Let’s have a look at the most common reasons for sexual frustration that you suffer from.
Ready for a little shock to start with?
In case you are currently not experiencing the fulfillment of your deepest desires, you are probably NOT a happy man.
I am sorry to say this but it is completely senseless to tell yourself that your life is one amazing adventure, if you haven’t had sex for about a year.
Nearly everything that we men do and that we try to achieve is motivated by the goal to attract women. The reasons why most men work themselves to death in the hope that they will get that promotion, is not because they hope that their retirement fond gets bigger. They do this because they subconsciously hope that a higher stress level at work leads to a higher chance to get a trophy wife.
Yep, social conditioning did a great job in making you believe that being the head of your department makes women wet.
The urge to have sex with a physically attractive woman is an omnipresent feeling that has the power to make you a happy and fulfilled man, at least when you act upon your desires and put your dick inside a delicious pussy.
What if you ignore your sexual desires and what if you don’t get what you need?
What if all the sexual energy and power that is within you fizzles out without ever having the chance of getting released?
The result of this unused and wasted energy is nothing but misery and frustration that makes it impossible to ever life a fulfilled life.
However, just because you are living in a state of sexual frustration, doesn’t mean that you can’t change this state. The first step towards solving a problem is to become aware of the causes. This allows you to analyze and eradicate the problem.
“Fuck you…I don’t want to sleep with you. I wanna stay sexually frustrated” said no man ever
1. Sexual Frustration Through Complexes
How long is your dick?
Mine is 25 cm and I know from my experience with women that every guy whose dick is under 25 cm is a complete loser in bed who will never be able to satisfy a woman.
You and your average dick are doomed to end dry and lonely!
Joking apart, my dick is not 25 cm. To be honest, my dick is maybe about 1 cm longer than the national average. And even if it would be a few centimeters shorter than the national average I wouldn’t have any reason to sing the blues.
Knowing how to use your dick is way more important than having a bigger dick than a rhinoceros.
Unfortunately, a lot of men have severe complexes when it comes to the shape and the size of their penis. However, there is absolutely no reason to have such complexes. I know that porn movies, Hollywood movies and sometimes even some mainstream magazines conditioned you to believe that girls only go for the extremely hung football players.
This is simply not true and the only reason why a lot of institutions in our society want you to believe in this myth is because they want to sell small but very expensive pills to you that promise a few additional millimeters.
2. Sexual Guilt
Did you know that you are a sinner if you decide to live out your sexuality?
Did you know that you’ll end up in hell when you have sex before marriage?
Did you know that you are a bad person when you have sex without being in a strictly monogamous relationship?
And what’s even more important:
Did you know that all the rhetorical questions I just asked you are complete bullshit?
One reason why so many men (and women) live in a state of constant sexual frustration is because their sexual guilt that makes it impossible for them to enjoy sex.
As a result of this they avoid sexual contact wherever they can.
My mentor and good friend Sasha Daygame knows how dangerous sexual guilt can be:
In order to live a fulfilled sex life you have to overcome all those limiting beliefs that were caused by years of social conditioning.
Maybe your parents were religious, maybe your jealous friends criticized you for having multiple girlfriends and maybe you are one of those poor guys who believe angry feminists when they blare in the camera that saying hello to a woman is sexual harassment.
No matter what issues you have, unless you overcome your sexual guilt you will never be able to live a fulfilled life, nor to fulfill the life of a woman.
To be honest, I wouldn’t have overcome my sexual guilt without Hypnotica’s powerful hypnosis.
3. Suppressed Desires
Tell me about your deepest desires. Tell me all the kinky stuff that is in your brain that you wouldn’t even tell your best friend. Share your deepest fantasies with me and let me know what’s going on in your brain.
What, you can’t do that…why? What is holding you back?
I know why. You are afraid that other people think that you are a pervert when you would tell them the truth. You are terrified that people will judge you when you say that you are attracted to younger women, even though this is true for nearly EVERY man.
You fear that other people judge you for having the desire to try out some kinky BDSM shit like urethral play for an instance, even though women masturbate to books like Fifty Shades of Grey. You couldn’t handle the eyes that stare at you with despite when you would reveal that your deepest desire is to have a threesome with two sexy Asian girls.
