Why do white men like Asian women?
My girlfriend is Asian and she is the most amazing woman I have ever met. Question answered?
I am a young Caucasian man and I absolutely love women from Asian countries. Yes, I admit it, even though I am aware of the fact that I earn a lot of criticism, whenever I say that in public.
The relationship constellation that I am going to talk about in this article is one of the most popular, most criticized and at the same time one of the most natural constellations that you can find in the sphere of interracial dating.
From all the men I ever talked about this subject I have only met a handful of guys who were not attracted to Asian women. Nearly every man has yellow fever, even though I personally don’t like this expression, because it implicates that being attracted to Asian women is a sickness, a perverse fetish.
Isn’t it ironic that we men are labeled as liberal-minded, tolerant and progressive, when we say that we are attracted to women from races that are not so popular on the dating market, but we are automatically creepy perverts with psychological issues, when we say that we are attracted to Asian girls?
I don’t have any strange fetish, I have never paid for sex in my life and I also don’t have any psychological issues that make me afraid to date women from my race. Yet, I am still immensely attracted to Asian Brides.
The more Asian girls I have dated, the more I realized that there are quite a few logical reasons, why I prefer them.
In the following lines I want to get to the bottom of the question:
Why do white men like Asian women?
Why Do White Men Like Asian Women: The Misconceptions
Unfortunately, the majority of people on this planet are extremely narrow-minded and intolerant. For average-minded drones it is very common to hate everything that is slightly popular. No matter if this is a popular musician, blogger or a popular relationship constellation.
Dating Asian women is extremely popular and widespread and because a lot of white men are attracted to those women, there must be a fly in the ointment. There must be something odd here, right?
Especially for frustrated women who lost their men to sweet and tender Asian girls, this feeling of suspicion offered the perfect platform to develop hatred against every white man who dares to think about touching an Asian girl.
Eventually, those negative perceptions became widespread stereotypes that were propagated by normal people who don’t know any better and who don’t have the intellect to question their beliefs.
A lot of people think that way and as a result of this ridiculous way of thinking, a lot of reasons why white guys like Asian women bustle around that are not only far from reality, but also an insult for both races.
They Want a Submissive Slave
One of the most common and also most negative stereotypes that Caucasian men have to face is that of the evil man who wants to have a submissive slave for the bedroom. I don’t know why this stereotype is so popular, but I am sure that it is somehow related to the fact that so many people believe that Asian women are nothing but submissive little dolls.
Neither the assumption that all Asian women are submissive dolls who do everything that you want, nor the fact that every man who is into them wants to have a submissive slave is true.
Those girls are human beings like every other woman and everyone who has at least a little bit of dating experience with them knows, that they also have their own opinion.
She has her own opinion and you better respect it
Of course there are some men who want to have submissive sex slaves, but those guys only go for the hookers. Their fetish for girls who do everything they want has nothing to do with their supposed preference for Asian girls.
Those guys would go for girls without an own will in every other country and with girls of every other race. While doing research for this article I had a look at a dozen of brothel sites that advertise submissive slaves and none of the girls who worked there were Asian.
They Can’t Get a Woman Back Home
Why do you go to another country in order to seduce women? Because you are a loser and going abroad is the only chance for you to get your dick sucked. If you really believe that, you will never do what you really want to do, which is the fastest way to end up completely miserable.
Why do white men like Asian women? Because they can’t get any woman back home and they have to end up dating the only girls who will take them…those poor guys. This is the biggest bullshit that I have ever heard.
Of course there are a few guys for whom this is true but those are not the ones who are interested in dating amazing Asian women. Those are the ones who are interested in having a girlfriend experience with a girl who they give monetary incentives for the experience.
Do I want that? I am in my early twenties, have an athletic body and if I would want to date women who drive me nuts, I could have a lot of girls in Germany, the USA or any other part of the world. Nevertheless, I like Asian girls.
You are one of my readers and therefore I know that you also don’t want that. You don’t want to end up having sex with a hooker who bathed in STD’s and who only fucks you because you give her some money.
You want to overcome your fears, you want to learn how to seduce women and you want to be able to attract the most amazing women into your life that this planet has to offer. I know that you are determined to get girls from every country, even if you prefer Asian women.
Why do white men like Asian women? Not because they have to end up with them or because they can’t get girls from other races, but because they prefer them for several reasons.
They Want to Pay for Women
I still remember that one day when I told a group of people that I have an Asian girlfriend and one of them turned towards me and said: “so, you like to buy your women…I understand.”
I think I don’t have to mention that she was the ugliest, fattest and probably most sexually frustrated woman in the room. On the one hand, I felt extremely sorry for her and for her non-existing intellect. On the other hand, I could somehow understand why she really believed the shit she said.
Have you ever wondered why nearly every documentary that you see about Thailand or the Philippines is about the red light districts?
Sometimes I think that our society wants you to believe that escaping your mortgage paying existence and dating women who make you happy instead of talking you to a stroke, is something bad.
If every man would move to Asia, live on a fraction of the money he spends back home and date amazing women who make them happy, our government would run out of working slaves and tax payers.
Nevertheless, saying that all Asian women can be bought is simply ridiculous. How many red light districts that are packed with women who want your money are in Asia?
You have Nana Plaza, Soi Cowboy and the Walking Street in Thailand and you have Angeles City in the Philippines. Those are the most well-know.
How many red light districts are in Europe? Whole Europe is a fucking brothel. Germany alone has 400.000 prostitutes and those are only the ones who are registered.
Well, saying that Asian women are the ones who do everything for money makes total sense, right?
My girlfriend comes from a very rich family and I also know a lot of other guys who date Asian women that don’t need and don’t expect any money from them.
Why do white men like Asian women? It has nothing to do with the lie that they want to buy them. Let’s have a look at the reasons why we really love them.
But before we are getting all serious, I want to give all the people who have the same weird humor as me the chance to find out why they need to date Asian women:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zqdyhvsSi-Y
Okay, let’s get back to serious again 😉
Why Do White Men Like Asian Women: The Short Answer
To say that there are only one or two reasons why white men like Asian women would be the same as to say that the Great Wall of China was built with one or two stones. There are plenty of reasons why we prefer the petite dark-haired beauties and why we enjoy ever y moment we spent with them inside and outside of the bedroom.
Before I want to share all those reasons in detail with you, I want to provide you with a short answer to the question:
“Why do white men like Asian women?”
Okay, if I am really honest I want to provide you with two short answers before we have a look at the individual characteristics that make those girls so special. In the process of thinking about an answer that bolls it down to an essence, I realized that there is another essential aspect that shouldn’t be neglected.
I so do not care about all this yellow fewer gibberish. Why? Because I am HAPPY!
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Asian Women Give You Everything You Could Ask For
Why do white men like Asian women? If you want to sum it up you could say that they give them everything they could ask for. It is really that simple. Every man has a perfect picture in mind when he thinks about his dream girl. Every man has a list of things that his future girlfriend must have and should have, in addition to a few nice-to-haves.
Even though every man has different preferences, beliefs and values, there are overall characteristics in women that all men appreciate. Physical beauty and emotional tenderness are only two examples. When you combine all the individual physical, mental, emotional and intellectual characteristics of Asian women, you will get a full package that matches with the ideal image of 99% of men on this earth.
You can bet that being loud, aggressive and always complaining are not part of this ideal image. When I am going to talk about all the individual characteristics that make dating women from Asia such a pleasurable and fulfilling experiences, you will see that you will find the personalities and the values of those girls extremely tempting.
In case Asian women are the last girls on this planet you would date and in case you consider the fact that they are perfect girlfriends who love to take care of their partner as negative, you should shoot me an email. Give me the chance to ask you if you lost your sanity.
Why do white men like Asian women? They give them everything they could ask for. A man who is perfectly happy would be stupid if he would stop dating the girls you can find on countless Asian dating sites, just because someone judges him for what he does. Never change a winning team.
Asian Women Make Settling Worthwhile
Speaking of a winning team…
In my experience dating Asian women feels like being part of a winning team. Being in a relationship with such a girl will teach you what it really means to support each other and to treat each other with respect.
You will forget pretty fast that your past relationships were dominated by never-ending arguments about stupid things that nobody really cared about. You will forget that you were used to relationships that were based on the need to always have the last word and to fight for the throne with the inscription “here sits the one who is in charge”.
Why do white men like Asian women? Because you will forget all those negative things once you are in a relationship with an Asian girl and you will finally see that settling down can have not only disadvantages.
You finally start to believe that it is possible to have a happy relationship with a woman without playing power games all the time. Having a partner who supports you, who loves to take care of you and who respects you, will change your perception on things that you thought are not worthwhile to pursue.
Suddenly, something that you could have never imagined is worth pursuing
Why Do White Men Like Asian Women: Their Special Characteristics
Why do those women give a man everything he could ever wish for and why can dating them change your beliefs about the likelihood to have a happy relationship?
Like I already said, listening one or two characteristics are by far not enough to explain the reason why Caucasian men like beautiful women from Asia. However, the fact that most of them are extremely beautiful just explains a fraction of the fascination for those girls.
In the following paragraphs I tried to accommodate a number of things that are determining for the fact that Asian women are in demand. Their values, their personality and the way they treat their partners makes it impossible to not fall for them.
Beauty and the Promise to Stay Beautiful
Due to the fact that I just mentioned one important reason why white men like Asian women, it is no mistake to discuss this reason in detail. Do you remember what I said?
She doesn’t have a secret. She just says “no” to Ronald McDonald
I said that Caucasian men like beautiful women from Asia. Of course men from all other races also like beautiful women.
The only difference is that we white men who live in the Western hemisphere are usually not used to that many beautiful women. As a result of that we are completely blown away, as soon as we land the first time in any cosmopolitan city in Asia.
Men from Brazil and Colombia, who are used to an abundance of incredibly gorgeous women, won’t experience the same culture shock as the average white guy. Especially when you live in the USA or any Western European country, you are used to see a lot of obese women who don’t even care about how they walk around.
Seeing a girl with perfect makeup and an attractive slim body who can walk perfectly on her high heels is somehow a revelation for us. Unless you are really, really turned off by the facial structure of Asians, it is impossible for you to not find those women beautiful.
I can’t deny that their straight black hair, their tiny bodies, their slim physique and their feminine facial features have a certain impact on the heartbeat of most men. Even though popular fast food chains do everything they can to destroy this reason, there are still millions of Asian women who are incredibly beautiful.
The best thing about their beauty is that it remains for a long time. I know a lot of Asian women who are over 30 and who still look like girls who just celebrated their 18th birthday.
Their Feminine Features
Why do white men like Asian women? Well, one reason is that they are incredibly gorgeous and that men are instinctively attracted to beautiful women. However, the way God, Mother Nature or the holy Buddha made them is not the only reason why you and I can’t stop looking at them.
It’s not all about their beauty. It’s also about what they do with it.
Those girls know how to utilize their feminine charm and how to turn your head. They don’t just rely on their physical features. They put their perfect bodies in beautiful dresses, they walk in an elegant way and even when they speak they are attentive to appear feminine
The way they dress, the way they walk, the way they talk and the way they behave are all part of the full package that blows us away.
Respect and Loyalty
Do you have a friend whose girlfriend sometimes makes fun of him in public? I have one and whenever I witness this behavior I am happy that I decided to date women who don’t do this.
Have you ever seen a woman who treated her boyfriend in a disrespectful way in public or who even became aggressive and scathing while talking to him? I have seen it a billion times and every time I have seen it I prayed to God that this guy will eventually find out about my website.
In case you have ever been to Asia I want to ask you another question:
Have you ever seen this behavior in Asia?
You probably haven’t and if you have, the couples you have seen were most likely tourists or an Asian guy did something really bad, such as setting his mother-in-law on fire. In the same way as you usually won’t see children who throw themselves crying on the floor because they didn’t get the sweets they wanted, you won’t see women who treat their boyfriends in a disrespectful way.
In the Western society it became a fashion to treat men with disrespect.
We are mocked in advertisements, in movies and in women’s magazines. Disrespecting a man is always funny but you better not do the same with a woman. That’s what I call equality.
Respect is not the only thing that got lost in many relationships. Loyalty is also a word that doesn’t appear in the dictionaries of many women. Thereby, I am not even talking about sexual loyalty. I am talking about the loyalty to support each other, to be there for your partner and to not stab him in the back whenever you get the chance to do so.
I am not talking about respect and loyalty in the sense of submissiveness. I am talking about being a good person.
If you want to know what I mean you just have to date an Asian woman and talk about your vision to start a business.
She won’t tell you that you should stay realistic and stop dreaming. She will give you a kiss and tell you that she believes in you.
The Charm of Novelty
I already said that Asian women are beautiful, that they know how to utilize their God given features to make themselves look even more attractive and I also told you that a lot of Caucasian guys from the Western hemisphere get a heart attack when they see those women.
Even though this is all true I want to talk about one last reason why white men like Asian girls, that has to do with their physical appearance and that I simply can’t deny. Actually, this reason has nothing to do with the fact that they are Asian but with the fact that they are not white. Latin women and African women would have the same effect on us.
We men might end up dating girls who are similar to us in regards to our personality but before we get to know such a girl we are magically drawn towards women who we perceive as different and therefore as exotic. This is one reason why people from every race, no matter if men or women, are mysteriously attracted to what they perceive as exotic.
The charm of novelty does exist in the dating world and having a sexual experience with someone outside of our race is always something that we fantasize about and that we want to experience at least once in our life. Once we managed to chop this experience from our bucket lists, the personality traits of Asian women are responsible for making us falling in love with them.
Their Peaceful Attitude
Why do white men like Asian women? Well, I just said that their personality traits are the reason why so many men fall for them. Their peaceful attitude is definitely one of those attractive personality traits.
The last thing I want is that you lose face
Some people call it reservation, others call it uptightness and I call it peaceful attitude. Many of the Asian cultures, especially the ones that are influenced by traditional Buddhist beliefs, emphasize harmony and peace.
For a lot of Asian people the worst thing that can happen is when they lose face.
This happens when somebody criticized them in front of others or said something insulting to them.
Sometimes this attitude can be quite annoying, because you never know when they are really pissed at you, but all in all the advantages prevail.
Dating a woman from an Asian country means no more never-ending discussions about every irrelevant trivia, no more contentiousness because she had a bad day and no more aggressive teasing because she wants to test your boundaries every few seconds.
Why do white men like Asian women? We Caucasians are only human and we also thrive for harmonic and peaceful relationships.
It’s not our fault that the prospects to end up in a harmonic and peaceful relationship are pretty high if we decide to date Asian women.
The Feeling of Being a Protector
The combination of their petite physique, their soft facial features and their loyal and peaceful behavior triggers one important feeling in us men, which we all want to feel. No matter how strong and independent the women we date are (and there are a lot of independent women in Asia), we all want to have the feeling that we are needed.
Even though a lot of women nowadays mistakenly think that we want to be needed in the household or when it comes to making the decision to buy a minivan, the feeling that we really crave for has nothing to do with those things.
We want to be needed in the classical cavemen sense. Unless we men have the feeling that we are strong enough to protect our girlfriend and that she is dependent on our protection, we will never feel fulfilled in our relationships.
The way an Asian woman looks and behaves makes you believe on a subconscious level that she needs a protector and this protector is you. The moment you are starting to date an Asian girl you will promise yourself that you will protect this soft, petite and nice girl. This is the feeling that men need to have in order to be happy in a relationship.
The Values of a Perfect Girlfriend
In case you are only interested in having a short-term sexual experience with a random girl, you probably won’t care about the fact that Asian women have extraordinary family values and don’t regard settling down as a burden that you have to do once you are tired of drinking and fucking around.
However, I know from my own experience and from a lot of guys I met how easy it is for a short-term sexual adventure to develop into a long-term relationship. This is especially easy because Asian women are the perfect girls to end up in relationships with.
I already told you that Asian women have the incredible talent to make settling worthwhile. The question is:
How do they do that?
Enjoy it if it feels right and don’t listen to the haters…
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Well, you just have to combine everything I said until now with the fact that family means everything to them. Due to the fact that you as her boyfriend are part of her family, she will do everything to please you and to make you happy.
Why do white men like Asian women? She will take care of you in the bedroom and outside of the bedroom and she will make sure that you don’t regret being together with her. Asian women are amazing girlfriends.
Summed Up Wisdom
Why do white men like Asian women?
Let’s first have a look at the lies you have been told, before I am going to share the true reasons why white men like Asian girls. Frustrated women who got dumped by men who decided to date Asian women might tell you that the only reasons why men go for those girls is because they want submissive slaves, can’t get any other women and want to pay for women. I know that this is not true for you and me.
We want Asian women because we know that they give us everything we could ever ask for and that they might be our only hope to settle down without regretting it. What are the specific characteristics that we can’t resist?
They are beautiful and they know how to use their feminine charm. They treat you with respect and loyalty is more than just a word for them. Their peaceful attitude in combination with their subjectively perceived exotic look makes them irresistible, while their physical appearance and their behavior trigger our protective instinct. Asian women have values that can only lead to happy relationships. They are the perfect girlfriends.
That’s great to hear. You made me smile 😉
Hey Sebastian,
Thank you for your honest opinion and compliments on Asian women.
I’m Asian born in Southeast Asia and emigrated to North America. My husband is American and he is White. I was educated at Ivy League (Harvard) and we met at school. In general, I cannot disagree what you have said! 🙂
Family oriented and respect are very important in our culture. Name calling and insulting others are disrespectful.
I lived in China for 6 years and had a different experience. All of the women I dated were over 35 and I never met a nicer bunch of women overall. I married one of them and we are very happy. I would have done okay marrying one of the others as well. Your comments are exaggerated and I suspect your bad experience has more to do with you than them. Every friend I know who married a Chinese woman is content. Sure there are some bad women in China but certainly less than in America.
Ladies,
First, I am not a young man. I am a Caucasian and my genetic history is Eastern European. There is no logical reason why I should find Asian women so particularly attractive. I don’t understand it, but from my earliest days, I have considered Asian women as being supremely beautiful. From about the age of five, I have seen Asian women as being easily the most beautiful women on the planet. I’m not entirely sure what it is about you that is so compelling. From my standpoint, I would have to say, “everything”!”
There is one thing I want you to listen to and one thing I think you should care about. Do not ever consider having an eye operation to make your eyes more “western”. Your eyes, just the way they are, are incredibly sexy. Your eyes are by far the most alluring part of you. You put all Western women to shame. You do not need to do a single thing to make yourself more appealing to western males. You are so much prettier than western women that you should be ashamed of yourself (I say this as a joke, but please, please, please feel very good about yourself). I simply do not think there is any competition; your eyes are so sexy, it should be illegal! Go to the mirror and look at your eyes. Burn these words into your heart. Do not EVER give up your most attractive attribute. You have been given an incredible advantage over other every other woman on this planet. Your eyes are so incredibly beautiful just the way they are, and from the youngest age I have always thought so. Please don’t ask me to explain. I’m not really sure I could. What makes a woman beautiful? After all these years, I would have to answer in the following way. A woman makes herself beautiful. She does not need to do much. She smiles; she kisses; she owns a man’s body any time she wants to. Men everywhere will hate me for saying this, but that is really the way it is.
Asian women have an incredible advantage. Your face is so incredibly appealing to western men! It does not stop with your face, either. There is something unbelievably attractive about an Asian woman’s body. I’m looking for the exact right words here. I’m trying very hard to tell you something I think is important and I think you need to know. I believe the word I am searching for is “proportionate”. Everything about Asian women is in perfect proportion. Your breasts are not too big or too small. They are not too soft or too hard. They are as close to perfect as any woman is ever going to get. Go to the mirror. Look carefully. You do not have to do one single thing to make your body “better”. Please, please, please, listen to one sincere and loving occidental man and do not do a single thing to change your body! You are perfect just the way you are. You are so lucky and yet you probably don’t even know it. No surgeon could ever possibly make you more appealing. Sorry, Doctors, some man somewhere has to tell the truth.
I have admired beautiful Asian women for my entire life. I have no idea exactly why I find you so perfect. Somehow, in my mind’s eye, there is just something magical about you. It is the difference between “pretty” and “sexy”. To be sure, you are all really “pretty”. There can be no argument at all about that. Somehow though, Asian women go well beyond. You’re not just “pretty” like other women, you are absolutely intensely sexy. Now, I want each of you to go to the mirror, take a good hard look, and here is the important part, I want each of you to know that occidental men think you are the sexiest women who have ever lived. I only repeat the word “please” when I am very serious. Asian women, “please, please, please don’t change a single thing about yourselves”. You are perfect; you are beautiful; you don’t need to do anything other than smile. I think all of you are just perfect. Now stand in front of that mirror until this really sinks in. I ask you this as a favor. You are the prettiest woman who has ever lived. So say I.
because people say that 🙂
hi 😉
Good luck! 🙂
This is absolutely correct
In my country there are many beautiful children like that.Do you want to see them?<3 I think I should find a Caucasian guy lol :))
Glad you like it!
thank you for this article! i like this article so so much.Btw im Sam Phan and im a Vietnamese girl 🙂
well men do naturally find younger women more attractive. However what you’re describing seems a bit extreme. I think you’re looking at a very small percentage of men and some how it appears like this is many or even most men. I don’t believe your personal experience is reality. I know for me my GF is only 2 years younger than me. I’m 26, she’s 24 and Asian American like yourself. I couldn’t imagine dating a girl so young. especially not an Asian girl so young since Asian girls normally look younger than they actually are……as for all women being unique and beautiful, well maybe. However I just prefer Asian beauty personally. It’s just more attractive to me. However not every Asian women has Asian beauty. Like the Asian actress from that show that used to be one Grey’s anatomy, not attractive IMO.
Not if the girls knew what they where getting into to.
I’m white but not Scandinavian however to say Asian women can’t compete with Scandinavian women just proves how much you don’t know about white men. Of course it depends on the guy but for me I generally would choose an Asian women over a white women even if they are Scandinavian. I like the unique beauty of Asian women, and many other white men do too. That of course does not mean I will find every Asian women attractive but it’s just more likely than other races for me. When I was younger all I dated was white women because basically that’s all that existed in my town. Other than some Arabs, Hispanics etc. but they didn’t really interest me. However after meeting my first Asian women who was sadly already dating a white male. I forgot all about dating white women. Now that I’m in my 20’s and have actually experienced the real world my last 2 gf’s have both been Asian although one was only half (looked more like her Asian side though) and I don’t regret it at all…..oh yeah and I almost forgot Asian women seem to usually have an attractive voice. That’s important to me as well. Personality wise though Asian women from my experience seem to very just like any other race so that’s not really a factor in my attraction. I don’t understand the claim of Asian women being submissive.
