Have you ever asked yourself how to tell if a girl has a boyfriend without asking her?
I have asked myself this question a long time ago.
The reason why I wanted to know it is not because I am deaf and dumb or simply to retarded/insecure/nervous to simply ask girls if they have a boyfriend.
There are basically three reasons why I wanted to be able to distinguish the girls who are in a relationship from the ones who haven’t seen a dick in months without actually asking them. I am pretty sure that you also thought about the following three reasons (don’t lie to me ;-)):
1. You want to know before you approach or within the first couple of seconds of an interaction if you are wasting your time or not.
2. You want to make sure that you don’t get stabbed/beaten up/killed by a jealous boyfriend, just because the girl you banged the whole weekend pretended to be single.
3. You want to improve your seduction skills and telling if a woman has a boyfriend without asking her is definitely an awesome skill to have.
Am I right when I say that these are the major reasons why you want to be able to tell if the girls you meet are single? Then it’s time to look at signs that show you if she is single or not, without the use of words.
How to Tell If a Girl Has a Boyfriend Before You Approach Her
Before we are starting with the signs that already tell you whether or not a girl is in a relationship before you even say “hi” to her, I want to make one thing clear:
Just because a girl shows one or two signs that indicate that she might have a boyfriend doesn’t mean that you can be 100% sure that she really has one. Heck, it even happened to me that a girl looked me straight in the eyes and told me that she is single, just because she was attracted to me.
Unless you find a way to read women’s minds with some weird psycho tricks, you can’t be 100% sure if she really has one. The following sings are indicators that make it easy to find out what you want to know, but they are NOT a guarantee.
Unless a girl shows two or more of the following signs, in which case it is pretty obvious that there is already a man in her life, you should definitely approach her.
In the worst case you are getting confronted with the last sign that I am going to talk about.
But before I am going to tell you about your slow and painful death when her boyfriend finds out that you are the daddy of his daughter, I am going to share some signs with you that can be indicators that a girl you are talking to is already sexually satisfied.
The Ring of Fire
Do you know what I do right after I spotted a girl who I want to approach?
While others are staring at her ass, I am staring at her fingers. No, the weird finger fetihs that I don’t have is not the reason why I do this.
The fingers of a girl tell you if she is engaged or married.
Most of the time it is quite obvious that this ring of fire that she’ll use in five years to burn her poor husband right after the divorce is a wedding ring or an engagement ring. A ring from a guy who decided to lick the same vagina for the rest of his life has a big bling on the ring, whereas a ring from her grandmother usually doesn’t have a diamond.
Those rings are not only an obvious sign for the stupidity of all the men who are willing to go into debt for a tiny piece of nothing that their beloved wears around her finger. It is also a great indicator if the girl you approach wants to jump in bed with you or not.
P.S: Her willingness to jump in bed with you depends on how long she is married.
The Shopping Basket
If you’ve ever went on a daygame adventure in a shopping center you know how difficult it can be to find a girl who didn’t decide to go on a shopping tour with five of her best friends. By hitting on girls in grocery stores you avoid this problem. I have never met a girl who needed the help of her friends to decide if she should take the hard or the soft cheese.
Having tons of girls alone at one place is definitely great, but there is another benefit of grocery stores:
The shopping basket of a woman tells you more about her relationship status than the amount of condoms she has at home.
A woman who buys family size packages, American Football magazines, a lot of beer and diapers is definitely in a relationship, married or a girl who you really don’t want to date.
In very rare cases she’s a sexually frustrated single mother who tends to masturbate all night long after she had her thrid beer. Approach her anyway. Maybe she is the hottest single mum on the planet and you can ignore the facts that she has a serious alcohol problem.
How to Tell If a Girl Has a Boyfriend During the Interaction
In case the next hot girl you see has no ring on her finger and carries a shopping basket full of light products that are buried under two seasons of Vampire Diaries, she is definitely single.
You tell her how beautiful she is and she is happy as shit that you are not one of those creepy guys who always ask her about birthday presents for their sisters.
Everything is going well, but after you talk with her for a couple of seconds, her behavior starts to change.
You are not sure if she does this because she wants to bang you, or because she already has a guy who does this job.
