Do you know what you should never say to a girl, unless you want to die a horrible and painful death?
Some guys find out what not to say to a girl by getting rejected over and over again. Others find it out by experiencing an angry girlfriend who runs out of the house while she screams “I want to break up with you”.
There are even some guys who only realize that they shouldn’t have said the things that they just said, after they have a drink in their face and a hand print on their left cheek.
To be honest, it is highly unlikely that you ever get slapped or get a drink poured in your face. That only happens in movies and not in real life. Believe me, I did some really fucked up stuff and I never had a drink in my face. I also never got slapped, even though one girl pretended to slap me which finally ended with me holding her arm and kissing her.
However, it is always helpful to know what to say to a woman and what not to say to a girl, at least if you want to have her vagina in your face and not her Martini…even though the Martini might taste better.
5 Things Not to Say to a Girl (Seriously, Don’t Do It)
Due to the fact that I talk a lot about being honest with women and communicating your sexual intent, I thought it might be a good idea to share a few sentences with you that you have to avoid, in case you want to get laid before the final apocalypse.
I think it is obvious that every interaction and consequent seduction starts with the approach. That’s why the first example of what you should never say to a girl is closely related with how you deliver your approach. In case you already came into contact with the seduction community, I am quite sure that you have heard this sentence, respectively this question, more than once.
#1 “Who lies more, men or women?”
If Mystery and Neil Strauss would have known what beast they unleash by making this sentence go public, they probably would have reconsidered writing THE GAME in the first place. It is your decision if you believe me when I say that approaching a girl with a direct compliment is better, or if you believe other pick up blogs that deal with indirect game.
Even if you dare to offend my feelings and push me to the edge of suicide by believing in indirect game, you have to promise me one thing:
Never, and I really mean never use the question “who lies more, men or women?” as an opener for your approach.
Every woman you approach this way instantly knows that you don’t give a fuck about who lies more. She knows that you are just too much of a pussy to tell her what you really want from her.
In addition to that, she probably has read THE GAME or some friends have advised her against talking to men who ask her whether men or women lie more. Just do yourself a favor and never say this sentence to a woman. It hasn’t worked back then, it doesn’t work now and it won’t work in the future.
#2 “Same here!”
Another thing you should never say to a girl, at least if you want her to respect you, is “same here”. I don’t want to be too precise about the wording, so I want to give you a few other sentences that have the same meaning and the same negative impact:
“I see it the same way”
“That’s exactly what I thought”
“I have no own opinion”
Sorry, I think the last sentence just slipped in without intention. Oh, wait. The last sentence is just the meaning of the aforementioned ones. By saying things, such as “same here” or “me too” to a woman you communicate that you don’t have your own opinion and that you just try to tell her what she wants to hear in order to collect some bonus points.
Unfortunately, this tactic doesn’t work.
Don’t get me wrong. Of course it is possible to have the same opinion as the girl you are trying to conjure out of her clothes. In case she mentions a movie that you also like, then let her know.
However, agree with her in a way that communicates that you really mean it and that you not just say it because you want to please her. Replace the “same here” with an explanation about why you have the same opinion. By doing this you will see how her reaction changes. On the surface it might look the same, but the context is completely different.
#3 “I want you to decide!”
Did you know that women are instinctively attracted to guys who show leadership qualities and who are able to lead them in a way that is based on mutual respect and empathy?
Good, because that’s a key principle that you have to understand when you are starting your journey of dating and seducing beautiful women all over the world.
No matter what country you go to, no matter what cultural background the women you date have and not matter how much influence the feminist movement had on this particular country…women are attracted to leaders.
I think I don’t have to tell you that making decisions is one of the most important tasks of a leader. You are the man and you make the decisions. The job of the woman is to balance the pros and cons of following your lead by accepting or dismissing your decision.
I have NEVER seen a happy relationship in which the girl made the decisions. In the eyes of a woman a man who is not able to make decisions is weak and anything but attractive, so why the hell would you want to put yourself in a position in which you are regarded as weak?
The fascinating truth is that way too many men apparently do it on purpose by telling their girlfriends that they should decide. “I want you to decide” is a sentence that should never leave your mouth. It shouldn’t even exist in your mind.