Yes, they do 😉
Isn’t it also true the other way around? Don’t Asian women also love white men? I mean, according to American dating sites about a third of Asian American women want to date white men exclusively. That seems like a big number. I also feel I have more luck with Asian women than white women. 🙂
I hope you still smile
I’m Asian and found this to be funny haha
Well, I’m flattered by all the good things you say about Asian women which mostly are true. But you can find them in the western countries too. You just didn’t meet the right one. One thing to note is that, you can say, Asian women become mature faster than western women and even men because of differences in upbringing. Let’s say, women emancipation and Confucianism.
Do you know that some Asians are up to white people hunting? Maybe you’ll have this WTF moment when you meet an Asian man who prefers white girls lol or maybe you have got it many times?
See people through their souls, not race
Good girl & I’m from nz never get a chance with a white guy here in nz Only because they look demonic,
Dude, maybe it’s your attitude that puts them off. You think all women are whores and are surprised when they grow tired of you?
Been with 300 girls? Makes you a pig.
You are welcome.
i have read most of this artical i love it i am a 55 year old divorced male of 25 years now i am very attracted to asian ladies my self it has taken me a while to say this out loud and yes it is becouse of that steryo type.
i learned that yes they have better morrels and harts for man then any-one
for me my atraction does start with a face and the more i have looked around the more i realized that asian ladies have great face’s
and as i have begainto talk and chat on line i find out thier harts are filled with love and respect when i talk they lisiten and i do the same i respect when they tell me there feelinghanks and needs i am so depertly looking to find a wife that for the first time i am going out of the country for vacation to shanghai i am so happy to do this the culter has me wanting to discover it so so much i can only hope that i meet the lady i will marry there.
and yes i want to share my life with her and i want so much to do for her
thank you for this artical
Nope she’s not. But don’t worry. She’s not triggered 😉
This is obviously a subjective elaboration and I could only accept it as such.Otherwise it is very racially inclined and derogatory toward most if not all white women including the author’s own mother.Since she is not Asian or is she?
Hi
i wonder how you know Scandinavian men are cold if you never met one
i live in Norway
Welcome
Hey Pieter,
awesome comment! Thanks
Yo guys i’m a white South African, guys and yes i love how Asain woman look they are perfect in almost every way in my opinion, even the more curvy one’s (no i did not forget you you guys are awesome as well;). I love K-Drama, J-Drama, Philipinno-drama, Taiwanise drama, Tai-drama and anime from Black clover to Yozakura Quartet Hana no Uta and more all the one’s i can’t remeber now (Asia i think you are awesome) does that make me weired i do not think so you are awesome and the whole world must learn how to appreciate people from ethnicities they are not familiar with becouse the world and there for the universe is so much bigger than when what you think.
I believe all women are unique and beautiful around the world. I am an Asian American girl here in the states and funny that he bought this subject up. Even white man don’t date Asian woman in America, but go extra far length to date the little young girls that are barely 18 yet. Most of these white men are actually old like in 40s to as far as late 60s… Even the marry Asian men that live here in the USA who are in their 40s and late 60s also go back to Asia to marry the young bride, which is disturbing. In my experiences that I have travel to Asia and other countries, most of these men that travel far are sex tourists. My questions is why do men go so far extra length to marry young girls that are not 18? what are their agenda?…. to feel like a man?… I’m not jealous lol. Go on ahead and date the sisters, I’m just a curious human being and observing human race hahaha. I find weird how people objectified themselves with what nationality and race they are. I always thought I looked Asian, but view the world so much more different and complex… I would call myself a humanist then Asian lol.
I believe all women are unique and beautiful around the world. I am an Asian American girl here in the states and funny that he bought this subject up. Even white man don’t date Asian woman in America, but go extra far length to date the little young girls that are barely 18 yet. Most of these white men are actually old like in 40s to as far as late 60s… Even the marry Asian men that live here in the USA who are in their 40s and late 60s also go back to Asia to marry the young bride, which is disturbing. In my experiences that I have travel to Asia and other countries, most of these men that travel far are sex tourists. My questions is why do why men go so far extra length to marry young girls that are not 18? And whst is their agenda?…. to feel like a man?… I’m not jealous lol. Go on ahead to date the sisters, I’m just a curious human being and observing human race hahaha
Both young and old
Hey Jenny,
My articles are always based on my personal experience.
Hey.
Firstly, I’m an Asian woman who had an European man. I’ve read carefully what you shared here. I just want to express myself with you and your opinion. For somehow, this article was a bit “showing off” because he has the great relationship with his Asian girlfriend and actually bad experiences with white women. But it doesn’t mean anything. For me, men cheated for many reasons, and the biggest reason is he couldn’t against the “animal” part in himself. Nothing’s about Asian or white women. Cheating is cheating. It was in his blood. Nothing is wrong with you or right for Asian women at all.
Thanks god that cheater left you for you to have the open door to find a faithful one who will never has a blink for the other women even white or Asian or whatever…
You actually named all of your values in this comment and you knew it very well. Go for it. Go for the man who deserves your values better than a cheater.
People everywhere are just the same. There are gold diggers everywhere. And also there are gold hearts everywhere. Wish you happiness for what you deserve.
As an Asian girl, i am so sorry to read your story. I myself admire how strong the white girls are including you. Its not your faults in that relationship, Asian girls neither. It was the man that likes to play games. I myself witnessed a white man who just move to Taiwan for a half year and starting to give very bad comments on white girls physical figures while he used to have a white gf for 10 years. For me, i choose to ignore those men even look down on them. I wish you stay strong and overcome all of that bullshit. Kick him out of your life.xxx
Nah this is not true, Many still smell good without using products . For example : my mom , she never uses deodorants, shower gels and lotion but she smells very good and i notice that her smell is the same as mine and my sister. I dont use deodorants either since i dont have body ordour under armpits. I sometimes i stop using showel gels just to enjoy my own smell. I think it’s because our asian genetics are just different ( pacific) since my dad also doesnt use deodorants and he doesnt have body smell ( not at all) . 🙂
I see many of them marry thai and fillipina women and they are very old men. So a lot of them who are into asian girls are old men?
Hey Huong,
I know a lot of Scandinavian guys who are into Asian girls. They exist 😉
Hi Sebastian, Thank you for the article. I’m also an asian girl who love Vikings and their cultures since i was a child. I do have all the elements that you mention in the articles. However the problems are Scandinavian men are so much different from the rest of men In the world so it’s hard to know what they like in a woman, what attract them to a woman . In general, They are very shy, distant, reversed and cold. ( i heard ppl said that). Sometimes they are warm, talkative but then they stop and being cold and then they are warm again. They are very confusing. And I also heard that they dont like conquering women, they let women make the first moves. There is no article on the internet talking about how to seduce a scandinavian men, how to win their hearts , attract them and make them like you ( in order to start a serious relationship). After reading those comments from ppl in the internet, I feel like ” wow, are they aliens”? . But because I really like them , they hardly cheat on their partners, they are royal and good husbands as well as good parents. I reall want to get to know more about them. By the way, Im a well educated girl who love to know about new cultures and try new things. In many white guys’s opinions , I look good. ( i know scandinavian girls are as beautiful as goddess and i cant compete) But i really want to have a nordic bf . ( Ive never travelled to those countries and met anyone from scandinavian countries before). I really hope that you would write an articles about this topic soon for girls since girls also need to understand boys and be better gfs and there are also many female readers on your site . Because you are also a man so maybe you would know about them better than I do. I hope you would reply me or write an article soon so that i can prepare for myself. 🙂 Thank you. 🙂
Good reply 😉
Well…you can also get plastic surgeries to make yourself look better for your man…I am sure he won’t mind.
The problem is the opposite though – that many of such white men simply do not deserve Asian women they get. Way too low level.
I mean, why would a good looking / educated / interesting / loyal / with good values woman date an unambitious / not educated / often dumb / below average looking / looking for sex only dude?? It is really disturbing to see this happen so often: low level white guys with high level Asian women. My observation.
For a quick proof, go to any porn website. Amateur / sex category. Where white guys record how they are screwing a genuinely good Asian girl to brag about how “amazing” they are and they can treat this girl like shit… Well, most of these dudes can barely manage to say anything intelligent and are generally ugly. The question is why? Obviously these girls are stupid in a way.
Same is happening on the streets. I used to get jealous of such couples before I learnt just how hopeless their relationships are.
Btw I am a high level white male with high level Chinese woman. I am smart, educated, strong enough to protect, gentle to my gf. I hope trash dudes keep away from good girls.
In reply to heartbroken’s message I think that Sebastian doesn’t speak negatively about European women, more about how men often aren’t shown much respect by western women eg. this headline ‘In the Western society it became a fashion to treat men with disrespect.’ You said yourself that you’re from Eastern Europe so logically this statement doesn’t even apply to you.
You also say that you’re unhappy with the way that Sebastian makes generalising statements about western women (it’s true, he does tend to do that for simplicity) but go on to make your own generalisations about men ‘why do men still stab us in the back and cheat on?’ Obviously not all men are like that otherwise there wouldn’t be so many people that are still married. Instead you should be asking why the guy you were with did what he did. From what you’ve described it was probably a mixture of the long distance and the fact that he was an asshole. By the sound of it there would be plenty of guys who’d love to meet a girl like you, stop wasting your time on the ones that aren’t worth it.
Hey Gerry,
not all women are like that…but some.
American women (a few exceptions of course, at least in theory) are all whores. I have never known or known of one who doesn’t charge for pussy.
About the time I started running out of money – I am partially disabled and don’t earn nearly as much as I used to – the pussy stopped.
Any time a woman earns or has more assets than her man, he is in a bad spot.
We men are told that men and women are equal. But if you believe that bullshit, that sex is an even exchange, you then are in a bad spot.
Thanks for sharing your experience, Darrell!
Hey Anne,
thank you so much for your comment. Great to hear that a Western girl agrees with me!
thanks for your advice 😉
it’s flattering to hear the good perceptions about asian cultures (im black and asian, born and raised in Asia) i agree with most of your statements. I really do. And im of course proud of my ethnicities. But quite frankly, all you have said was all about stereotypes. Im still living in Asia . I have dated asian guys and caucasian guys . I just want to remind you not all asian girls are same most of them are friendly and nice but Not all is ‘the perfect wifey / gf material’ and it goes same with white, black, latina women. If you dont mind me give you an advice, maybe you should do your topic and perspective in general without giving statements that may hurt the egos or feelings of the other women outside asian 🙂
Not supporting or advocating for interracial dating doesn’t equate to jealousy dumbass.
You should learn to consider why someone feels a certain way before automatically asserting that they’re jealous. You’re a fucking idiot.
There is beauty in all races and mixtures but the way you’re talking is as if you feel asian women are superior to all other women which is just a straight up lie. Asian women get just as much plastic surgery as white, latin, black, middle eastern/indian women especially south koreans. There is natural and unnatural beauty in each ethnicity/race.
Dear sebastian,
I would like to respond to your article. I’m a 30-year-old lady from England. I have been to Asia for a couple of times, and the things you describe in your article are the things that I immediately notice when looking at Asian women. I can tell you that I fully agree with you. Even though I’m an English lady, I fully agree with the Western men going to Asia to seek a woman. I think that white women have lost a lot of femininity. The western ladies are often too fat, do not dress with care and are often aggressive and demanding. They demand far more than they can offer themselves. If I go to Asia, I try to learn more from these women each time. and it works incredibly well. I have had a relationship for 8 years and my husband always told me how happy he is that I care so well for him and that I care so well for my appearance. I have no overweight, and make sure I always look good. I get a lot of criticism from friends and people around me that I care too much for my husband. I think there are still good female western ladies but they are increasingly in the minority. I agree with the men who go to Asia for a woman
PS: i love your site! great work!
I tell you out straight,I am a Caucasian male who has been with almost 300 or so white woman.I now am with a beautiful Pinay!For any of you self centred gold digger white piece of S..t a Pinay is a filipina.The filipina is the most beautiful,caring ,affectionate woman in the world!My girlfriend is only 4 years younger than me and is the breadwinner in our relationship.She was brought up with good values and knows how to treat a man.Unlike the money hungry American woman who only learnt the bad ways from her mother.These days you’ll see more white guys with Asian women is because the Asian woman can sastify and treat a man with respect they deserve.Also if the white women can learn to be more faithful and honest with there partners those relationships will maybe last.Just saying
Hahaha you sounds so stupid ~ our Asian girls are naturally becautiful as we have better skin, better body and hair. I’m sorry. But accept the fact and start to take care of yourself.
a woman like you won’t have any issue finding a man anyway. if you worry about keeping him loyal, well maybe just don’t date the super good looking man. there is plenty of good romantic loyal men outhere who crave for a Relationship. minwhile this website allowed many men who thought they are lost and will die alone to be “saved”.
well, you went for the good looking guy, so here is the result. that’s one of the issues with western women, even the one who have attractive personalities, feminine type, they are extremely shallow in the way they select men.
Hey Brokenheart,
I was also born in Europe and I don’t hate white women. All I say is that a lot of men who have dated Western women with Western “values” (no matter what skin color) will be much happier once they are in a relationship with a traditional Asian woman. I know this from my own experience and from the emails I get daily, I can tell you that this article saved a lot of lives. Of course, every person is different. Not every man cheats and not every man is faithful. The same is true for women. But it’s definitely dangerous to let the man you are in a relationship with to travel to Asia alone. That almost always ends like that.
Hi Sebastian!
I’ve read your article and having mixed feelings.
I’m a white woman borned and raised in Eastern-Europe. The values you listed of Asian women are really important and I could tell the same values of myself too except for not having an “exotic” look and not aging slow, but that’s something to do with genes, and it wasn’t my choice where to born and what type of physical features I have.
I had a foreigner, caucasian man from Northern -Europe, my “dream man” who was my first love ever, and made me feel like a real woman for the first time in my life. He was smart, romantic, educated, seemed to be raised with good values. He had a very attractive look (at least to me) he had blue eyes, blond hair, was very sportive, tall and had a protective body….he didn’t stay unnoticed by other women.
I was proud of him and I was really caring for this man, I was completely faithful (not just to him, but in general, I’ve never cheated) I think there was hardly any other woman who could have loved him better than I did. I mean now both emotional and sexual way. I just gave pure 200% of myself. In the first times everything went just perfect.
I have to note I never criticised him, never asked his money, I really did show him that I respect him, and I’m independent, of which he was proud of, I always looked pretty for him, he took compliments on my dresses, I earned masters degree in architecture so Im not a “stupid” blondie and I even would’ve moved to his country to live together with him and leave everything behind me for him. He was actually flattering me with having a family together with me. You could imagine I felt like in heaven….
Still after he went to Asia for his studies, and came back half a year later everything turned a nightmare, though during all his entire stay, he just played a perfect mask, to make me sure everything is fine.
First it was HE who started to criticise me, like he took negative comments on my physical features which he eralier just loved (actually I have blond hair with green eyes, fair skin, and quite tall so not that fragile and “petit” I have to admit) but at the very first time he just loved the way I looked……then it became a problem for him that my hair became darker in winter, or I wasn’t so tanned like in summer, and why do I wear glasses and all other bullshit reasons……
He also became moody and insinuated me that I’m testing him, because I noticed he deleted a photo of us on a social site, and asked him why he did that….He first became aggressive and denied and told me I’m testing him….. which later he admitted he was who really deleted it, as he wanted to keep her new Asian girlfriend unaware of me while I was still his girlfriend and laying next to him in bed.
Finally he broke up with me with such reasons that we are too far from each other(as it was a distance relationship between Northern and Eastern Europe), and he was discriminating me because of my less developed background, and hard future view etc.
The real reason why he broke up with me was because he cheated on me several times with an Asian girl during his stay in Asia, and they stayed connected after that, while I was still his girlfriend…. and he kept the cehating on in secret for years and telling me white lies. I was still wanting him back, and sinking into depression and self -blaming while he was already having an Asian girl in his bed after me…and you see, despite we were living in the same continent, I was “far” for him, but Asia was not far….And his Asian girlfriend had all the features he didn’t like about me: darker hair, fair skin and glasses…….anyway these were of course just excuses as I see now.
I only figured it out years later (this year to be more exact) what he had done to me. I was completely broken, tinking of suicide but really, and still having problems with my self-esteem since that, as my ex blamed me, and made me beieve for years, that it was my fault that we ended…..
So it is quite offensive in your article calling women like me like poor, frustrated women who hate Asians……just think of the other side, how incredibly painful it is to be left behind for someone else who is so different from you, and then even facing with such an article which lifts up Asian women like women with super values, which values are not existing in European or any other white women.
You said you hate when people are narrow minded and offensive to Asian women, but you are offensive to other white women in this article. Surely you also had bad experiences just like me, but Im not hating white caucasian men, neither Asian women, (actually I’m having an Asian friend, and she is one of the best person I’ve ever met) It’s just about that here on this website I really see that no other women is good for a relationship just Asian women, and you provoke men in general to not give a damn about any other women, but Asian :/
Since that of course my ex moved to that Asian girl and lives together with her on the other side of the World. When I faced his dirty lies with him, he said sorry but nothing could wash away that pain and betrayal that he done to me…When I asked, he said the main reason why he chose rather that girl because she had so different culture. This must be true, sorry that I was born in Europe 😀
So let me ask, still, if a woman is not a gold-digger and has all the “wanted” emotional and femine features you listed, like I do have, and I’m really saying this with no exaggeration,as I gave my best ever in that relationship in every mean, then why do men still stab us in the back and cheat on?
Huuuiii…i feel some racist vibes 😛
That’s so true. The hate comments I get about Asian women are all from white girls…none of them is from a black girl.
I call bs, you’re a butthurt jealous white woman.
White women especially white women in Europe and the United States are extremely jealous of Asian women. Almost every time you see someone butthurt about a white guy with an Asian woman, it will be a white woman hiding behind the keyboard. They don’t like the competition.
You have to understand that in the U.S. dating is extremely lopsided and the women have so many options it makes them spoiled. They’re used to being put on a pedestal, when they’re not even anything special. A woman in the U.S. that is absolutely nothing special at all and doesn’t even treat men very well can still score a decent guy in the U.S.
They don’t like Asian women because it’s competition they don’t want to have to deal with.
Are you trying to sound wise or something?
Any white man that sells out his race to be with a chink is pathetic. I think the same of any white woman that sells out her race to date anything below a white man.
Disgusting.
Hey Kay,
glad to hear that you have found the right partner.
As a person in a reverse relationship (white woman dating an Asian man) and someone who has lived in East Asia, I find some of these elements to be true of my partner as well. He is a protector and provider, he is family-oriented, and he is goal-oriented. He also has this general peace about him; you worded it well. Our relationship thrives on compromise, communication, and our interest and care in each other.
I was kind of offended at first by your negative generalization of American women, but I guess I can understand your frustration, because the male equivalent of that is someone who is selfish, ambivalent, unmotivated, and lacks any kind of gentlemanliness at all, and unfortunately women encounter many men like that on dating sites and real life, so it ends up seeming like the norm. I guess it’s a rarity when you do find that special someone who blows all the others away. I didn’t go specifically looking for any ethnicity, but his background has shaped his values and I am very glad for that.
You are NOT a filipina you are a western woman trying to drag white western men down because you are jelious that those men DONT WANT WESTERN WHITE WOMAN! and HIV is a scam it does not exist so grow up and shutup.
Hallalujah!
I agree completely. (I’m a female dating a male) . My father, American and mother, Swiss. My younger years spent in Europe. Im from SanFrancisco area in California. I have always admired the beauty of Asian woman but most of all their ability to respect the male and to respect their feminine qualities which, to me, makes them appear centered and at peace within which shows strength. All those things with their outer beauty gives them a sexy exotic look that most men like. Where I live, I come across too many woman that have been raised listening to mother and other females frequently complaining and bashing men, they grow up feeling comfortable disrespecting their man or men and constantly trying to compete, debate or insult their males. Also many are very loud and agressive compared to Asian women. It is sad that many dont see themselves exactly that and dont understand the impact it has on the male psyche.
Agree! Doesn’t take a rocket scientist to figure that one out huh! Jealousy is a horrible haters disease that will prevent one from ever finding inner peace and happiness!
This is so refreshing. I’m sure you’ll find a wonderful man. Not all men like these ultra feminine women, trust me, I know.
Hi, I’m enlightened by your comment because you seem like a down to earth woman. You mentioned that blonde women are jealous of you, but I don’t think that’s the case. Lots of white blonde women find Asians unattractive. My entire family and my husband’s entire family find Asians unattractive. We would never ever date them and I think it’s mostly because we are genuinely interested in stronger personalities which is what I see in you Ceci. My mother had a lot of problems with Asians sleeping their way to the top and using their feminine techniques to get their way. I’ve had massage clients complain they were fooled by Asian women re money and places to live. I just see so many stories. Then other male friends who really are desperate and can’t find s girl so they go overseas to get an Asian on because they really do feel it’s the easiest thing to do. But god for these guys for finding someone. I will admit my friends and myself are attractive and slim and kind and peaceful but everywhere you go the white guys are snapped up by Asian chicks. That’s the real reason why the white.chicks are pissed off. Not because their jealous of the woman, but because there’s less out there. The guys are disappearing for easier options. I will admit the one thing I dislike about white chicks is that when a guy pays attention to them, a lot of white women will try to boost her ego and turn the man down. One thing I did like about this article is the focus on peace and harmony. But most of the article just reminded me that I prefer far more interesting and stronger women and ppl in general. The whole gorgeous feminine thing that you guys brag about is such a bandaid and I would be looking for a real outgoing independent chick if I was a dude. It’s good I’m married to a handsome Greek guy who likes strong independent women .
Hey Leah,
I actually just published an article where I talk about exactly that. Sorry for hearing that.
I’m a Filipina women – born and raised in America. I’m successful, driven, and hard working. I filed for divorce from my husband 2 years ago after finding out about his multiple trips to Thailand, Hong Kong, and the Philippines.
Talk about “yellow fever”.. the man is in danger of getting AIDS/HIV.
After my experience with him, I decided never to date another Caucasian man. He’s creepy as hell and is a bucket of STDs.
