You’re here because you want to know the signs she is using you.
Oh man, I’m so sorry.
The feeling that she’s not honest with you sucks. The feeling that your relationship isn’t real is even worse. I’ve been there. There was a time before I learned how to meet and attract hot girls. That was way before I wrote my book Rise of the Phoenix.
I got used by more girls than I can count on my fingers.
But do you know what hurt the most?
This one girl dated me for a very specific reason. Her name was Melanie and I was so into her. God, I was so naïve. She didn’t even like me. But her ex-boyfriend knew me and that was enough for her to turn me into the bait.
He got jealous and asked her to get back together.
I cried my eyes out and promised myself to never fall for this trick again. I kept this promise until today. And today I want to show you how to tell If a girl is using you for money, attention, help, as a backup, or as a rebound.
Look at the signs and say “never again”…
How to Tell if a Woman is Using You (All the Signs)
Why is she doing that?
That’s a good question and there’s no easy answer. I love women but I can’t deny that not all women are angels. Some guys suck. Some girls suck. That’s life. Some women are narcissistic, callous, and downright evil.
That’s true, but here’s what’s also true:
You’ll hate me for saying this. You might even close this article and promise yourself to never visit my site again. But I have to take this risk because I want to help you. I want you to wake up and to grow from this painful experience.
Here’s what you have to understand:
She can only use you if you allow her to do it.
Eventually, you’ll realize that it’s the truth. Heck, I’ve been used by so many women and I wish I had realized it a lot sooner.
It hurts but the truth is that I allowed it to happen.
What about you?
It’s time to learn from your mistakes and to reclaim your power…
Signs She is Using You for Your Money
Gold digger alert!
Wait! Before you scream “all women are ruthless gold diggers es blah blah blah”, I want you to understand one thing: Not all women are digging for money. Unfortunately, you've seen too many of these obviously fake gold digger pranks to believe me...
Here's the truth:
percentage of women who are ruthless gold diggers is small
However, they are extremely good at chasing guys with money. In case you have a lot of cash, they will chase you. All the normal girls wait until you make the first move.
Here’s why this is a problem:
Here are the signs that you got trapped…
1. She Always Expects You to Pay
What if she expects you to pay for her coffee on the first date?
I usually don’t pay for girls on dates, but that doesn’t mean that she’s using you for money. One drink or one coffee doesn’t make her a gold digger. If she’s from a traditional country, she expects you to pay. It’s normal.
But what if…?
Here’s what I would say to her:
“Get a job and get out of my house!”
2. She Expects Gifts But Doesn’t Give
Here’s how to tell if a girl is using you for money:
It’s Christmas and…
What about her?
She tortured you with her wish list since her birthday. Now that you think about it. She also didn’t buy you a birthday present, even though you bought her the new IPhone. What about Valentine’s Day? The same story.
This girl expects gifts but never gives anything in return.
She deserves a special Christmas gift:
How about a hand-written letter that explains that she can date Santa Claus?
3. She Has Financial Troubles
Don’t trust a girl with money problems.
Money doesn’t just fall out of her wallet. There’s a reason why she has financial troubles. It’s pretty simple. If you spend more than you earn, you’ll end up broke. That’s not rocket science.
Unfortunately, some guys are too good for this world.
I don’t care if she’s crying and begging you. Let her and her crocodile tears alone. You can give her love and support, but if you have self-respect, you don’t give her your money. She’s a big girl and big girls can make smart financial decisions.
Girls with financial troubles have troubles in every other area. Trust me.
Signs She Is Using You for Attention
How to tell if a woman is using you
I’m sure you are handsome.
That’s why some girls might be interested in using you for attention. Let’s face it. Some girls are attention obsessed. That’s just the way it is. They want a desirable man and then they want to brag with their boyfriend.
Is your girlfriend doing that?
Here’s how to tell if a woman is using you for attention…
4. She Tells Everyone about Her Boyfriend
You’re together for two days but the whole world already knows it.
Heck, she even changed the name next to the doorbell in yours. And don’t forget all the people at work. Whenever someone talks to her she immediately mentions that she has a boyfriend.
She’s totally in love with you…so it seems.
Sorry, but she might care more about calling you “boyfriend” than about you.
5. She Doesn’t Care if You Want to Go or Not
Let’s say she wants to go to this event.
You, however, are sick as hell. You can’t move, can’t breathe and you’re not sure if you will survive the night. Your fever is higher than the Mount Everest and your head feels like a grenade right before the explosion. You want to stay home.
How does she react?
Here are some signs she’s using you for attention:
In other words, she doesn’t care if you want to go or not (or if you survive) because she’s using you for attention.
6. She Tells You What to Wear and What to Say
What if you’re not sick and dying?
Awesome! You can accompany her. But not in that jacket! She looks at you as if you were a five-year old child who wants to wear a sack of potatoes. She runs to your closet and gets you another outfit. She wants you to look perfect…for her.
Here are some other signs:
Yep, she wants to turn you into her ideal boyfriend. News flash: You’re a human being. You have your own thoughts, beliefs, and your own style.
A woman who loves you for who you are allows you to wear, do, and say what you want.
Signs she is Using You as Her Little Helper
Life can be so unfair, right?
You buy a new laptop and then you bath it in coffee and Tequila. Suddenly, it doesn’t work anymore. Imagine this happens to the girl you’re dating.
What does she do?