No matter what fantasies you have, I am convinced that there is at least one that you consider as too embarrassing to reveal and to dangerous to live out. In case you have already promised yourself that you will never live out your deepest desires, I have to tell you the truth about your situation.
Suppressing your sexual desires might work for a short period of time but in the long run they will always come to light.
If you live with the fallacy that your desires will go away, you will become more and more miserable with every day you suppress your desires. I think we all know what terrible consequences it can have if you try to suppress your sexuality for your whole life…
Don’t settle for a life of sexual frustration, just because you are afraid that somebody will judge you for your fantasies.
As long as you don’t harm anyone, you have the right to experience your sexuality the way you want to experience it.
Stop suppressing your sexual desires and find out what women really want in bed (Warning: It’s sexist as hell!)
4. Porn
In case you watch a lot of porn movies, chances are high that you are a sexually frustrated wimp. I know that hardcore movies are extremely easy to access and that they promise instant relief, but not every quick fix is a good solution. The promise to get relief with just a mouse click can easily lead to a life of quiet desperation.
I mean, why should you try to overcome your fears if all you have to do to “sleep with” amazing women is to turn on your laptop?
Why would you invest the time and effort to approach and date girls, if you can have ten naked girls in your living room by clicking on a screen?
Porn has the power to suck your motivation to meet women in real life.
Porn might give you the instant release in form of a quick orgasm but all the other aspects that make sexual relationships worthwhile get left out.
You won’t experience the life-changing confidence boost when you finally overcome your fears of women. You won’t experience the proud feeling of seducing a beautiful woman. You won’t experience the affection, love and respect from a woman who snuggles up to you after you gave her multiple orgasms.
A man who misses all those feelings in his life can’t be happy.
5. Wrong Expectations
Another common reason for sexual frustration is having the wrong expectations. We are constantly bombarded by advertisement, porn movies, mainstream movies and music that women are those perfect creatures with completely flawless bodies.
You might not believe it, but she has wrinkles and she farts like an elephant after she ate too many burriots
Women are portrait as perfect dolls that have nothing in common with a real human being.
I once had a conversation with a young guy that shocked me and that showed me how sick this conditioning really is. He told me that he and his girlfriend had sex for the first time and that he was confused when they tried out doggy style. He told me that he thought something was wrong with her, because her asshole had a slightly different color than the rest of her skin.
I was completely speechless.
This young man watched so many porn movies with girls who had bleached assholes, that he thought this was normal. Not only porn but also other forms of mainstream media constantly advertise photoshopped flawless women who smell like roses and shit glitter.
As stupid as it sounds but these wrong expectations are the cause for a lot of sexual frustration in men. Maybe you are one of the guys who are completely shocked when you find out that the asshole of your girlfriend doesn’t smell like lavender.
6. Bad Experiences
Bad experiences can also be a major reason for sexual frustration. If you think that only women can have bad sexual experiences you are completely wrong. I also had one experience that I don’t want to relive.
I once approached a girl who was down to fuck from the minute I met her. When she came back to my place she was extremely receptive to my compliments and to the way I touched her. I never forget the moment when I kissed her for the first time. Something must have snapped in her brain. She suddenly transformed from a regular horny girl into a sexual vampire.
I actually like rough sex but the stuff that she did was too much for me.
She bit my lip so hard that it started bleeding and after I finally threw her out I had to wear a scarf for two weeks because she left a hickey on my neck that was bigger than my balls.
Even though I locked the door twice for the following days, I didn’t allow this negative experience to dictate my life. No matter if a girl laughs because you can’t get it up or attempts to rape you like the one I met, you have to get over such things if you don’t want to end up miserable.
7. Sexual Dysfunctions
There are a lot of different sexual dysfunctions that we men have to battle with, but the most common ones are definitely erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation.
Of course a successful seducer like me doesn’t even know how these problems are spelled, right?
Why Does This Have to Happen to Me?
Wrong. I haven’t met one professional seducer in my life who didn’t admit that he had to deal with it at least once in his life. The men who tell you that they never had those problems are lying to you.
Show me the man who has never had any problem to get it up and who never came in a woman in under 20 minutes and I will show you Jesus Christ in person.