Never making the same mistake again and rather stick to my own race. It’s safer.
Thank you so much for sharing your story!
You should check out my article about Bhutanese girls and tell me if you agree or disagree. I would love to hear your feedback.
Having a realtionship with a Bhutanese woman for four years now and a planned marriage for the end of the year (Germany is probably the hardest country to marry a foreigner in – it takes at least a year), of course I have made my thoughts on this WMAF phenomenon. This article describes the pull factors perfectly. But of course there are push factors as well.
The first thing coming into my mind thinking back of a very unsatisfying relationship with a white girl at schooltime and several also not very satisfying dates in college is the word competition. The Western world is competitive, which probably has ensured the wealth the Western countries enjoy today. But with the rise of feminism the element of competitiveness has also reached relationship/marriage level. And it definitely doesn’t belong there! It still leaves me disillusioned, how relationships nowadays in the West are seemingly only about “having something in hand over the other”. And usually it’s the women who win this competition, as they have the sexual weapon over the man from the beginning. And in addition to that, later in marriage they have the threat of divorce which usually ruins the man financially. Now those weapons have been always there, but only since the rise of feminism White women play out these cards aggressively. And aggressiveness is the most un-feminine characteristic imaginable.
So you come home from a hard day of work (which usually means some kind of competition), have fought your way thru traffic or an overcrowded train (more competition) and reach there just to engage into another competition with your partner about who takes care of the children, which TV program shall be watched or argue over housework, since your modern Western woman forces you straight into household work if you want to have any chance of sex. And furthermore White women compete for their saying into which car to buy and similar things that are simply male-related. Seriously, which man would choose such a miserable life? Of course we don’t want to play this game. Yes, dear feminazis: We are not “man” enough to engage into a lifelong competition in areas where there should be no competition. We prefer relationships as it was once meant to be (by God/nature/evolution – pick your favourite): Mutually supporting each other – without making use of our partners (that goes out to several men as well). Fortunately I terminated the earlier relationship and now I am with this amazing Bhutanese. Nevertheless one of my uncles fell victim to an “ice-cold angel” who married, betrayed and divorced him, taking lots of money by bargaining their children whilst fucking the next best boss for her career. He simply wasn’t good enough anymore. What a perversion of what a marriage should be! Just feeling sorry for the last real feminine White women who are suffering from the horrible reputation White Western women are increasingly earning.
It is no surprise that WMAF relationships are being heavily attacked by White women. Just as it seemed like feminism had pushed White men just into the place it wanted them to, they start to simply opt out. And so there is lots of feminist butthurt in that aggressiveness towards this phenomenon. How could men simply outsmart the feminists by not playing to their unwritten rulebook and go for dating abroad? This caught the whole feminazi scene completely off guard I guess. It was simply not in their script. And so desperate shots are fired. But be aware: The more you attack the WMAF phenomenon, the more you will push the WM into the arms of Asian women.
My Bhutanese Soon-to-be-wife is incredible. For the first time I have got a feeling that my partner supports me in what I want to achieve instead of trying to compete with my goals just to be on eye level. Never before have I experienced such selfless care – and thereby she has conquered me so heavily that she gets nearly all her wishes fulfilled. I use to compare her to water: Water is defensive by nature. You might be able to force it where you want, you can build a wall and it will retreat. But in the end the water always wins, forming landscapes and turning massive rocks into sand. And just by her incredible love and care she has made me the most caring husband one can imagine. Simply because you can’t act differently when you have such a wonderful being in front of you (If you then still only think of yourself, you deserve a relationship with an aggressive feminazi woman). She never demands anything but gives hints at what she prefers. How can you not fulfill that wish then. By having such a defensive and feminine nature she achieved everything that White women might secretly hope to achieve by aggressive demanding. So White Western women, you might attack Asian girls, making them cry, making them question themselves (In fact I’m very surprised how many Asian women have posted here saying they had trouble with their Asian identity in a Western country), but in the end, their defensive nature will take us away from you.
The only thing is: As a WM you have to be able to read her secret messages. Probably one of the bigges reasons for divorce in WMAF marriages is the disregarding of those hidden signals by the White man, leaving her unsatisfied. She will probably not complain – at least not directly as this is her nature. But you need to be empathetic to read your Asian GFs desires. If you are able to do this your price is the perfect wife for a lifetime.
And it looks like this whole thing is mutual. The myth of the unromantic, possessive Asian man seems to be true. My girlfriend was completely stunned by the amount of respect and care I gave to her. She says no Asian man has ever treated her only half as good as I have. As someone already wrote: “When the attributes of the average white man are combined with the attributes of the average Asian woman, the resulting relationship is blissful, loving and lasting.” Both parts blow each other away all the time. Too sad that relationships like this – the way it must have been intended – seems to be only possible in WMAF relations nowadays.
Of course there is a downside to all this: In Asia the gender balance is already skewed thanks to the barbaric culture that families have to pay for their daughters to get married (All market-related theories are failing here; the value of a daughter simply doesn’t want to rise in India and China although they are short in supply). Human trafficking from South-East Asia into China to sell them to frustrated men is already on the rise as there are simply not enough women. So the shortage of women also reaches other Asian countries. And if now White men start increasingly fishing in these waters it might create havoc there in the long term, leaving millions of Asian men sexually frustrated. If that happens, we can really say that Western feminazism has a horrible impact on a global scale.
Thanks for sharing your short comment 😉
Hey Richard,
that’s awesome. I’m happy for you. 34 years…that’s a word.
I’ve been married to a Vietnamese lady for going on 34 years. We have 3 beautiful daughters. Relationships are like art. A constant work in progress. Being with an asian lady is fulfilling in many ways. The one thing I respect is the strong feeling of privacy. Strong United from out in the world and in private her strong feelings are shared then. No Jerry Springer show in public.
Wow! I just feel sorry for you to have that much hatred in you against other races. Be happy for others and live in harmony. Being a hater reflects your inner unhappiness and jealousy!
This is a long one but I think it will give the guys some insight if they are wants a relationship with asian woman.
I am a Chinese woman married to my white husband for 17 years (we are still happily married). I didn’t even know the term ‘yellow fever’ actually means until today! Thanks for the article about the positive perception of us (being Asian woman), it is flattering. Regardless if the purpose of this article is to attract people to click on the affiliate dating links for income or not, I think I can give a different perspective to a long term relationship with a Chinese woman, or as a Chinese women why I would choose my husband.
First, no I did not marry for money. I have a higher education (a master degree) and earn a higher wage than my husband. That’s doesn’t matter to me, and good he doesn’t seem to mind. No he is not significantly older, he is 4 years older than me, although I don’t see why people judge others by their age gap. No I wasn’t after a green card or an immigration status, I was already a citizen before we met. No, I wasn’t doing ‘everything’ he wants in the bedroom and allow myself to be a doormat outside the bedroom neither, nor did he treats me like one.
It’s eye opening to me some of the hate comments. It explains why I feel that a lot of white girls and/or overweight girls hate me at work for no reason. I always thought I must have done or said something wrong to them! Despite some people would tell me they are just jealous. I didn’t understand what can they be jealous about me. They are all advancing faster and have better positions than me despite my high education and hard work. They looks better with the big old white men in the upper management. They have beautiful big eyes and blonde hair, and I always though most men prefer blonde European women. And they are curvier. Logically I simply didn’t see I have anything for them to jealous over me about. So I resorted to my own believe that I must have done or said something wrong to them. Now I know, it is too sad they feel that way.
For most of what you said is true. We generally look younger by 10 years. I look younger and always being mistaken of my age. That results in judgement from others thinking I was a ‘mail order bride’! Yes I over heard a white lady nasty comment about me at a restaurant when I was dating my husband. I think it has a lot to do with food and like you said, how we like to take care of ourselves. Heavy cheese and butter, box and junk food are just not what I want to eat.
I do like to cook my husband’s favorite food even though they are sometimes just junk food and beer. I also want to have a decent living space so clean up is required, right? But no I don’t clean up after him (I do but not like he is expecting me to do it all the time, he does help out). After all I want to be his wife not his mommy. I do like to cook so that might be different compare to someone who might not. I like to see him happy and in return he also likes to see me happy that’s what’s important to me.
In the bedroom, I do put in an effort to please and I know what he likes, he also works hard too. It’s a give and take, not just one giving and the other just taking. I never ones feel belittle, force or abuse by my husband. He is always respectful, even when we first started to know each other sexual habits I guess you can say, he would be very respectful with me and try to know what I like and don’t like.
We are skinnier, well I think it has a lot to do about our eating habits. I am petite.
We respect our men in public. Well, we should all respect each other public or private shouldn’t we? Anyhow. Yes, I do take extra care in terms of respect when we are out with his friends or coworkers, I make sure he feels proud to bring me with him while with his friends and coworkers outside. It makes him feel better, he is happy and I can just see how proud he feels about himself. And that makes me happy too. I guess Asian women have been taught ‘face’ is very important.
Are we more feminine? I don’t know the answer to that. I think all girls regardless of race, like pretty things and like to dress nicer and just looks good and feel good about ourselves. Of course I am not always dolling up, I like to relax and bum out. Just go out for errands with track pants and t-shirt without any makeup. I never feel my husband loves me less because I don’t doll myself up.
Finally, why I would prefer a white man over Asian men. I don’t feel the respect I get from Asian men I dated. e.g. Regarding cooking, it was expected. When making a good meals become an obligation instead of appreciation, the joy is being taken away. Also my husband has never once staring at another girl or waitresses while we are out together. This one not just apply to Asian men, but none of the heterosexual Asian men I dated and known, including my dad and my brother, does the same thing. If the man expect me to respect him in public, I would very much demand that in return. Boys will be boys are often the Asian men’s excuses for behavior like such. To be fair, Asian or not, it all depends on the person. I have dated a Korean guy who was the most respectful, we were just way too young. I also dated other white men before I met my husband. Some you can tell they are aggressive and narcissistic, or just wants to get lay thinking we are easy. I am sure gold digger and girls who wants a green card or whatever other than a genuine relationship are out there too, this happen to all types of people not just some Asian women.
One thing you are correct, we are not easy or promiscuous. If you want easy, don’t be so cheap and go get a prostitute. Asian girls do not equal prostitute.
Our marriage is not all walk in the park neither, but I feel that we both grow to be better person because of each other. Look is not what we are after, it is the feeling of respect and love. So for the guys out there who don’t think ‘they have a chance’ because of how you look, you are good, just go for it. If you start asking yourself ‘is she just with me for money, or green card, or ‘, you most likely are right otherwise you wouldn’t be asking. Go find someone else who is your soulmate.
Hey Joey,
at least you realize that this is the reason why you are a single potato 😉
That’s right, korean girls are obsessed with beauty products 😉 check this out:
http://www.sephora.fr/Korean-House/Soin-Visage/R270100008/SC303?_requestid=682443
As an Asian girl that I am, I’m completely the opposite of what you talk about in this article I’m basically a Asian tomboy and that explains why I’m still a single potato and not every Asian are the same I bet there are a lot of Asian girls that are like me, a whitewashed, tomboy Asian girl
Hey Samantha,
thank you so much for your comment. All the best to your family! P.S. You should check out my article about Vientamese women. I would love to hear your feedback.
Maybe she is 😛
I’d like to know that, too.
Hey Cecille you talk as if you one of Victoria secret’s models lol
Interesting post, Sebatian.
A little to share: I am Vietnamese, I came to the states for my higher education at the age of 25. I had met my husband (Caucasian) and we had dated for 3 years before we got married. We have been together for 9 years and have 2 boys together. He amazes me in many ways and I fall in love with him over and over again through years. I hope you will have a happy ending with your girlfriend, and hope all you have longed for will come true.
How much older was your husband?
Fear is the path to the dark side. Fear leads to anger. Anger leads to hate. Hate leads to suffering
I have a white man myself and I’m a white woman. Any white person that marries and has children outside their race is just an idiot. Plain and simple. She’s 100% correct. Have fun having children that look nothing like you. Bunch of race traitors.
Doris, where did Sebastion say dating an asian woman you’re ‘guaranteed’ anything? I
Jealous much?
Im guessing you are fat and ugly and your true love left you for an asian girl
Bingo. What the honky bitches just dont inderstand…instead trying to get fat asses like the chimps
Hey Leslie,
that’s so true.
I never said that I don’t have yellow fever. I embrace it. You like Europeans. I like Asians. Everyone is happy.
Hey Carolyn,
why are you so full of hate for Asian women if you are apparently happy with your white man? I sense an inferiority complex.
Hey Leslie,
culture has definitely a big influence.
It depends on what your ideal is. Some men desperately want to be taken care of, or treated as though they’re superior in some way. Women of some cultures are more likely to do this, but not because they genuinely love men. It’s because they were taught to do this in public, and to complain in private.
Women are women no matter where you go, just as men are men no matter where you go. Humans are programmed to behave a certain way depending on where they grew up. I actually grew up for half of my life in China (Macau), I’m part Chinese, part Portuguese. But I see what it is. Eastern Women don’t tell you these things to your face, as Western Women are more encouraged to. But there is a certain level of deceit there, and if someone isn’t honest enough with you to express negative things once in a while, there is something wrong with that.
I would not trust a man who only sugarcoated his words to me all the time and I would say any intelligent man would know better than to accept that out of a woman, too. Only strong men can handle the truth, just as only strong women can. If your preference is for someone who will play niceties with you, that’s all good. Don’t put that down to race. It’s culture.
So basically, you had to marry a submissive girl who probably talks shit to you to everyone behind your back, in order to stroke your ego? lol
It’s wonderful to read about white men going to extremes to explain their fascination with Asian women, because indeed it is perplexing and confusing. I am also glad that the Asian women are honest – that they find it “heartwarming” and confidence boosting to see people interested in them. And do you know why that is? Asian features are perhaps the least attractive on the planet. Asian women have evolved in ways to overcome this significant genetic flaw by remaining slim and learning how to play with men’s mind. I have lived with Asian women all my life and they are calculating and premeditated to the EXTREME. They know when they wake up in the morning and look in the mirror they say something horrible. They refine their nose with collagen to not make it flat against their face, the STRAIGHTEN their hair because their natural hair texture is like a broom, they widen their eyes and get veneers cause their orthodontics are horrendous. Trust me, all you white men are getting played. Enjoy your progeny never looking like you. All your kids will end up looking like mexicans. A white man’s future is never with an Asian – a race so radically different you will always feel like an alien!
Love, a white woman married to a white man for 12 years who’s happy to be with his own.
total yellow fever fetish….most beautiful women are , AS A KNOWN FACT, european. you have a total fetish that you are spreading, well, as a fever….
Asian girls have something men are yearning. And it has nothing to do with weird stereotypes or some devious sexual fantasy. The women in Asia are still women. They are more feminine. Based on looks i don’t care whether the girl is black, white or of any other ethnicity. But of all the Asian girls i have met in my lifetime they have 1 thing in common. They are all much more ‘Female’ then their western counterparts. The recent wave of feminism is literally pushing men away.
Hey Tachi,
thanks for your feedback!
wonderful article and sometime difficult read but i agree so much! thank you for writing!!!
Hey Tina,
glad to hear that you have such a great time with your guy.
Hi Sebastian!
Great post! Since you shared your insight on Asian women, I would like to share my thoughts on Caucasian men. Am Vietnamese and my husband is white. What can I say..? Life with him is great. He loves me, respect the woman I am. He is so genuine, confident, and doesn’t give a shit. He puts me first and foremost and treat me with the upmost respect. Sex with a white man is the BEST!!! Through him, I am able to live out my fantasies and desires. I love my white guy!
interracial dating is a relationship between “people who are from different racial or ethnic groups.” (also Asian and Caucasian) Have a look at the dictionary 😉
Blacks and white is interracial dating don’t get it twisted for your own delusional mind set.
Hey JJ,
that’s my little secret 😉
Hey Deb,
thanks for sharing your story. You should take the “you look like 15” for a compliment 😉
Ok.. I was just being silly and googling around why white men likes an asian girl.. and found this article. Very well written and insights. I’m an asian woman and I was in a relationship with a white man from the US. We were very deeply in love.. sometimes its just some mushy stuff on our facebooks. I do asked him why he likes me (as in asian girl) when all of his previous exes was caucasian.. his answer was simple, “you make me happy and you make me want to be a better man”.. And having a man loving you right is all what a woman wants regardless of his skin and race. But dating him was not all butterflies and sunshines.. there are some of his friends thinks that I’m on into his money or that I want to get a green card and leave him.. a scam. He told me about what they said and honestly it hurts. I’m an independant woman. I have my own store and pays my own bills even when he offered to pay it. It was my bills, my debts and I got it handled. So I don’t need his money, like everybody else I just want love. But people dont see that. All they see is a young asian woman trying to put a scam on a white man. I’m close to my family and I’m close to God.. thats what I am and he accept it.. and its also one of the many things he loved about me.
Unfortunately, he passed away last December and my heart is so broken. he was my soulmate.
Anywho, two white man has been showing interest in me recently, one who was a long time friend of mine, and he said ‘I should’ve say hi and talk with you 7 yrs ago when we first met.. you look like 15 , I didnt want to get arrested’… I was 27 at that time..Lol.
Interesting article.
May I know how long you’ve been dating with your Asian girlfriend?
Hey Aum,
it’s definitely rarer to find young white guys with Thai girls but it gets more and more common. I’m one of them
I’m Thai, I always see Thai girl with white old man.
I’ve seen some white young guys have asian girlfriend, but not mostly Thai girl…
Any thoughts on this?
Hey Marian,
I’m happy to hear that you have found the right man, but please answer me one question: If you are so happy with him, why did you stumble upon this article? -)
I am an educated Filipino lady. When I was in my 20’s I met a lot of foreign guys. Yes, it is true, their blonde and blue eyes look very attractive to me for I got brown eyes.Until on my later years of searching a bf . I felt in love with an American boy, it was because he was my friend. And I know how spiritually inclined he was similar to mine. He’s attitude however was not perfectly polished. He’s bit ‘mayabang’ or arrogant. But I was willing to accept it.But, I have a goal to finish college. He went home and I didn’t wrote him. Until after six months he wrote a letter asking my situation. He sent pictures but he apologized that he could’t go back in the Philippines anymore. For me, it is ok.Then I met my new Filipino bf. I was attracted to this guy because he looked tidy, gentle and independent. As a single, I was still free to go anywhere else with friends, until I met an American in Manila who took my name, my phone and my email address and even my home address. I gave it. In not more than a week. This American of 6’2″ in height went in my place. Talk with my family and expressed his desire to marry me. He is financially stable in US,good-looking and kind. We dated too. But I did not fall for him. I was not attracted. I couldn’t force myself to love him.I said I had a bf already. He said I could make a better choice. If I will marry him, he would take me around the world, help my family earn finances, marry me in US, etc. But, I chose still my poor bf. Now, we both striving to have a better life in my country.
Thanks a lot. I wish you all the best with your potential boyfriend.
Hello, Sebastian!
Wish you all the best with your girlfriend!
I’d like to share my experience with you. Maybe it will be interesting.
I’m an Asian but was born in Russia. And I was a really active child, but in the age of 10 my life was totally changed. I faced with the most rude and mad person I’ve ever meet before. He was a sort of racism. After this event I became closed and too much shy. Had complexes and other. Too many people noticed that I’m another and chuckled on me.
However, these events made me to a really strong person in a moral meaning. I’m glad I had such life experience.
So, of course I felt myself like a strange and ugly alien. But now, I’m adult, I met many white guys liking me (by the way, I like Caucasian too). And how did I find your article? I just have a west European potential boyfriend and I just was interested why he has so strange preferences 🙂
About your article: your words are so kind, but almost all of these items can work with particular another’s races’ women 🙂
But it was interesting, thank you!
Hey Joanna,
you are welcome. I love your opinion and the way you see the world.
Aliya, what you said is indeed enlightening and noble! I have always resonated with what you have felt, having being brought up in a relatively westernized culture since young. Upon returning to Asia, I was blown away by how toned down and humble the Asian culture is. The majority of the female presences around me felt so feminine, graceful and sophisticated. It indeed did take me quite a while to amalgamate myself to a more modest and collective environment. 🙂
Now, as a 20 year old Chinese female, I am genuinely grateful for this upbringing that place great emphasis on mutual respect, family values and loyalty. I feel free and liberated in my own being, knowing that I will live with integrity and a sense of wonder as I expand my horizon in this world, all thanks to my relatively strict and grounded family background.
All the best to you in your future endeavors and thank you sincerely Sebestian for this insightful article! I think the most import thing I have observed and learnt through embodying different ways of being is that there is immense beauty in serenity, vulnerability and peace. Many a times things that are bright, shiny and loud may catch our initial attention, but what truly remains is sincerity and a genuine, encompassing sense of connection we have with one another.
Take care!
You can find a batgirl here in the states
There pretty much the same all over
Married to a Filipina 6 years now
I’m a white guy from Indiana
You can’t go into this with (yellow fever)
If u do then your going to have a lot of problems
Was married to white woman twenty years Her whole family
Wished I had stayed single when I was younger
And got involved with an Asian
Family respect they have is so awesome
Hey John,
I appreciate your comment. I don’t have much experience with Chinese girls, but I know a lot of Asian women and none of them is looking for a Green Card. I am in a relationship with an Asian woman and so are many of my friends and none of them supports the family of his girlfriend or wife. Of course, if you date a bar girl or a girl who is extremely poor, money is an issue. That’s why I always advise against it. Visit me in Bangkok and I’ll introduce you to Asian women who are not like the ones you met 😉
Sorry, while I agree with a majority of what you say, I disagree with all of the long term and the girl’s side of things. I am also a young white guy, but I have lived in Asia most of my life. Asian girls love to lie. Especially in places like China, lying is seen as a mark of intellect. Asian girls have one goal–themselves. Anything for themselves and their family without a care in the world who they hurt. They will marry you for a Green Card, wait 5 or so years until they are citizens, and divorce you if you don’t have the monetary capacity to take care of them and their entire immediate family who they are now bringing over.
Most girls don’t wait to play the long game, if you don’t have money they will not go into a serious relationship with you at all. Potential or money. Potential only if you are University age still. The only girls I met in Asia who did not have these mindsets were the ones who studied abroad.
Hey Micha,
your are gap is in fact a bit uncommon. But I wish you all the best.
