How to Turn a Girl on With Touch

Does that sound familiar?

It sounded familiar to me. For years I tried to seduce women without touching them because, well, I was scared. I was scared to make a mistake, to mess up the timing. I was even afraid to get cursed and slapped.

That’s why I almost gave up…

It took me a long time to overcome my fears and insecurities. It took me an even longer time to learn how to touch women in a way that doesn’t repel them. At first, I was happy when the girls I tried to seduce didn’t run away.

Today I’m only happy when she melts in my hands because I know…

I hope you are ready to become a master at physical escalation…

How to Touch a Woman and Turn Her On (Step by Step)

I couldn’t turn a woman on if my life depended on it.

Do you know why?

I had a few terribly wrong beliefs that made it impossible for me to succeed:

Believe it or not, but I was convinced that women don’t like it when a guy they just met touches them. Never in a million years did I think that you can escalate physically within seconds.

Maybe after the first date, but within seconds? No way!

Here’s the truth:

It’s never too early, at least if you follow the right steps…

1. Transition from Innocent to Naughty 

A lot of guys want to know how to touch a woman and turn her on.

I’m not a big fan of the “be alpha at any price” advice that’s so popular nowadays. Every manosphere blog and every second dating coach lectures us about being alpha. Yeah, well…I see the results in my coaching sessions.

This development led to two extremes:

Yes, women love dominant men. But that doesn’t mean that they want the dominant touch right from the get go. You have to start slowly and build up the tension. Start innocent and transition to naughty.

It takes time and the clock is ticking…

2. Touch Her within Three Seconds 

“Oh no, not another three second rule…”

Calm down. It’s not as bad as it sounds. But yeah, it’s another three second rule. You already know my rule when it comes to approaching girls. You have three seconds from spotting her to stopping her. That’s how you condition yourself to take action.

Touching girls follows the same rule…at least it should.

That’s how it’s done.

And no, three seconds is not too soon…

3. Shake Her Hand like Casanova

It’s not too soon because it starts with an innocent handshake.

Okay, it’s not that innocent. In fact, your handshake has the power to get her excited. You just have to do the opposite of what everyone else is doing. Most guys walk up to a girl and shake their hand as if they were in a business meeting.

That’s the worst thing you can do.

Instead, you should do what Casanova (most likely) did:

To be honest, you’re not really shaking her hand. You’re holding it. You’re protecting it. And while you do that, you look deep into her eyes. Make her feel the tension and get her excited. That’s how a man shakes a woman’s hand.

Now she’s ready to get closer…

4. Stand or Sit Close to Her  

I recently had a one-on-one coaching with a German guy.

He was over 50, recently divorced, and ready to rebuild his life. You’ve heard of him in my podcast episode “don’t waste your life”. His results were phenomenal. Once he broke through his fear, he was unstoppable.

I observed his instant date with a hot woman in her early 30s.

Unfortunately...

He positioned himself opposite to her and had no chance to touch her. 

I reacted immediately:

I asked him to meet me in the bathroom in five minutes for a short briefing. He showed up and I told him to get his ass right next to her, as close as possible. He did what I said and he ended up touching her leg throughout the whole conversation.

She smiled because he finally got closer.

5. Touch Her Arm While Talking to Her  

Here’s one of the simplest ways to touch a woman and turn her on:

Brush her arm.

You have an elbow, right? Congratulations! That means you can do it. This is one of the most natural and innocent forms of physical escalation. You can start with it right at the beginning of a conversation.

You don’t have to glue your elbow on her arm. That’s a bit too much. Just do it every couple of seconds. She won’t even realize it, but her subconscious mind will. And her subconscious mind activates her lust hormones.  

6. Explore Her Bracelets and Necklaces 

Come on. She must have something you can play with.

It’s hard to find a girl who doesn’t wear at least one bracelet, necklace, or earring. What if she has a tattoo? That’s also fine.

Use whatever you can get as a reason to touch her.

While you show your interest in her necklaces, bracelets, earrings or tattoos, you touch her. Every single one of these items allows you to touch a different part of her body. Her necklace allows you to touch her neck and her bracelet allows you to touch her arm.

What about her tattoo?

Well, it depends on where she has it.

7. Make Use of the Leg Magic

Do you want to know how to turn a girl on with touch by using your legs?

Yep, your two trees are quite useful, especially when you’re talking to her in a bar, a café or a lounge…or any other place where you can sit.

Here’s what you do:

This is important. The moment your leg touches her leg under the table, you pretend as if it was an accident. Wait for her reaction. Does she smile and come closer? You have permission to do it again and again.

8. Hold Her Hand While She Holds Back Her Tears

You know that I’m a big fan of emotional topics.

Seducing a woman is all about triggering the right emotions. The best topics to talk about with her are the ones that make her cry. Talk about her family, her childhood memories, and her goals and plans for the future.

Don’t forget to hold her hand in these moments.

This gives her an even more intense feeling .And she’ll link this emotional experience to your warm and protective touch. That’s how you win her heart.

9. Lead Her with Your Hand on her Lower Back 

Here’s how to caress a woman’s body in the middle of the street:

No, I don’t want you to go down on her in front of all people. That’s not a good idea. Instead, I want you to lead her with your touch. That’s a good idea. And the best way to do this is by placing your hand on her lower back.

