Do you want to know how to tell if a girl is flirting with you?
Imagine the following situation…
You’re in class, at work or at any other place with a lot of people. Some of the people in the room are men. Others are women. You don’t know why, but you can’t stop checking out this one girl. She’s gorgeous.
“Is she flirting with me?” You’re asking yourself.
Well, it’s a good start, but you can’t be sure. Some girls smile because they want to be friendly. Others do it because they are happy. You need evidence that proves that she’s interested in you.
You need more signs.
A hot girl looks at you and you don’t know if she wants you or if it’s just a beautiful dream. Heck, she might be looking at the guy next to you. You don’t know. But you will soon know because I’m about to reveal the most popular signs she is flirting with you.
After reading this article you’ll be one of the few men in this world who see what’s really going on…
The Body Language Signs of a Girl Who is Flirting with You
I struggled for years.
No matter how hard I tried, I couldn’t tell if a girl was flirting with me or if she was just being friendly. Every time I thought I had seen obvious signs, I ended up getting disappointed. I’ve heard the “sorry, but I have a boyfriend” line way too often.
Here’s what I did wrong:
I focused on her words instead of her body language.
Compliments are signs a girl is flirting with you, but most women don’t give them. If you wait for her to say something, you can wait a long time.
Women are different than men.
This is especially true when it comes to flirting. Men flirt more aggressively. Women are way more passive. They don’t throw compliments in every direction. Instead, they use their body.
A woman’s body reveals more than her words…
1. Her Body is Focused on You
An open body language is an obvious sign.
It’s the complete opposite of THIS…
She might be talking to one of her friends or to another guy. It doesn’t matter. Her body reveals where she wants to be. You are the center of attention. Wait until she’s finished talking.
Now make your move.
2. She Shows What Her Mama Gave Her
Here’s how to tell if a girl is flirting with you:
She shows you everything.
Wait! Calm down. I don’t say that she’ll get naked in front of you and force you to motorboat her. That’s not how it works…unless you’re in a strip club. No, I’m talking about her going into feminine mode. She wants to show what her mama gave her…in a subtle way.
Here are the signs:
That’s what I call the feminine mode.
She does everything in her power to make you notice her…without taking her clothes off.
3. Her Eyes Smile at You
How can you tell if she’s flirting with you or just friendly?
It’s not that hard.
Look at the way she smiles at you and you’ll know the answer. A woman who’s into you smiles because she’s in your presence and because she has the chance to get to know you. Her mouth is smiling and her eyes are smiling too.
This is a genuine, a real smile.
A woman who’s just friendly smiles in a completely different way. Her mouth is smiling, but her eyes are not. If you are genuinely happy, it’s impossible to smile like this because the wrinkles around your eyes are automatically moving. When her eyes don’t move, it’s not a real smile.
I call this the Britney Spears smile.
This woman is the master of fake smiles. Look at more than three photos of Britney Spears and you’ll know how to distinguish a real smile from a fake smile.
4. She Acts Shy and Reserved
Some girls are shy.
Here’s how to know if a shy girl is flirting with you:
The giggling isn’t even the most obvious sign.
There’s something she does while she giggles that’s even more obvious. She covers her mouth whenever she laughs. She’s shy and she doesn’t want expose herself…or she’s Japanese.
But if she’s not Japanese, she’s flirting with you.
5. She Exaggerates Every Move
Everything is so dramatic…
Have you ever heard of the term overacting?
Watch any movie with Jim Carrey and you know exactly what it means…
But our good friend Jim Carrey is not the only one who falls victim to this crazy behavior. Women do it too…but only when they are flirting with you. Or let’s say they try it.
There are two types of flirtatious girls:
Girl #1: The shy and reserved girl.
Girl #2: The overacting drama queen.
These are the two extremes and nope, there’s no middle ground.
6. Her Body Submits to You
What do women want?
No, they don’t want to date a domesticated puppy. They want a dominant man. That’s how it is and how it always will be. And even though most Western women have been conditioned to believe that they have to act manly, biology always beats cultural indoctrination.
