Do you want to know how to tell if a girl likes you? It doesn’t matter if you approach a woman on the street, in a shopping center or if you are about to go on your first date with her. There are quite a few universal signs that a woman shows if she is into you.
Of course the most obvious sign is that she takes her clothes off, jumps in bed with you and hops on your dick. However, unless she is horny as fuck and hasn’t had sex in years, she will probably show her affection in a lot of other ways, before she does that.
The only problem that most girls have to deal with is that a lot of guys either don’t recognize them or they misinterpret them completely.
After you have read this article you won’t ever misinterpret it again, when a woman shows her interest in you. This not only gives you a huge advantage over all the clueless men who don’t call a girl back because they were sure that she didn’t like them, even though she just waited for the call. It also makes you more attractive to women throughout the whole seduction process.
The moment a girl realizes that you are one of the few guys out there who are able to read her thoughts and her behavioral patterns, she instinctively assumes that you are an experienced seducer who deserves her. a woman who has the feeling that you are an experienced lover will support you throughout the whole seduction process.
Because she wants you to take her panties off.
But before she wants you to pull down her underwear, you have to trigger this desire in her.
What are the factors that help a woman to decide whether or not you are a guy she wants to fuck?
How to Tell if a Girl Likes You: The Truth
Wouldn’t it be a good idea to know the exact reasons why a girl starts to like you in the first place, before you ask yourself how to tell if a girl likes you?
Wouldn’t it be great to know what you have to do and how you have to behave in order to force a woman to like you?
This would definitely make your life a lot easier. Simply going up to a woman and telling her that she looks incredibly beautiful is an amazing thing to do but there are a lot of other subtle things that you have to consider when it comes to attracting and seducing a woman.
Before you can attract amazing women into your life and before you can read her signs of attraction you have to know the triggers that make her believe that you are the perfect guy for her and that sleeping with you is the best idea she had in a long time.
Unfortunately, there are some things that are not within your power.
I Don’t Want to Lie to You
At this point I have a choice to make. I can either flat-out lie to you and tell you that EVERY woman on this planet will immediately be attracted to you, as soon as you give her a compliment, or I can tell you the truth that a lot of coaches in the seduction community try to conceal. Even if I run the risk that you will rather believe a false marketing lie from a colleague, I don’t want to lie to you.
The truth is that there is no man on earth who is able to attract EVERY woman on this planet.
Take me as an example. I have long hair, I am white-skinned and I look extremely young.
Is it possible for me to attract a woman into my life who ONLY dates black guys with tattoos that are two meters tall and have more muscles than Shaquille O’Neal?
Some (not all) girls have certain types of men that they are attracted to, but even if a girl is attracted to you doesn’t mean that you should do everything you can to get inside of her.
Just think about all the women who are in happy relationships and who are happily married.
Well, there is a lot of stuff bustling around, such as boyfriend destroying patterns or NLP gibberish that allegedly turns every woman who is in a relationship into your sex slave.
If something sounds too good to be true it is simply too good to be true. Yes, you can seduce women who have a boyfriend. In this case the relationship isn’t as happy as the pictures on Facebook show.
All I want you to understand is that wanting to know how to tell if a girl likes you is great, but at the same time you have to understand that not every girl on this planet will be into you.
Accept what you can’t change, and focus on the aspects that you have an impact on.
Be a Real Man, Goddammit!
Before you ask yourself how to tell if a woman likes you, you should ask yourself what kind of man you have to become, so that women can fall for you?
Be a real man.
Great, and what does a real man do?
He doesn’t do the things that society wants him to do, at least not necessarily.
Our society defines men as beer drinking idiots who work in a job they hate, who love watching football, who spend their money on expensive perfumes for their girlfriends and who marry some fat and fake chick as soon as she is older than 30.
I can promise you that if your goal in life is to do exactly that, you shouldn’t ask me how to tell if a girl likes you, because the really amazing women simply don’t look for a man who is boring ass average.
Maybe it is a shock for you that watching sports TV and playing safe while waiting for marriage is not the best way to attract amazing women into your life. I don’t say that you have to follow me and travel the world seducing women, but unless you do something exciting and act in a way that shows that you are willing to live your life on your own terms, you’ll find it hard to get incredible girls to like you.