If you want to take a girl on a date and you decide that you would love to go to a Chinese restaurant, but she tells you that she has to vomit every time she comes too close to Chinese food, you should of course adjust your decision and go to a place where the chance that she will vomit on your shoes is significantly lower.
However, before you do that you fulfill your duty as a man and make the decision. If she is into you she will love to follow you.
It’s time that you become a leader.
If you really want to learn how to become a strong leader who knows exactly what women think and want, you have to check out my book.
#4 “Who was that?”
In case you are currently in a relationship and you tend to be the jealous type of guy you can definitely relate to the following situation.
Imagine you come home from work and your girlfriend is on the phone. She seems to have a lot of fun with the person on the other end of the line. She is laughing, giggling and excitingly talking about her last holiday. Somehow you get the feeling that she is too happy for just talking to a friend and it is also quite suspicious that she doesn’t mention that she spent her last holiday with you.
After she hangs up the phone she welcomes you with a kiss. The only thing you can think of in this moment is to ask her “who was that?”. Thank god you have read this article and are not as stupid as 90% of the jealous boyfriends out there.
You don’t verbalize your internal insecuritie, you don’t confront her with arbitrary allegations and you don’t start a fight that ends in a nasty breakup.
Congratulations, you didn’t show your girlfriend that you are a jealous and insecure little wimp. As a result, you are still her attractive boyfriend and not an annoying guy who she wants to get rid off.
You possibly can’t imagine the negative influence that a simple and allegedly innocent question like “who was that?” can have on your relationship. Even if she answers this question with “just a friend honey” while she smiles at you, she internally wants to kill you for having asked.
She knows that you don’t really care if she talked with her friend Tiffany from the yoga class or if she talked with Sandra, her friend from the book club. Even if you might really wanted to know with which friend she was talking, she will always interpret it the same way:
A self-confident man wouldn’t be jealous when his girlfriend is on the phone. An innocent and insecure man would.
#5 “Sorry, too Late!”
Have you ever dated a girl and you were in a situation in which you had to say “sorry, too late”?
When I think back to all the times I had to say this sentence to a girl I definitely remember that all the girls I said this to, wanted to kill me in the very moment I said it. The reason for this is because a man normally says this sentence only in two situations. he perfect place for this sentence is usually the bedroom…or wherever you decide to have sex.
One of the two situations in which I was forced to say this sentence was after a girl gave me a blowjob and she explicitly asked me to pull my dick out of her mouth before I come. Out of some ominous reason I somehow wasn’t able to fulfill her wish, which led to her having a full mouth and me trying to rescue my ass by saying “sorry, too late”.
The second situation I can remember was when I tried anal sex with a girl for the first time and she told me that I should be very careful and insert my dick slowly into her butthole. I was careful…really…but because of some ominous reason my dick was in her ass at a record time. The result was a short but intensive “ouch!” and the magic sentence “sorry, too late”.
From all the sentences you should never say to a girl that I have mentioned by now, this is the one sentence that is unavoidable.
There will come the time where you have to say it and where she will hate you for it.
The good news is that she will only want to kill you for a few seconds. After she calmed down, you will be glad that you ended up in a situation in which you saw yourself forced to say something that you should never say to a girl.
In case you are looking for even more stupid, weird and awkward things not to say to a girl you can check out the following video:
Summed Up Wisdom
Now you know the magical five sentences that you should never say to a girl. The first thing you should avoid is to approach her by asking her “who lies more, men or women?.” Even though Mystery and Neil Strauss would be very proud of you, I can guarantee you that you neither get her phone number nor a blowjob, if you approach her like that.
“Same here”, “me too”, “I have no own opinion”. These are all different sentences but the context is the same. By agreeing on everything a woman says without explaining to her why you agree isn’t a sign of confidence. Women are attracted to leaders and what do leaders normally do? They make decisions. What you should never say to a girl is “I want you to decide”. You are the man and you make the decisions. In case she is into you she will be more than happy to follow your lead.
The next time you catch your girlfriend talking on the phone with somebody, don’t ask her who that was, unless you want to communicate to her that you are jealous and insecure. Finally, if you should ever see yourself confronted with a situation in which you have to say “sorry, too late!”, just leave your dick where it is and enjoy the moment.