The moment she starts to flirt, she turns into a submissive woman:
Enjoy these moments of pure femininity and accept the invitation.
How to Tell if a Girl is Flirting with You (In Every Situation)
Now you know to tell if a girl is flirting with you by looking at her body language.
But you want to see even more signs, am I right?
Let’s get started…
How to Know if a Girl is Flirting with You in Your School or College Class
A lot of my readers are students.
Some of them are in high school. Others are in college.
Are you one of them?
Then find out what the cute girl in the second row really thinks about you...
1. She Turns Her Head to Look at You
Here’s how to know if a girl is flirting with you in class:
Here’s a perfect example of how this could look like:
Unfortunately, I was a desperate virgin in high school. No girl ever flirted with me. That’s why I can’t tell you if it feels amazing, but I’m sure it does. Oh man, if I could turn back the time…
P.S. Sorry, I forgot to tell you to skip the last part of the video.
2. She Overcomes Obstacles to Sit Close to You
I can’t promise that she sits next to you.
Not all girls have the balls (or the eggs) to sit next to a guy they like. Some of them, however, have the courage to come as close as possible.
But being close is not always the best option:
Like I said, not many girls are courageous enough to sit next to their crush. But if a girl tries to get the seat next to you, she wants you. Come on. Flirt with her.
3. She Smiles Whenever You Look at Her
You check her out.
Whenever you have the chance, you turn around and look at her. Of course, she notices it each and every time. And she likes it. That’s why she smiles at you.
The question is:
Is it a real smile or a fake smile?
Maybe she’s just smiling because she wants you to stop. I mean, she doesn’t want the other students and the teacher to catch her. Look out for the Britney Spears smile.
What if it’s a genuine smile?
She wants to flirt with you. There’s no reason to stop.
How to Know if a Girl is Flirting with You at the Gym
Do you hit the gym?
I’m sure the following situation sounds familiar to you:
I almost killed myself on the bench press because a girl was flirting with me. I saw her looking at me…right before my final rep. She smiled and walked past me. I stared at her perfect ass and a friend of mine had to come and help me.
Here’s how she almost killed me…
2. She Looks at You Whenever You’re Lifting
She looked at me whenever I lifted a dumbbell.
She didn’t look at my lazy ass when I was resting. She only looked at me when I was working my butt off and when I had to concentrate.
I don’t look like this dude (I’m skinny as fuck) but she didn’t care.
But yeah, that’s by far the most obvious sign she’s flirting with you. Most girls are used to guys looking at their perfectly shaped asses in their tight shorts. But it’s not so common to see girls checking out guys at the gym.
If it happens to you, she wants to flirt.
1. She Follows Your Workout Routine
Now I know how it feels to have a stalker.
Okay, the last one was a joke. Unfortunately, she didn’t follow me to the men’s locker room. But she went to the women’s locker room at about the same time. I “accidentally” bumped into her on the way out.
I knew that it wasn’t an accident.
That’s why I gave her a compliment and asked her out. We ended up dating.
3. She Gives You the Perfect View
There’s this one machine every guy struggles with.
We don’t struggle with it because it’s too difficult to use. Oh no, we don’t even use it…at least most of us. We struggle because it gives us the perfect view. Yes, I’m talking about the abductor, also called the inner thigh machine.
My friends and I call it the vagina press.
Of course, it’s not always that obvious.
But when a woman looks at you, smiles and gives you the perfect view, she wants to flirt with you. It’s no coincidence that her butt looks bigger after every set.
How to Tell if a Girl is Flirting with You Through Text
She flirted with you in class and at the gym.
You’re an action-taker.
I mean, you’ve read my book Rise of the Phoenix. You know exactly what to say to her. She smiles like a happy child when you ask her for her number.
She still likes you. That’s why she continues to flirt with you through text…
1. She Uses a Lot of Kiss Smileys
This is one of the most obvious signs she is flirting with you over text. Most women don’t send kiss smileys to everyone. Yes, they send laugh smileys, wink smileys, and all kinds of other ridiculous smileys to guys they don’t give a shit about.
But the kiss smiley is special.