That’s how you lead a woman and give her pleasure at the same time.

10. Walk Hand in Hand with Her 

You’re not a couple, at least not yet.

But this unimportant side fact shouldn’t stop you from walking hand in hand with her. If you want her to become your girlfriend, you have to treat her as if she already was your girlfriend. This might sound like the definition of “fake it till you make it” but in this case it work.

Here’s your chance:

Now what?

Continue to walk hand in hand with her. Don’t even think about letting go. She doesn’t care that you’ve already reached the other side because it feels good. Don’t make it stop. Continue to hold her hand and continue to make her feel good.

11. Play Hand Wrestling While Walking 

How to excite a woman by touching

Are you still holding her hand?

Good. Now it’s time to learn how to excite a woman by touching her WHILE you walk hand in hand with her. All you need are her fingers. Use the hand you’re holding her hand with as your seduction weapon.

Here’s what you can do:

The last move sounds cheesy as hell, but it works. I know.

Some dating coaches say that kissing a girls hand is a beta move. Well, I disagree. It’s more effective than finger wrestling and let’s face it…finger wrestling is awesome.

12. Reward Her with a High Five 

What if she wins the finger wrestling match?

Reward her!

Give her a high five. You can even take it one step further. Give her the high five, pull her hand to you and kiss her hand. Let’s call it a high five kiss. Or you can give her a high five and hug her afterwards. Everything is possible.

Here’s why the high five is so effective:

Don’t underestimate the power of a high five.

13. Fix Her Outfit and Her Hair 

Her hair looks a big messy, don’t you think so?

A woman’s hair and outfit give you the perfect chance to flirt with her by touching her. You just have to help her. I mean, let’s admit it. Her outfit looks a bit messed up and her hair…oh God, her head looks like a bird nest.

Be a good guy and help her by…

Let her believe that you only do these things because you are such a kind-hearted person. She doesn’t have to know that you needed a reason to touch her head, her belly, and her hips. All she knows is that your help feels so damn good.

14. Protect her with Your Arm  

What if you don’t like to walk hand in hand with a girl?

I don’t judge you. Some guys have sweaty hands. I’m sure you don’t want to drown her in your sweat. Thank God there’s an alternative. You don’t need your hand when you can use your whole arm.

Put your arm around her and continue walking.

That’s all you have to do and it’s so effective because…

Nobody said that you can’t do naughty things with your hand, just because you’re now using your whole arm. Don’t neglect her shoulder. It needs love.

15. Touch Her Hand During the Number Close

You want to get her number, right?

Good! And guess what? She wants to give her number to a confident and attractive man like you. But she’s not 100% sure. She needs some more convincing. Come on. Give her this good feeling one last time.

Here’s how to get touchy with a girl while getting her number:

This allows you to touch her hand and her fingers while you get the magic digits. Now that’s what I call an effective number close.

16. Give Her a Goodbye and a Welcome Hug 

She has to go.

Blame it on her mom. She wants her to get home fast because she can sense that her daughter is about to fall in love with a handsome guy. Mommy wants to stop you from scoring but you don’t allow that.

You are determined to win and to hug her.

But you don’t just give her a friendly hug. Instead, you do this:

A hug doesn’t have to end after two seconds. I enjoyed hugs with girls that were more intense than sex. Nobody has died from a slightly sexual hug. Go for it.

17. Let Her Thigh Feel Your Warm Hand  

Don’t forget her thigh.

You want to know how to touch a girl and turn her on and you already know what to do with her leg. Okay, technically speaking, her thigh is a part of her leg. But when it comes to getting her excited, her thigh is a whole new world.

Here’s what you need to do:   

That’s what she and her thighs want and need to take the next step.

18. Give Her a Sensual Massage 

What’s the next step?

This is the next step…

Let’s ignore the fact that the two people in the video are siblings and focus on what you have to do. You’ve come a long way. You touched her hand her, you put your arm around her, and now you even touched her thigh.

She’s begging for more.

I told you to transition from innocent to naughty. Now it’s time for the naughty stuff. And a sensual back massage is the perfect opportunity to escalate physically and sexually.

Here’s what you have to do:

She’s so turned on that she can’t wait for the kiss…

19. Pull Her Closer Before You Go for the Kiss 

Yes, she wants to kiss you.

But she doesn’t just want an innocent kiss on the lips. Oh no, she wants the whole package. She wants you to be romantic, passionate, and wild at the same time. Now she wants you to get really physical.

Here’s what I usually do:

Boom! I kiss her. 

Now you know how to touch a woman and turn her on.

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Summed Up Wisdom 

You can’t just walk up to a stranger and touch her all over her body. I want you to get laid, not to end up in jail. You have to understand that women love to get physical with guys they like. However, you have to slowly build up the tension.

It starts with a simple handshake. And yes, you should shake her hand within the first seconds of meeting her. Then continue with her arm, her legs, and don’t forget her bracelets and necklaces…and her tattoo.

What if you want to get her number? Don’t stop. It feels too good to stop. Play with her fingers and let her thigh know that you want to move further up. Now it’s time to escalate. Now you know how to turn a girl on with touch.