I’m 38 yo Indonesian in a long distance relationship with a 25 man from USA. We will meet for the first time in January 2017. We both are in love and have strong chemistry. He seems so serious to go to the next stage of relationship. But still I’m worry about the cultural shock that both of us will enter, not to mention the age gap, different beliefs, etc. Nevertheless, I’m so excited to get to know him more, and glad that I’ve read your article.
Thanks for sharing! 🙂
Hello Clarissa,
thanks a lot for your kind words. And I wish you good luck finding the right guy (in case you haven’t already)
Hello, I’m 22yo Indonesian woman. I just want to say that I’m really touched by what you wrote. Thank you for saying such a nice things about Asian woman. I wish you and your girlfriend a happily ever after.
It all depends on what you like. Half Chinese and half Thai is still the perfect combination 😉
actually i think China and Japan are the countries where the vast majority of women are just super beautifull, whereas in Thailand and the Philipines their are many average women
Hey, some Chinese women are extremely beautiful.
Sébastien is right and would also say that Chinese women are différant, they are indeed in average very materialistic, and i’m not saying it based on one or two expériences, during my univercity years and doing online dating i met at least 10 chinese women. So try to focus on other cultures than chinese. But i have to admit Chinese are also very beautifull.
Hey Wade,
not all Asian women are like you described. My girlfriend is definitely not like that and I know many other Asian women who are not like that. However, I see this behavior with low class women (especially with bar girls or ex-bar girls). That’s why I strongly advise to stay away from these kind of girls.
I have dated an Asian woman who was suppose to be or claimed to be traditional.. and I have experienced all the americanized…things that you say American women do such as dis-respect in public. A lot has changed…This is the 2nd Asian girl I have dated and they both are very materialistic and worry about their “FUTURES” don’t get it twisted after they get off the boat and become Americanized…they are women in general and act just like the rest. This is WHY men go overseas. Bring them back because they…know they…can’t do it over there and…second these are guys with $$$$ so really…it’s pay…for play no matter how you look at any of them Asian or not you have to pay to BREED today.
You should check me out
they are just so much sweeter and more user friendly, the asian culture is so built around not losing face, they dont ever want to say anything that will make you sad, it makes for a great partner… except you won’t realize when your ish stinks lol
Hey Cecille,
I hope your comment proves to a lot of guys that the stereotype that all Asian women are gold diggers is not true. My girlfriend also comes from a wealthy background. However, she doesn’t drive so I can’t say anything about her driving skills 😛
I know people assumed that white men prefers Asians due to their petite built and gorgeous face. I am a Filipina dating white male and He used to say to me that (he and his mates) they used to fantasize Asian women due to the fact that they thought Asian women are great in bed and that they seem very tight “down there” .
Until we started dating, yes, he ticked the box about his curiosity that (Most) Asian women are still tight even after having babies. But he said what he loves the most about me (and he noticed with some of my Asian friends too) that we are loving, caring, compassionate and kind human beings.
I will not speak on behalf of other Asian culture, but majority of the women in the Philippines have a great sense of humour. My man and I banter constantly.
We Filipinas (women from the Philippines) are very family oriented. We were brought up to look after the family’ so we ensure they are fed and house is tidy.
I do not know the statistics now, but I know majority are Catholic, hence we have moral values. We were thought in School the importance of sex after marriage. (But of course with our modern society that hardly happen now)
We care about education, so people from the Philippines speak fluent English.
Does my man bought me from an Asian sight? The answer is No! I dont mean to brag, but I have more money than my man, and when we go out, I always offer to pay, and yes I pay most of the time.
You are probably wondering, god she must be ugly and fat! Yes I put on weight cos am now a size 8 UK! Used to be size 4! But when I say to my white female friends that I need to diet, they give me a dirty look, saying Im skinny.
When I am out with my man on a date, I love to make an effort, and Im glad he is not a jealous type when everyobody started staring at me, and some men even started chatting me up in front of him. Now you got the picture, im not just a pretty face (smiley emojis) with money and not only a great cook but also great in –??? Singing and dancing.
Now I hear you say to my man, “lucky bastard! ( thats exactly what his friends say to him, when I send him a card with a poem and serenade him with my crappy cover songs) ) but wait for it– I have a weakness! –my driving is terrible! Ohhh and another one– I dont text or call him a lot when were physically apart.. .but I tag him on facebook when I see funny videos.
Hey G,
thanks for sharing your experiences.
Wow… this is quite a boost to any asian women who went to have a sheer glimpse on satisfying her curious ideas of white men dating asians. I’d like to share a view with a complete unbiased opinion towards any gender or racial backgrounds. Some people are just meer curious and wanted what could be something different to try and hold. I mean try and learn some other people’s differences. I am an asian, from The Philippines who went to europe for some couple of years. I went to study the culture and dated some few other nationalities. I went on and tried online dating too. I talked to white men and found few interesteing, intellectuals who can talk way similar to what compliments our opinions and humours. (Although i love my light brown color and would not do anything to have it changed, i am always attracted to something different from me). And from that online interaction, there was one who really captured my interest and I think he just could not refuse my charm, honestly. Although we enjoyed most part of spontaneously talking, later in one of the following conversations we had, he would always want to leave, expressing how he doesn’t want to prolong the talk much beacuse I am an asian. I just do not understand how limited one’s philosophy is to label people and cannot hold a solid unique stand. We have reached the 21st century of changing mindsets. There are always smart and dumb people anywhere in the world. Good and bad everywhere. But I always have a good grip within to see the good in every person whichever way he came from. I m a philantropist and I am an Asian. 🙂
Hey Tony,
that’s interesting thought. I think I would still prefer Asians, at least in general. How about you?
Hey Dev,
that’s great to hear. A woman who brings out the best in a man is a woman worth keeping. I am really happy for you. Now you just have to believe the unbelievable.
Hey Josh,
you can date who you want, no matter if black, white or Asian. Let the haters hate and be happy.
Hey Marie,
glad to hear that you are happy with your boyfriend
First of all I think this entry is wonderful. Secondly, I apologize for my English or for any misspelled words. I really loved what you had to say. I am a Korean girl who has had to deal with many relationships that have turned out poorly due to stereotypes and ignorance. It really upsets me that this is such an issue to people and that people can feel so threatened by me dating a Caucasian man. I am currently in a relationship with a lovely guy who is in the Army. He treats me well and most of his friends and family supports us and want the best for us.
Ultimately what led me to this search was my own curiosity.
There’s more to superficial beauty. I care that my kid will not look horrible (needing plastic surgery themselves) and doomed a walking wallet.
Thanks a lot for this article. I was planning on dating an Asian girl that I really liked but if I ever talked about this I was either called a pig who wants a submissive girl, and a guy who can only wants to get Asians because no “American girls” liked me. I honestly have no problem with either, but its these types of people who can really cause problems within a relationship. I wish we could all just look past race and focus more on the person themselves. Thanks a bunch for spreading the word and debunking these stupid myths of how evil white men are!
Sebastian, brilliant article and so helpful. I am a good looking guy who is healthy and pretty multi cultured in his ideas. I date people I like not based on their specific race but on if I like them or not, so have had a wide range of culturally different girlfriends over the years, depends where I worked at the time.
However I recently met a Chinese lady, who had been divorced, and living in Australia for last 4-5 years. She was what be considered traditional back home, until she got divorced but still has the traditional values, Driving back from our first date was a blur to me, I was totally blown away by her beauty both externally and internally. I have dated some stunningly attractive ladies on numerous continents so have a benchmark to work from. I cannot think about her without having a smile creep across my face. I have had several dates with her and strangely for me it’s not about trying to get her into bed ASAP. The magnetic charm and character traits that ooze from her seems to bring out the best in me also. This lady has turned 50 and looks absolutely stunning, her good character, manners and tradition everything about her just sucks me deeper in. Every time I think of her my smiling face utters “unbelievable” without any prompting.
I have never stereotyped ladies let alone whole races, however your article certainly hits home in a positive way. I know from experience women are different the world over but you can stereotype to an extent although some will disagree, surveys, census etc provide the magnitude of data, basic maths does the rest. This article backs up what I have thought about previous Asian girlfriends I have had in the past. As I said I don’t date women based on their race, culture or location. I date ladies I meet in the conventional manner that I like, so please don’t put my assessment of this article down to the much hated phrase I don’t even like to mutter quietly to myself ”Yellow Fever” , it isn’t. I am multi cultured in my private life.
I know there are exceptions so ladies please don’t start the hate mail of “all ladies are different”, I KNOW. I am merely making general, generalizations that by no means group all ladies into specific groups. I am merely agreeing that this article rings true based on my worldly and hands on experience, on the subject matter. Asian laddies are certainly a breadth of fresh air and I for one cannot believe my luck in meeting what I can consider an almost perfect lady. ……….”unbelievable”
If all Asian women looked Caucasian, and all Caucasian women looked Asian, what would be your argument/preference then?
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He is right on those websites there is men (like me) who want to find an asian woman with healthy values like loyalty and peace to build a beautifull Relationship and a strong family.
However there is also a lot of men who just want to get laid. So before to jump in bed, you should let him wait for several month; maybe one year.
Hey Cindy,
The best thing would be to register on a Cupid site, depending on where you are from. I hope to help more and more men to find the Asian woman of their dreams. Maybe you’ll meet one of them one day.
Thank you for all your complement for Asian women.
I would love to start a healthy relationship with a white man. Do you have any advice to meet the man who want to date with Asiain girl and take serious into marriage.
Please email me if you want to help and discuss more. Thank you!
Have a great day!
Hey Bruce,
thanks for the comment. Of course the culture has an influence of how someone is raised and behaves, but in my opinion none of it is realer than the other. It’s just different. I am glad that you found the right woman.
I am a Chinese man and i have always think white girls are also attrictive and charming(even though i have got married and my wife is very good),at least for me.i gusse maybe we people just get too familiar with our own races people and a little bored. we all want know a different cluture.i havent contected with white girls,so i don’t know them.i think you dont need to try to do like asian girls,for me,i prefer girls more real(i am not sure the word),many asian girls just pretend be feminine(because clutrue),compare with white girls ,i think they are more real(be themselves).(some words maybe wrong,i am still learning english now)
it’s actually in the planning stage.
Such a great article…I was skeptical about dating white men for several reasons but recently I tried to jump to the void of having a relationship with a Caucasian guy after three unsuccessful relationship with Asian men. I was so happy to have met my man. I suggest you write a blog about why asian women like White men. Hihihi…I’ll be waiting for it!
Hey Shellie,
it’s never too late to be feminine 😉
Hey Amy,
I don’t say that I don’t want a woman without an own opinion. My girlfriend (who is Asian) is very independent in her thinking. I just refer to senseless arguments and drama. That’s all. And yes, I do care a lot about my girlfriend’s interests and opinion. I want to make her happy in the same way as she wants to make me happy. That’s what a healthy relationship is about. I am very selfless in my relationship and I encourage men to do the same. Don’t assume something that’s not true, just so that you can write an angry little hate comment 😉
This article reaffirms the need for a man to control his relationships. The author suggests how refreshing it is to have a girlfriend who won’t argue or have opinions. A girl who gives him everything. What about her? What about her life? Her interests? How boring to have a submissive door mat rather than a partner. I feel sorry for these women. They are seen as objects. These men exclaim, “finally a woman who knows her place. Don’t argue with me, please me in the bedroom and go along with everything I say”. Men have a responsibility to his wife. She is not an object or a slave. Maybe if you had been a better partner there wouldn’t have been confrontation in your past relationships. But then, that would require selfless behavior. Something this writer clearly doesn’t want to spend the effort to develop.
As an Asian girl. I think you really said something to the point about our Asian guys and their possesiveness. I liked it. And yes American guys are really attractive to us.
There is cultural patern. each individual is deeply influenced by his culture.
I myself am an American white girl, and am very interested in being my best feminine self, I admire women who understand this concept and I understand I lack the how to, but often wish I grew up like them or could study them so I can be an example for other white women. To help get us back to our roots.
Every woman is an individual and many of them are beautiful.
Koreans?
I thought Chinese were the most insulated of all.
But, look at us? Look at how we are talking in this generalization pattern.
Every woman is an individual. Every Asian woman is an individual.
It’s an expression that describes men who are into Asian women.
Unfortunately the “so you like to buy your women” prejudice is still widespread.
love knowing that!I’m glad for all of them too.
Most of the asian girls really loyal…or even in a wrong way or with a wrong guy..
But they dont cheat, and thats why men get bored of them haha
They’re quite traditional. True.Their severe parent taught them well hahaha
I thought thats way too bored haha… the traditional thing…
But Im fun too hahaha could handle both
I dont find women submissive 🙁 coz I’m not,might be it depends..coz Im from Hong Kong.
btw,why dating asian girls means “so, you like to buy your women…I understand.”
People shouldnt talk that way,thats really rude.
what does that mean?The word of “yellow fever”?
Hey Daphne,
“feminism has slowly but surely destroyed family life in the west”. True words. And I am soon going to write articles about Latin women.
This is a really interesting article. I am a Latina, Dominican to be exact. I’ve always grown up in a mostly Chinese/Korean neighborhood. I think Asian women are beautiful, I’ve met many of them that are very kind and respectful. I have good friends from school that are Filipino and Cambodian, I absolutely love them. Asian culture reminds me of Latin culture, not the Americanized ones though. But in our culture the woman is expected to take care of the man. A good Latina will make sure her husband has a delicious meal to come home to after a long day of work, and many of us enjoy looking feminine and taking care of ourselves. It’s such a turn off to me when I see a woman acting like a man, looking sloppy, being bossy and arrogant. I appreciate that my husband is our provider and our protector, together we are a team, he happens to be 20 years older than me but he’s the perfect gentlemen and the best father to our kids. Feminism has slowly but surely destroyed family life in the west. It’s quite sad
Hey Eddy,
you are right. Education and intelligence is mportant for them.
I came across your article. And you’ve brought up some interesting points. In my dating experience, well, there isn’t much any because most women I work with or come across don’t see me as either attractive or their ideal mate. But I’ve seen them talk to other guys and single me out! But as far as Asian girls go, most of them see me as a hard working and educated person with a great sense of humor. I think they want guys with more personality rather than looks. But I could be wrong. All that said, the ones I’ve dated are Asian girls. I mean, it didn’t work out as I hoped, but I got the chance to experience what dating actually felt like and it was only Asian girls.
Oh and by the way, I’m a black male
“please don’t resent western men for pursuing their nature to provide/protect for kind, supportive, loving women that make for great wives & mother of children.” Straight to the point my friend.
If course the author of this article wasn’t inferring that all western women are going to exhibit behavior typical of negative western social engineering. I’d agree that a percentage of western girls weren’t raised consuming government/media brainwashing & that some of those sheltered girls may not be programmed to resent or even hate white western men.
American men are well aware the entertainment industry & main stream media belittle white western men. The state education system villainizes white men, it’s another means to intentionally destroy traditional western family (conservative values) so that women & children become increasingly dependent upon liberal government bureaucracy (aka stealing trillions from future generations).
Anyway, western men don’t blame western women for being so emotionally gullible to divide & conquer tactics. So please don’t resent western men for pursuing their nature to provide/protect for kind, supportive, loving women that make for great wives & mother of children.
Hey at least that 90% western women raised upon government brainwashing can always marry the government & be provided/protected for by the next Bill Clinton.
Woua i cant believe there is Asians feeling bad for having those good traditional values and peacfull way of interacting with others…
Its too bad that Koreans are so closed and racist because they are really the most beautifull and sweet with Japaneses. I wonder if Japanese are more open.
Hey Aliya,
keep your respect, loyalty and honesty. Men love these features. And yeah, some Western women misuse this whole “liberation” thing a bit. Please stay the polite and respectful person you are. There is really nothing wrong with being an Asian 😉
Hey Amelia,
it makes me happy whenever I read that I could make a woman feel better with this article.
Hey Tonton,
thanks for sharing your experience. I my experience a lot of Asian girls are too shy to make direct eye contact, but I guess it depends where you are.
Glad to hear that.
Hi Mr Writer,
Thank you for your article. Its somehow help me to see this yellow fever things from another angle of view.
I believe your girl has show you all the good qualities as a lady should be. Otherwise this article would’nt be written so well.
Im an asian (malay-thai) myself. At first I was under impression that all white men are just after us because of their yellow fetish. However after I read your article, its totally change my view and my mind, I will give him a chance.
Thank you once again.
Heh, if you think Caucasians don’t get emotional and passionate about their lovers you haven’t read enough western poetry. I think this is common in almost all cultures to be honest..
I’m writing this as a white hetero male in his mid-20s who also takes good care of himself.
Some parts of the article I can’t relate to, other parts I can. Demographic and the nationality of the girl plays a huge part. For example, Chinese girls are fiercely loyal in my experience. Japanese girls I have been able to relate to more culturally. However, there are types of asian girls that I would personally never see myself dating: the wealthy satellite kids for various reasons, and Korean girls because they’re often completely subsumed in their own culture and race ideas, at least around here.
Anyways! One pretty significant point I found missing was asian girls are pretty receptive in my opinion. In my experience, it’s not hard to make eye contact, smile, and say hi to them. Whereas white women seem.. well.. complacent, like they’re playing a game too hard. This city is about 50/50 white and asian, and on a daily basis I’ll talk to or exchange smiles with at least one girl who’s asian, but rarely one who’s white. Which is a shame actually.
I agree with you Amy, i am a 19 years old indonesian-chinese who resides in jakarta, and i do have maids and driver…however i do not think that im spoiled. i think im pretty hardworking, independent and i possess a good attitude- just because some people have maids, it does not make us spoiled, again like you said Amy, we cannot generalize. Just putting my thoughts out there.
and Sebastian, thankyou for the kind words about asian women, because growing up, i had always looked up to many incredibly beautiful occidental women, seeing as the ‘beauty standard’ nowadays is described as women having big blue eyes, sharp nose and light brown/blonde hair, i felt a little disappointed that there is still discrimination- whereas people should learn that every single woman on this earth is beautiful in their own way no matter what. It really is just a matter of preferences. So thankyou for such uplifting words towards us Asian women, it really does make me feel a lot better 🙂
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Hello Sebastian, reading this article really makes my day, though I regretted for not reading it sooner. It’s not precisely because I found out why White men like us, it’s more to a sudden realization that the qualities/values that most Asian women have are actually respected. I’m a 20 year-old mixed-race Asian (my Dad is an Arab and my Mom is an Asian though I was born with 95% typical Asian features), and like any other Asian women raised in Asian culture, I uphold politeness, respect, loyalty, and honesty the most. I initially thought everybody was like that.
However, a few years ago when I was exposed to not-so-Asian countries and cultures, I could safely say I was overwhelmed in a bad way. From what I experienced, these were the things that I got : Women are supposed to demand things instead of considering negative impacts of their demand to their surroundings. Women are now “liberated” from speaking politely, after all men are always allowed to curse so why aren’t you? Don’t think about offending others, you have a right for it. Women aren’t forced to wear too much clothes to cover themselves so lighten up a bit (I guess Asian women will always be considered more conservative than women from other races, even if we already wear short skirts).
Everything is basically about rights. But really, wanting to respect others and speak politely is a right too, isn’t it? I thought it was just a culture shock, but then they started to tell me many bad stereotypes that you mentioned above : being submissive (just because we’re polite and respectful in Asian ways), old-fashioned (because we uphold tradition and love husband/partner/boyfriend sincerely), etc. It got to the point where I hated myself since every traits in me seemed to be wrong for society. I wished I wasn’t born Asian.
Now you just made me realize that there’s absolutely nothing wrong in being an Asian. That somehow our values aren’t that horrible. Thank you, I wish more people (including self-hating Asians like the old-me) will read this article of yours.
Have a good day!
Hello Sebastian, reading this article really makes my day, though I regretted for not reading it sooner. It’s not precisely because I found out why White men like us, it’s more to a sudden realization that the qualities/values that most Asian women have are actually respected. I’m a 20 year-old mixed-race Asian (my Dad is an Arab and my Mom is an Asian though I was born with 95% typical Asian features), and like any other Asian women raised in Asian culture, I uphold politeness, respect, loyalty, and honesty the most. I initially thought everybody was like that.
However, a few years ago when I was exposed to not-so-Asian countries and cultures, I could safely say I was overwhelmed in a bad way. From what I experienced, these were the things that I got : Women are supposed to demand things instead of considering negative impacts of their demand to their surroundings. Women are now “liberated” from speaking politely, after all men are always allowed to curse so why aren’t you? Don’t think about offending others, you have a right for it. Women aren’t forced to wear too much clothes to cover themselves so lighten up a bit (I guess Asian women will always be considered more conservative than women from other races, even if we already wear short skirts).
Everything is basically about rights. But really, wanting to respect others and speak politely is a right too, isn’t it? I thought it was just a culture shock, but then they started to tell me many bad stereotypes that you mentioned above : being submissive (just because we’re polite and respectful in Asian ways), old-fashioned (because we uphold tradition and love husband/partner/boyfriend sincerely), etc. It got to the point where I hated myself since every traits in me seemed to be wrong for society. I wished I wasn’t born Asian.
Now you just made me realize that there’s absolutely nothing wrong in being an Asian. That somehow our values aren’t that horrible. Thank you, I wish more people (including self-hating Asians like the old me) will read this article of yours.
Have a good day!
Thanks for your comment Amy
Wow…. I am from Indonesia. I am a blogger too. I wrote about my experience searching partner from abroad. But I can’t write the article so long.
Like the song Ebony and Ivory “there is good and bad in everyone”. So, everything is relative, we can not generalize.
Many wealthy Indonesia women are spoiled. They hire some maids, driver, like to go to shopping mall, beauty salon, cafe or restaurant.
Only special Indonesian women can make white men interested to them. Not all… only independent women, hard worker, good attitude. Spoiled wives mostly ended with bad marriage but still trapped on that.
The explanation above only for Asian women who have good attitude. From dating site I only found white men who search for gf or friend with benefit only, not to marry.
Anyway, thanks for the article
Hey Rhuby,
you made some interesting points. Thanks a lot for sharing.
Yourr are right Tina we shouldnt generalise. Not all cocasian women are selfish party girl going for the stupid but funy and handsome guy. Only 90%. And a lot of guy prefer indeed non asian women because of big boobs, juicy booties and lacke of ability to be loyal to her bf after two glasses of alcohol. Only the more sofistivated men who value more the culture, respect, suport, loyalty, romantic immagination, sweetness and beauty of the face prefer asian women.