That’s why you have to be thankful for every kiss smiley you get. It could be your last. Sorry, that sounded depressing. But hey, it won’t be your last because she’ll take it to the next level.
It’s about to get naughty…
2. She Sends Naughty Selfies
First, allow me to crush your dreams:
She probably won’t send you any nudes, at least for now. However, she sends you selfies with kiss faces, in revealing clothes, and these cute short videos that girls send when they try a bit too hard. You know…these videos with the dog tongue and big ears.
How do you respond when she sends you this stuff?
Here’s what you need to do:
What do I mean by that?
She sends a kiss face. You do the same. She sends a picture of her boobs. You take a picture without your shirt. That’s how you flirt over text without worrying that you take it too far.
3. She Gets Nervous When You Don’t Text Back
What if you don’t text back?
One of three things will happen:
- 1She doesn’t care and moves on with her life.
- 2She asks you why you don’t text back.
- 3She bombards you with messages.
The first reaction means that she’s (most likely) not into you. The second and the third reaction are obvious signs that she wants to keep going. Women can’t handle pressure and a guy who doesn’t respond is the definition of pressure.
She’ll do anything to release this pressure.
How to Know if a Girl is Flirting with You at Work
I remember this one girl.
I can’t reveal her name, so let’s call her Susan. I met her at my first job. She was working in a different department but we saw each other every day. She was flirting with me all the time and I was so into her.
I never made the first move.
Years later she told me that she would have dated me. Now she’s married and has two children. Well, that’s what happens when you don’t take action in life. The signs were there. But I was too shy.
Here’s what she did almost every single day…
1. She Always Wants to Go to Lunch with You
She went to lunch with me…every day.
I know. It doesn’t sound like an obvious sign she’s flirting with you. But it is. If she works in a different department or if she doesn’t usually join your group for lunch, she does it because she likes you.
Enjoy the food and don’t forget to look out for more signs:
Don’t underestimate a formal business lunch.
2. She Sends You Private Messages During Work
We did this all the time.
I sent her stupid jokes and she sent me funny answers. It was like a ball game. Back and forth, back and forth….we had a great time. One day she was laughing so hard that I could hear it on the other side of the office.
One of our mutual friends asked me:
“What’s going on with you guy?”
Well, nothing was going on. I was too afraid to make a move and she wanted me to make the first move. She’s a woman. I can’t blame her. So we continued to send us funny, stupid, and sometimes naughty messages until I left the company.
3. She Massages You While She Asks for Help
She did it once.
I didn’t expect it, but I also didn’t complain. She asked me if I could help her with some excel problem. Until today I still don’t know if she needed my help or if she was just pretending. But I didn’t care because I enjoyed every second of it.
Here’s what happened:
I wish I had done something…anything.
But it took another two years until I discovered the secrets I share with you in this book.
Summed Up Wisdom
You want to know how to tell if a girl is flirting with you, right? Then look at her body. Not every woman gives compliments. Some of them are too shy. But if her body language is open and she switches to feminine mode, she wants to flirt with you.
What if you’re in class? She can’t keep her eyes off you. Whenever you look at her, she smiles. And she comes closer. Now she sits right next to you. You know what that means.
Yes, she wants to kiss you. That’s why she sends you dozens of kiss smileys over text. And she also wants to know that you deserve the award for most handsome coworker. She enjoys the back massage more than you.
Sebastian Harris says
that’s great to hear!
this is very helpful because i’m often oblivious to how women shows signs of interest in a guy. i can almost never tell. there were probably multiple instances in the past in which a girl was flirting with me/showing interest–and i probably never realized it.
like you said at the beginning of this article—women tend to show signs of interest in subtle ways. whereas when a guy likes a girl—its much more obvious.
recently, i had this girl who wants to meet up with me, but for whatever reason she can never come up with a time that she’s free/available. she said she doesn’t have a car—so i guess that makes it hard for her to get around. anyway, i texted her several days ago and said “fuck it” because i was so frustrated that we STILL haven’t met in person. after that, i didn’t expect her to hit me up anymore, but she did a couple days ago. and now she just invited me over to watch a couple movies. i can’t even remember the last time something like this has happened to me