters hate but the overlying principle is always the same. The context of every negative comment, every false advise that has the purpose to motivate you to stop what you are doing and every public naming and shaming of you is always the same.
Why do haters hate?
The overall problem is that they can’t bear looking at you.
It makes them sick to see you. The reason why it makes them sick to look you in the face is not because your nose is too big or because you remind them of their daddy who always beat them up with his belt. What drives them crazy is that they see themselves in you.
As you will see in the following paragraphs, a hater has different reasons for hating you that he is either consciously aware of or that are a subconscious expression of his feelings. However, the underlying principle is always that he looks at you and sees his own failure.
Whena hater looks at us he sees two guys who decided to overcome their fears, travel the world, seduce incredibly beautiful women and live the life of their dreams. Seeing this drives him bananas.
The Characteristics of the Hater
What are the characteristics of the typical hater?
Why does looking at us make him so angry, frustrated and desperate that the only way for him to deal with his pain is by putting you and me on the pillory?
Why do haters hate and why is making your life miserable all they ever wanted?
Well, there are certain characteristics that every hater has in common. If you want to describe the life of a man or a woman whose only purpose in this world is to bring negativity to other people, you can easily describe them with the following attributes.
He Hates His Life
Why do haters hate? They are sick and tired of their own life. I will kiss your feet if you show me one hater who is at peace with himself and who loves every second of his life. Thank god I know that I never have to kiss your feet.
A person who loves his life wouldn’t waste one second of his precious lifetime with bringing someone else down. The negative energy that haters spread all over the world and especially all over the web, because they can bash as much as they want without giving up their anonymity, is something that happy people would never do.
If such a person would really love his life, he wouldn’t be capable of spreading such negative emotions. Above all, he wouldn’t see the need to bring other people down. Content people simply don’t do that.
When a guy who is completely sexually frustrated sees how you start to get one date after another and how I write about sexual experiences in foreign countries, he realizes even more how much his life sucks.
He Compensates His Jealousy with Judgment
By looking at us, he realizes all the more that he doesn’t have a fulfilled dating and sex life, that he doesn’t have the balls to approach women in a direct way and that he doesn’t live the life he really wants to live.
On the one hand, this realization leads to the fact that he hates his life even more. On the other hand, he gets jealous as hell.
It is no secret that most (if not all) men dream about overcoming their fears, having sex with amazing women, living an adventurous lifestyle and falling in love with women that make them feel alive.
When he sees us living this lifestyle the natural reaction he has is to envy us and to burst with jealousy. At this stage every person has to make a decision. You have the decision to either change your life or to become a hater.
Unfortunately, being a hater and typing a few nasty words on your keyboard is by far easier than accepting your own failure, planning to change your life and actually putting this plan into action.
Too many people choose the easy way of compensating their jealousy by judging others, instead of working on themselves and losing all their jealous feelings along the way.
He Has Way too Much Time
Why do haters hate? They have too much time, because they don’t have anything meaningful to do in their life. The combination of being completely bored and having no real sense of purpose, vision or goal can easily motivate you to become one of those annoying guys who have nothing better to do than spreading negativity all over the web.
Do you think that someone who spams my site with hate comments has a vision that he works on?
If this guy would have any meaningful pursuit in his life he wouldn’t waste his lifetime in such an unproductive way.
Imagine the time that is needed to write a hate comment on my blog. You can bet that such a guy doesn’t stumble upon my website by accident.
How likely is it that someone who pretends to hate men who date Thai girls and who would of course never type an evil search term like “dating Thai girls” into Google, finds my site by clicking on my article about dating Thai girls?
Those people invest a huge amount of time to search sites they can hate on, to actually think about how they can hurt people like me the most and to finally write their feelings down in the hope that I am stupid enough to not mark their comment as spam.
He Searches a Scapegoat
If you are frustrated with your dating life and if you have no experience with women but you are determined to change your life and to become the man you truly want to become, you have my full respect.
If you, however, are frustrated and have no experience with women and you hate me for living the life that you want to live, you are not only sabotaging yourself and holding yourself back, but you also can’t expect me to have any respect for you.
Why do haters hate and why do men might hate you and me for the way we live our lives?
They obviously search a scapegoat.
The last thing that men who are unsuccessful with women usually do is to take responsibility for their life. It is way easier to blame others for their misery, even though this eventually leads to stagnation and an unlived life.
For those men it is obvious that they don’t have success with women because you and I exist. They talk themselves into believing that we only get girls because we are evil pick up artists who trick girls into bed. They don’t see us as regular dudes who made the decision to improve ourselves.
You often hear those guys saying that they would have the success with women if they would behave like an asshole or if they would be rich. Of course these are only excuses. The fact that I am not rich and that I don’t behave like an asshole and still get women, isn’t even in their reality.
Societal Reasons Why Haters Hate
Why do haters hate? Besides being a miserable piece of shit whose life sucks ass, there are reasons for the behavior of the typical hater that have nothing to do with his non-existent self-esteem and his pathetic way of wasting his life.
We live in crazy times. We live in times in which everybody who claims that we have freedom of speech in the Western society is either blind or dumb. We live in times in which one funny joke that can be understood in a slightly sexist way can end your career forever. We live in times in which hating certain people is socially accepted and supported.
Nearly every politician says that cyber-mobbing and bashing each other on the internet has to stop, but the truth is that our society is designed to provide haters with a breeding ground…
…at least when they hate someone who goes against the grain. And believe me. THIS goes against the grain…but it works.