Hi Sebastian!
I really love your perspective about us, and you may also want to know why Asian girls prefer white guys. You see some of the Asian guys I have dated before were very possessive in a way that you won’t feel like you are being treated as a person but like an appliances. And they like the fact that they are superior and they’re so much taking advantage of it. You can find rare Asian guys who really treasure his woman nowadays. You can say that Asian guys got jealous over simple matters and they’ll not stop until you pacify them. Some Asian guys are not romantic, they are not exerting any effort to please us girls. A hug or one flower would draw our smiles, we are just simple ladies with a big heart.
Hey Tina,
of course beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Even though there are a lot of statistics that proof that many men prefer Asian women, I don’t deny that I wrote this article based on my own experiences. Of course I did. This site is about sharing my persnal story and experiences. No need to be offended.
Hi,
As a white woman, I ran across this website and I was slightly disturbed. I consider myself a thin, statuesque, attractive, tender, kind, intelligent young woman. Not that gender or race matter, but I am white. I found this article offensive because it is making blatant generalizations about people based on race and gender but masking it with manipulative language and justifications. Secondly, in one comment response you say something about white men liking asian women more period/generally. This (in my experience, is not always the case. I’ve dated guys that are attracted to dark haired women of any natioality, attracted to arab women or women who are of mediterranean descent, I’ve dated guys who dated asian women before dating me. What I’m getting at is I think that there is a mistake being made in this article, and the mistake is that the author is presenting their personal attraction /taste in women as the attraction / taste of all others. I realize that this might come off as somewhat judgmental, and I apologize if I am offending anyone. But I really think it’s important that we take a step back and look at all individuals as just that–individuals. Beauty is in the eye and heart and mind of the beholder and who can say what someone else will find attractive in a human being?
Hey Buddy,
I just made a lot of good experiences with Asian girls, but that doesn’t mean that I hate white girls. There might be a future article about white girls.
well, suggesting another white dudes to date asian girls is a bit like an ass****.
Why not suggesting them to date white girls? Not all white girls are bad, or dont have those shits you mentioned about asian girls above in your article.
Glad you agree
This is very true. An Asian woman will never humiliate her partner in public because she thinks it’s just the same as humiliating herself.
What? I didn’t understand your last sentence. Also why would I respect Tinder statistics. No offense, but the new generation is more about enjoyment side of dating, not the sincere side. That’s why the divorce rate is high. Of course not all Americans are like this. In their eyes Asian men may not be as attractive as white guys or black guys, but they are first in my heart. Every girl has a different opinion.
I do have my Korean culture ingrained in my mind, but I also have a bit of Western values too. I am not entirely Westernized, neither do I act entirely like a regular Asian girl.
You are clearly americanised anyway so this article isn’t really about women like you.
About asian men is just a fact that they are in average less attractive for women, just look at Tinder statistics.
I think for a teacher like you Sebastian, Asian men must be a very good marketing target by the way.
Hey Michelle,
the guy in the picture is me and I don’t think there is anything wrong with pictures of half-naked girls. Men are attracted to women and women are attracted to men. Sexuality and nudeness is only natural.
true
After discovering Asian women and their culture, food, traditional values, etc.. There is no way in hell I would EVER go back to bitchy, manly, feminazi white women. No thanks. Asian women blow every other race out of the water. Fuck ‘Merica. I hope that in the future Asian culture has an opportunity to further be more incorporated and dominated in our society. So sick of American people. That goes for whites and blacks. Sick of all this political correctness and token media propaganda. And I am white and American. And NO this isn’t white guilt. I am perfectly comfortable in my white skin. I just don’t like the way our society and the attitude of our people has degraded/devolved over time. Deal with it. No fucks given.
Some Asian girls are also shy to do the first move..So better if the guy do the initiative!
Can I ask what is your occupation? Is this website your full time job? It seems like you are respecting Asian women in this article, but when I look at other parts of this website there seems to be half-naked women. It appears to be like you are objectifying women. Also, is your profile picture really you or are you using someone else’s picture to pretend to be them and write an article that you don’t sincerely mean? I am not trying to hurt you, but I am a bit suspicious…
Also this article really reflects on Asian women’s personality and attitude. Of course if the woman acts more assertive or is more Americanized she wouldn’t be appreciated as much. I myself prefer Asian men because they seem very gentle and caring. Not all Asian men are abusive, the media just depicts them that way. There are some really sweet Asian men that act like gentlemen towards their loved ones. I also don’t mind if a guy doesn’t make a move. I actually prefer us mutually asking each other out. Getting to know each other first and then developing feelings for one another. I don’t mind asking the guy out either. Also, to many women out there it isn’t that Asian men aren’t confident and assertive, they just choose to respect the women they love and wait for the right moment. Which might take a while, but that means they are willing to have a sincere, strong relationship with them. There are many hot Asian male celebrities out there like Oh Sehun, Park Chanyeol, Song Joong ki, etc. They are the men that I love and truly respect. So not all Asian women, like me, have a thing for white men. It’s nice that you wrote this article, but not all Asian women act like what you mentioned in your article and the majority actually prefer to date their own men.
Some Western guys are a bit shy. If he doesn’t make the first move, help him a bit 😉
Hi, your web are so helpful
I’m asian (indonesia-chinese) petite, skinny, small face, white-tanned skin, quite feminine but loves sports,
i Met this french guy, tall, white, sporty, handsome, really nice, caring and flirty, he helps me a lot (bring my stuff), tickle me a few times and a bit aggressive, i think he sees petite asian woman as a cutie and wants to protect them (and everything you wrote above)
Before i met this guy, I’m a feminist, few asian guy also scared because I’m quite independent like a white woman,, but after i met this guy and he act like a 100% protector, i feel like a lady and became 100% typical asian you wrote, shy, obedient, etc
i even ask him if every french guy are gentleman like him ? and he is laughing
Sadly now we lost contact, even though now i still miss him,
my question is : does french guy are typical flirt to every woman ? or only to the woman they like ?
in france, does man pursue woman or vice versa? what they think about woman who makes the first moves? i know its depends on it case, for my case i thought he will initiate contact, but sadly he doesn’t make a moves, i guess i miss a very good chance
*asian girl who really admire french guy
Hey Colin,
your comment is spot on!
I am a middle aged white guy, I am in very good shape and take care of myself, make good money and don’t have a difficult time getting dates with women in their 20s and 30s. But at this point, I pretty much only date Asian women. I kind of discovered them while traveling to Asia for business 10 – 15 years ago. Yes there are beautiful and quality white women. But so many white women have bad attitudes, are aggressive, demanding, dramatic, moody, fat, etc. The women I’ve been in relationships with from Asia are just more pleasant and attractive on average. And no, they are not submissive. I do think the feminism culture of the west has ruined western women to an extent. Plus, in the USA, the divorce rate is 50% and 75% of all divorces are instigated by women. That means right off the bat you have a 40% chance of your wife filing for divorce to get rid of you. You then lose half your assets and access to your kids. So who needs that? I don’t.
ok i really try hard to not generalise about Asian women, but f**** how often do you read a such smart, sophisticated and sensitive comment from a girl of an other ethnicity ? all those comments from Asian women are like that…
Jane : Yes indeed whight women aren’t as good as Asians, Asians are Superior for 90% of them. Of course we are talking about Asian women who has been raised in the context of the asian cultures, not asian looking girls who has been growing up in the western world, as it’s probably the case of the one you are talking about. Now, don’t get made, because nothing keep you from becoming a real woman.
Sébastian : no no, not all caucasian women deserve love, but some do.
Hey Nathan,
thanks for your feedback!
Hey Jane,
my intention was never to hurt you or any other caucasian women. I know plenty of caucasian women who are feminine and lovable and I am sure you are one of them. I also never said that caucasian women don’t deserve love. They do. All I wanted to do with this article was to reveal the truth why white men prefer Asian women. It was never ment to insult, but to reveal the truth and yes, maybe also to inspire some caucasian women to reconnect with their feminine energy.
I am a white woman. I have integrity and my main belief is to be kind to others by showing them love and respect. I am also a very shy sensitive person. I feel very hurt by this article and the comments, as the point that has been continually put across is that white women are not as good as Asian women. As if we do not compare to Asian women. I have met many Asian women who have treated men like dirt and been incredibly materialistic. I admire their physical appearances but that is a personality trait that I would never want to have. I was put on this earth to love, but in reading this article, I feel like I will never be loved because I am just Caucasian.
Thank you for this awesome article. I live in a part of the United States with limited ethnic diversity and it’s a tough thing to sometime explain all the nuances of why you have or are currently dating an Asian woman. This article does it perfectly.
but what country are you talking about ? its not easy to relocate. Asian countries are often either poor countries with low wages or countries like japan and korea where you need to speak the local langage since they dont usualy speak english on a daily basis. Also im not sur that asian girls in the west are the same. Not mentioning the fact that they have a lot of suitors since most men are attracted to asian features.
Hey John,
“when the attributes of the average white man are combined with the attributes of the average Asian woman, the resulting relationship is blissful, loving and lasting” – I couldn’t have said it any better.
Hey Jaylee,
I am glad that you feel more confident after reading my article.
I just wanted to thank you for this article. I’m Asian and I live in a very white community that lacks diversity from all major minority groups (Afrian American, Asian, Hispanic, etc…). Throughout my whole life I really struggled with being an Asian female. I always felt less woman than my Caucasian counterparts because media and cultural influences never gave me Asian role models (the majority of “role models” for me were white); also beautiful women are normally depicted by Caucasians, so it was just really hard to accept my ethicity. As I got older, stereotypes like the ones you write about really made me uncomfortable with the idea of dating a Caucasian male because I was worried about being generalized; especially with the term yellow fever being thrown out carelessly these days. In short I felt like either I wasn’t good enough for Caucasian males or they just wanted me because of stereotypes.
Now I see that this complex concept of attraction should not be looked at without deeper examination. It makes me feel better about being Asian, just realizing that we’ve just humans and, hopefully, a good majority of men don’t stereotype us or find us inferior. Thank you again for making me feel more confident and most likely many other young Asian girls who constantly feel pressure.
I completely agree with the article! I have found that most Asian women possess the attributes that make them the perfect girlfriend, and I would think the perfect wife. They respect their men, and when treated with love and respect, they pay it back many times over to their men. Most white men are raised to love and respect women. Therefore, when the attributes of the average white man are combined with the attributes of the average Asian woman, the resulting relationship is blissful, loving and lasting. Their children are very special too because they possess the winning attributes of both parents!
Hey Anne,
thanks a lot for your feedback. The insights you shared are quite interesting. In my experience the values you list (respect, loyalty, humility) are exactly the qualities that men are so intersted in, especially because many women in the West lack those qualities. I also wish you good life.
Hi! I was reading your article and it is very heartwarming. On behalf of all Asian women, thank you so much for uplifting our dignity as Asian women. I’m an English teacher and a blogger and I’ve had a lot of heartaches caused by Asian men. Reading your article has made me realize one thing- that Asian men abuse us in a way that they marry Asian women and cheat a lot because they know that we value family ties and we will never leave our husbands even if they will get a lot of mistresses. So what happens is, we stick to our men even if they don’t respect us anymore. Some Asian women are brave enough to leave their unfaithful and disrepectful husbands but most Asian women, especially those who don’t have a job and are plain housewives, will never leave their husband no matter what happens in their relationship.
I think our values and upbringing molded us, Asian women, into the women that we have become now. True, most of us were educated and became professionals but, still, we impose strict rules upon our daughters (i.e. we never tell them to bring condoms to a school prom because we don’t want our daughters to engage in premarital sex..Lol..).. Those rules include respect, loyalty, humility and obedience to our elders and to our husbands/partners.
Again, thank you very much Sir for the good things you’ve said about Asian women.. I wish you good life and prosperity ahead..
Hey Simon,
It makes me hapy to hear that you found love with your beautiful Filipina wife. All the best buddy.
Well spoken. You are a truly enlightened brother
Well said. I like your attitude. I’m a mature white guy of 65 with a 49 year old filipina wife. I was married twice to white women from the colonies. I was born and bred in an African colonised country.
They left me because I was different and loved the simple rural lifestyle. Why should I change?? I’m a seriously square peg in a very round hole.
The best thing I ever did was to marry my filipina wife.
She tries to please.
She is a natural beauty inside and out.
Sex to her is a pleasure not a task or duty.
I’ve got to stop her from being too much of a servant. I love to look after her needs too.
She is the cleanest girl I’ve ever known. My wives were quite filthy in comparison. You guys know where I mean. She is amazing. She will work hard day and night but she still smells like nectar from heaven.
Her culture runs deep. Her ethics are pure, she doesn’t know how to lie.
Her smile blows me away.
I thank God every day that He found her and put us together. No regrets ever.
Without trying she makes my previous wives and relationships a dim and shallow memory.
They were a nightmare in comparison.
Even take sex out of the relationship, she’s still the best. Her function in life is to stand up for me, support me, love me,, protect me, take care of my every need.
I never had a woman who would fight for me and stand in my corner with me. I’ve met the best.
98% of you white woman who read this. Please take notes. You have put me off white women for the rest of my life. You want to dominate and emasculate every man you find. You judge and ridicule your faithful men to become (equal) I’m geniunely sorry for you. I dont know whete you got this disease from. But there are still the remaining 2% of white women who are terrific, but you’ve been snapped up by other good men who you deserve and were unavailable to me when I needed you.
Hey Sara,
you just made me smile 😉
Thank you for your praise Sebastian. l am sara and I’m asian. . I’m malay mixed chinese..
I like white man..I think white man don’t like me..because of your article make me smile. .
Hey buddy,
I feel honored 😉
All these years I have been waiting for someone who won’t critisize me for loving Asians! Many years I have been searching for at least another guy who thinks and feels the same way and for the same reasons! And to top it all off, I see you have an article for seducing asian girls in high school. I look up to you right now! Thank you so much!
Senior year at high school
Hey Grace,
that totally depends. Of course we guys like it when a woman shows her interest in us. I can’t deny that. I know some guys who are into dark-skinned Asians. Other’s are into light-skinned women. It totally depends. Thanks for your rant and yes, we white guys tend to curse a bit more than Asian guys 😛
Umm, so I was just wondering this – I’m SUPER attracted to certain blonde white guys – is all this just an attraction to people I find different/exotic? And could this be the main reason for some white men to like Asian women? And. What exactly are white peoples’ standards of beauty for Asian women – especially facial-wise, since Asian faces are the most distinct difference between races. It’s really bizarre for me to think white guys at school/work would find us attractive…I’m usually attracted to Korean guys since they have more in common with me and we can hold intelligible or meaningful conversations but whenever I see a certain blonde white guy, I can’t come up with any other reason that I like him other than his face…I wish he didn’t curse so much. But anyways, could the reason I like him be that I just find his face different in a good way?
This is insane LOL – first time I’ve ranted on a site I’ve visited for the first time haha.
” They use sex as a method of controlling us. I know some married couples who only have sex every few months, because she “doesn’t want to” He is frustrated and very unhappy. Is that how relationships should work? No it is not. And of course, when he leaves her, she will say “I don’t understand why!” The good thing with Asian girls is, they have a pragmatic attitude to sex in a relationship. They seem to know that it keeps their man close and happy.”
I have to disagree there If you already are in a Relationship with a woman and you master the art of sex, you control her, most women really are freak in the bed if you do it right, even the feminists often act like a good submisive girl once in the bed, if the wife of a dude don’t want to have sex, it’s the dude responsibility, it means he isn’t good in bed.
I guess you made the right choice 😉
As a Korean girl I can give you another way to re-think about your past. You told me that you were a bad boy and you hurt her. You also used her to have sex only (you only wanted a one-night); I guess that explain a lot.
Some girls already know that their lovers are not good. I guess at the point she left you, she already knew that you were using her and were a bad boy. In Korea, there are guys like you – players and girls usually feel more obsession towards a bad boy unfortunately. Thus, the only way to leave from you is to stop contacting you ever; otherwise she would feel emotional and get attachment again and she cannot leave you. Unlike Caucasians, Korean people are sort of more emotional and they get attached to their lovers a lot. They will give you gifts and try to make good memories with you. They also try to make you feel happy as well. Korean people mostly have hard time when they break up as well; thus, they sometimes ignore you or not contacting you if they decided to leave you; just because they cannot handle the situation easily if they see or talk with their lovers while breaking-up with their lovers.. It is weird but Korean girls usually are like that. It is not easy to keep a long relationship but once you start to build a strong relationship, they will love you truly and a long period of time;
A very well thought out artical. I am very much in agreement with most of the things that you have said. I am a bit older, and I love Asian women to look at and spend time with. Your point about big fat western women is true. They complain about not able to get a man, and how a man should appreciate them for who they are not just their looks. And bitch and complain about Asian women. Well. the truth is that if they were slim and attractive, they would be able to find a man easier, at least we would look at them.
Then they have to work on their attitude! As men, we are expected to conform to their desires, not to our own. They use sex as a method of controlling us. I know some married couples who only have sex every few months, because she “doesn’t want to” He is frustrated and very unhappy. Is that how relationships should work? No it is not. And of course, when he leaves her, she will say “I don’t understand why!” The good thing with Asian girls is, they have a pragmatic attitude to sex in a relationship. They seem to know that it keeps their man close and happy. My gf is a 40 yo teacher, and she is awesome. She is my equal in the the relationship, but I cannot ever remember her turning me down sexually at all. She keeps me happy mentally, emotionally and physically. I have some interesting tastes, and she helps me fill them or finds some one who will, totally pragmatic and loving. I try to treat her with the respect she deserves for she is definitely a keeper.. She is no longer a teenager, but she is proud of her looks and body and I am proud to be seen with her.
A few short reasons why I prefer Asian women.
PS/ I never had any trouble getting Aussie women, it just got to the point they were so caught up with their rights and what they wanted that I lost interest.
it’s rare but definitely possible 😉
Im an asian guy, even then im severely attracted to asian women. I agree that their features make them look beautiful, feminine and cute. They also have petite, slim bodies and flawless skin. Besides asian girls, i do like white girls do. For us those looks are exotic, and ive seen really beautiful ones on my travels or on the streets ( though living in an asian country meeting a fine white lady is rare)
I agree
haha yes because you articles are great. But what i mean is that they are really nice (because of the culture maybe) and that they don’t take bad the so called “yellow fever”.
yep, that’s makes me proud.
notice how nice those comments from Asian women always are…
Hey Akane,
I am sure that you are neither dumb nor ugly. he way you talk about yourself gives me the impression that you are an intelligent and lovable woman. You might carry old insecurities with you, that keep you from connecting with great men. Work on overcoming them.
Hey Yu,
thanks for the compliment 😉
Hi Sebastian 🙂
Thank you very much for your well written and enlightening post. As an Asian girl (from Indonesia), I am so flattered just by reading your writings (Man, you surely know how to put a smile on a lady’s face).
Keep up the good work pal 🙂
Hey… I am an Asian girl 🙂 but hmm while seeing you and a whole lot of guys and girls complimenting on how nice an Asian girl can be, it just makes my day to another level. Thank you. I am never the one who can get a date btw, even when I am surrounded by lots of guys, I just can say that they never hit on me… I am 20 going on 21 this year, is it bad if I just want a guy, jut an ordinary guy to say that he likes me for who I am and would date me. Maybe my face is somehow really ugly, or my personalty is like real trash, but I thought everyone should have their own share of love? I used to be a girl, a nerd and athletic girl with lots of breakouts on my face. Maybe the rejection that I got when I was 16 still scarred my heart that I can’t even look at guys for more than a minute. Insecurity indeed got the best of me. They all say that beauty comes from the inner part of oneself, guess I don’t have enough… I really like this one white guy I met online, but maybe online is never the best way to get to know people. I can do most of the house chores that most of the girls my age can’t possibly get it done, nut wait, that is more like a criterion for settling down. I didn’t know what am I supposed to do to get even a guy to say that he likes me for real. Perhaps I am really dumb, I’m sorry. I am currently on my way finishing my degree in university, and the only one in the big family tree who hasn’t secured a boyfriend yet. I can never be like the other dreamgirl Asians, smh. I love the article btw, all the things that you mentioned above soothes my heart. At least someone understands how my brain and personality functions in an asian girl pov of course 🙂
Really Peter? You would like sounds of a Safari coming out of the bedroom….and the constant smell of garlic which is the scent Asian women exude (Chinese ones especially). Ok…sounds great.
Hey Brandon,
I am glad that they young guys are also enjoying my stuff. You should read my article about seducing women in high school 😉
This maybe a bit late however yeah alot caucasian teenagers can be sex crazed unfortunate but inveitable in some cases. I am 15 myself and caucasian I consider myself a nice guy not the guy with “nice guy syndrome” however as a result I got a reputation for being a nice guy around school but this lessens my chance of going on dates because of this. So yeah you got bad people on both sides but what can you do. Sorry for the rant and Sebastian love the articles keep up the good work.
My first sexual experience was with an Indonesian girl.
I married a white Dutch girl and I became widowed after 49 years of marriage.
All that time I had the desire to get an Asian woman.
All I can do now is going to an Oriental spa parlor to satisfy my desire.
Hey May,
thanks a lot for sharing your story!
Nice to see different people’s opinion here. I am very surprised by some of those commons. I have been here in US for 5 years (I am from southern China). I believe I am one of those very traditional oriental women. I grew up with guys all around me, but I never dated them. I focused on study and hated people who distracted me. I read people pretty well so I don’t have to date them to find out who is right for me. I dated only once in my life and married this guy I think is wonderful and he is still most wonderful person in my life even he cheated(he is Asian). I am recovering from the impact. I am proud of myself being under control and never said a single mean words towards him or make him more miserable than he feels already for his action. The only thing I want is out. I need a fresh start. I have not been able to do that because he is constantly holding on me since the minute that he knew what I might do. But I will do what I have to do anyway when the timing is right.
I believe I will be happy with somebody and he will be happiest man ever since everybody loves me as a friend, coworker, classmate or family. I don’t care race. I love good, responsible mature man who cares about people. It is hard to think women won’t fall for someone who truly cares about them no matter what race they are. Seriously!!! unless someone just make them uncomfortable and not attract to them inexplicable.
Thank you for writing this article. It makes me believe that there are still true love out there, it is possible for me to find someone and I just have to be patient and go for it when the chance comes.
you are welcome
Im from Philippines .. Well said Mr. writer.. thank u
Hey Colby,
thanks for the insights!