Even if your biggest dream is to become a professional World of Warcraft Player…do it!
Women are instinctively attracted to men who follow their heart and their passion. As soon as you have a lifestyle that you love, you will love yourself and you will project this feeling to women. Eventually you will become the self-confident (hint: there’s a crazy shortcut to unlimited self-confidence that transformed me from loser into a successful seducer) and life-affirming man that you always wanted to be.
Sexual and Emotional Connection
In order to get a girl to like you, it is necessary to become self-confident and to live the life that you want. However, it would be weird to start a conversation by telling a girl that you travel the world and that you absolutely love your life.
These are things that will make her wet and horny, when she finds them out in the process of getting to know you.
As an opener, however, they sound pretty desperate. In order to get to a point where she wants to find out all this stuff you have to connect with her.
On the one hand, you have to connect on an emotional level with the girl you want to seduce and on the other hand you have to connect on a sexual level with her.
All I want you to remember is that asking yourself how to tell if a girl likes you is completely pointless, if you don’t connect with her in a way that motivates her to like and to love you.
How to Tell if a Girl Likes You: What She Says
Now you know who you have to become and what you have to do in order to make a girl fall for you. If you have done this correctly she will definitely like you and your dick. As soon as a woman is sure that she wants to get to know you and that she wants to end up in bed with you, she will show you her affection quite bluntly.
Some women try to hide their affection but due to the fact that women communicate with their emotions, this endeavor is completely senseless.
If you know how to tell if a girl likes you, you will be able to read her emotions.
Before we have a look at all the stuff that she might does in order to subtly show you that she wants to feel your dick inside her, we have a look at all the things that she says, to convince you that you should take her home.
She Says Nothing
How to tell if a girl likes you? The moment you run up to a girl and approach her, a woman can say one important word that can be a clear sign of attraction. The magic word is called NOTHING.
A lot of men start sweating and get extremely uncomfortable when they approach a woman with an honest compliment and she just looks at them completely speechless.
Don’t get uncomfortable just because she stares at you like a deer who is about to get hit by a car.
Enjoy the fact that you made her speechless. Unless you jumped on her bag while screaming “raaape!” her speechlessness has nothing to do with being shocked in a negative way. If a girl doesn’t like you, she will tell you or simply walk away.
However, if she can’t get a word out but she still stands there, it is a definite sign that she is positively surprised, that she is flattered and that she simply doesn’t know what to say because she is so nervous.
She wouldn’t be nervous and speechless if she wouldn’t care about you!
All She Does is Giggling
Maybe you meet a woman who is not completely speechless but who speaks in a way with you, that sounds more like a happy child who just discovered a candy store right next to the kindergarten.
How to tell if a girl likes you? Observe how she speaks with you and how she responds to your questions.
If she speaks in a very calm and logic way, she is either German or she is not really interested in you.
If she, however, starts to giggle whenever you say something that is not even a little bit funny, you have an extremely high chance that she sees more than a friend in you. Remember, women communicate with their emotions and they can’t hide those bastards.
Here is a good and sexy example of what I mean:
A giggling woman is like a balloon with too much air in it. She is overwhelmed by emotions and they want out.
The fastest way to release them is by giggling like a happy child. Women can’t hide it, men love it and recognizing it supports the survival of our species.
She Becomes a Marketing Manager
How to tell if a girl likes you during a conversation? A girl who doesn’t care about you is either not really engaged in the conversation, or she tries to hide the fact that you will never leave the friend zone by smiling at you all the time without saying one word too much.
A woman who likes you behaves in the complete opposite way. She will try to convince you that dating her will be the most amazing experience in your life.
Self-marketing is not only important if you want to get a job, it is also essential if you want to have a fulfilled dating life.
If I hadn’t learned the art of self-marketing, I wouldn’t tell you (with pride) that Rise of the Phoenix is the best dating book on the market.
Men do it mainly by becoming the real man that I talked about and the ones who are still into the old school way of pick-up do it by telling DHVs. I mean, self-marketing is the only reason why this shit has been invented.
Women, on the other hand, do it by dressing up and looking at us in a way that forces our blood to leave our brain.
