“I feel your pain…”
That’s what I wanted to say to the poor bastard I was staring at.
He looked at me and he knew exactly what I was thinking. And I knew what he was thinking. He wanted to run, but she was holding his hand.
I could see in his eyes that he wanted to have the woman who was sitting next to me, or the one who was sitting next to her. The only woman he didn’t want to kiss, hug, and sleep with was the one who was holding his hand.
She looked angry. Or should I better say desperate?
No, I wasn’t sitting in a bar at Soi Cowboy. I was in the skytrain on my way to the language school for another fun Thai lesson. Yes, I was about to have fun. The guy staring at me like a dead zombie who prayed for salvation looked as if he was about to commit suicide.
To be honest, I experience this every day. Just another Western couple. Today they are American, tomorrow they are German, and the next day they are Australian. It’s always the same picture and I want to cry whenever I see it.
You’ll see the same miserable and painful picture when you visit me in Bangkok and look at Western couples…
Shit, What Have I Done?
Sometimes he’s in his 50s, sometimes in his 40’s and sometimes they are both in their 20s. No matter how old they are, it’s always the same picture.
- It’s obvious that he takes care of his body while she eats whatever she wants.
- She has the typical pissed facial expression that only Western girls can make.
- He’s only together with her because he thought that he can’t get anything better.
You just have to look at these guys and you know that they have never left the West, at least not without their girlfriends and without booking an all-inclusive resort that’s far away from the local life and the local women.
It’s even more painful when you see a ring on his finger that he nervously plays with while he looks at all the slim and beautiful Asian girls in the train, then back at the overweight monster he married, and then to me...begging me to rescue him from a situation that he has created.
“Shit, what have I done?”
It’s always the same question that I see in the eyes of these men. They realize that they made a big mistake and the younger they are, the more pain I see in their eyes.
The Realization that there’s Still Hope
The old guys have already given up on life.
A life of indulging in daydreams, regretting their life choices, and watching porn because it’s more enticing than having sex with the whale who sleeps next to them has turned these men into dead meat.
They already feel dead. They just swallow their pain while they think about the hot girl they masturbated to last night while their wife was snoring right next to them.
What about the young guys?
They don’t just think “Shit, what have I done?”
They also realize “Shit, I still have a choice!”
This realization can lead to even more suffering because it forces them to take responsibility for their action (or inaction). And guess what? Realizing that you are responsible for your own misery and that you could change if you wouldn’t be such a compliant and lazy bitch is fucking painful.
Now it’s on you to change your life. It’s on you to get out. It’s on you to get what you truly want and deserve.
But you need to change and change is scary.
It is way easier to let her squeeze your hand, drag you out of the skytrain and look into her angry and embittered eyes for the rest of your life…or at least until she can’t fit through the door anymore.
Yes, it’s terribly painful for him, but it’s even more painful for her…
The Moment She Realizes the Truth
What’s the truth?
Well, the truth is that she…
…can’t compare with her…
This realization hits her like a sledgehammer.
“But Sebastian, Western women must know that they can’t compete with foreigner girls. I don’t understand how this can hit them so hard…” I hear you saying.
The answer: They don’t know!
They don’t because their culture told them sweet little lies that they were dumb enough to believe…
- Men are attracted to strong and independent women.
- Having a career is the only way to get respect from men.
- It’s cool to drink, party, and fuck around in your 20s.
- When you’re married, you can finally eat whatever you want.
Wrong! Wrong! And wrong!
It hurts me when I think about all the Western women I know from work, college, and even in my social circle who fell into this trap.
They are all unhappy (many of them take antidepressants) and single. Others will soon be single if they continue like that.
The truth is that…
- Men are attracted to feminine and caring women.
- Supporting HIS vision and goals is the only way to get respect from a man.
- If you drink, party and fuck around in your 20s, you will look like 40 when you’re in your 30s.
- No man wants to be together with a woman who stops caring.
This female Bangkok expat realized the truth...
However, the shocked and angry Western women I see in the skytrain never thought about these things. They didn’t have to because in the West every woman believes the same things and has the same not giving a fuck attitude.
What about the Asian girls they look at as if they wanted to slit their throats and burn their corpses?
White Female Asian Female Racism in Action
Watching a white woman holding the hand of her hubby while staring at an Asian girl is more frightening than watching a Ku Klux Klan member staring at Barack Obama…
Who would have thought that racism has big thighs, a fat belly, and short hair?
I’ll never forget the day when my Thai girlfriend hid behind my back because she was scared of some Western woman staring at her.
The eyes of the Western woman say more than a thousand words…
- I want to kill you for having such a perfect body.
- You look like a slut with your long hair and tight pants.
- If you look at him, I will slit your throat.
I think we would all agree that having racist thoughts is a far more effective way to keep your man than to rethink your cultural conditioning, to improve yourself, and to reconnect with your feminine side, right?
Good luck with that...
Summed Up Wisdom
I’ll continue to enjoy looking at Western couples in Bangkok.
But I don’t know if I should cry because I’m happy that I have a beautiful Asian girlfriend or because I feel deeply sorry for the man whose hand gets squeezed as if it was a lifeline…