I’m an Asian, Filipina-Japanese. Everything I read in this article is true. Respect is very important to us. We also have gestures to show respect to elders like holding their hands and bowing our head when we are expressing gratitude or sorry. If you respect us, we will respect you too and its in our culture that we have to respect our husband and his ego even if we earn much better than you. Yes, we cook, we clean, we even managed to be at our husband’s side through good and bad bad times. (well I guess most females do that despite of ethnicity.) Ask something about our culture we love it and if you ever want to settle with us, its like marrying our family too. We do eat rice everyday, we don’t wear much make up.. (maybe because we’re not that good at applying it.) We tend to have a slimmer body, darker skin and hair, small nose..haha! I remember my uncle, (Canadian) told me that I look like just 17 years old when in fact I am 25 that time. lol. Maybe God prefer us to look like this way. This is very ironic, as an asian woman, I am attracted to guys with blonde hair,blue eyes, 6 ft tall.. in short, western type. Maybe because that look is very unusual for us asians. I have a Canadian male friend and I find him sexy and handsome, he’s got a blonde hair, blue eyes, pointed nose and a pale skin. But I’m happily married now so… 🙂
BTW guys if you are looking for an asian woman to be your gf or better half, check her family background first. Some asian women are very ambitious, they will use you so that they can go to your country to work and support her family. also be careful with the hookers, they’re only after your money if it happens that they stole your wallet with your ID’s in it and your passport, please go to your embassy and ask for help. Last but not the least, make sure that you are dating an asian woman not a man. If you are confuse about his/her gender, listen to his/her voice.
I also got contaminated by the yellow fever because of a Korean girl, and sadly i have never been able to date her, not even talking about banging her…now each time i see a Korean girl (they look différant from other asians), i feel extremely bad, because i’m in the same time attracted to her in a way no other girl can make me feel, and in the same time i know i can’t get her. That’s terrible. I hoppe it would end.
Hey Taj,
thank god a white girl speaks the truth! 😀
I am sure you are a very beautiful and feminine woman
I am into Asian girls, but not because of the way they fuck and I could definitely get a white girl if i wanted. Yellow fever is much more complex than that 😉
I once met a Korean girl with whom I had a one night stand and after that she started chasing me. I was never into asian girls before but this girl was so hot and nice that I sort of fell for her. The problem was that I’m a sort of bad boy and didn’t know how to met her expectations and in the end she left me. I still think about her I don’t know whether being nicer would have worked better or the reason why she left me is because I was trying to be on my best behavior. The other problem was that she was not fluent in english and communication was a problem and also when she left me she completely ignored me. She didn’t even say goodbye. Ever since, i got a terrible yellow fever, specially for Korean women. However, I think in the end it is much easier for men like me to have a relationship with white girls, because at then end of the day they will tell you what the problem is instead of just leaving you with no answers.
I only hope that I will overcome this yellow fever soon. I know Korean girls are actually not nice and are extremely superficial and materialistic, the only reason why I got so hooked up on them is because sex was out of this world. Now the idea of having sex with a white girl is so boring. This girl was a total demon in bed so passionate and full of energy. She could go on and on. OMG, the yellow fever is a real thing and most guys that only go for asians are either obsessed with the way they F**k or simply can’t get a white girl. I also had latina girls but I can’t stand their personalities, they are so annoying to me, all of them if they live overseas are gold digging.
HI guys,
I usually don’t comment, but I too agree that asian women are more feminine and beautiful than white women even though I’m a white women 😛 I think most occidental women are too feminist and according to all the guys I met, it’s a huge turn off! That’s also why my boyfriend was only attracted to asian women before meeting me
Hey Jayden,
some women cheat. That’s a simple fact.
Buyer beware story: a friend has recently broken up with his asian wife after 15+ years because of cheating. Sadly, the same thing happened to his brother.
sadly most of chinese girls are also very materialistic (contrary to most of pinays for example)
Hey Mick,
I am happy that you’ve found the right girl and thanks for your detailed rant 😉
For 10 years I had a string of short relationships and failed dating with white western women who mistreated me. (I thought I must be the most unluckiest guy, because I’ve always been good to women dating or not. Maybe I am too soft, too nerdy, not a millionaire, not masculine, not dark and mysterious enough, tall or maybe not enough tatoo’s or a combination of these factors I seem to notice alot of woman seem to be interested in over Intelligence, Humour, Affection etc. So I decided to go with my ‘FETISH’ again… ;p) I was hot property among the few girls I decided to get to know but my now Fiance stood out among an amazing bunch of women who were all worthy GF material. But a previous Ex who is Indonesian (who I sadly ended it with because I was only 16 at the time and young and dumb) and my now Filipina Fiance showed me what it is truly like to be with a woman who will treat you right. And I will never date another White westerner again (well, will never have to anyway) simply because 2/2 dont lie against 0/4. Unfortunately you ‘White Westerner Women’ are in a pickle. Asian women are simply better Girlfriend/Marriage material. And unless you change your game plan fast, it’s only going to intensify as more and more males come to see the evidence around them! My ASIAN FIANCE drags me to the bedroom if I buy her flowers and chocolates. EVERY WHITE woman I have dated only complained about me trying to get something out of her. Well I can tell you now, I didn’t buy the flowers just because I wanted sex…. That’s the problem. Your pre-conceived theories are entirely based on stereotype white men that the Television, Movies, Woman’s magazines and male-hating feminists have created (and we probably don’t help because there are alot of guys out there who mistreat women) But you think one answer is applicable to all men like we are all the same kettle of fish. That every situation can be treated with the same contempt…So you’ve dated 3 or 4 sleezy, callous arseholes who have mistreated you and that applies to all men now? That’s a cop out excuse to cover your own naivety that you are simply chasing the wrong type of guy or not doing enough ground work before going to bed with them (which is exactly what all sleezy, callous, arseholes want from you) But how much ownership are you willing to take for your own bad choices with men??? None?…. That’s why we are walking away from dating you by the thousands each day…Your own self image, pride, relentless need for dominance, negative attitude, in-sensitiveness, double standards etc. (I could write a list 10 pages long) has you caught you in a bubble that Aisan women are bursting on you. But don’t worry, keep telling yourself the reasons we are going elsewhere is as discussed in the OP to cover for the REAL reasons MOST men are looking elsewhere and to the ALL-ENCOMPASSING NICE ASIAN GIRL who has all the qualities men seek so we can settle down.
I worked out within 2-3 months that I was going to marry my Phillipine GF….I can tell you now most guys who have dated ASIAN women will tell you that they began to think about marriage quicker than ever before in comparison with Western counterparts.
And I am sorry to the nice beautiful western women out there. Not all of you have the same opinions as your female compatriots and many of you are great women. Sadly, if only 60% are decent, you are likely already married or tied up, or severely unlucky in love if your single (Then I would question the type guys your dating if that’s the case). But what’s left for us 40% of guys that are stuck with woman who skewed view on how to treat men…Sorry girls, but the ships are sailing to the orient for greener pastures….Rant Ended…
we have many cultures here in australia but I am sick of the fat arsed lazy smoking, boozing Aussie women, females from other cultures seem to have a better handle on femininity whilst remaining strong beautiful people hence my attraction to asian and other cultures such as from latin america “latin girl”pity you aren’t here in Oz you seemn like my type of person
I totally agree with your second and third tip
Hey Karls,
thanks for your amazing comment. You are asolutely right!
I dated a Chinese girl for 2 years who I met while studying in NL and that was literally the best experience I had in my life. I am not sure if it is the norm, but yeah, they really care about their partner and give always their best, as long as you correspond. It is important that you are interested in their culture though. Respect is important and they really appreciate that you want to know more about them, their family, birthplace, country, etc. Other than that, physical is up to everyone’s taste. Normally asian women don’t use make up as much as western women, which can be deceiving, although the good thing is that you appreciate them for their natural beauty. However, when they put make up they can be gorgeous. All in all I think that you date asian women in a holistic way, because you want to discover not only a wonderful person but also a fascinating new culture.
but there was a wide protest in thailand against the country’s beauty queen committee’s decision of declaring half thai half caucasian a beauty queen. because the public audience judged that the real thai blood girls (full thai blood) were more beautiful than halfies. this protest has been effective since then, more half thai half caucaisian girls are no longer crowned any beauty queen since then.
I personally think that half blood just has some alien look and tend to be more numerous but real blood beauty even more rare is more fascinating .
Hey Jane,
thanks a lot for the compliment! 🙂
You know what from reading your comment, I think you possess a lot of asian values… you definitely think like one. Your gentleness, maturity and humbleness came through. Just that alone makes you very attractive and desirable.
You know if you travel in NZ, you should make a small detour to France, maybe you could get a date with a fantastic French man (me)…
I am actually not sooo much into girls with bubble butts, but if you like them: more power to you! 🙂
Hey Mina,
I think you are my type 😉
Hey Jimmy,
thank you so much for your comment. And yes, you are absolutley right. I learned a lot about myself and my attitude towards different cultural concepts by dating Asian women.
Just before entering med school I dated a Vietnamese girl whom I met in Toronto. I was instantly struck with her zest for life and how thoughtful she was. She was the type who would chew on a duck leg and didn’t care how she looked, which thrilled me a great deal as I’m into the food scene. Her family was very respectful and hard-working despite having experienced some difficult times back home. As for the intimate part, she was extremely sensual and almost a mind-reader.
I learned a tremendous amount about the culture and can’t help but miss some of the fun times. She’s married now and I almost am, but occasionally we’ll write to each other with nothing but the best wishes.
Think globally too; Asians have amazing food, are friendly and polite, don’t bother any particular country or race, and have deep cultural history. If you date an Asian girl, I’m sure you’ll learn a lot about yourself and the community at large.
If there weren’t many white men who are into asian women – I wouldn’t have such amazing half-asian and half white cousins from my mother’s side!
I’m interested in white men, I hope I can find one in New Zealand (Hahaha, I’m just kidding.. don’t take me seriously, but it would be cool if I could settle for a white man during my travel there). And I’m basically a walking stereotype… I like cute things, I wear skirts a lot, I’m extremely feminine and submissive, I don’t wear bold makeup, I study a lot, I talk in a low voice, I eat rice EVERYDAY, smh.. It’s really hard for a woman like me to settle for hot asian men who like bold white women who wear bold makeup and have extremely sexy features.
“They put their perfect bodies”
Asians have perfect bodies?
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Come to Latin America and you´ll learn what the term “perfect body” means
Asian Women don´t have breasts or butt
If you see a latin bubble butt, You will learn what a attractive body is
It’s really inspiring to hear that. I am happy for you that you have found the right one.
Maybe he wants to date you for both
Might be true
it’s good that you learned to appreciate your feminine side.
I would give you the nickname “cute sexual cooking queen”. I hope you don’t kill me for that 😛
Well I’m fucked in the Northwest. There is no love for a passionate Latina.
I’m very straightforward, adventurous, got the right curves, love sex, love to cook, take care of my man, am 100% loyal, ALWAYS dress up and fix myself where ever I go, always worried about my fitness (even after 2 kids) and would take a bullet for my man (whoever the hell he is???) BUT, unfortunately men can’t handle me having a voice.
The fact that it takes a “small” person to make you feel like a protector is pretty discouraging to the rest of us who many not be dwarf in size, but a bit normal. All of those qualities you described about “Asian” women may be true for most, HOWEVER, a Latina and other women of other races have those qualities. ALL women posses that nurturing instinct in them, but each one needs to be handled differently. I guess normal wussy males can’t handle that hot feisty woman who gives them AMAZING SEX, then a GREAT feeding.
Many women are automatically put in a category of control freaks if they slightly raise their voice. I agree, no one should embarrass one another in public, sure I’ve been guilty, but I’ve also been humiliated myself and you live and learn, but for you to say that Asian women are the perfect wives, OUCH to the rest of us. And truth be told my love is that I have heard HORRIFIC experiences of these little godzillas! Starting with my mother, who pays the price for her current BF’s ex Asian-wives (Korean). 1 cheated on him 2x, the other was a drunk who wasted his money at bars and they BOTH ran off taking property from him. So now my mother, a Latina, is watched ever so carefully, being compared to those two Asian ex’s. Shitty isn’t it? I just passed through an experience of dating a white guy, his ex was Chinese, his story was that she humiliated him, was bossy, yelled at him, argued and finally, soon as they moved in together she kicked him out. Here I come and he labels me as “short-term” due to the ex and his experience. So I wanted to get closer to him, we had GREAT conversations, I would cook for him, he’d cook for me, I’d spend the night and we’d have amazing sex. He even admitted how he was so turned on by me (sorry to be so blunt about this) having ass and tits that the last one did not have (because as HE said it, most Asian women dont posses those ASSETS naturally…lol)…
Once I started asking him why he wasn’t allowing himself to get close to me, and yes I eventually lashed out through text, (he gave me reason to) he then just withdrew. But come to find, he went off with an Asian girl. Someone to “make him feel better” and because he then “ready” for a relationship. SMH.
I totally feel like shit.
It’s just a misconception about all women. If you like Asian that’s a personal choice. I’ve dated different races, I’m not closed-minded to these things. I just get a little hurt that I get labeled right away, and others like me do too. Im just a girl who wants to take care of my future man, give him what he wants BUT I do voice my needs and have OPINIONS. I am not a jealous one either, I enjoy networking and love to grow my business (Graphic Designer).
BUT, guess here’s the funny thing that will make you laugh… My great grandfather was chinese, and my grandmother hasTurkish roots, BUT I am Salvadorean.
OR maybe is it just NW men who are afraid of a little challenge??? I am from California, things do work a little differently. ha ha ha.
Well, not hating on anyone, it is what it is and there are so many hot men and women of all races and yes some more dominant than others, but me… I’m so low maintenance, not materialistic and just want a man to love me for loving them, but because I’m not Asian, I’m not marriage material???
Oh well. 🙁
I guess I would need a name… so give me a nick name. 🙂
White men really like exotic, submissive, youthful women. I am an American girl of mixed race ancestry and there was a period in my life where I made an active effort to get rid of my internalizing of American values and appreciate my submissive and feminine side. Interestingly, more white men became attracted to me (especially the foreign ones, like from France or Spain) and men acted more softer in their tone to me. Unfortunately I was still in school at the time so I also attracted unwanted attention and people took advantage of me and crushed me. I had to become stronger and act aggressive so people wouldn’t mess with me anymore. It seems in America, being aggressive and loud (even for a woman) is seen as funny and a good thing. Unfortunately I haven’t been able to reverse this yet though I am admittedly more reserved and traditional than most girls my age, but not enough.
Asian women are known for using skin care products and taking good care of their skin and health. That’s where the smell comes from.
Hello.. nice article.. 🙂
I’m an Asian woman.. and It’s not like I have some preferences.. I made friends to most foreigner because I study oversea.. Somehow there re few white guys asked me out on a date.. But then I told them that I’m Bi.. because I’m a bit scared that they just want to date me for sex. I kinda confused.. I mean how do you know how a white guy just want to date you because of your personalities or sex? No offense 🙂 Just curious.
I have dated 4 different races and fell in love with a Korean-American. She speaks English and Korean fluently. I knew it was unusual, but not unheard of, for these different races to become a couple and I wasn’t going to give up. Factors that persuaded me to court her were, first and foremost, she is extremely intelligent. She also takes exceptional care of herself as her hair and skin are the softest that I have ever had the privilege of touching. She is very respectful and has taught me to be the same. She has made me a better person. She’s very spontaneous and loving and uses the ‘push-pull’ aspect of our relationship to keep it interesting. I’m not bashing the others but it’s just that I didn’t think this kind of woman existed. I consider myself very lucky as we have been married for 10 years. If anything was to happen and I lost her, I would never remarry.
thanks for sharing your insights about the Indonesian culture
I’m an 22 yo indonesian male. Indonesian are generally more westernized more than our neighbours (especially in the western part of java). that’s why some of the girls act like that especially in the big cities like Jakarta and Bandung. If you want a reserved, well-mannered indonesian women, you should go to Yogyakarta or any central/east java cities. most of the families there are still teaching their kids about familial values.
Very often halph asian-cocasian women are even more attractive than purely asian or purely cocasian women (and to begin with i’m already a fanatic of asian features compared to cocasian…).
I remember a woman who was halph cocasian and halph asian, i think she is the most beautifull woman i ever seen, it was unbelivable.
All guys aren’t focus on tjhe bodyshape, personnaly i’m really focus on the personality and the face, and i’m not the only one.
I am pretty sure there are a lot of guys who are interested in you
I’m an Asian lady from Singapore. We have 4 major races here; Chinese, Malays, Indians n others(Eurasians, Arabs etc).
We tend to be more closely-knitted n family oriented.
If you love Big families n hospitality, you would want to get to know a Malay lady. The Malays are well-known for being warm n hospitable people. They don’t need an occasion to cook and call you over.
The local Chinese are not as closely-knitted as the Malays. They tend to be more driven. Being accomplished, they expect as much from their partners, if not more.
Indians seem to straddle the two.
These are just generalizations.
All the white guys i have ever dated and been with are only into white girls and most of the white guys I’ve dated have told me they do not find asian girls attractive cos their bodies are not curvy enough. Again this proves my point that it’s 100% a physical thing and bodyshapes instead of finding a “quality” woman.
I want to date white guys who are into asians because I do consider myself asian and those guys will understand asian culture. Unfortunately being half italian and ending up looking Italian. All the guys who are into asian girls don’t even bother getting to know me and seeing my asian “quality” girl characteristics. 🙁 They just look at me and see white girl with huge boobs and thick thighs. Not interested. 🙁
Asian women really smell amazing, but they are not all just “money, money, money” 😉
I recently worked with college graduate women in their mid 20s from the Philippines and all they talked about were these things;
– money
– money
– more money and a husband with a decent job.
– family and being able to support that family
– religion
They failed to mention developing a relationship with their partner, getting to know the person for who they are or even wanting to spend time through the beginning stages really understanding who they are with. Now the Japanese women and Chinese are much more level headed but I have to admit women are women no matter where they are from. For me Asian women smell better than Caucasian women, black women and Latin women there is something in their physical makeup-body that releases sweet aromas where the others fail. My last Asian girlfriend was Chinese and her skin smelled sweet as honey and a Japanese woman I liked her skin smelled like Jasmine tea. Asian women are far more loyal than white or black women from my experience and of course this is not for everyone to agree with for they have had other experiences but I am going from what I have experienced. The sounds an Asian woman makes during love making is akin to being out on a Safari 🙂
Well i don’t care they remain the most beautifull in the world 😉
maybe not enough French Asian women have read this article 😉
Be careful, South Korea has the world’s highest rate of plastic surgeries 😉
It is because of the white skin. Indians will be attracted to any race with lighten skin than their own. A lot of the racism comes from Indian men actually, statistically speaking. Do not think so highly of yourself all Indian women are beautiful.
What you say is so thrue…
I have open an account on philipino cuppid just to see if i get some interest, so of course i have been surprised by the amount of girls which would be interested by me, including attractive girls, but what surprised me even more is that many of them aren’t stupid and uneducated at all…it’s really really interesting to talk with those girls ! most of them have a good hearth and they are realy smart…about the fact that they can be clingy and relativly small, for me that’s an advantage 😉
The only downside of the pinays is that they are the less beautifull among asians (but it’s still better than in europe and an ungly or average cocasian guy can get a fare better looking girl than in europe).
Same thing for Chinese, some times cold and always materialistic.
The issue with vietnamise is the same than thai : English.
Korean : that’s very very sad…almost all the korean i know at the university are incredibly beautifull, they are the most beautifull women in the world, but they don’t speak french (i live in france) or English very well, and what you said is totaly thrue, they are exetremely racist and superficial. If you want to get one and if you aren’t korean, you have to be very good looking and probably also rich.
I live in France, I didn’t knew 41 % of Asian women date White men. In France, just a few asian women live with a white man. (I am an Asian woman + a White man)
Hey Andrew,
thanks a lot for your feedback and for sharing your opinion. I am happy that you found heaven on earth.
Excellent article, Sebastian. Your description of asian women are spot on. I have date different asians while traveling Chinese, Filipina, Korean, Vietnamese. They are wonderful ladies. But if I have to choose the best, among my experience you guys are better off with ladies from the Philippines. Based on my interactions and my own experiences talking with them, Filipinna ladies seem to have a good heart, beautiful, smart and loyal of all the asians mentioned. They are hardworking, humble, family-oriented and does not look at their phones, they can actually hold a conversation and if you are lucky they are very, very intelligent especially girls who have college degrees. Even smarter than the Chinese I tell you. They have high respect for men and because they are from a third world country they are not entitled and work hard at a career while being a caring wife to you. Their culture teaches them to be loyal to one man only and when they date it is for marriage. would give Filipina girls total 9/10. I am 28 years old, white male btw. Actually, the only downside to filipina ladies are their clingy nature once you became their boyfriend and they are shorter on average about 5’1 – 5’4. I married one and I just found heaven on earth, I tell ya! 😉
Here is my breakdown to their fellow asian sisters:
Chinese
tall, beautiful, patient, can be loyal but materialistic… they might be academic smart but besides that they don’t continue educating themselves after school. The communication in english is also tiresome. They are often cold and expects you to pay for everything.
Korean
feminine features, pretty but superficial “pretty”.. However, probably worst in my list. They judge based on race, status, money. Filipinas/ Chinese/Vietnamese also date you based on your job but they carry their on weight and are not entitled.
Vietnamese
somehow similar to Filipina girls, only… their english is not good and limited knowledge. But they have a great personality and cute too.
thanks!
Hello. Im from philippines and i just want to say that this article is accurate as ever. Thank you for writing it! 🙂
they are all absolutely okay
Asian women & White men are some couples who are not weirder than/more numerous than :
– asian guys + white women
– white men + black women
– black men + white women
– etc…
English is not my native, hope you still can understand what I am talking about. 🙂
yep!
” I had also heard all the rumors that men who like Asian women are creepy pervs ”
Yes, because in today society, a mEn who have a week spot for sweet women with beautiful facial features, a soft feminine voice and family values are creeps…whereas if a guy is turn on by blond party girls because of their big boobs, then it’s okay, it’s a normal guy, nothing creepy at all.
Thank you so much for your comment. I am really happy that I could help you to feel better and more beautiful!