He Wants to Appear Politically Correct
Can you think of anyone you know who goes against the grain and who talks about topics that are usually not discussed in the evening news? I am sure you can think of someone.
How about me?
Yes, as crazy as it sounds but hating me is more socially accepted than loving me.
Even though I still hope you love me after you have read this article, I can’t deny the fact that your parents, your boss and your female friend who friend-zoned you two years ago would rather want you to hate me instead of seeing you subscribe to my awesome newsletter.
If you support websites that talk about maintaining a marriage, scoring the highest mortgage and living the boring life of a slave that our society wants you to live, you are the good guy.
If you, however, support a website that writes about seducing women all over the globe, experiencing amazing sexual adventures and finding the love of your life in a way that society doesn’t benefit of, you are the bad guy.
Why do haters hate people like you and me? Because it is more socially accepted to hate us, than it is to love us. If you want that your grandmother is proud of you because you married the fat girl that was always nice to her, you can of course hate me. But if you want to live an amazing life with beautiful women and unforgettable experiences, you should love me…or at least not hate me 😉
He Sees his Own Benefit
Besides appearing like a trained dog who is trying to get a goodie from the representatives of our hypocritical society, there is another benefit of being a hater. Maybe I should frame it differently.
There is actually no benefit for hating us, but a lot of haters think that their behavior is beneficial.
Why do haters hate websites like mine?
Or better, why do some sexually frustrated men hate websites like mine?
The only reason why they pillory me is because they hope that this behavior will get them laid!
Such guys are called white knights. White knights are guys who defend women in every situation (even if it makes no sense and they don’t want to be defended), because they hope that this will motivate those women to suck their dick.
On the surface they appear as the honorable knight in shining armor, but deep down they are nothing but a pervert knave who desperately hopes to get some pussy.
Maybe someone should tell those pathetic losers that they will never lose their virginity by behaving like this.
Why Do You Ask Yourself „Why Do Haters Hate?”
Now that you know all the reasons why haters hate I want to ask you a few last questions:
Why have you even asked yourself the question “why do haters hate?” in the first place?
Why do you even care about your haters?
Why do you waste more than one second worrying about why they hate you?
You know why they behave this way and you also know that their behavior has in 99% of the cases nothing to do with who you are and with what you do.
So why the hell do you even care about whether they hate you or not?
Those people are nothing but time-wasters and energy sucking ulcers. The only way to deal with them is by ignoring them and by not giving a fuck about what anyone of those morons says or writes about you.
When in doubt, just say “go fuck yourself!”:
Replace Haters with Lovers
Ignoring some dude who writes a pathetic comment on your blog is quite easy. You don’t even know his name and the likelihood that you will ever meet him in person is lower than the likelihood that Nazis on dinosaurs take over the planet.
Let’s say you embark on the journey towards becoming a Global Seducer and some guy on a seduction forum writes under your field report that he hates you for approaching women. I mean, if he doesn’t have the balls to do it, you are also not allowed to do it.
Dealing with this kind of hate is pretty easy, but what do you do if your haters are in your social circle?
What if you made the decision to master the art of seduction and to have a sex life that others can only dream of, but all that your friends do is to make fun of you and hold you back?
Well, I had one friend who thought that learning how to seduce women can’t be learned and that I am an idiot for thinking that a loser like me could get hot girls (these were his words). He tried to convince me that I was a loser because I wanted to change my life while he was flushing his life down the toilet by smoking marijuana all day and playing video games all night.
Today I have a wonderful girlfriend, I have sexual adventures all over the globe and I work on my vision, while he still takes drugs and wastes his life in a virtual world in order to escape his real life.
Today we rarely hang out together and I am actually very thankful for that.
What Happens if You Care?
What would have happened if I wouldn’t have decided to replace my haters with lovers?
What would have happened if I would have listened to people like my former “friend”?
I would have never taken the bootcamp with Sasha Daygame. I would have never approached a woman. I would have never had sex with incredibly beautiful women. I would have never met my girlfriend who knows about this website and supports me in everything I do.
If I would have listened to all the people who hate me for what I do, I would have never met so many people in my life who love me for what I do.
It is your decision if you care more about the people who hate you and who poison your life with negativity, or if you care more about the people who love you, help you and support you.
I hope you make the right decision.
Summed Up Wisdom
Why do haters hate? First of all, you have to understand that most haters don’t really hate you or what you do. You might think that they regard you as their enemy, but the truth is that they only see their own failure by looking at you.
Those negative people hater their own life and try to compensate their jealousy by judging you for living an amazing life that they don’t have. Haters neither have a purpose in their life, nor do they have the balls to change their life to the better. Otherwise they wouldn’t waste their time with hating and with searching a scapegoat for their own misery.
Unfortunately, the behavior of those poisoning people is often socially accepted and sometimes they only behave this way because they hope to get a benefit from it (for example sex). Replace the haters in your life with lovers and stop caring about them. If you do this, you can achieve anything you set your mind to.
Sebastian Harris says
yes we should have freedom of speech and I also agree with you that it is naturally balanced by society. However, that doesn’t mean that this fact doesn’t provide haters with a hotbed.
Honestly i think that you misunderstood the idea of freedom of speech.
As a libertarian i absolutely believe that we should have freedom of speech, which mean that the state should not impose any sanction to any writing or speaking.
But freedom of speech is also naturally balanced in the society by the freedom of association.
I should be free to scream “kill the baby seal !!!!!! buuuurn them ! burn them aaaaall !!!! ” in the middle of my university (or any other funny joke), but no Wonder if no girl want to fuck with me after that. Except the psychos.