When’s the best time to text a girl?
It depends on the situation.
There’s no one fits all solution. But I promise you that this article contains every scenario you could possibly think of. And in case I forgot to mention your specific situation, feel free to ask me in the comments below.
After failing hundreds of times, I finally know how to beat the clock.
Oh God, I don’t even want to think of all the girls I repelled because of my terrible timing. As if it wasn’t enough that I sucked at texting. I was also shitty with the timing. In fact, I was so terrible at it that I even repelled a cute Swedish girl who wanted to sleep with me on the first day of my bootcamp with Sasha Daygame.
Anyway, here’s what you will learn in today’s article:
Are you ready to become a timing master?
Then go through each and every scenario with me…
What’s the Best Time to Text a Girl? This is How You Know It
I know you’ll hate me for saying this, but I have to say it anyway.
You want to know when to text a girl you like. So let me guess. You also want to know the one sign that proves that you’ve chosen the right moment. I know you do. And I know that you’ll hate me for my answer.
This is the sign:
You get a reply from her.
It’s really that simple. As long as she texts back, you’re in. Don’t worry about whether she’s cold, lukewarm, or hotter than a fresh coffee. As long as she replies to your incredibly romantic or incredibly dirty texts, you must have done something right.
Why do I tell you this?
Because I want you to stay motivated!
Whenever you get a reply from her, the game is still on. Now let’s have a look at how you can win the game with the perfect timing…
1. This is The Best Time to Text a Girl You Just Met
I still remember this pickup seminar I watched a couple of years ago.
I don’t remember who spoke on stage (I think it was some dude from RSD), but I remember the advice that changed my dating life…but not in the way you think.
“You have to wait at least three days!”
That’s what the speaker said, but I didn’t believe him. The fact that I didn’t believe him changed my dating life. The fact that I refused to follow this stupid three-day rule allowed me to have more success with women.
If you wait three days until you text a girl, she’ll assume that you’re full of shit. In her mind, you’re just another player who tries to game her. I hate to admit it but women are way better at playing this game than you and I could ever be.
Here’s what really works:
Text her right after you met her.
I’m serious. Don’t wait another three days. Don’t even wait one day. You approached her, you got her number and now she’s walking away. This is the perfect moment to make her feels special…and to condition her.
Here are some examples:
This conditions her to respond…and it puts a smile on her face.
2. This is the Best Time to Text a Girl after Getting Her Number
What if you got her number AND you texted her right before she disappeared in the city lights?
Now you have to wait three days.
You don’t have to wait. In an ideal scenario, you don’t even have to guess. You already know the perfect time because you asked her while you were talking to her. The pros don’t leave anything to chance.
Here’s what you do BEFORE you get her number:
By texting her while she’s walking away from you, you condition her to pick up her phone, read you message, and respond. And by sending her a message the next day in the exact moment you promised her, you establish trust.
Under this condition, it’ll be easy for you to set up the first date…
3. When to Text a Girl Before the First Date
I love to send a quick reminder before the date.
One message before the date, keeps the flakers away.
I’m sure you hate flakes as much as I do. I mean, you spend all this time preparing for your date. The mental preparation, the shitting, the showering…and then she flakes. That sucks. The good news is that you can prevent it from happening.
Here are some messages I sent in the past:
Try it. It’s the best method to make sure that she shows up on the first date.
4. When to Text a Girl After the First Date
Ahh…your first date was beautiful.
You were such a charming fella. The way you kissed her after pouring your cup of tea over her top would make a Hollywood director cry tears of joy. It was the perfect date. But it’s over. You’re at home asking yourself a very important question.
When’s the best time to text her?
By now you should know that I’m not a fan of waiting. My patience level is zero. That’s why I’m a big fan of the After Date Text. Yep, I trademarked this technique because it’s so effective. It’s also really simple.
Make sure that she had a good time with you:
She will reply with one or two smileys and you can smile because the second date is as good as certain.
5. This is the Best Time of the Day to Text a Girl
Have you ever asked yourself why people make out in dark clubs but not in bright restaurants?
Nope, it’s not because of the music and it’s also not because of the alcohol. Okay, maybe it is because of the alcohol. But it’s not the only reason.
Here’s what I and scientists discovered:
Darkness has an effect on our inhibitions. Experiencing darkness can make people more likely to cheat, to lie, and to do other things they usually wouldn’t do. Not that I want you to lie and cheat. Instead, I want you to ask yourself the following question.
When will she be open for an honest, open-minded, and naughty text conversation?
When it’s dark!
Wait until it’s dark outside. I can’t give you the exact time because it depends on where you live and on the season. But that’s what I do. I wait until darkness allows me to have an uninhibited conversation with her.
6. When to Text a Girl Back
The important rule for texting a girl back is this:
Don’t be a dick.
Let’s not fight over a couple of minutes. It doesn’t matter if you text her back after 10 minutes, if you wait 20 minutes, or if you pick up your phone after 15 minutes.. However, that doesn’t mean that you should wait for hours or days.
If you wait too long, she’ll think you’re a dick.
What would you think if she didn’t reply within 24 hours?
I know. Girls do this all the time. Every time a woman does this with me I call her out and tell her to stop the stupid games. I tell you the same. You don’t have to run to your phone and reply within 60 seconds, but it’s okay to reply after a couple of minutes.
Stop the games, invite her to your place, and seducer her with the techniques I share in my book Rise of the Phoenix.
7. When to Double Text a Girl and What to Say
“What the freaking heck is double texting?” I hear you asking.
Here’s how I would define it:
Double texting is when you sent her a message and the fact that she didn’t reply forces your brain to send signals to your fingers to type and send another message. It’s the action you take when your mind can’t stop screaming “why doesn’t she reply? Why? Why???”
Here are three facts you should know before you send a double text:
Some dating coaches say that you should never send a double text because you’re giving your power away and because you’re too alpha to play games and blah blah blah. I don’t agree with this because let’s face it.
You have absolutely nothing to lose.
Wait one day and if she still doesn’t reply, you send her one more text. This message should be fun and indicate that this is the last time you’re trying it. You basically tell her in a humorous way that she has one last chance.
Here are some examples:
Send one of these double texts after 24 hours of silence and you’ll be surprised at how many girls stop playing the game they thought they have to play.
8. When to Stop Texting a Girl
What if she still doesn’t reply after your double text?
At some point even the bravest general has to accept that the battle is lost. When a girl doesn’t text you back after two tries, the show is over. It’s time to close the curtain. And please don’t do what most guys do in this situation.
Don’t bombard her with thousands of messages and please don’t become resentful, hostile, and angry. That’s the last thing you want to do. She’ll become a man-hating feminist and you’ll end up as an embittered MGTOW. That’s not a life worth living.
Accept that this girl isn’t the right one for you.
Of course, just because the battle is lost doesn’t mean that the war is over. Stand up, get the dirt of your shoulder and rise like a Phoenix from the ashes.
Summed Up Wisdom
When to text a girl? It’s hard for me to give you the best time because it depends on the situation. You can do it right after you met her. In fact, you should. Don’t even think about waiting for three days.
Instead, ask her when she’s available and text her when she expects to hear from you. This makes her trust you. She’ll go on a first date with you. And if you text her a couple of minutes before the big day, she’ll actually show up.
What’s the best time to text her after the first date? Do it while she’s on her way home. Let her know that you had a great time. And if that doesn’t work you can still use the double text as your last resort.