Of course there are also some girls who choose the path of telling you that they are amazing. They don’t do it as obvious as we do it, but they still do it.
In case you meet a girl who always agrees with you and who tells you that she is like that, whenever you talk about certain characteristics that you appreciate in a woman, you can assume that she likes you.
Yes, Women Give Compliments Too
In case you have read my article on approaching women you already know that giving compliments is the best way to approach a girl in a direct way. Every man who has approached at least one girl in his life knows that compliments have a powerful effect on women.
What effect do they have on you?
Please don’t tell me that you are not happy and that you don’t smile when a woman gives you a compliment. Every man is excited when he gets a compliment from a woman and the ladies know that.
There is no chance that a woman who is totally into you won’t give you compliments.
The only problem is that a lot of men are completely deaf when it comes to the subtle compliments that women give men they like.
Don’t expect her to look at you and to say that you are absolutely gorgeous. Maybe she will say that you are handsome but usually women are a lot more subtle with their compliments. It is very likely that a girl, who is into you, tells you that she likes your shoes, that your hair looks cute in a certain way and that she can see that you are going to the gym.
And yes, those are all compliments, even if they sometimes appear as if they were normal statements. Say thank you and smile, because you know that you’ll get laid.
She Gives You Hints…a Lot of Hints
How to tell if a girl likes you at the beginning of the dating phase? Women are not stupid and they know exactly that we men are not able to read their minds, even if we would love to do that.
When a girl likes you, having sex with you is the most natural decision she can make.
Women love sex and they love having sex with men they like. If a woman likes you, she will become your assistant throughout the whole seduction process. She will help you wherever she can to push her buttons. The best way for her to help you is by giving you verbal and non-verbal hints.
Those hints tell you exactly what you should do and what you shouldn’t do in order to excite and arouse her.
Some examples are:
– She tells you that it’s getting late (“take me to your place!”)
– She asks you if she can take of her warm pullover once she is at your place (“take off the rest!”)
– She starts to talk about sexual topics (“I don’t just want to talk about it!”)
– she asks you where you live (“She wants to know where she’ll go later!”)
The bad thing for women and the good thing for you is that the majority of men are not able to recognize those hints, let alone to interpret them correctly.
How to tell if a girl likes you when she gives you hints? You have to develop a high level of awareness and you have to learn how to listen to women. This is essential if you want to be able to transfer all the little stories, opinions and experiences that she talks about to the relationship that you have with her.
A man who is able to recognize and to understand those hints is able to push her buttons and to unfasten the buttons of her jeans.
How to Tell if a Girl Likes You: What She Does
Besides saying things that show you that the thoughts of having sex with you are in her mind, she will also do certain things to show you that she is sexually interested in you.
How to tell if a girl likes you by looking at her actions?
There are numerous things that girls do when they are really into a man. Some women smile at anyone they see and for some women a smile is the direct translation for “approach me and I fuck you!”
In the following lines I want to provide you with the most obvious signs that show that a woman is interested in you. Some of the actions that I am talking about are misinterpreted by a lot of guys and lead to nothing but full condom packages and missed sexual adventures.
She Shows Up
How to tell if a girl likes you on the first date? One of the first signs that a woman is interested in you is that she actually shows up on the first date. A lot of guys highly underestimate the fact that a woman already shows her interest in you by simply showing up.
Do you really think that a girl who doesn’t like you puts in all the effort to go on a date with you? You as a man don’t have to do a lot. All you have to do is to put on a nice jacket and brush your teeth.
Do you have any idea how much time a girl invests to get ready for a date?
She takes a shower, she shaves her legs and her vagina, she does her hair and she spends hours in front of her closet, because she can’t decide in which dress her ass looks the most delicious.
No woman will invest hours of her life to meet a guy who she just wants to put in the friend zone.
Always keep in the back of your mind that a girl who shows up on the first date already likes you. All you have to do is to not fuck it up.
She Dresses Up
Speaking of all the effort that a woman puts in to prepare herself for the first date…
The moment she walks up to you when she arrives at the dating location is the moment where you see how much she already likes you.
It might sound crazy, but in my experience the girls that were ready to jump in bed with me after the first date, were also the ones who dressed up the most.