Most men lie when you ask them if they ever had to deal with a sexual dysfunction. I won’t lie to you. I admit that I had experiences in the past where I was so nervous that I couldn’t get it up and I also had experiences where I came after one minute.
This is completely normal. The only way overcome those issues is by gaining more experience in the bedroom. Being ashamed of it only motivates you to avoid experiences that can lead to sex. This self-sabotaging behavior ultimately leads to a lot of sexual frustration.
8. Monogamous Relationships
Do you want to know something that no marriage and relationship counselor will ever reveal to you?
If you are living in a long-term monogamous relationship you will be quite shocked and if you just escaped out of one you will probably feel relieved.
The unspeakable truth is that monogamy is a major reason for sexual frustration.
At the beginning of a relationship everything is amazing. You are in love, you desire every inch of her body and you want to fuck her all day long. After about three months this desire slowly fades away. You start to gaze after other women and you spend more time on Pornhub than in the bedroom. After about a year you don’t even touch her anymore when you are showering together.
Our society tries so hard to convince everyone that a long-term monogamous relationship (with kids and white picket fence) is the path to fulfillment that they try dissuade you from believing that your sexual frustration might be linked to the fact that you have banged the same women for 986 times in a row.
Honey, I just posted on Facebook that we are a having a romantic evening with champagne and massages, is that okay?
I don’t say that happy mongogamous relationships don’t exist, but if you are miserable and you don’t want to sleep with your partner you should stop denying what’s obvious.
It might be worth considering if it wouldn’t be smarter to move on and to live a sexually fulfilled life, instead of wasting away in a relationship that only brings fulfillment on the photos on Facebook.
9. Modern Feminism
“raaape!”
“Don’t sexually harass women!”
“Kill Julien Blanc for making funny videos!”
Modern feminism has a huge impact on the level of sexual frustration that men experience nowadays. If you hear all day long that you are bad when you talk to women, that you are a pervert when you want to have sex with women and that you are a misogynist for seeing women as sex objects, there comes the point at which you start to believe it.
If you believe all of this you will start to feel bad whenever you gaze after a woman and whenever you think about approaching one. As a result, you won’t allow yourself to meet girls, let alone to approach them with a sexual intent. The truth is that the men who ignore those tirades of hate get laid left and right.
There are millions of women out there who appreciate the fact that they were born as women and who desire sexually confident men.
Find those women and ignore the ones who cause sexual frustration all over the world.
10. Your Inability to Seduce Women
Another very common cause for sexual frustration is the inability to seduce women. The equation is very easy. If you don’t approach women, you can’t date women and therefore the chance of having sex with women is very low.
What if there were scientifically proven techniques make women emotionally and sexually addicted to you?
Summed Up Wisdom
What are the most common reasons for sexual frustration? If you have complexes because you think that your penis is too small and if you suffer from sexual guilt, you probably won’t be happy at the moment. Don’t ever suppress your desires and don’t waste all your sexual energy while jerking off in front of a screen.
I don’t care if you had bad experiences and if you have wrong expectations of women who shit glitter. Overcome that shit and become the man you want to become. Sometimes you have setbacks in form of sexual dysfunctions and sometimes you have to fight with sexual frustration in a monogamous relationship. Those things are completely normal.
Modern feminism also contributes to sexually frustrated men all over the world who believe that every form of sexual expression is a crime. But don’t worry, you can ignore this gibberish and learn to seduce the women that you truly want.
It all starts with a simple decision to finally leave all your sexual frustration behind you and to go down the rabbit hole…
Thanks Alexander
Yeah well your article makes quite a lot of sense
Thanks for your feedback
Well this article shows that it’s really spot on with all the accurate evidence being listed above,well for having bad experiences as you’ve mentioned it’s not listed in my personal criteria as stated
Hey Angelo,
desire for sexual and emotional intimacy are normal. It only leads to frsutration if you don’t have the skills to fulfill your desire. That’s why I’m here to help.
Well, in my case (male, 28 years) this completely wrong.
My desire for sex and relationships didn’t bring the joy and happiness I was expecting, but a lot of misery, pain and frustration.
After that, I starten doing Nofap and sexual transmutation. That means I abstain from all sexual activity and use my sexual energy for something else.
I get what you mean. And yes, there are some women who try to use sex as a way to get men in a relationship. But definitely not all.
Preach it!