A woman’s behavior can indicate whether or not she is in a relationship, but I honestly have to say that this is an extremely vague sign. In case her behavior is the only sign that you get, you shouldn’t automatically assume that she is in a relationship.
However, for a man who wants to know how to tell if a girl has a boyfriend, it’s still quite helpful to know about the typical behavior that women who have a boyfriend display as soon as you show your interest.
Whenever I approach a girl who has a boyfriend they usually behave in one of the following two ways:
95% of the time they get extremely nervous, they start to sweat and they don’t know what to say.
One of the girls who I approached when she was in a relationship (she’s still together with him) became one of my best female friends. She is an extremely confident and calm human being, but she also got extremely nervous when I approached her a few months ago. As she told me, there are a couple of reasons for that.
First of all, she got nervous because her logical mind immediately told her that it is wrong/slutty/ false to talk to a stranger who is obviously attracted to her, while her boyfriend is waiting at home. But that was not the only confusing emotion she felt.
She also told me that she was scared as hell that someone she knows would see her while she is talking to me. The third emotional reaction was the fear that she would do something that she’ll regret later. She didn’t know me and right after I approached her she wasn’t quite sure if she would develop the desire to do something her boyfriend wouldn’t want her to do. This scared the shit out of her.
These are the reasons why 95% of women who are in a relationship get nervous when you approach them.
What’s with the other 5%?
Those are the girls who actually get horny by the thought of cheating on their boyfriend.
I know that it goes completely against the faithful good girl image, but there are women (not many, but some) who are turned on by the opportunity to cheat with a guy who is sexually attracted to them. Most of the time those girls miss the dominant sexual energy that you project with your approach. Sometimes they just have a cheating fetish.
However, telling if a girl has a boyfriend when all she does is showing through her body language that she is DTF is quite difficult. Welcome to the danger zone.
Oh, by the Way…
A girl who is single won’t just tell you that she doesn’t have a boyfriend. Most girls are too afraid to appear slutty if they would do that.
However, if she has a boyfriend and if you show through your approach that you are sexually interested in her (which you should), it is possible that she addresses the elephant in the room in the middle of the conversation.
“Oh, by the way…I have a boyfriend”
“I am meeting my boyfriend later”
“I would love to go for a coffee, but my boyfriend wouldn’t be happy about that”
Is this bad? No, it’s the best that can happen to you. Wouldn’t an indirect approach be better in this situation? No, the direct approach saves you a lot of time and nerves that you would lose in an endless battle to win her heart, while you rot in the friend zone.
How do you react when she begins her next sentence with “oh, by the way…”?
Click here and scroll to the last big headline to find it out.
The Name on the Necklace
Some guys come up with the extremely romantic idea to buy a necklace for their girlfriend that says “name of the guy I am banging”. It doesn’t happen often but I already met three girls (yes, I made notes) who wore a necklace with the initials of their boyfriend.
I mean, wearing a necklace with the name of your partner is far more intelligent than getting a tattoo with his name. You can throw away the necklace but removing Jonathan Anthony Mc Gudderberry from your belly can be quite painful.
Of course this whole gesture is not as romantic as many girls think. Whereas the naive beauty thinks that her boyfriend is so romantic, he probably thought about marking his territory and signalizing lusty perverts like me that I step on hostile territory as soon as I touch his girlfriend.
In case you ever approach a girl who wears a necklace with a name on it, you have to ask her about the name.
Maybe she is a lesbian and wears the name of a woman around her neck. Maybe her parents tried to abort her three times because they wanted a boy and not a girl. Eventually, they called her Bob and now she is wearing her name around her neck.
Bob could be the love of your life.
We Can’t Go Back to My Place
I once dated a girl who was so cold, even though she seemed to be the sweetest little thing on earth. I approached her, she smiled and when I asked her if she has a boyfriend, she gave me a seductive glimpse and said “no, I am single”.
We went on a date, we talked for hours and on the way to the bus station I took her hand, caressed it and kissed her. The moment I kissed her felt great. I was really proud of the way the evening turned out.
My moment of pride should only last a couple of seconds…
Right after the kiss she looked at me with a dreamy smile. I was confident that she would say “yes” to a night of kissing, licking and fucking.
