Have you ever experienced a situation in which you wanted to know when to kiss a girl?
I have been in a lot of situations in which I asked myself this question, right before I ended up alone in my bed with dry lips and a feeling of regret.
Don’t tell me that you have never had such an experience. There must have been one woman in your life who cast such a spell over you that you could hardly breathe, let alone press your lips on hers. In such a situation you can think of anything but the right time to kiss her. You might even think about going all in, but eventually you draw in your horns, because you think the timing is not right.
I still remember one certain experience during which I must have asked myself this question a million times. I was on a date with a girl who had such incredibly beautiful and full lips, that I couldn’t stop staring at them. This was one of the first dates I had after I broke up with my ex-girlfriend and to say that I was nervous as fuck would be an understatement.
Whenever I thought about kissing her I nearly shat myself.
I thought about touching her beautiful lips right after I hugged her, but I was convinced that it was too early.
I wanted to do it after we stood up from the dinner table and walked out but somehow I thought it would be weird in front of other people. I also wanted to do it on the way home but the mood was not perfect, because we only saw clouds and no romantic stars.
Instead of kissing her like the passionate lover I wanted to be, I hugged her goodbye and thanked her for the nice evening. I know that I could have kissed her and I also know that she would have fucked me if I would have had the balls to introduce the first step of sharing body fluids with her.
As soon as I realized what I did, I wanted to punch myself in the balls. You can’t even imagine how angry I was at myself.
Because I want to save you from a lot of pain, frustration and maybe even anger-related diarrhea, I want to tell you when to kiss a girl. You shouldn’t make the same mistake that I made.
Do you know what else you shouldn’t do?
Why You Shouldn’t Ask Yourself When to Kiss a Girl
If I am really honest you shouldn’t even ask yourself when to kiss a girl. Okay, I understand that you want to know when you should do it and when you shouldn’t do it. I can totally understand that and I also wouldn’t want to kiss a girl in the wrong moment.
However, there are not many wrong moments I can think of.
It might be inappropriate to go for a kiss after you just burped, or when she is just eating a kebab and has a full mouth, but other than that you don’t really have to wrack your brain about this question.
Of course there are a few things that you should consider and there are indeed some signs that indicate the right time. I am going to share all those things with you, but before I do that I want you to think about why you even ask yourself this question.
Learning when to kiss a girl is great but not having to ask this question in the first place is even better, because…
You Overthink Everything
What else do you ask yourself when you think about the right time to kiss a girl?
Do you ask yourself if you should kiss her after or before you hug her goodbye?
Do you ask yourself how you can be sure that it is the right moment?
Do you ask yourself if there are also moments in which you shouldn’t do what you want to do?
Asking yourself when to kiss a woman can lead to a chain of unanswered questions that will make you go nuts, especially when you think about them during a date. When you are overthinking everything it will become impossible for you to concentrate on the woman who accidentally forgot to wear underwear, because she knew that she will meet you.
You won’t be able to concentrate on what she says for one damn second if your thoughts constantly revolve around the perfect timing to finally stick your tongue in her cute little mouth. It is absolutely okay to ask yourself when to kiss a girl, but please don’t do it during a date.
Take your time to read this article and prepare yourself for the next date. This will allow you to not forget the name and the breast size of the next girl you are dating. Oh, and you also won’t forget to kiss her then.
You Worry too Much About What She Thinks of You
Why do your really want to know when to kiss a girl? It’s great if you want to know it because you want to improve your seduction skills, increase your chances of getting laid and be the perfect lover that women dream of, but it is not so great if you only ask yourself this question because you are afraid of offending her by kissing her too early.
If you want to know it because you are afraid that she will give you a weird face or reject you when you slobber all over her, you have to work on being more indifferent. A confident seducer doesn’t give a shit about what anyone thinks of him, not even the hot girl he wants to stick his tongue in.
Do you think you will be able to start a second attack when she turned her head the first time if you are afraid to offend her?
No, you will end up alone in your apartment while she hoped that you would have been the first guy who is confident enough to try it again.
She wanted you to be the one who deserves her pussy but unfortunately you decided to care about what other people think of you.
There is No Perfect Moment
If you are waiting for the perfect moment to finally kiss a woman you can wait for a long fucking time. Even though Hollywood tries to convince you that the perfect moment includes stars, moonlight, romantic music and Kevin Costner, the truth is that the perfect moment doesn’t exist.
I have kissed girls in situations that I would describe as anything but romantic.
I even kissed a girl on the train station in Oslo after I talked with her for a couple of seconds. There was no romantic music and we couldn’t see the stars because we were standing in front of a shady liquor store.
Forget about this gibberish of the perfect moment and think about how you can make this experience perfect, no matter if you are at the beach or next to the butchery.