Thank you for this beautiful article. I am a half Japanese half Caucasian girl. I pulled the Japanese side very strong–the only Asian looking one of my siblings. Growing up I was told I was the ugliest because I looked the most Japanese. My Caucasian mother also would angrily tell me that I was so much like my Japanese grandmother in personality. I am very petite and feel more comfortable with the sensitive respectful Japanese culture. I had also heard all the rumors that men who like Asian women are creepy pervs. It made me feel terrible that I was somehow inferior because I was Japanese. I am over 30 but get mistaken for being in high school or in my early 20s. I also unfortunately feared that the only men who would go after me would be creepy or would not be able to get a white women. Almost all the movies and tv shows in the U.S. depict whites women or Latina women as the most desirable, beautiful, and attractive. Reading your article helped me to feel so much better about myself and my Asian-ness. Thank you so much. Many people tell me that I look full Japanese and I always took that as an insult because where I grew up (and in my family), Asian is not considered attractive. My Asian father only liked white women, as do my brothers. I thought that perhaps also white men (whom I find attractive) only want fair skinned blondes or voluptuous Latinas.
After reading your article I do feel more beautiful in my Olive complexion and petite body, my black hair, my old-fashioned values, and my intellectual interests. You helped me to see that someone could see me as the whole package, instead of taking me for granted because I want to be loyal in my relationships, or seeing me as my sexy because I don’t flirt with other guys when I’m in a relationship. Someone could appreciate that I’m respectful and caring instead of thinking I’m weak because although I have my own goals I love to support my man in whatever his goals and dreams are, and I encourage and believe in him. Thank you for helping me to feel greater self worth, and for helping me to see the Caucasian men who are interested in me as men who are really going after what they want, not settling for less by choosing me instead of the loud blonde who chases after them.
Hey Dave,
thanks a lot for your feedback!
Great article! I personally hate how people try to pathologise what simply comes down to “taste” when it comes to romantic partners. In the west, it’s OK for a man to say he likes blondes, but to say you like Asian girls will get you criticised. Of course, any such statement is an inaccurate generalisation, but I still think that we have a problem in the west of deciding what counts as somebody’s “type” when it comes to romantic attraction, or what constitutes a vulgar fetish.
I have never had any romantic partners (I am 23 now), but the first girl I fell in love with when I was about 12 years old was a Chinese-British girl. I wish I had had the courage to engage her back then, as she definitely liked me, but alas such qualities are not common among young adolescents. Maybe if I has answered a single question slightly dfferently back then I would have more confidence dealing with women today, or perhaps we would still be in touch. It’s impossible to know. While I’ve long since moved on from this, it doesn’t change that smooth, black hair and dainty facial features associated with Asian girls are a huge turn on for me, as well as girls emulating a similar cute and friendly attitude. Hence, I find it nothing short of insulting when people try to sum up a European man’s interest in an Asian girl as nothing more than fetishistic attraction. I know my attraction to Asian girls started before I even really knew the basic “nuts and bolts” of sex, let alone developing fetishistic attractions. I loved the girl I mentioned before because I loved her company and because she was beatiful, sex didn’t at all come into it. Of course, as an adult I can’t say I don’t have a sexual interest in Asian girls, but I don’t see how this is any different from the normal way in which affections become sexual as one progresses into adulthood. Simply put, I like Asian girls because I have always liked Asian girls.
Maybe a time will come when those who seem to think that people who engage in interracial relationships must have some kind of damaging paraphilia will realise how truly foul and racist those views are. However, I can’t say I’m all too optimistic.
Hey Bobbie,
thanks for your feedback. I am glad that you taught your sons that respect must be earned. I am also not against feminism and I state in many articles that I am absolutely against slut shaming. However, I can’t deny that I am worried when I hear some (especially Western) women talk about men as if they are all rapists for looking at them. Of course I am also worried when I hear men talk about women in a bad way. That’s why I want to spread the honest and respectful way of seduction.
Hey Frank,
thanks for sharing your insights!
I have lived in many different states in America. I’m 55, white, and have known thousands of people in my life. including many black people and have dated a few black women. but one day 7 years ago, I met a black woman from Ghana. she was WORLDS different from American black women and often said how she was disturbed by their loud, aggressive, entitled behavior. the woman from Ghana was absolutely a black woman, but her feminine, respectful, gentle demeanor was definitely more like an Asian womans. I was very intrigued by this and had long conversations with her about it before she returned home.
As a Caucasian woman, I take offense to the comment: “I think feminism, especially in its present anti-male form is ruining American woman.”
All my adult working life, I’ve always worked in situations where everyone is expected to pull their weight, both male and female. Mutual expectations and respect go a long way!
I’ve also had more male than female friends partly because I don’t participate in man bashing. I’ve even told a few women who get into that kind of talk, “I can’t have this conversation with you.”
However, the kinds of men I don’t respect are men who disrespect women and men who expect women to shut up and not have an opinion about anything. They expect the women in their lives to agree and go along with everything they say. That’s not respect; that’s bullying, and I will (and have) speak my mind.
As a single mother of two sons, the most important lesson I taught them when they were growing up is that respect is EARNED both ways. If either one of us doesn’t hold their word or responsibility, the other person has the right to be pissed off at them. For the most part, it worked like a charm. My kids’ teen years were relatively stress-free for me. Now that they’re in their 20’s and married, I see how that thinking has extended into their relationships. It’s a beautiful thing.
Overall, I don’t see feminism as being anti-man. However, when you have men who think they’re entitled to sex (and they call me a bitch, or worse, when I don’t), slut shame women (the double standard that there are only two kinds of women – sluts and “ladies”), or when you have male government officials determining how women should raise their children or how they should (or should not) have access to birth control, I have some big problems with that. Not all men are like that, but those kinds of behaviors are pretty common.
Rukia, i can’t know how you look, or how you act, but based on what you said, you should consider an other possibility, and i’m serious : maybe you are so attractive that most of men don’t think that they have a chance with you and so they don’t approach you, they only look at you.
In this case you should simply send more positive signals to the men that you like.
I know that some of the most beautifull women complain that they are less approach by men than other less good looking women who seem easier to get. That’s a paradox but it’s real.
I’m curious, do you find in average cocasian guys more attractive than others ?
I mentioned the qualities in the article 😉
Interesting article. I’ve always wonder what Caucasian men find in Asian women to convince themselves to settle down with them, or just have a longterm relationship with them.
I often see couples, most of them Caucasian men with Asian female companion or partner and think about what they see in them. I have very little experience with Caucasian men approaching me, yeah they look, twice if i get lucky but they seldom talk to me and it starting to make me think that Caucasian men have preferences when it comes to dating Asian women which makes me conclude that there are certain Asian features or traits that Caucasian men are attracted to. I’m Asian and I have fair skin, I’m not an average looking Asian female and I look like half white but I’m not. I’m not sure if it’s how an Asian female look like or how she projects herself but I always envy those Asian girls who are less attractive than myself who have or had relationship with Caucasian men.
So my question is, to those men who prefer Asian women as their partner, what is it that you’re looking for in Asian women?
I am happy for you!
Well said
Asian race is not limited to the Chinese race, it’s more diverse. There is thai, Malay, Indian, Bugis, korean and etc. I am a Norwegian married to a Malaysian Indian girl. She is the best thing that happen in my life. There are lots of beautiful indian girls here and most of them are professionals but finding one to date is the most difficult thing. Their reserved and some of them are very cultured and some of them just prefer their own race. But in my case, I was very lucky to have found my wife. She is slim, tall, lighter skinned and beautiful features. Her family first protested to give her for marriage but later after she was stubborn to marry me, they changed their mind. Though she is 19 years younger than me, she is as matured as a 40 years old woman whenever she makes decision. I met her while she was still in the university and got married soon after she graduated. She’s not very cultured and talented. Within this 2 years, she has learn to cook excellent Norwegian dishes and my family back home was very surprised. I can’t say hows all Indian girls in Malaysia but I can say most that I have met are very shy , well mannered, and cultured. Asian girls make good wives but picking the right ones is a must. We cannot generalize all Asian girls are good girls as there is always bad apples in any society. I have dated a few Chinese and Malay girls from Malaysia before , their aren’t that bad after all but then my wife is a great catch and I’m happy with it.
true words buddy
thank god you got it 😉
I was married twice to American girls. They both would argue with me, and put me down in public. They liked in public, I guess they got the best results that way. I had to take this shit, or it would be even worse. No winning with them. Needless to say, expensive divorces ensued.
I am now happily married to a lady from China; and the American woman say “why did you go all the way to China, why didn’t you marry some rich older American woman.”. They just don’t get it….
It doesn’t matter to what race you are. I love Asian, particularly filipina because they are sweet, sensitive, romantic, and feminine; I realize this is a generalization, and that individual differences play a big part. I think feminism, especially in its present anti-male form is ruining American woman. I told my gf, a filipina, I want her to feel free to be herself in our relationship. Most men, I believe, want a partner who will complement them, and not put them down. That said, if I were to find the same character traits in a woman of any race, I’d be strongly attracted because, over time, physical features become much less important.
I agree with you that everyone deserves respect and that we all crave affection and connection and I encourage you to embrace yourself!
Interesting article Sebastian, some points that I can resonate with and others that extend to broad generalisations that feed the stereotypes. What is:
– a white guy?
– an asian woman?
– a black woman?
These are all racial definitions that are not adequate in expressing the real sociocultural diversities:
– an american dude, an aussie bloke, a pommie lad, an irish fellah…
– a chinese lady, a japanese mistress, a korean girlfriend, a thai girl…
– an afro-american woman, a brazilian chica, a sudanese lover, a murri sista…
And then getting into each of those further compartmentalisations only muddies the waters more.
I’m sounding like a well educated white guy rebounding from divorce with a white woman who now mainly dates with ladies from other cultures…yeah, ok…sure – asian women mostly. Also complicated with having two caucasian teenage daughters and wanting to empower them to grow positively.
No matter what gender we are, what colour our skin is, how many mixed splices of dna we carry or which culture we have grown up within…we are all human, we each deserve respect and we all crave affection and connection. I’m learning to embrace more about myself and am seeking to find others that I can resonate with…maybe if we can all see past the bullshit and nurture that care – Love will find a way.
Lexi, of course we aren’t saying that black women are by definition ugly, and if we love asian women it’s absolutly not because they are closer to us.
Guys who value things like big boobs and big ass absolutly love other women, including wights, and especially blacks.
It’s just that more sophisticated guys who don’t care about big boobs and ass but value things like tenderness, sweetness, love, family, peace, culture, mutual respect (just try to be unrespectfull toward an Asian to see how “submisive” they are…while other girls love to be treated like shit) and who look for a pretty face expressing physicaly those values and qualities…those guys are into Asians. That’s it.
I just stated my opinion 😉
You are damn right!
Hey Lexi,
thanks a lot for your detailed comment. To make one thing clear: I don’t think that black women are ugly. I know a lot of black girls who are incredibly beautiful. To answer your question: In my experience and opinion white men who love Asian women don’t do this because they are racist. In general Asian women have a lot of physcial and behavioral features (I also described them in the article) that men are naturally attracted to. From their looks (petite, cute) and their behavior (reserved, caring) they appear to be extremely feminine and femininity is exactly what men are attracted to.
Sebastian, Just to offer my perspective, I think people look negatively on white men and asian women because it seems like a one sided and superficial paring. Ive observed white men saying “asian women are like this” and asian women saying “white men are like that” as reasons why they prefer or even exclusively date each other. All these reasons they claim, are usually traits you can find in anyone from anywhere. I am by no means conceited, but people are shocked when they see me because its a global consensus that “black” women are supposedly destined to be “ugly.” I know I sound self absorbed but Ive decided to stop feeling guilty about the fact that I’m aware of how attractive I am. It’s allowed me to date men from practically every background and I will say, the white men i have dated, ALWAYS have a list of asian ex girlfriends. And they approach me as if Im the final step on the interracial latter. So from my experience, when I’m interested in a white guy, and he’s interested in me, and i find out that he’s had multiple asian girlfriends in the past, 10 times outta 10 I lose all attraction to him and wouldn’t touch him with a ten foot pole. And its not that theres anything wrong with white men dating them, I just never have good experiences because they are always trying to figure out why Im so skinny, and pretty and “not like the others” (B.S. You’ve never even experienced “the others”) And they usually put races of women in the silliest categories. The traits I have that men find attractive, most white men don’t associate them with me as an individual, they associate all my positive traits with an entire race of women who I don’t even belong to. Asking me if I’m part asian because I’m petit with long hair and caramel chocolate skin. Insisting I must have something in me because I’m too beautiful to be “plain ol’ black.” Surprise surprise I’m 100% black, sorry. Ive dated and might continue to date plenty of white dudes. But I have no idea why I attract white dudes with yellow fever, and its overwhelmingly frustrating and demeaning. My question to white men, when you date outside your race, why is she almost always asian? is it because she’s closer to a white woman than a black woman? Exotic, but not too exotic to the point where its too different? Is it because you’re racist? I dig SOME white dudes but the yellow fever ones, i really wish they’d leave me ALONE! So there sebastian, now you know why at least some of us, are uneasy about white men and asian women “love.” When they’re with their girl its cool, but when they’re single and ready to mingle, trying to get at me, no bueno.
Beauty is beauty and comes from all races..I am black and married to a beautiful and caring Japanese. We have been together for 20 years and I feel blessed every day.
But I know i could have married any pretty and smart woman like her.
By the way, Black women are pretty like all other women. As for black men, ask white women why they love them for the attraction and more. Love is love and it just happens that white men are turned on by Asian women the same way we black men are drawn to white women. If you love yourself, you can love anyone.
” I have a good friend who is totally into black girls and I also find a lot of them very attractive. However, I agree with you that Asians are generally prefered. ” What i say has nothing to do with racism and it’s not my opinion, it’s a fact, Tinder’s datas show that in general black women want to date black men and black men want to date black women, also it’s the less attractive ethinicity for the other ethnicities (again, that’s just in average). The same datas show that Asian women is the most attractive type for men, however Asian men aren’t the most attractive type for women.
You have some details about this study in this article :
http://qz.com/149342/the-uncomfortable-racial-preferences-revealed-by-online-dating/
Jess : as you can see, one type is very attracted by latinas, it’s the asian men ! i hope you are into them 😉 (and again that’s just in average)
Sorry for my poor English i’m french
I have a good friend who is totally into black girls and I also find a lot of them very attractive. However, I agree with you that Asians are generally prefered.
It’s a matter of fact that, indeed, according to a recent study achieved on the base of tinder’s datas, Asian women is the most popular type (and by the way for women, caucasians men is the more attractive type).
About african american, it’s a unique phenomenon, they both (black men and black women) have a preference for their own ethnicity, so that’s why you don’t see a lot of whites with blacks. And it’s also thrue that whites don’t find them attractive in general.
However you are wrong about latinas.
A lot of white men are totally into latinas. Maybe you don’t see them a lot with white guys because of the culture/social pressure and immigrations rules (one of the most stupid thing in my opinion…yes my libertarian brain produces some weird ideas).
have a nice day
Your choices are not slim. There are a lot of white men who are totally into latinas.
Ama. Not sure what I’m doing here. I read most of the artical. I’m 66 years old. I spent 13 months in japan an Viet Nam. Asain qomen are the most beautiful women in the world. I have always thoughtnthat. An in the artical it talks about the way asain women respect their partner.
American women have no clue of respect. If i said to you.
“The way i show you love is by getting up every day an going to work. So that you have a roof over your head, food to eat an a car to drive.”
What would you say. ?? I would love to meet a asain lady in Cincinnati Ohio. USA.
…”All I say is that women with traditional family values (which is true for a lot of Asians) are usually better partners”
I agree with Doris.
For my two cents I must add that women from other cultures have traditional family values as well. In the end you have to find what makes you happy.
Been living in NYC all my life and I must say I have seen a lot of Caucasian men with Asian women. I hardly see white men with Black or Latin women. I know everyone has different taste but it just seems to be more popular. Being I am a Latin woman who prefers Caucasian men my choices in the dating pool are slim.
I see that guys in here are saying that American women are into thugs and bad boys. I disagree. I like nice guys but the problem is the nice guys tend to be attracted to crazy, bitchy women. Ugh.
Anyways, even though I don’t agree with a lot that has been said it was an interesting article.
Hey Anna,
I am also not a fan of playing games and acting hard to get. You shouldn’t be worried at all. Support and being taken care of is exactly what we men want. You see, we white men absolutely love that Asian women appreciate chivalr, even though I don’t pay on dates 😉 Yeah, loyalty is very important.
yes, Asian girls are very beautiful, but there are also a lot of black women who look stunning
Asian ladies to me are very beautiful. The least attractive race to me are African American. I would love to find a Asian girl to settle down with and love forever. Asians even as they age remain beautiful. The compassion that most Asian girls have is what I mainly like. You don’t get love,respect or loyalty from most other girls.
Hey Sebastian, I have a question though, are you saying that the saying about men wanting to chase isnt entirely true? I do know for myself that I do not like games such as playing hard to get to attract a man, rather act as to how I feel. Like, take care of my man and support him because I love him, and because I think that is the right thing to do for your partner. I am independent and have my own thing but I am always open to compromise when there are differences. Should I be worried about appearing needy, or that I am always here for him, giving him everything I can, that he might lose interest?
Great article by the way. Maybe I should write a little about why some Asian girls like to date White men too lol I have noticed general characteristics of most white men that Asian women want. First of all, with white men, chivalry aint dead! From simple things such as opening the door for your girl. They are masculine but not jerks. Second, we like to see that men actually dont mind paying for us in dates. Dont worry, we will pay for some and shower you with love and surprises too. Third, most white men have this different kind of fun attitude. Yet most are not self righteous and wont talk down on you. They are also pretty straight forward, no mind games. And most importantly, our loyalty isnt taken for granted. In short, treat us like princesses, and we’ll treat you like kings!
Hi….I am asian woman from Indonesia. I also a chinese….and i like western guys.
If you want to say the F word I let you say the F word 😉
I read your nice comments that I’m totally agreed with you.
I’m a Vietnamese girl too. Nammy <3
Oh look another modest wonderful Asian girl who is so ladylike and wouldn’t think of using the F word. Talk about crude. Is this really what you find so charming?
And do you also preffer cocasian men over asians ?
there is nothing wrong about that.
Hey Elena,
I am glad that I and the comments on my site could show you that Asian features are incredibly beautiful!
Women from the Seven Sisters States are indeed the most beautiful in the sub continent. And yes, there is so much disdain that many mainland women have for them. I had a great friend from Nagaland in college and in time we started to like fool around a bit. As soon as my ex got to know, she and her other friends made the girl’s life a living hell in the hostel with so much racial abuse. She was about to lodge a police complaint but i restrained her. She never forgave me for it and we fell out of touch. Till date,she remains the most beautiful woman i have ever seen.
If i ever settle down one day, i hope it is with a girl from the North East of India. They are without doubt the most independent,simple and have amazing souls.
Hi there, I just want to stop by and tell you that you have such an interesting perspective!
I’m not sure if you are aware, but Asians( east Asians in particular) prefer western over eastern features. I am a Chinese woman, and I have always been quite envious of caucasian women with their big round eyes and dramatic features. Everyone around me seemed to be too.
So I am quite glad that I read your blog, I guess. Growing up, I’ve never once heard such positive comments about the traditional (I assume east) Asian features.
Do you think that would be a bad idea to ask during a date to an asian girl i’m interested in if she prefer asian boys or cocasian one ?
Procrastinating : I can tell you that many men, including me, are very strongly attracted to Asian women. But you can’t even imagine at what degree. At this point, i don’t even consider to married a woman from an other race, or she would have to be really exceptional. Almost each Asian woman is like some kind of an angel for me. I know, that sounds crazy. Asian fever is probably an unique phenomenon, so you are very lucky 😉 you can probably get the man of your wildest dreams.
Thanks NammyTran 🙂
Damn, if only I could upvote Doris’ comment!!
lol , in asian culture, respect is very important, and they were taught since they were little, getting angry and making fun people in public couldn’t change anything, or it even get worse. However, I would say you should keep this comment secretly 🙂 because not all American girl will humiliate their man in public, maybe you just don’t have a chance to meet one. I would love to see nice comments about asian girls (since I’m one of them), but agree or not, there are good and bad people, no matter where.
Hi, first of all, I really enjoy your article, Sebastian and love reading all the comments, ^^
I just want to confirm about the language is used in Vietnam. In Vietnam, we all speak Vietnamese. English is required subject and is taught in school, but French is optional.
Hope it helps ForestGump 🙂
Interesting comment since i’m south asian (chinese) but born and bred in Aussie haha, have always been attracted to western men yet since my community is predominantly asian as well, it’s nice to know that other races find asians attractive 🙂
unfortunately we live in a time where saying the truth is seen as politically incorrect
You are right to point out the fact that they are not only beautifull, they are smart ! that’s not racist, it’s just a fact, several studies in the US (where it’s legal contrary to Europe to do such statistical ethnical based studies) show that Asians in average are someting like 10 IQ points beyond the national average.
Hey Jeff,
you are absolutely right: Ignore the haters and just do what feels right.
I’m white Australian and I gotta say we Aussie men LOVE Asian girls. So beautiful: flawless skin, gorgeous black hair, and of course those pretty almond eyes, they are like catnip to us…irresistable. Plus they keep those hot little figures well into their fifties. They are smart too. Oh yes, they are the real deal alright, but anyone who mistakes loyalty for submissiveness has been misinformed because they will stand toe to toe with any man. I’ve had two Asian women in my life: a Singaporean girl and a Malay. Wow on both counts. Guys, ignore the haters and just do what feels right.
😀 awesome comment. Maybe you are lucky and this comment helps you to find the man of your dreams. Don’t forget to invite me to the wedding!
maybe you just met the wrong girls. I already got that checked. Unfortunately, it is incurable, but the doctor said that I will live a happy and fulfilling life with my disease 😉
haters gonna hate 😉
I am from the North-Eastern parts of India. And unlike the rest of India, people here look a lot more like Chinese and Japanese. Just like a lot of white guys, many Indian men find women from my region more attractive than “regular” Indian women for some reason. And due to this, we get a lot of snide remarks and racist bullshit from those “regular” Indian women. Some even call us gold-diggers, sluts, etc. It’s weird how people can be so bitter to a certain group of people.
Boy, you got Yellow Fever. Get that checked.
