Here’s how to tell if a girl is losing interest:
Okay, that could also be a sign of a severe illness. She might have Alzheimer’s…who knows? All I know is that it sucks. You know what I mean. This feeling that a girl who once had a crush on you (or who at least liked you) is no longer into you…it hurts.
But why, oh sweet Jesus, why is it happening?
I’m sure you’ve been in this situation before. You either approached a girl or you went on a date with a girl and you were faced with the following dilemma. The first couple of minutes were great. Then things started to fall apart.
You’re either dating her or you want to date her.
The problem is that you have the feeling that she loses interest:
These are just some of the signs a girl is losing interest in you…
How to Tell if a Girl is Losing (Or Has Already Lost) Interest
Why even bother?
That’s a good question. You could just ignore your gut feeling and continue as if nothing had changed. That’s what most guys do. They have this gut feeling. It’s there. But they don’t listen because they are afraid of the message.
Here’s why this is a huge mistake:
You want to be able to tell if a girl is losing interest because you do NOT want to waste your time. That’s what it comes down to. If you move on and pretend that everything is sunshine and rainbows, you will waste a shit ton of time.
Never forget this one truth about the female nature:
Women are experts in wasting a man’s time.
They don’t do it because they are evil. In fact, most of them do it because they want to be nice. They continue to go out with you. They smile, they say nice things and after five dates, you have nothing to show for.
As a Global Seducer, you value your time.
That’s why it’s so important to know what’s going on as fast as possible…
1. You Wait a Long Time for Her Response
Her response time is directly correlated to her feelings for you.
God, that sounds complicated as hell. Here’s what I mean by that: A girl who waits ten minutes to reply to your message likes you. She waits a bit because she doesn’t want to appear desperate. I’m sure you do the same when you text a girl.
What about the girl who waits ten hours?
Now you’re in the danger zone. If a girl waits more than two hours (especially when she has read the message), you are in serious trouble. The good news is that it’s easy to find out. No matter if you use LINE, WhatsApp, or Facebook Messenger…you can see if she’s read it.
If she doesn’t respond for days, I don’t even bother anymore.
However, if it takes her a couple of hours to respond, I give her one last chance. I tell her to stop playing games and to respond because I value my time. I’m busy and I have better things to do than to wait for Miss Princess to reply.
Now she can either accept my conditions or waste another man’s time.
2. She Shows Up Late on the Date
I’m very German when it comes to punctuality.
Of course, I won’t kill her if she shows up ten minutes too late. But if I have to wait longer than ten minutes, I get grumpy. And if she doesn’t let me know that she’s on the way, I turn into the Hulk. You could call me neurotic (which I definitely am), but I call it respect.
I consider it disrespectful to let someone wait.
I mean, she could be in a traffic jam. Sometimes things get in the way. Trains run late. Spaceships have problems to land. Shit happens. That’s okay. She just has to take her smartphone and text me “I’ll be there in ten minutes.” Girls who are into you do that.
Only girls who have lost interest don’t do that.
They don’t give a shit. They show up late on the first date, second date, and if you’re stupid enough to continue the game, they also do it on the third date. Come on, buddy. Have some self-respect. Tell her to be on time and to stop wasting your time.
3. Her Phone is More Interesting than You
Here’s another way to tell if a girl is losing interest:
Look at her smartphone. Where is it? Is it in her handbag or in her hand? If it’s in her hand, you’re fucked…unless she shows you a cute cat video. Yes, we live in a messed up society. Most girls between the age of 18 and 38 are addicted to their smartphones.
They are glued to that thing.
Nevertheless, they can control their addiction…but only if they are into you. If you are on a date with a girl who’s interested in you, she will not look at her phone. She might text her BFF “he’s not a creep. We don’t have to fake an emergency call.” That’s okay.
Here are some things that are not okay:
I’ve been in this situation.
Do you know what I do with girls who are more into their smartphone than into me?
I smile, stand up, and leave. I have better things to do.
4. She Doesn’t Care When You’re Sick
What does she do when you’re sick?
It’s no secret that women have more empathy than men. That’s why a (good) girlfriend takes care of you when you’re sick. She cooks a soup for you, prepares your meal, and buys you medicine. In fact, every woman I’ve ever dated has done that for me.
Call me an arrogant asshole, but that’s something I expect.
What if she doesn’t do it?
Imagine you’re dating this girl. Her name is Debbie Devil. You call her because you’re sick. Let’s say you’re so sick that you can’t leave the house. You can just make it to the bathroom, right before you shit your pants.
You kindly ask her to buy medicine for you.
Here’s her response:
“Tonight I hit the club with the girls. Sorry, I can’t.”
She doesn’t care that you’re almost dying. All she can think of is getting hammered with Stacey, Lucy, and Jennifer. That’s more important than the health and life of the guy she’s dating. She’s definitely a keeper.
You should keep your door locked the next time she shows up.
5. She Hides You From Her Friends
I’m dating this girl right now.