You Sabotage Yourself
Remember when I said that the overthinking can lead to a lack of concentration that you need in order to get to know the girl you want to end up in bed with? Well, a lack of concentration is not the only problem.
By investing too many brain cells in analyzing the perfect timing for the kiss, you run into danger of sabotaging yourself. The more you think about the perfect timing, the more you will realize that you have no clue when this ominous timing is. Before you risk doing anything wrong, you rather do nothing.
But why would you even think about the perfect timing when it doesn’t exist?
Popular Misconceptions about the Perfect Timing
Surprise, surprise, the perfect timing for the first kiss is nothing but a lie!
It is a lie that you have been fed by movies and maybe even your parents who wanted to convey you the romantic ideal of a first date with a woman that doesn’t include a bold kiss and a blowjob as reward.
If you are waiting for the moment when all the crap (stars, music and especially Kevin Costner) will suddenly appear to signalize you that you can finally make your tongue ready, you won’t ever do what you are supposed to do.
I am sorry (not really) to destroy your illusion but the perfect moment to kiss a girl will never come.
It is Never Too Early
“Okay, I understand that the perfect moment doesn’t come, but what when I try to kiss her too early?
If you do some research about this topic you will find a lot of dating blogs that claim that you should not kiss a girl too early.
This is complete bullshit!
The only consequence of worrying that it might be too early to kiss her is that it will always be too early and that you will end up doing nothing. You will think that it is too early when you meet her. You will think that it is too early when you walk her from the car to her house. Heck, you will even think that it is too early when you are back at her place and she already opened one button of her blouse.
It is never too early, but…
It Can Be Too Late
Whenever you ask yourself when to kiss a girl I want you to keep in mind that it is never too early. Even if the kiss comes too early for her, you can simply shift down a gear and try it again a couple of minutes later. No big deal.
It only starts to become a big deal when you are kissing her too late.
You are too late if she already lost all her sexual attraction, because you maneuvered yourself directly in the friend zone by not kissing her.
You are too late if her dripping wet pussy turned into a desert, because your inability to kiss her made her angry and frustrated.
You shouldn’t worry about going for the kiss to early but you should worry about missing your last chance to kiss her.
How to Not Miss Your Last Chance
What can you do to not destroy the sexual tension and to not miss your last chance? Even though kissing a girl should be a spontaneous event that you shouldn’t overthink too much, there are a few things that you have to avoid by all means.
If you are smart enough to avoid the following mistakes, your tongue is already half in her mouth.
Don’t Ask For Permission
While I did my research for this article I stumbled upon quite a few forums in which guys ask if it is cute/attractive/a good idea to ask a girl if they can kiss her. I really, really hope that the guys who ask this are in high school and still have a couple of years until they get their first pubes.
Asking a girl if it is okay to kiss her might be cute when you are ten and you try it with a girl in your class, but it is anything but cute when you have reached the age of consent and have the honorable goal to bang the shit out of her after you put your tongue in her mouth.
Don’t ever ask a girl for permission if you want to kiss her!
By asking her for permission you only communicate to her that you need to be 100% sure that what you are going to do will work. That’s not what I and the majority of women mean by being a confident man.
Looking her deep in the eyes and telling her that you want to kiss her, right before you actually do it is okay. Asking her if you can kiss her, because you are too afraid to do it without permission is not okay.
Don’t Wait For Permission
In the same way as you shouldn’t ask for permission you also shouldn’t wait for her permission. I have never been on a date with a girl who told me that now is the perfect time to kiss her. I have also never been on a date with a girl who held up a sign with “KISS ME NOW YOU DUMB FUCK!” In case you have ever been on a date with such a girl you have to give me her number, because I really want to meet her.
Women will give you the permission to kiss her with subtle signs and hidden hints.
The chance that she will give you the explicit permission is less than one percent.
You can either decide to wait for the permission that you will never get, or you can decide to live by your own rules and to give yourself the permission do what you want to do.
Don’t Give Up After the First Try
What if you gave yourself the permission to kiss her but she turned her head away or told you that it is too soon? The only thing you should do in this situation is to say sorry and to promise her that this will never happen again. At least that’s what you should do if you want to end up as a frustrated virgin with suicide fantasies.
I hope you already know that you shouldn’t take rejection personal. If not, read this article. A woman who tunes her head away or who tells you that it is too soon for her, does nothing else than rejecting you.
However, she only rejects you for the moment and if you try it again in a couple of minutes her reaction might be completely different.
At 8 pm it might be too soon but at 8.30 pm it might be the right time.
As long as she says that it is too soon or smiles while she turns her head away, you should try it again and again. The only time when you should accept a defeat is when she says “no!” while she looks at you with a serious face.