I agree with Doris… I’ve met and dated many nasty Asian chicks, and all of them were boring as hell in the bedroom. Kind of a let down since they’re supposed to be these exotic women.
Hey, i like your posting! Btw, i am an indonesian girl(each countries in asian) amd 15 y.o. I want to share my story when i dated with caucassian boy:
I have ex. His name is matthew, he comes from USA. He’s so nice, but he just wants to fuck me, i mean he wants my nude everyday. Yes but i cant give it to him, amd i told him to fond another girl. Since i said that words, he leaves me without any reasons and we do lost contact.
I donf know wtf can i do. I really want get a caucassian boys because they looks sweet and handsome in my eyes. I feel like they mofe atractive than indonesian guys. I know im still young and i still have a future for it. But idek how to find a nice caucassian boy who really carely about asian girl and doesnt wants to talk about sex more. If u know where that i can find them, pls email me halimamatus29@gmail.com
Thanks before
The girl at 1:25 sums it up
Western women are jealous that white western men are pursuing Asian women (specifically in Thailand). Check out this video
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OlWUvUq8Cyo
I have not been to Japan (yet), but I heard that the attitude towards sexuality is pretty fucked up. I even heard from a friend of mine that they marry their virtual girlfriends.
Hi! I’m Thai women. I want to tell you something about Thai girls. Here have real Good Thai girls and make Good Thai girls or Good Thai girls in your eyes. I ever seed white guys like travel at night. You’ll can find women are the most deceptive but not all. Because real Good Thai girls don’t like travel at night and they don’t want white guys boyfriend because we have different ideas from you. And I don’t like when white guys think about all Thai girls like they moneys. Because you’ll can’t find real Good Thai girls at morning. Lol when you wake up real Good Thai girls live in work times. 😉
If you want real Good Thai girlfriend you can find before 8 am and after 5 pm not after 4 pm
I just read something very shocking about Japanese Women :
http://www.theguardian.com/world/2013/oct/20/young-people-japan-stopped-having-sex
” 45% of Japanese women aged 16-24 are ‘not interested in or DESPISE sexual contact’. More than a quarter of men feel the same way ”
” In the Japan Family Planning Association’s 2013 study on sex among young people, there was far more data on men than women. I asked the association’s head, Kunio Kitamura, why. “Sexual drive comes from males,” said the man who advises the government. “Females do not experience the same levels of desire.” ”
” boyfriend proposed to me three years ago. I turned him down when I realised I cared more about my job. After that, I lost interest in dating. It became awkward when the question of the future came up.”
What do you think about that ?
I hope it’s not the same in Korea and China…
Yhea that’s what i read on wiki 🙁 thanks !
I researched that for you and it seems that only the older generation speaks French
Do you know (Sébastian or Senna) if in Vietnam French is still spoke by the Young generation in general ?
Hey Senna,
I am happy that you agree with what I wrote. I never said that Asian women are only Chinese women, but I have to thank you for your overview about certain Asian ethnics. Thai wins hands down? Maybe that’s why I have a Thai girlfriend 😉
Hi Sebastian,
Love what you wrote.
I am not Chinese but I am Asian. Asian varies from China, Korea, Japan, Brunei, Indonesia, Malaysia, Singapore, Thailand etc … Its not only Chinese from China.
I wish you could specifically mention the many ethnics in Asia, South East Asia particularly. When people say Asian, they thought of Chinese. Asians are not only in China. Thai women are one of the most modest, attractive, polite, soft-spoken women from Asia. And Im Malay. Compared to Chinese, Thai wins hands down. Indonesian? The pretty ones are extremely hot. Malays? Similar to Thais. Brunei? Similar to Malays. Vietnam, humble & cute women.
Im frustrated that when Asian comes to mind, its China. Its not. The real true authentic Asians that doesnt originate from China are the most, personally, the most attractive. Family values & cultural values are close to their heart no matter what. What Im saying is, in Asia, there are many ethnics who are pretty & exotic & comes full package just how you described them.
So just an eye opener for guys out there. And Sebastian, I agree with everything you said, just wanted to add some of my opinions too :))
Hey Vicky,
thank you so much for your feedback. I am glad that I could help you to change your mindset and that I could inspire you to stay true to yourself!
thanks a lot!
I am glad that you see it the same way!
SO TRUE!
Hello, I’m late too. Thank you for standing up for us women from Asia. Some western women insult us and tar us with one tainted brush but you summed up our values nicely.
It’s nice to read thoughts from open-minded folks. Love is a beautiful thing and can exist between mixed race couples. I just wish people wouldn’t cheapen it : )
Once again, thank you.
In some cases it’s just that they simply don’t speek the langage…or very hardly…
Hi Sebastian. This was one of the most fascinating and eye-opening articles I have ever read, I wish I had found it earlier! I am a second generation Chinese, born and raised in New Zealand. I had a good upbringing with supportive parents who embraced some of the Chinese traditions, along with many Westernised/ causasian or “Kiwi” (as we call it) ways. Growing up I hated the way I looked; different and out of place. I wished I was white so I would fit in, and I sometimes found myself participating in behaviour that my white friends would do, despite being brought up with different values and beliefs. Having started University or College (as you may call it) I have made new friends who are mostly Asian and I have found that they are kind, loyal and more fun to be around especially because of the amount we have in common. After reading your article my mindset had been further changed about Asian and Chinese culture, for which I thank you enormously. It is very true about the loyalty of asian girls and the the protection they need and kindness they portray to their husbands and families. I have had first hand experience from my mother who is the most generous and self-less person I have ever met. I didn’t realise that that is what many white men find attractive about asian girls but it all makes sense now. For the longest time I have been trying to portray someone or something I am not (white), while I should have been staying true to myself and displaying my kind, loyal and generous qualities of which I have been brought up to have/use. I thank you again for all your ideas and send you all the best wishes for the future
Hey Ross, thanks a lot for your comment. I hope that you will meet many wonderful Asian women in the future 🙂
Good morning ladies and gentlemen. Although I know I am late, I would like to give you my opinion on this topic. I think your posts and comments are really interesting as I can compare your ideas to mine. I am italian – so, I am sorry if I am making some mistakes – and I have been living in Italy since I was born. Unluckily, here we are more or less in your same situation: girls and women do prefer vulgar tattoed thugs who behave like criminals to polite and kind gentlemen who would treat them like princesses. Sadly, Italy is no longer the country of love: the ideal of the Italian gentleman (also known as the “rubacuori”, the “don Giovanni”, etc.) has almost disappeared, leaving the dregs freedom to triumph (in politics – one of the greatest thieves in history, our “beloved” Silvio Berlusconi – in the arts etc.).
Although I have dated only white women (here we do not have all the races and the ethnicities of yours; we do not almost even know what the “melting pot” is; furthermore, I live in a small “regione”, with something like 94% of white population) I would really love to date Asians (since I am just 18, I hope I will).
Once, I met an Asian girl (I can not remember where she was from): I wanted to shake her hand but she just stood still and bowed his head slightly, without saying a word. I clearly remember that she wouldn’t even dare to look at my eyes. That is what I’m talking about: their reservedness and softness are the wonderful qualities which made me fall in love with Asian girls.
thanks for your comment 😉
This is interesting to read, I’m asian grew up in the asia and just recently moved to America. I’ve noticed a lot of differences about the asian girls and white girls in here including the asian girl who grew up in a western culture. The asian girls who grew up in a western country are totally different they are mostly into western culture I don’t generalized all but most of the asian american are more western than asian, they dress and act like western people. Some western girls I’ve met are totally slut having sex with different guys, I feel bad how they treat their boyfriend like a bank account -_- I think guys in here are more loyal than girls.
Hey Doris, even though you said that I have a poor mindset I decided to answer your comment. First of all I appreciate the time you took to write down your thoughts. I agree that we are all different and that every race has beautiful and amazing women. However, I do believe that the majority of Asian girls has certain qualities that make them very desirable for men. It’s not a coincidence that so many men prefer Asian girls. I am sorry to hear that your friends ended up with girls who are anything but good for them. Again, this can happen with girls from every race and I never said that ALL Asian women are perfect.
I agree with you that respect and love are immensely important and that self-confidence makes a man attractive. I never said that only white Americans are good and I also don’t complain about white girls in general. All I say is that women with traditional family values (which is true for a lot of Asians) are usually better partners, which is somehow logical if you think about it. The comments that guys make about white girls are their opinion and doesn’t necessarily represent mine. I also agree with your statement that improving yourself and being who you are is an important factor. I honestly think that you have some good points and that we think alike in not all but a lot of areas. Have a nice day 😉
Hi Sebastiam! Maybe I’m a little late for this conversation but I thought I would still give my opinion. I am a Latina girl with I think enough life experience to give a different perspective so get ready to read and sorry about the grammatical mistakes. English is my second language 🙂
So I just read this whole bunch of non sense and I am laughing about the poor mindset some guys have, including you Sebastian sorry! Lol
Stating that Asian girls are better partners is a very weak, ignorant argument to begin with. Regardless nationality we are all different. There is good and bad people in every culture. That is just a basic thing everyone should know.
I have a couple of friends married to Asian girls and both are very unhappy. One of them even told me the other day that he goes on vacation with his own brother in law and get prostitutes. He says his Asian wife makes his life miserable. She was the most devoted, nice, shy, sweet girl when they were dating, but not long after marriage she became this crazy bitch that he can no longer stand. I’ve met her once in a party and she wouldn’t even talk to him much and when she did she resembled a dictator. I’m sure there is another side of the story (hers) and they both are the only ones who know what the main problem is, but my point here is that not because a girl is Asian that’s a guarantee of a “happy life together” If you think so then you might have a problem. And if you like my friend end up with a girl that turns out to be crazy, you’ll be very very disappointed.
I have dated several American men. I would say in general most of them treated me very nicely and I think I did the same for them. I still remain friends with some of them. Do I think that just white American males are good because my experience with them has been good? Not at all. I also met a couple of “bad boys” to whom I dumped shortly after we started dating because I realized they were assholes. I just would not let anybody humiliate me or treat me poorly (in private or public) regardless where he is from simply because that is unacceptable to me. So I really don’t understand why some men complain about “white girls” treating them bad. Well, if that’s the case, why do you guys allow it? You have to love yourself good enough to not expect anyone to make you feel happy. That’s your own job.
I don’t know how old are you but maybe you need to be more open minded about this thing in general. I understand we all have our preferences. I, for example love guys with long hair. My current boyfriend doesn’t have love hair but he is an amazing, caring, human being. If I were stubborn in my preference for guys with long hair I would have missed the chance to meet him.
As I said, to me the most important thing in a partner is how that person treats you and respects you above all. I was a little shocked reading the comments from guys saying that Asian women are better because “they don’t wear make up” hahaha I mean, do you really care about that? Are some men so insecure that make up makes them feel like that’s a bad thing. I think any woman in his right mind wouldn’t want to date a guy that has a problem with such a trivial thing. We all have our preferences. If a man feels threatened by my personal appearance then I don’t want to be with that man. He is a probably a loser. Self confidence is the best thing a man can have!
Sorry about the long message but I thought I would give you my opinion. There are beautiful and worthy women everywhere. Americans, Asians, Latinas, etc. that’s the beauty of the diversity. Let’s stop spreading stereotypes and myths. The way you treat your significant other has little to do with your race or nationality and more of who you are and how much time you have invested in improving yourself and becoming a better human being.
Hope you have a great day Sebastian! 😀
Hey Vivian. Thanks a lot for your detailed comment. Of course I want to date a girl who has her own opinion, as long as she argues in a respectful way and you are absolutely right that respect is a two way street.
Although I refrain from stereotyping people I am forced to agree with the characteristics of Asian women.
Its true (at least in asian culture) that most women are taught to be feminine and graceful, to make a man feel wanted…but as a half chinese half european woman I have to say that these characteristics of Asian women have a dark side.
In china most men walk over women as if they are door mats. In Asian culture the word ‘feminism’ has never been heard. My grandpa owns six properties but being the stingy arse he is he makes my grandma sew her own underwear. OF COURSE THERE IS GOOD AND BAD IN EVERY RACE but from a culture perspective, Asian women are taught not to have a voice, to tolerate more crap than they have to, to be stingy and save every cent they get. So as a heterosexual female I agree that
1) grace, peaceful attitude, maternal instincts and overall femininity always looks more attractive on a woman than
2) an aggressive argumentative attitude / classless attitude who airs their dirty linen in public
but I dont like the idea of males being attractive to a glamourised door mat.
Wouldnt you rather date someone who had an opinion? Who would be strong for you? (us against the world kinda thing?)
Also keep in mind that in Asian culture – in exchange for the woman being a door mat – the male has a lot of pressure to meet his end of the bargain eg
+ good grades / friggin 12 phd’s all from harvard, oxford, cambridge etc
+ under the age of 25 (or at least young to have all these accomplishments)
+ has a good job and earns a lot of money – ALOT OF MONEY
+ be a business owner
+ buy status symbols aka expensive cars, brand name jewelry etc
When women come from this background and they meet a gentlemen its a shock and they soon realise they prefer to date someone who treats them well than not….but beware the cultural expectations is still there. She may lower her expectations initially but unless she completely rejects her culture on some level she will still expect you to perform your end of the bargain.
SHE may not come out with it, but you can tell how much their family really approves of you by observing how her father treats you – because in China – only the males opinion’s matter… Unless she says stuff it I’m sticking with this white guy because at least I will get the cute mixed babies (which is what I did!)
All in all – its the inside that counts / beauty is from the inside – and FYI no woman likes to be humiliated in public either – respect is a two way street.
As a white guy I gave up competing with the Bad Boy. Maybe a billionaire can compete with a Bad Boy but not me. I think white girls love Bad Boys because their mother married one. If their Dad was a bad Boy, that’s what they are hooked on.
If I were a Bad Boy with tattoos, a minimum wage job and a criminal record she (this white American girl) would have given me a hug and a kiss
Woua, however in this case i think it’s not linked to the fact that she is Asian, it’s probably linked to the local culture.
For example in my small experience Koreans don’t hug easily and i think it’s the same in China and Japan. They don’t even handshake.
To say hello say just do at distance a friendly sign with the left hand high.
” What I love about Asian girls is that you don’t have to constantly provde how confdient and masculine you are. It gets tiring. ”
BIll i don’t know Asian girls very well, but i’m relativly sure that’s bullshit, sorry, theire is a difference between being a jerk and showing masculinity, all women need a strong man. That’s just my opinion.
I absolutely get the picture.
Thanks Enya, I absolutely love what you say and it’s great to hear that from a woman.
I’m almost rolling on the floor laughing..as an African girl from Nigeria who travels alot, I have to say most of the comments here are quite true..Asian women don’t just make good girl friends though, they make good friends too and I that’s because loyalty in any relationship is valued..and the white women bad boy thing ..you only need to turn the TV to MTV base. To veer off course a little i guess the bible is really right about humans then..men crave deep respect which in turn results in love for the respectful woman and love is what women crave..#Really interesting#
Sebastian, here’s a good article
http://honeybadgerbrigade.com/2014/12/08/the-is-what-sexual-entitlement-looks-like-white-men-asian-women-and-the-white-women-who-hate-them/
I don’t know why American white girls are so petty. They reject 80% of white American men , favoring Bad Boys and Thugs. They should be happy that the decent guys are leaving them alone.
By the way, you can be nice to an Asian girl and she will love you for it. Be nice to an American girl and you will be dumped within 2 weeks.
Here’s the contrast Asian vs American:
I was down south this week and I stopped by to see some friends who lived just north of New Orleans. Their grandaughter (in her early 20’s) is staying with them.As I was talking with my friends she walked into the lving room. They introduced her to me. She did not even acknowledge me, did not shake hands, never said a word. Sat there and sent text messages to her friends. I don’t expect to me treated like royalty but I thought it was rude.
Asian girl: I was having Christmas dinner with a Hawaiian family when I lived on Oahu many years ago. One of the female cousins came to dinner. She was in her early 20’s , Asian and gorgeous. She went over to me and gave me a hug and a kiss on the cheek. First time we had ever met.
Get the picture?
I like Thai girls and I read that they like guys with a calm demeanor. You probably should not be a door mat but I don’t think they go for thugs, jerks and misfits the way American girls do.
Sebastian, that woman in the store who was so unhappy is either dating a jerk or will end up with one. Asian girls don’t go for jerks. Their culture is more upscale. What I love about Asian girls is that you don’t have to constantly provde how confdient and masculine you are. It gets tiring.
As I said
Decent guys + Asian girls= Perfect match
American girls + jerks = Perfect match
Result: Everyone wins.
Some girls are just not worth the time, no matter how beautiful they are. You don’t have to become a jerk to get amazing women, because the most amazing women are not the ones who fall for complete jerks
sounds like Germany
I admit that it’s sometimes hard to see. in case she really sees the whole thing as a “good friend date” you will find it out as soon as you go for the kiss 😉
I truly believe that Asian girls (if they have been raised traditionally) are very attracted to gentlemen with good manners. You can be nice in the sense of polite, but you shouldn’t be “the nice guy” in the sense of “I don’t have my own opinion”.
Given the fact that Asian girls seem to be more respectefull and shy, they won’t tell you directly that they aren’t attracted, so how do you figure it out ?
Are you sure that’s thrue or is it just an impression ?
It’s interesting because when i’m with a cocasian girl, i have the instinct that if i want to seduce her i have to be a badass and not be too nice.
And i don’t know why, but when i’m with an Asian woman, i have the feeling that i can be nice / respectfull and that it’s not going to backfire on me.
I am a white man, raised in America. I like Asian women because, in my experience, they treat men with the same respect that you would treat any person. Many American white women do not. My experience with many American women was like dealing with the Gestapo. Not physically abusive but verbally abusive. Many American women embarass their man in front of his family and friends, for example. It’s horrible. 70% of men ages 18-34 in America are unmarried and never married.
My wife and I were in the grocery store yesterday. There was an attractive white girl, early 20’s, just ahead of us. She looked angry. I’m sure she doesn’t lack for male attention plus the priviledge of being young and pretty. If I were a single guy I don’t think I would want to take her out–I think it would be a negative experience.
I think the reason so many white women love jerks is that their mother married one. What man has the most influence over a woman? I think her father, because he is the first man she knows in her life. I am not a Pyschologist, but that’s my guess. So jerks are what they are comfortable with.
whenever you are in an interracial relationship you’ll get nasty looks from some people. It’s sad.
I guess I have to visit Hawaii then 🙂
that’s why I have the goal to tell more and more men about this win-win 😉
thanks for your comment. I don’t put you on a pedestal but I admit that I am a big fan of asian girls 😉
I guess it all works out. Decent guys who treat women well are not desired by most American white girls (I have seen this all my life). A huge percentage of white American women have an insatiable appetite for Bad Boys (Google women love Bad Boys and you will get about 30 million hits).
So it should all work out Asian girls get the guys who treat them well. Both parties are happy.
White girls get the Bad Boys that they desire. Decent guys that they DON’T want are leaving them alone. I would think that the white American women would be delighted.
I don’t know why any American women would be upset. It seems as though everyone is perfectly matched. It is a win-win for everyone. Am I missing something?
Sebastian, I don’t know if I mentioned it but Asian women will NOT dump a guy for bieng nice to her. I like treating women well and that is a sure fire way to be dumped by a white Caucasian female. Asian women love being treated well.
If you want to end a relationship with a white American woman, treat her really nicely and you will be history in 1-2 weeks.Every guy knows this.
Sebastain, this is a little off the topic, but I lived in Hawaii for severla years. I live near DC now. We are headed to Kauai for 2 weeks in September. If you have never been there it’s worth the trip.
When I lived in Hawaii I knew several girls who were the union of a Caucasian father and an Asian mother. The gilrs were absolutely gorgeous.
Sebastain, a buddy of mine from NY had a great saying about people who disapproved of him. He said, “They don’t sign my paycheck.” That goes for family too. If they don’t sign your paycheck they can pound sand. you need to remember that.
I took out a black girl when I lived in Hawaii. We got some comments from black guys and a few from white people. She didn’t like it. I tried to smooth it over saying well they are harmless. She said, “No bigot is harmless.”
It’s amazing that over 50 years since the Civil Rights laws were signed people are still acting this way.
Most of my dating experience is with white American girls and they do it a lot. I hate it, Guys should dump girls like this immediately, I don’t care how cute she is.
All Asian girls I met told me that they would never make fun of their parnter in public. That’s a total no go.
that’s very true. Unfortunately, there are still many people who condemn the popular interracial couples (such as white guy and Asian girls) while they completely romanticize interracial couples that are not so widespread (such as white guy and black girl). I also think that everyone should date whoever they want.
I had a secure income for my entire career and the people who signed my pay check didn’t care who I went out with. The hell with peer pressure, they can’t touch you. Who you date is your own business. I have dated some black girls, mostly white girls and some Asian girls and they were all very nice people. People are peope regardless of their skin color and I am horrifed that anyone catches grief over the choice of who they go out with.. I think it’s racism.. If a guy likes a girl, asks her out and she says yes, it’s between the two of them and it’s no ones’s business.
Hey Sebastian, I don’t know if you have noticed but Asian women have beautiful complexions and I don’t think they wear make up. Another thing i like is that Asian women will NOT humilate their man in public the way American women will…I HATE when they do that..it’s awful and uncalled for and the poor guy can’t say a thing.
true…very true!
thanks! I totally agree with you and I will definitely continue to spread the word 😉
No man should succumb to peer pressure and stop dating Asian women. It is no one’s business but his own. Who are they to say who he should be with. I think it is done by jealous women or by men who were put up to it by women. Why would one guy care what type of girl another buy dated?
I have seen American women embarass their husbands/boyfriends in public and I hate it. I have never seen an Asian woman do this. Asian women don’t play all these stupid games that many American women play.
Another thing I have noticed: Many Asian women do not wear make up. They don’t need it.
Keep spreding the word.
I totally agree. I lived in Hawaii and California and became acquainted with numerous Asian women. You are right..they are not submissive drones. They are very smart. They also like men and are very pleasant to be with. I think after an American guy dates an Asian girl he won’t want to go back to an American woman. Attraction is more than just looks. If a beautiful woman is nasty and mean, you don’t want to be with her. I don’t care how good she looks on the outside. I never met a nasty Asian woman. By the way, Asian women do NOT seem to have the insatiable appetite for Bad Boys that many American women have…which is refreshing. Asian girls LOVE to be treated well by good guys.