Are you also sick and tired of dating boring women?
I want to kick myself in the balls whenever I find out during a date that the hot chick that sits next to me makes me want to fall asleep as soon as she opens her mouth. It is really depressing to set up a date with a thrill of anticipation, just to find out that the woman who you meet is not as exciting as you thought.
Going on dates during which you basically say nothing to each other for two hours is frustrating enough, but do you know what’s even more frustrating?
To land in a relationship with such a girl. No matter if the relationship is strictly sexual or if other feelings than the joy of an orgasm are part of the relationship, you shouldn’t waste your precious time with boring women.
What if I told you that those women are not really the way they appear to be?
Just because a woman has a charisma like a corpse, doesn’t mean that there is no volcano of untamed sexual energy deep down inside of her.
The tricky question is “how do you relieve her from the boredom and set this energy free?”
The Surprising Reasons Why Women are Boring
Every time I got angry at myself for spending too much time with a woman who had less energy than a dead rabbit, I asked myself the same question:
“Why is she so fucking boring?”
I know that it is unfair but from an early age on, the average girl had a lot of experiences that force her to become a walking zombie.
We live in a society that not only conditions men to be afraid of approaching and seducing women. Girls are also conditioned to suppress the desires and emotions that would make them adventurous and interesting.
Since an early age on a young woman is conditioned to be “a good girl”, whatever the hell that means and to behave in a way that pleases daddy. To be honest, being adventurous and doing whatever the fuck she wants to do are not the things that her daddy wants to see. These are the emotions that you want to see.
What Daddy Doesn’t Want to See
What does daddy want to see?
He wants his daughter to be a reputable member of society. He wants her to dress in a conservative way and to follow the societal path of marrying a decent guy and starting a family. Okay, nowadays women are trained to go to college, get a job, focus on their career and maybe start a family when their bodies are already in grandma mode.
No matter which path a girl is conditioned to follow, the fact that she is squeezed into a certain scheme is responsible for quite a few social anxieties. Maybe she wants to travel the world and fuck as many guys on the road as she possibly can.
I can guarantee you that daddy wouldn’t like that.
By even thinking about embarking on an adventure she immediately starts to worry about what her family, her friends and her colleagues would think of her.
Instead of living an adventurous life she decides to be one of the other million drones out there who become more boring every year. Even though this article is about boring women, you shouldn’t think that only women are at risk to become boring.
She Never Learned How it Feels
Thanks to all the crippling fears she has, she won’t ever have the chance to experience exciting things. If you always have a feeling of fear in the back of your mind you can’t focus on stepping outside of your comfort zone.
In the same way as it is impossible for men to seduce the most beautiful women without overcoming their fears, it is impossible for a woman to become an adventurous human being without ever experiencing what real adventure is.
How can a woman be adventurous if she has never even attempted to step outside of the scheme she lives in?
It is impossible.
Of course the women you are dating are boring when they have never done anything exciting.
The Slowpoke Boyfriend
You will pretty rarely approach and date girls who never had a boyfriend. Even if you meet a very inexperienced girl who never had sex, she probably had one or two guys in her life that had at least their finger or their tongue on her vagina.
These one or two guys could be the root of all evil.
In case she only had boyfriends that were less exciting than an accountant right before the annual closure, she doesn’t even know that she is part of the boring women club.
It’s the same with you and your ex-girlfriends. If you always had girls in your past who never sucked your dick and who only wanted to have vanilla sex, you regard this as normal, at least until you learn to seduce the women that blow your dick and your mind.
If her past boyfriends were complete drags, the likelihood that she is a complete drag is very high. She will be very thankful that you are going to change that.
Boring Women on Dates: The Theoretical Transformation
I know that you hate to date boring women but before you walk away during your next date and leave her sitting there like a picture of misery, you should think about transforming her into a way more interesting person.
You don’t have to be so mean and walk out of the café and leave her like a wet dog. You should only do this with smartphone addicted girls.
You would shoot yourself in the foot if you would miss out on the opportunity to turn a dull girl into an interesting and exciting woman you would love to have sex with.
I hope you remember all the reasons why women are boring that I have listed before. Good, because now it is time to break through those reasons and to erase them from her mind.
There are basically two ways of doing this.
You can either transform her on a theoretical level or on a practical level. Both ways lead to fun and exciting dates with women who are suddenly not that uninteresting anymore. Let’s have a look at the theoretical level first.
Share Your Values and Experiences
Through past experiences and negative conditioning a girl might have learned that being adventurous and doing things outside of the rules, or simply outside of the common way of living life, is not a good idea. If you date such a girl you can regard it as your duty to give her a wake-up call and to show her a better way of living.
When you are talking with a girl who tells you how she works from 9 to 5 before she watches 4 hours of TV, you should look at her like a vampire who landed in a garlic field and tell her that there is more to live for than her work and some shitty comedy shows.