When you think about it for a moment this behavior makes a lot of sense. A woman who is sexually interested in you has the goal to make you horny. She wants to trigger dirty thoughts in you and the best way to do that is by wearing high heels and a sexy mini skirt.
Show some appreciation when a woman dresses up for you and tell her how beautiful she is. This communicates to her that her attempts of seducing you are successful and that you are now ready to lead her through the seduction process.
She Does Everything to Get Touched By You
It has several reasons why a woman wears a mini skirt on the first date. On the one hand, she wants to feel comfortable in her own skin and on the other hand she wants to turn your head and make you horny. However, there is also a third reason.
It’s a nice coincidence that a mini skirt reveals a lot of naked skin that you just want to touch all the time, isn’t it? Women who are into you want to get touched by you. They want you to sexually escalate and they want to feel desired by you.
Unfortunately, a lot of women are used to men who are either too insecure or too stupid (or both) to make the first move and to lead the interaction in a sexual direction.
In this case, some girls see themselves forced to do something about this situation and to do everything in their power to get laid.
I remember back when I just started to approach women on a regular basis. I had absolutely no clue what I was doing and I was anything but successful. One day I approached this cute polish girl who was totally into me.
Back then I was too insecure to escalate but she wanted me right from the beginning. She supported me wherever she could and touched me in a way that made me wonder if she was a hooker. Luckily, she wasn’t.
Of course it is very rare that a woman starts to grab your ass on your first date. She will rather play a passive role and force you to touch her. She will lay her hand right next to yours, in the hope that you move your little finger one millimeter to the right. She’ll come closer, in the hope that your legs “accidentally” touch.
My colleague Michael Valmont calls this accident proximity (and he also talks about the giggling that I already mentioned):
She Gives You Her Number
How to tell if a girl likes you after knowing her for about ten minutes? One of the easiest ways to see if a woman is interested in you is how she reacts when you are asking her for her number. It is a good sign when a woman gives you her number and it is an even better sign when she gives you her real number.
There are different ways of how a girl gives you her number and all those ways communicate to you how much she likes you.
If she hesitates before she gives you her number, she is not quite sure if she wants to meet you or not. A woman who gives you her number without any hesitation while she smiles like a happy child is totally into you. I even had experiences where women asked me questions like “how do we stay in contact now?”
In this case you can be absolutely sure that she likes you and if she combines such a question with the request to give her a missed call, so that she also has your number, you are definitely in.
She Plays With Her Body
How to tell if a girl likes you (the naught way)? One very obvious sign is when she starts to play with her body. In case you think that every girl who is into you starts to rub her pussy and play with her nipples as soon as the first rush of pussy juice floats her vagina, I have to disappoint you.
Even though it is true that women play with their bodies when they are sexually aroused, they usually do it in a very subtle way.
You won’t see her pleasuring herself before she is naked in your bedroom.
Women tend to be more discrete in public.
How to tell if a girl likes you and how far does she go with showing her affection in public? Instead of touching her pussy, her hands might wander through her hair. Another obvious sign is when she subtly touches or licks her lips. I’ve even been on a date with a woman who was sliding her hand up and down her leg.
The feeling of sexual arousal builds up tension and it is a natural impulse to try to release this tension. If the next girl you are dating tries to release this tension by touching herself, you should let her do what she has to do and enjoy it.
She Texts Back Late
How to tell if a girl likes you by looking at a phenomenon that most men interpret completely wrong? There are thousands upon thousands of theories when it comes to texting girls. One of the most popular rules is that you should wait for three days before you text a girl because this apparently shows that you are not needy.
Not only is this rule complete bullshit if you want to establish a relationship with a girl that is based on honesty and authenticity, this stupid rule also led to the situation that women believe in the same principle.
The only problem is that a lot of men don’t understand that the girls they try to seduce use their own weapon against them. Be honest, what do you think when a girl waits for hours until she responds to your texts?
You probably think that she has absolutely no interest in you. Well, this is so wrong.
This misbelief is a major reason why a lot of men miss out on amazing sexual experiences.
Why should a woman who is absolutely not interested in you even care about writing back?
A woman who doesn’t like you won’t make the effort to respond to your text. A woman who likes you will respond to your text. It is really that simple. Unfortunately, women also believe that writing back later shows that they are not waiting by the phone and that they are not desperate.