They need to learn that relationships are not about him being what she wants exclusively.
Sebastian. Most women charge “relationships” for access to vagina. “Relationships” mostly benefit women.
The women that are interested in “relationships” with me are more like apprentices than anything (I’m the smarty pants type and therefore attract women that want to learn)
The moral of the story is she wants to date a guy who adds something more than orgasms even though that is the only reason to be together. Everything else is called having friends.
You want it from preselected men…not men in general
Stop leading the average dude to think he can change the fact that you never wanted him and won’t ever unless you get hungry and he has stuff.
Hey buddy,
I understand where you are coming from. That’s exactly why I dedicated this site to global dating.
Hey Sapy,
those “flashes in your mind” are totally normal. You are a man and you want sex. Totally natural. I know how you feel. What you need to do is to approach women and get laid/ or in your case find the right girl. And by the way, just because you don’t earn enough doesn’t mean that a girl can’t fall for you.
I am 27, I am feeling like that I have caged a beast inside me, I dont want to have sex with random girls so I want to get married, bt I dont earn enough so that I can fall in love or marry, alot of times when I see an attractive woman between 25-40 yrs, I feel crazily attracted towards her, I will never ever force anyone, bt I get flashes in my mind about her nude bodies, I dont know what I am turning into, I was such a nice guy, I cant talk to anyone about me, just cant concentrate on my work, my mind is killing me, help me buddy
That’s not true at all. If you end up with emotionally damaged girls and gold diggers you are right, but there are plenty of amazing, loving and supportive women on this planet who have strong traditional relationshp values. Maybe you are searching in the wrong countries 😉
Some girls smell really nice
“homer simpson with long hair” I am still laughing 😛
The majority of women do not look like playmates, they do not look like models, they do not look like the women in glossy magazine, or the women on billboards trying to sell us electric razors and beer; the average American woman looks a bit more like Homer Simpson with long hair, after about age 35. No one is going to release their sexual energy into her. And she knows it.
You don’t have to sell your soul to the devil, all you need to do is find a girl and marry her, it may amount to the same thing.
That said, maybe some of these women are trying to be a challenge? I have met women who behave that way but after a while they come around, say like when I show zero interest in them and they are desperate for a little attention.
Hey, what you are saying is valid. First chick I ever nailed reeked, I think it’s called “rotten pussy”! But I was just a young guy and didn’t know any better, but damn she left some stink on my dick! Since then, I have found that all women have some natural body odor down there, because obviously there are bacteria of some kind or another everywhere, most women do not smell bad, but there is a distinct odor and you have to get used to it. That said, one of the reasons you always want to wash up immediately after tapping twat is so that the bacteria that are in her juices which have descended onto your balls do not have the opportunity to form a colony on your balls. Because I suspect you do not want your balls smelling like some chicks twat.
I am just not interested in dating / relationships with women anymore. Their partner-values are at an all time low and the costs of being with them at an all time high. I am quite surprised that after a period of abstinence I really don’t have much of a libido at all, which is really a blessing. Relationships these days are more trouble than they are worth.
I think you were just very unlucky. There are a lot of girls who smell absolutely delicious.
I had a bad experience with the bad odour of a few women over the years and consequently it has affected my whole approach to women. I immediately feel I’m about to experience the same bad odour again with every woman I date. Basically, it has turned me off women before I even get into the sexual end of things. At the same time I would feel very guilty about having to tell a women I’ve lost interest in her because of her bad body odour which I may encounter when we get down to sex.
He is right! 😉
Paul you should also read 3 steps to sex 😉
true words.
Hey Paul,
I know what you mean. As a first step you can sign up for my free email bootcamp, which consists of 16 lessons that teach you everything from the approach to the date. In case you have any additional questions you can shoot me an email.
I really need help when it comes to talking to women and seducing them into taking things to the next level with me if you know what I mean.
sport and Vitamin D is always good
Also if you feel depressed, take 30 minutes a day to do sport, and take supplements, lake of some nutriments and physical activity is hightly correlated to depression.