We are not officially boyfriend and girlfriend, but I enjoy her company. She’s sweet, smart, and she wanted to come over when I was sick. And she introduced me to her friends. In fact, she invited me to the birthday party of one of her friends.
She wanted me to meet her friends.
That’s a sign that she’s interested in me. But I’m not an idiot. I know that it’s about so much more. She wants me to meet her friends because her friends are cute judges in high heels. She wants them to check me out and to give an approved stamp.
Now imagine a girl doesn’t want you to meet her friends.
That’s an obvious sign that she has lost interest. Think about it. She doesn’t care if her friends like you. Heck, she doesn’t even want you to be a part of her social circle. Let’s face it. Her friends already know your relationship status.
I hope you know it, too.
6. She Forgets Important Dates and Memories
Are you important to her?
Women are extremely good at remembering this stuff. I have to admit it. I’m terrible at it. I can’t even remember my mom’s and dad’s birthday. But like I said, women are more empathic. They remember these dates. They care about the positive memories.
Here’s how to tell if a girl is losing interest:
Suddenly, she doesn’t care anymore. She doesn’t even listen when you mention old memories. What about your birthday? She doesn’t even know your age. She has lost all interest.
Do you really want to be together with a woman who doesn’t care?
For a Global Seducer, the answer is obvious.
7. She Tries to Avoid Sleeping with You
Women love sex.
That’s not a provocative statement. That’s the truth. Heck, they have a clitoris. You don’t have such an amazing lust button. Just think about who’s louder in bed. She feels more intense pleasure than you and yes, I’m a bit jealous.
Of course she wants to sleep with you!
But what if she doesn’t?
Then you have a problem…a big problem. Either you suck in bed or she has lost interest in you. I doubt it’s because of reason number. You would have figured that out after the third time without her making the slightest noise. But it might be reason number two. I mean, you also wouldn’t sleep with a girl you’re not interested in.
Okay, maybe you would if she has a great ass.
But women are different. If the emotional connection is gone, her sex drive goes down the drain. That’s how women are and the fact that you can separate feelings and humping doesn’t change that. She’s a woman.
And if she doesn’t want to sleep with you, it’s over.
8. She Doesn’t Care if You See Other Girls
Did I already tell you what the girl I’m dating did?
I told you about the birthday party of her friend. We were the first guests who arrived. Yep, that’s how German I am. Punctuality is in my blood. And jealousy is in every girl’s blood. There’s nothing cuter than a girl who’s a bit jealous.
Here’s what she did when the birthday girl arrived…in her short dress:
She squeezed my hand and asked me if that girl is my type. She wanted to know if I’m checking her out. Don’t get me wrong. There was no drama. It was just a quick sign that showed me that she cared whether or not I see other girls.
Here’s how to tell fi a girl has lost interest:
If she doesn’t care about any of that, she probably doesn’t care about you.
9. She’s Actively Looking for Other Men
If she does that, it’s over.
I’m sorry. I don’t want to break you precious heart. But if she’s looking for other men, you should let her go. In fact, you should kick her out of your apartment and change the lock. You don’t want to date a girl like that.
Okay, there are exceptions:
If you’re looking for other girls, you have no right to complain about her thirst for other abs, mustaches and dicks. Then it’s okay. But if you’ve decided on being exclusive, she shouldn’t be on Tinder. I don’t know about you, but I wouldn’t want a girlfriend who’s on Tinder.
So…what if you find her profile on a dating site?
Then you obviously signed up on the same dating site with the same ulterior motive…hehe.
10. You Can Only Have Small Talk with Her
What does your future girlfriend want?
She wants to sleep with you. But that’s not all. She wants to find out as much as possible about you. She wants to know everything. That doesn’t mean that you should reveal everything. Being the mysterious seducer is better than Mr. Tell It All.
She wants to know every detail and that’s why...
She’s not satisfied with small talk because she wants to get to know you.
How about a girl who has lost interest?
She’s okay with small talk. She has absolutely no interest in diving deep. Getting to know you is not that important to her. She doesn’t care if you walk about the weather or your childhood trauma. She has already moved on.
You should also move on…unless you want to continue to talk about the weather.
Summed Up Wisdom
Do you want to know how to tell if a girl is losing interest? I’m sure you do because I’m sure you’ve been in this situation before. You approached a girl and she smiled like a child. On the second date she was grumpy like a hungry baby. Now you know why it took her so long to respond to your texts and why she showed up late on the second date.
What does she do on the date? She plays with her phone. Then she checks her emails. And she makes a selfie. She doesn’t care that you’re already lying on the table. You’re almost dead but she doesn’t care. The ambulance comes too late. You die.
Now you’re alive again. You’re ready to meet her friends. There’s just one problem. She doesn’t want you to meet her friends. She also doesn’t want to sleep with you. She’s too busy checking her Tinder profile. She even sees your profile. But she doesn’t care that you’re looking for other girls because she has already lost interest in you.