While she thinks that answering after a few hours is the best way to attract you in her life, you think that the late response means that she is not interested in you. Think outside of the box and realize that women tend to make the same dating mistakes as we men do.
She Follows Your Lead
How to tell if a girl likes you as soon as you met her? No matter if you just approached her, if you are at the beginning of the dating process or if you already went on a few dates with her, there is one sign that shows that she really likes you and that she wants to take things further with you.
Women want to follow the lead of men, but if you have the fantasy that every woman will become your submissive slave when you just snap your fingers, you misunderstand the concept of leading and following.
Women don’t just follow anyone, they only follow men who they respect. When you feel that a woman reacts extremely positive on the suggestions that you make and when she follows your lead without questioning your authority, you can be sure that she likes you a lot.
And you can be sure that you’ll find more information on dating and attracting women in my bestselling book.
Summed Up Wisdom
How to tell if a girl likes you? First of all, you should think about the reasons that make her attracted to you. The uncomfortable truth is that not every girl will like you. However, if you become a real man by developing an interesting lifestyle and if you develop both sexual and emotional confidence, the chances are high that she will be attracted to you.
How to tell if a girl likes you by listening to her words? She either says nothing because she is so nervous, or she giggles the whole time. If she survives this phase she will market herself to you by subtly convincing you that she is amazing and she’ll probably give you a few compliments. You should also be aware of small hints that she will give you in order to make it easier for you to seduce her.
How to tell if a girl likes you when looking at her actions? The fact that she shows up and dresses up is highly underrated by a lot of guys. Nevertheless, they are clear signs that she likes you. Touching you, playing with her own body and giving you her number show that she is attracted to you and that she wants you to know it. Even though a lot of guys misinterpret it when a girl writes them back late, this can be a sign of attraction. If she then follows your lead, she definitely likes you.
Sebastian Harris says
that doesn’t hurt.
I’ve heard from other coachs or PUAs, that its best to assume attraction, you recommend that? one reason why I have felt skeptical about that is because it feels like having an outcome dependment mentality
Sebastian Harris says
Sure, I’m always happy to share my experience with other audiences.
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Sebastian Harris says
I’m here to help 😉
Thanks I really want to know this
Sebastian Harris says
it’s definitely a good one 😉
Body language is the best sign to find out whether she likes you or not! .)
Sebastian Harris says
you made some interesting points. Of course I share my own experience in the article and I agree with you that some men have it harder than others. But with my young looks and my scars I am definitely not a born womanizer. Coaching many guys has proven that my advice works for all kinds of different guys.
Sebastian, your article is interesting but what you produced is a set of advice and guidelines that will work for another Sebastian who is exactly like you with the same physical characteristics and personality attributes. That is a very small proportion of men. Men are so different from each other they have to use diametrically opposed approaches with women. Also, men who write those articles are usually successful and womanizers and their methods is highly correlated with their type. But the men who read it, are usually not your type, and your approach will only make them experience more resounding rejections. Yet some of your principles are universal, self confidence, liking your lifestyle etc.. but at the end, some men have it much harder with women usually because each era has a definition of the ideal man that they do not fit. Women are heavily influenced by media crap of what is a desirable man and so many men are just trying to force their apparence to fit that model.
Sebastian Harris says
You have to sign up for my email coaching. If it doesn’t work you can send me an email and we will figure it out.
Hey Sebastian. How do I get the 9 seduction hacks audio file and free book? I don’t think the link works.
Sebastian Harris says
yes you can change this 😉
Thoroughly enjoyed reading this article. It just made me angry at myself and women for making things more difficult to interpret based on confusing signals. I flash backed over al the hints any woman ever have to me and realized that some, I missed, others I caught, and others were signs you suggested that women liked me but wound up being women who just wanted to flirt with me to serve their own ego. Back to the friend zone I go, but with a little more optimism that I can change things.
Sebastian Harris says
Thanks Daniel. Keep binge-reading my articles 😉
Great article. You even mentioned a few things I missed when i wrote an article on the signs a woman likes you… and you have a really fun writing style. I’m finding myself binge-reading a lot of your posts!
Sebastian Harris says
thanks a lot. I will definitely continue to to help.
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