Also you should try to be happy by focusing on other things that you love in life, and where you are successfull, if you are really happy, the right woman will be attracted to you. (that’s my theory at least)
Hey Nick,
of course I try to help you to get better with women, but I don’t try to transform you into actors. In fact, I encourage you to be honest and authentic in the presence of women. Yes, there is a lot of competition, but you have a lot of competition whenever you want to achieve something that is worth achieving. Before you think about killing yourself you should write me an email and I can see how I can help you!
Your trying to make us perfect or actors with women. Its impossible. We make mistakes.
I learned a lot and i still suck. Women either flake on me or not interested.
I’m 38 and at this point i just want to get married. Its not normal its so hard to meet.
The very few relationships i had was internet sites. Real world all i hear is i have a boyfriend.
I’m direct when i ask them out or asking for the number. And i have a sense of humor. So its not lack of confidence. Its all about the looks(even though im in shape and dress well). The problem too many guys and a lot of competition. Help me cause i feel like killing myself.
Thanks a lot for your interesting comment. I hope that you are not one of the guys who outright refuse to play. Remember, not ALL women hate men.
I know that you don’t give up 😉
haha 🙂
I was listening this while doing my sport :
http://www.davidwygant.com/whats-your-excuse/
You see even him says that you can only chase in your league 😉 (21″)
What I find most interesting lately is how men are shamed for NOT “being able” to “get sex”. Women are notorious for shaming men openly about this, with such statements as “He probably can’t get laid” or “Loser/virgin” remarks. In fact, if you have anything negative to say about modern feminism whatsoever, you’re immediately cast as a socially inept “loser neck-beard virgin woman hater” who lives in his mother’s basement.
I think the shaming of men is part of our evolution because it encourages men to avoid this shame, and thus compete. When men compete, women have better mate selection and, of course, they want the best possibly mates they can get. The better the average male is in the pool, the better the average female will “do”. And, these days, there is more to mate selection than just good genes for breeding. Women do very well by getting the creme of the crop -> more resources, larger houses, better lifestyle, more travel, more conveniences, more work flexibility… Surely it’s obvious why women swoon over the most competitive men and have vile contempt for those who can’t (or simply refuse) to compete. Those who outright refuse to play (i.e., MGTOW) are shamed endlessly and if you look at the wording of the insults, it’s focused on highly sexually charged language, again surrounding the “can’t get laid” and “virgin” and “can’t do well with women” memes.
More ironic still is that when you argue with a feminist and she starts to lose (or just gets tired of the debate) they will show what is really at the core of their belief system: hatred for men. But not ALL men, just men who refuse to kowtow to their every demand and privilege.
Face it. Women being the sought after sex is a privilege that trumps the entire sum of any possible privileges men are said to enjoy.
One day I’ll coach you in France 😉
Like you know we disagree about the fact that some men just can’t get a beautifull woman because of their looks 😉
He is right 😉
that’s why I do what I do 🙂
this means that I can’t be too wrong 😉
I’m astoniched by the number of women (i guess given the names) who read you and who commented this article in particular…
Easy to say…it’s just that some of us just can’t get a woman willing to have sexe with us…
Also you should read Sébastian Harris’s e-book. The price is more that honnest…it’s almost given ! And just apply what he teaches…
Hey Derek,
online dating can be a lot harder than meeting women in real life. I am pretty sure that you are a great guy who just needs a few skills and you’ll improve a lot. Feel free to shoot me an email if you have any questions!
I’m trying to meet women but it seems they’re all unresponsive and give me the run around? Im a poor 22 year old white guy trying to meet women thru the internet because all the girls are stuck up to me. I’m starting to feel ugl and I’m actually genuinely nice. How do I fix it? I’ll sell my soul to the devil if I must and I’m being literal! Help!
Hey Selina, some guys jsut don’t know how good it feels! 😉
Thanks Ashley. It’s good to hear that from a woman 😉
Suppressed desires is such a big reason for sexual frustration. You are absolutely right when you say “what is holding you back?” Come on guys: Release your sexual desires. That’s what we want 😉
The suppressed sexuality is true but also: Guys, stop watching porn! is having sex with women really so bad? 😛
Appreciate this post.
thanks a lot
May I simply say what a comfort to uncover a person that really understands what they’re talking about on the internet.
You definitely realize how to bring a problem to light and make it important.
More people ought to check this out and understand this side of the story.
I can’t believe you aren’t more popular because you surely have the gift.
thanks!
thanks Trena
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