What do women want in a man?
Well, they want a guy who always listens to their problems, who buys nice and especially expensive presents for them and who gets along great with their mothers. They want a guy who provides them with financial security, who takes care of the children, even if they are from another man and who helps them in the household.
Why can’t you just be such a sweet guy and experience how amazing it is when women magically undress themselves in front of you without hesitating for one second?
Because that’s not how it works!
What Do Women Want in a Man
If you play the role of the walking ATM, the perfect son in law and the disillusioned wimp who washes up while she chats with the guy who is “only a friend”, you have most likely no clue what women really want in a man.
But besides being too nice there is also another extreme that some guys get trapped into, once they have read somewhere that you have to be an asshole to get girls. In the same way as women don’t want a guy to be the picture-book son in law and the desperate puppy who does everything for them, they also don’t want a guy who is so unpredictable that he threatens to kill his mother in law.
There is a fine line between love and hate and there is also a fine line between being a man who is loved by women and being a man who is hated by women.
Women don’t want a man who only represents one side of the extreme.
They want to have a guy in their life who masters the art of combining two worlds.
What do women want in a man?
They want a man who admires their female energy, while he lives out his masculine energy. They want a man who combines characteristics that are usually seen as incompatible.
It might sound a bit counterintuitive, but Leo knows exactly what I am talking about:
1. Honesty and Mystery
Even though a lot of guys have the misbelief that you should tell women what they want to hear, the opposite is true. Women are attracted to guys who are honest with them. They want men who have the courage to say what they want to say and to do what they want to do.
Authenticity and relentless honesty are key elements of attracting women. However, just because you should be honest doesn’t mean that you have to tell her every tiny detail and every story that you have ever experienced while you are on your first date.
Being honest is not the same as revealing everything about you. She wants to know what kind of person she will have sex with within the next two hours, but she doesn’t want to know what this person thinks about every event in the history of mankind.
There is a fine line between being honest and revealing too much about yourself.
What do women want in a man and why should you not list your whole CV during the first date?
Women can only allow themselves to spread their legs for you, if they trust you and this trust can only be established by sharing details about yourself and your life. However, she also wants to feel a certain level of excitement when she thinks about undressing herself in front of you. In order to feel excited she has to feel your mysterious side. There must be something about you that she doesn’t already know and that she hopes to find out the morning after.
2. Emotional and Physical Strength
Are you a strong man?
You don’t have to take steroids and you don’t have to look like Arnold Schwarzenegger in his best days in order to be a strong man. However, I don’t deny that you will have a slight dating advantage if you have a six pack instead of a one pack that is filled with bear and hamburgers.
In regards to our sexual instincts we are still in the Stone Age
It is only natural for women to feel safer with a guy who won’t get blown away with the next strong wind. Nevertheless, you don’t have to be a professional bodybuilder to get the ladies.
Your emotional strength is far more important than your physical strength and women instinctively know that in today’s society (at least in the Western world) an emotionally strong guy is way more valuable than a clone of Mr. Clean.
What do women want in a man? They don’t want a guy who starts to shiver and cry when he should solace her and they don’t want a guy who gives up whenever he has to face an obstacle. They want a man who hugs them when their world collapses and who moves on with his life even when he has to swallow a loss.
How do you get this emotional strength? It’s all about confidence.
3. The Dominant Gentleman
Every woman dreams about meeting a gentleman who is able to fascinate her with everything he does. From a small age on young women start to dream about a white knight who stretches out his hand to take her on an adventure. Thanks Disney!
How does the image of a gentleman look in today’s society?
He is dressed elegantly, he opens the door for her, he gives her a shoulder to lean on and he tells her how beautiful she is, whenever he sees her.
That’s what women dream about, but there is one thing that Disney doesn’t reveal.
When drawing Cinderella they didn’t consider that Cinderella wants to experience passionate, rough and mind-blowing sex with her prince.
What do women want in a man? They want a guy who has the qualities of a real gentleman, without losing the touch to his raw and dominant masculine energy.
It is very dangerous to step in the role of a typical nice guy, even though you think that you are her perfect gentleman. Always ask yourself if you do what you do, because you want to do it, or because you hope that she wants you when you do it. Be a gentleman who respects her but who also respects himself and his boundaries.
4. The Caring Leader
In the same way as women crave for a man who knows how to combine masculine dominance with the art of being a suave gentleman, they are looking for a man who combines leadership qualities with empathy.
The reason why women are drawn towards men who have leadership positions or who run their own successful businesses is not because of their money, but because those men have proven that they…
A: have a vision (more on that later)
B: are able and willing to lead.
Even though the politicians who came up with the insanity of the female quota will say that I lie, the truth is that women don’t want to lead. Women are the happiest when they follow a man’s lead. The tricky thing is that they don’t just follow any man’s lead.