When to Kiss a Girl: The Signs for the Right Moment
As the aspiring global seducer who is willing to learn how to kiss a girl and when to kiss a girl, you will most likely not meet a lot of women who will refuse to kiss you after they agreed to meet you for a coffee.
All the other girls who just wait to feel you on their lips will let you know when they want to get kissed by you. I already said that girls won’t give you the explicit permission to kiss them but I also said that they will give you hints and signs that communicate their readiness to receive your lips.
Some girls will send you those signs on purpose and others will do it on an unconscious level without even realizing it. However, every girl who wants it will let you know in some way or another.
But first some advice from a hot blondie:
What do you think about her advice?
Let me know in the comments below and enjoy the following signs that show you that now is the right moment.
She Licks or Bites Her Lips
One thing that nearly all women do when they want to show you that it is time to do what you want to do, is licking their lips.
If a girl licks her lips and looks at you in a seductive way, you have the permission that you wanted so bad.
Sometimes they do it on purpose in the hope that you draw your attention to their delicious lips and sometimes they do it on an unconscious level, because the thought of kissing you turns them on that much, that they have to lick their lips.
Even though most women prefer subtle signs, so that nobody besides you can recognize what she does, there are some women who prefer more obvious signs, such as the lip bite. By doing this she wants to let you know that she can’t wait to finally kiss you. If you still ask yourself when to kiss a girl when she bites her lips while at you, not even god can help you.
Sentences that Start with “Sooo…”
Let’s imagine you had a pretty good date, you touched her here and there and you are standing at the bus stop. You are looking each other in the eyes and she suddenly starts her “sooo…”. If you don’t stop her from saying what she doesn’t really want to say by pressing your lips on hers, you are making a huge mistake.
Every so, umm and well that a woman uses at the end of a date has only ONE purpose.
By using those words she wants to let you know that this moment of quietness and peacefulness shouldn’t be wasted by doing nothing.
She Touches You
It is a fact that a woman who touches you is sexually attracted to you. When a woman leans against you, she wants you to hold her. When a woman touches your arm, she wants you to also touch her arm (and maybe her ass). Every subtle touch from a woman is a sign that she is sexually interested in you.
By touching you, women hope that you do the same and that you even increase the intensity. It is still your job to lead her towards the next stage of sexual escalation, even if she gives you a deep forward pass.
What does a woman want when she is sexually attracted to you? I know it’s a tricky question and I also know that the answer might surprise you but I have to say it anyway:
She wants to have sex with you!
What is the first stage of sexual escalation that is absolutely necessary in order to heat things up? Kissing!
She Stares at Your Lips
If you want to know when to kiss a girl it is not enough to look at her lips. You also have to become aware of how she looks at your lips. The desire to taste your moth can motivate her to lick and bite her own lips, but it can also trigger the need to touch, feel and to stare at your lips.
It can only have two reasons when a woman stares at your lips.
On the one hand, she imagines what you could do with them and on the other hand, she hopes that you realize what she wants.
She Hugs You for a Long Time
The last chance for a woman to convince you that kissing her wouldn’t be the worst idea is when you are about to say goodbye to each other. The hug before she goes home alone is the last time she can give you the sign to take action.
A woman who is sexually attracted to you doesn’t want to go home without knowing that you are also attracted to her. Therefore, she will give you one very obvious sign that should signalize you to kiss her.
Whenever a woman hugs you to say goodbye and she doesn’t seem to be in a hurry to let go off you, she wants you to turn your head and to press your lips against hers.
If you are too blind to recognize this obvious sign, she might even stand still in front of you, in the hope that you come to your senses.
Now that you know when to kiss a girl you have to promise me that you will give her the passionate kiss that she wants, whenever she gives you at least one of the signs that I talked about. Other than that I can only hope that you kiss her before she closes the door behind you.
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Summed Up Wisdom
If you want to know when to kiss a girl you should think twice before you even ask yourself this question. This question can motivate you to overthink the situation and to sabotage yourself. If you care too much about what she thinks and if you are still waiting for the perfect moment, you are wasting your time.
In order to find out when to kiss a girl, you have to understand that you can’t really kiss her too early, but you will lose her when you are too late. As a self-confident seducer you don’t ask her for permission and you also don’t wait until she gives you permission, because you know that this day will never come.
Instead of giving up after the first try, you keep on looking for signs. Whenever she licks or bites her lips, whenever she gives you a verbal hint and whenever she touches you in a certain way, you know what to do. Now you reached a point where you know instinctively when to kiss a girl.
Sebastian Harris says
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Hahahaha. My first kiss was awkward. This article should have come at an earlier time LOL. But interesting and very helpful points there. 🙂
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