Tell her how you love to travel the world, how you get energized when you are going to the gym and how important it is for you to turn your life into an adventure. Tell her about a few concrete experiences you had that show her how exciting life can be. Take a risk and tell her about some sexual experiences that you had during your travels. She might be turned off by it. Then you know that she is not the right girl for you. However, it is far more likely that she’ll imagine herself as the female part in your story.
In this case you will end up fucking the shit out of her as soon as you take her home.
Let her be part of your adventurous life, even if it is only in her imagination. Once you have shown her an alternative way of living life that is filled with passion, happiness and excitement, she will want to experience such a life with you.
When you share your experiences with her there is one thing that is more important than anything else. Don’t judge her in any way for her desire to leave the community of boring women and to enter a life full of pleasure and adventure.
No matter if she tells you directly that she wants to become a more exciting person or if you see this desire burning in her eyes as soon as you share your experiences with her, you have to let her know that being adventurous is a positive thing and that you encourage her to break out of her boring existence.
Don’t ever judge her for breathing the wish to be an adventurous girl!
You don’t want to destroy your chance to show her what real adventure means by fucking her insane, do you?
Boring Women on Dates: The Practical Transformation
Besides sharing stories with a girl who is anything but exciting and encouraging her to experience some crazy shit, you can show her how exciting you and her life can be by transforming your regular date into an adventure that she will never forget.
In case you have the misfortune to meet a girl who refuses to do some exciting stuff with you, you should do the same thing as you should do with a girl who gets turned off by your adventurous stories. Accept that she should better stay in the community of boring women and run as fast as you can.
If she, however, seems to be open for an internal shift, you should do everything in your power to transform her dull existence into a crazy adventure.
Take Her on an Adventure
The best way to show boring women how much fun it can be to step out of your comfort zone is by taking them on an adventure that they’ll never forget. Yes, you can spice their dull life up, even if you are on your first date.
Let’s say you are sitting in a café and you nearly fall asleep after she answered “well…I don’t know. I don’t really do that much…” on your question “what do you like to do for fun?”
At this point you can either bury your head in the sand and text the next girl while you are waiting until this date is finally over, or you can simply say to her “okay, then you do something NOW!” and lead her out of the café.
From there on you can go in any direction you want.
Take her to a 3D-cinema, take her to the nearest amusement park, or look if there is some concert this evening that you can go to. You can even take it to the next level and ask her if she has ever been on a road trip before, while you are walking towards your car.
There are so many things that you can do that have the power to spark a flame inside of her. Have a look at this article for 101 inspirational ideas.
There are no boring women who truly WANT to be boring. The only problem is that they have never met a guy who allowed them to release the inner child that they buried under lairs of conditioning.
If you are the guy who releases her adventurous and passionate side, you will also be the first guy who will experience this side of her in the bedroom.
Appreciate Her Actions
In the same way as you should not judge her for thinking about activities that exceed the common path of working, watching TV and falling asleep, you should appreciate the actions that she takes, in order to escape from the jail for boring women.
I experienced it firsthand how shy, reserved and quiet boring women suddenly break out of the cage that they were caught in for years. Believe me, whoops of joy, having the giggles and wildly making out with you count among the harmless things that can happen when boring women transform to amazingly adventurous (and extremely sexual) lunatics.
Don’t get scared as soon as the demon is unleashed.
Appreciate the actions that she takes in order to spice up her boring existence and support her decision to leave her past behavior behind. Above all, enjoy how the boring women you date transform into sexual maniacs as soon as you take them on dates that rock their world.
Oh, and learn how to get girls who are anything but boring. it’s time!
Summed Up Wisdom
How to date boring women? You have to understand that no woman suddenly decides to be boring. This characteristic is caused by social fears and the lack of adventurous experiences. Her ex-boyfriends are also not that innocent.
During a date you can transform boring women in two different ways. On a theoretical level you can share your experiences and your values with her and make a more exciting lifestyle tempting for her. In case she is honest to you and tells you that there are some things that she would like to do, you shouldn’t judge her for any of them.
On a practical level you can transform the date you are on into an adventure. Drag her out of the café and take her on road trip, or do some other crazy shit. The possibilities are limitless. If you do that you have to be prepared for the external changes (screaming, yelling and laughing) that her internal shifts provoke.
Appreciate her transformation outside and inside of the bedroom.
Sebastian Harris says
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My wife that i.ve been togheter for 9 years wants to leave me. She already found someone else after dating so many men behind my back. I kept her conservative and killed her spirit. Never did anything fun. Now these guys opened her up to whole new experiences while i remained a chode. Any advice except going out myself and have the time of my life? And see what happens? We also have a 4 year kid.
Does she still wants to be with me if i have fun with her and be adventurous or she is now to open and don.t care anymore?
Ps: would rather be cheated and be happy than never cheated and be miserable