Women are not stupid and the ones who are emotionally healthy will only follow your lead if you lead them in a way that is beneficial to them.
What does a woman want in a man who leads her in a beneficial way?
They want you to take care of them, to treat them with empathy and to show them that following your lead was the best decision of their life.
5. Playfulness and Reliability
Humor alone won’t get you laid and behaving like a dancing monkey is the most pathetic thing you can do, but being playful and making a girl laugh can be extremely good for your sex life, at least when you use it the right way.
What do women want in a man? They want a man who is playful in the bedroom, who cuddles them without forewarning and who teases them in a tender way.
Every girl loves to spend time with a guy who makes her laugh, while he is still able to make her cum.
What they don’t want is a guy who can’t behave in a social environment and who puts her in one awkward situation after another. Behaving against the social norm is great when you try to get rid of your fears, but not when you have a romantic dinner with your girlfriend.
Mixing your playfulness with the right amount of liability is absolutely essential. Women want a man who makes them laugh, but they don’t want someone who gets laughed at all the time. Be the man she can goof around and laugh with in private, but don’t be the man she is scared to be seen with in public.
6. The Respectful Sexist
I know that the media always tells you that being a sexist is bad and that women hate nothing more than sexist men. Well, this is complete bullshit. Women love sexist men and the more you learn about the art of flirting, the more you will find out that whatever you think will offend her, will actually make her horny.
Women love sexists because their behavior communicates self-confidence and the courage to say things that are outside the social norm. They also love the challenge to tame bad boys, which of course never works.
However, that doesn’t mean that you will get every woman by making sexist jokes and comments.
You will get her by mixing your sexist words with respectful behavior.
By treating her with respect and looking at her with respect, she will feel special. When you then sprinkle this feeling of being special with a little bit of sexism, both her romantic and her animal instincts will come into play.
7. See Her as a Reputable Sex Object
Every woman has two sides that couldn’t be more different. In public every woman wants to be seen as a reputable member of our society, as a hard working professional and in some cases as an ambitious leader.
This is all fine and dandy,but even the most reputable business woman who is feared by every male employee, wants to get fucked from behind and loves to have a dick in her mouth after her office hours.
Due to the social judgment that women still experience when they publicly live out their sexuality, the majority of women has two personas. Whenever she closes her bedroom door she switches from the role as a reputable member of our society into the role that she truly wants to live out…the role of the whore and slut.
No matter how uptight and respectable a woman acts in public, she still has sexual fantasies and she still wants to live out her submissive female energy.
What do women want in a man? They want a man who is willing to regard and treat them as the reputable woman she wants to be seen in public and at the same time she wants someone who is man enough to allow her to live out her sexual fantasies in private.
Women want to be seen as your sex object when they are with you in private, they want to turn you on and they love the feeling of being desired.
The only thing they don’t want is that other people know about that…
8. The Determined Visionary
I already said in the last article I wrote about getting girls interested in you, that it is important to have a vision and that women are instinctively attracted to guys who have a vision and who do whatever it takes to achieve their goals.
This shows strength, willpower, ambition and if you would ask me “what do women want in a man?” I would say that having a vision is an essential part of it. Even though women crave for visionaries, they won’t support your vision if you don’t turn rhetoric into action.
She will admire you when you tell her about your vision while you are working on a business plan, but she will lose all respect for you if you tell her that you want to become successful, while you are switching on the TV in order to watch another episode of CSI.
What do women want in a man?
She doesn’t want to hear that you are a visionary in order to be attracted to you, she has to feel it.
She wants a man who doesn’t only talk the talk, but who also walks the walk.
9. The Hard-Working Companion
A vision is important in every man’s life, but what do you have to do in order to fulfill your vision?
You have to work really, really hard on it. Hard work is important but only to a certain extent. There is a reason why so many college relationships fail after both partners start to work full-time.
You can’t come home every single day after 12 hours in the office, without the energy to get an erection and expect to have a happy relationship.
Women want men who can take care of their business and their well-being.
She wants to admire you for your hard work but she also wants to enjoy the time with you as her companion and partner. I know from my own experience that it can be hard to find the right balance between fulfilling your vision and fulfilling the needs of a girl who loves you. Thank God my girlfriend lets me know whenever I am unbalanced.
10. The Rough Romantic
What do women want in a man? They want a romantic guy. We all know that every girl dreams about a guy who lays her down on a bed of roses while he whispers in her ear that he will always love her.
Yes, sometimes women dream about having a little bit more romance in their life, but they not only want to be bedded on roses, they also want to get fucked on that bed.
Being romantic is great. Being too romantic can be annoying.