Well, women are very good at using freindzoned men as their little helpers. These ladies also love to pretend that they are sexually interested in their friends…at least until the laptop or the fridge is fixed.
Don’t fall for this trick.
Here are the signs a girl is using you as her little helper…
7. She Cries about the Bad Guys She’s Dating
No you are her therapist.
You don’t hear from her in months. Saturday night your phone rings and you pick up. It’s her. Oh my God, her boyfriend broke up with her. Yep, the same dude you warned her about. You told her that it’s not a good idea to date a guy who served time in jail for domestic violence.
She didn’t listen…but now you have to listen.
“I wish I could find a guy like you…”
Her words are burning in your chest.
You want to throw up and you should ask her to leave.
8. She Only Calls You When Something is Broken
Here’s how to tell if a girl is using you:
She calls you, but only when something is broken. It might be her laptop. Or maybe it’s her coffee machine. Sometimes it’s her car.
It’s always the same!
And there are always men who are desperate enough to jump whenever she needs a mechanic, electrician, or a carpenter.
Well, what can I say?
Women wanted equality and now we have to give them equality. They can pay for their mechanics, electricians, and carpenters.
9. She Complains When You Don’t Help Her
What if you say “I’m sorry, but I’m busy”?
That’s the moment when all hell breaks loose. This is also the moment when you will realize that she never cared about you and that the question “how have you been?” was nothing but a sweet lie.
Here’s the friendship line:
“I thought we were friends…”
Sorry, but friends care for each other and don’t use each other.
Signs She Is Using You as a Rebound to Get Over Her Ex
This one is brutal.
I already told you that it happened to me before. It hurts like hell. It’s painful to realize that the girl you’re into has zero interest in you. It hurts to realize that she was using you all the time to get her ex-boyfriend back.
Here’s what’s even worse:
There’s a high chance that she texted him, called him, and maybe even banged him behind your back. You have to make sure that this will never happen again.
Here are the signs to look out for…
10. She Talks about Her Ex-Boyfriend
This is pretty obvious.
She’s with you but she’s talking about him.
If a girl does that, you have to get suspicious. A woman who is in love with you wants to be with you, talk to you, and spend time with you. She doesn’t think about her ex-boyfriend when she’s with you.
Here’s the rule:
She talks about him = She still thinks about him
And no, she doesn’t think about being friends with him.
11. She Compares You to Her Ex-Boyfriend
Here’s another painful sign she’s using you to get over her ex:
She compares you to him.
She’s thinking about him, constantly. Of course, she tries to convince herself that she made the right choice with you. In other words, she has to tell herself that you’re better than him. But the way she compares you to him reveals what she’s really thinking.
Here are some examples:
Comparisons are red flags you shouldn’t ignore.
12. She’s Emotionally Unavailable
Another obvious sign that guys love to ignore…
An emotionally unavailable girl is emotionally unavailable for a reason. Most of the time, it has nothing to do with her childhood, but with the fact that she already has a man in her life. She might not be together with him but he’s there.
Here are some obvious signs:
You deserve a girlfriend who’s emotionally available and ready to be with you.
How to Tell if a Girl is Using You as a Backup
Everyone needs a backup plan, right?
Well, yeah. If you start a business and it fails, a backup plan can save your life. But if you’re in a relationship, it can destroy everything. And don’t get me wrong. I’m sure she’s attracted to you.
She might even love you, but she thinks to herself:
“Three guys are better than one because two might run away.”
13. You are Still Not Her Boyfriend
You’re dating for months.
You are happy in the relationship. There’s just one problem. You’re not really together. I mean, you are, but she refuses to call you boyfriend. She never says it even though you are proud to call her your girlfriend.
Something smells fishy.
I don’t want to break your heart but here’s why she does that:
She calls someone her boyfriend…and it’s not you.
Sorry buddy, but she’ll only call you boyfriend when the other guy decides to dump her.
14. She Talks about This Guy She Met
“I met this guy today…”
Sometimes it’s difficult to tell if a girl is using you. In this case, it isn’t. Some women are so shameless that they’ll tell you about a crush while they are in bed with you. Yep, these girls exist and there’s only one thing you should do about it.
You think you’re in a relationship and she mentions other guys?
Here’s the painful truth:
If she was in love with you, she would never do that. She would be too afraid to hurt you, to make you jealous, and to lose you. There’s only one reason why a girl talks about a guy (or guys) she meets, sees, or hangs out with.
She doesn’t care about you and your feelings.
You deserve better.
15. She Has Time for You When He Doesn’t
She has time for you.
But she only has time when he doesn’t.
Who is he?
You have to confront her. But that’s not the only thing you should do. You should give her one last kiss. Then you look her in the eyes and say…
“Please waste someone else’s time. I deserve someone better than you.”
When you hear the sound of the door closing behind her, you download my eBook course and start your new life.
Summed Up Wisdom
Do you want to know how to tell if a girl is using you? There are a lot of signs. She might be doing it for all kinds of different reasons. Maybe she wants you money. Think about why you’re buying her expensive stuff and she never buys anything for you.
Other women are using your for attention. They want you to be the ideal boyfriend. They care about how you make them look, but they don’t care about you. Think about why she wants to choose your clothes and you haircut.
Maybe I’m wrong and she uses you as her little helper. These are the kind of girls who only call you when they want you to fix something. Sometimes, they want you to fix the relationship with their ex-boyfriend. It sucks to be a rebound or a backup. Learn from this experience.