If you start to cry every time after you had sex with her, before you are singing a song to express your feelings for the wonderful time you shared, you will scare her away faster than a guy who has the word AIDS tattooed on his dick.
Sometimes she wants to have slow, soft and romantic sex with you but you would be naive to think that this is always the case. Sometimes she wants to have aggressive, rough and intense sex that makes her whole body shiver.
The key to satisfying a woman is to be able to give her the best of both worlds.
11. The Vulnerable Protector
I already told you that women are attracted to men who are physically and especially emotionally strong. Unfortunately, a lot of guys confuse being strong with showing no feelings at all.
Hiding and suppressing your feelings doesn’t automatically make you a strong man.
Women want someone who is strong and who can protect them, not someone who pretends to be invulnerable. While you think that showing no feelings demonstrates the necessary strength to protect her, the truth is that it only shows that you are too weak to confront your own emotions.
Women instinctively know that the guys who are strong and who can protect them are the ones who are strong enough to face their own emotions and to show their vulnerability in their presence. Having this ability shows real strength.
12. The Intelligent Cavemen
I already mentioned that we human beings are basically still in the Stone Age. It is true that we are nowadays more connected to our smartphones than to ourselves, but that doesn’t change the fact that our sexual desires and instincts haven’t changed in the last thousand years.
Men would still fuck everything that has an amazing body, juicy tits and an ass to die for and women are still attracted to confident and strong leaders. In other words, women have been and will always be attracted to the typical caveman who has the balls to do what he wants to do and to take what he wants.
However, being bold and direct isn’t that effective when you are dumb like a piece of bread.
A few thousand years ago the most intelligent caveman was the one who picked the perfect wood for a proper fire.
Today the most intelligent caveman is the one who will most likely have the most financial and social success in life.
Having the balls to approach a girl is absolutely necessary, but you also need at least a few brain cells to knock her socks of. Going to the gym every day is good but reading a book after your workout is even better.
13. The Loyal Guy Who Expects Loyalty
What do women want in a man? They want a man who is loyal. In case you think that I am going to give you a sermon on how important it is to always be faithful to a woman and to never have sex with another girl for the rest of your life, you misunderstood the concept of loyalty (just like 99% of all other people).
Yes, women want men who are loyal to them, but loyalty doesn’t have to do anything with sexual exclusiveness. I am loyal to my girlfriend, but our relationship is not based on sexual exclusivity. I love her, I care for her, I support her and I am always there for her when she needs me.
This is real loyalty!
I know some guys who judge me for not being monogamous and who don’t love, support and treat their girlfriends the way I do.
Guess who has the happier relationship?
In the same way as a woman expects loyalty from you, she also expects you to expect loyalty from her.
All the girls (and I really mean all) who I dated and who were okay with the fact that I didn’t want to be monogamous, expected from me to demand loyalty from them. Whenever I said that they can do whatever they want with whomever they want, they didn’t even listen to me. They wanted me to tell them that they should be faithful. A man who demands loyalty gives women the feeling that he actually cares about them.
14. The Sincere Adventurer
What do women want in a man?
Do they want a guy who is completely predictable, boring and who never left his shitty home town, or do they want an adventurer who brings excitement into their life?
If a girl would have to choose between a boring accountant and a guy like Indiana Jones, she will definitely choose the exciting and well-traveled adventurer.
Unless she looks for someone who can provide for her baby that another guy put in her belly, she will always choose the adventurer.
Women are drawn towards adventurers, to men who live exciting lifestyles, to Global Seducers like you and me. They love the excitement, the adrenaline and the passion that a relationship with men like us gives them.
Even though they love us, they always have one fear when they are together with us. They are afraid that we are just like the other guys who promised her the world and lied to her.
It is your job to take this fear away and to give her the world instead of promising it to her. Be honest and tell her exactly what she can expect from the time you share with her. Don’t make any promises you can’t keep. The only thing you should promise her is that the time with you will be the most memorable time of her life. Better keep this promise…
Summed Up Wisdom
What do women want in a man? They want a mysterious guy who is honest with them and someone who is emotionally and physically strong. Being a gentleman is great, but don’t lose touch with your raw masculine energy. The want to be led from a guy who cares about them and they want to have fun with someone they can trust.
Women want to be respected and they want to be seen as reputable members of society but at the same time they crave for men who allow them to release their inner slut. A woman wants someone who works on his visions and who still doesn’t forget that she is an important part of his life.
In order to fascinate women you have to be romantic, intelligent and you have to be okay with your vulnerable side, but you also have to be a caveman who is able to protect her and to release his rough side when she wants it. She wants a guy who is loyal to her and who expects loyalty from her. When you are sincere, she will want you, even if the form of loyalty you give her doesn’t involve sexual exclusivity.