The only problem was that my place was at the other end of the city. She lived nearby. Normally I would have told her to come back to my place, but in this situation it seemed more logical to go back to her place. In hindsight, I am so glad that I didn’t take her home. I would have broken one of my most important rules.
She gave me a kiss, smiled at me and said “we can’t go back to my place…”
Naive as I was I looked at her like a loyal puppy who just discovered his sex drive and asked “why?”
What followed were a few well’s and um’s.
Right before I wanted to say that we can also go back to my place, she finally told me that she lives together with her boyfriend. I was shocked while she tried to kiss me again. What a crazy evening.
How to Tell if She Has a Boyfriend After You Got Her Number
Now you know how to tell if a girl has a boyfriend during the interaction. The only problem is that not all girls want you to find out what you want to know while you are talking to them. As you can see from my experience with the girl who only admitted the existence of her boyfriend after I kissed her, not all women are honest, especially when they are horny.
If a girl is in an unsatisfying relationship with a complete moron AND if she is attracted to you, chances are high that she wants to sleep with you anyway. In order to make sure that your conscience doesn’t keep you from ripping her panties off, she’ll hide her better half.
If your moral standards don’t allow you to sleep with girls who are in a relationship this sucks. I know that it seems unbelievable that a guy who dedicates his life to seducing and dating women all around the globe has moral standards. However, I have them and not sleeping with girls who have a boyfriend is one of the rules I live by.
With the words “a boyfriend might kick your ass, a husband will murder you” Eliot Chang perfectly describes the importance of this rule:
What if you want to prevent yourself from doing things with a girl that would break another man’s heart?
Social Media Stalking
How to tell if a girl has a boyfriend after she gave you her number: play CIA!
In the same way as the American authorities know more about a German airplane that crashed in France than the German government, you are able to know more about her relationship than her parents and friends.. All you need to do is to tap into social media.
Throught the last couple of years I only met one girl who didn’t have a Facebook account and there are maybe five girls left in my social circle who don’t waste their precious time on Instagram. If she is active on any social media platform, you’ll find out if she has a boyfriend. I guarantee you that.
The #1 goal that every girl has in regards to social media is to appear perfect.
This includes her “perfect” relationship, even if her relationship is anything but perfect. Seriously, I met girls who were about to break up with their boyfriend and as soon as you clicked on their Facebook profile you saw a happy couple with a bright smile.
If you want to know how to tell if a girl has a boyfriend you should consider stalking her on social media.
You Get a Nasty Call
Last but not least, there is another way to find out if a girl has a boyfriend without asking her. Maybe you win the jackpot and the non-exiting boyfriend says “hi”.
Getting a call from the guy she is dating can be quite irritating, especially when she told you that she is single or that she just broke up with him.
I once approached a cute girl in a supermarket. She gave me her number and told me that she just broke up with her boyfriend. Twenty minutes later she called me. At least I thought that it was her who called me.
As soon as I picked up the phone my right ear got irreparably damaged.
As it turned out she didn’t break up with her boyfriend. I didn’t really understand what he screamed, but he used the words “asshole”, “killing” and “dead” way too many times.
The only thing that’s worse than an angry boyfriend on the phone is an angry boyfriend in front of you while you are inside of his girlfriend.
Let’s face it. Getting single girls is way easier.
My book shows you how to get them
Summed Up Wisdom
Do you want to know how to tell if a girl has a boyfriend without asking her? You can actually find out if she is in a relationship before you approach her. Just look at her finger and if she wears a big diamond ring, you can be quite sure that the poor idiot she’s dating got ripped off by her. Oh, and don’t forget her shopping basket. Diapers and family sized packages are pretty suspicious.
During the interaction she’s either so nice and tells you directly that she is in a relationship, which allows you to say goodbye and to walk up to the next girl, or you take a look at her necklace. Maybe she got stigmatized by her boyfriend. You might be lucky and her behavior or an innocent sentence at the end of the evening reveal the person she tried to hide from you.
In case you want to know how to tell if a girl has a boyfriend after she already gave you her number, you should virtually stalk her. Facebook and Instagram will show you if she is in a relationship. In case she doesn’t have Facebook, you might get a nasty call from the guy who shouldn’t exist.
Sebastian Harris says
thank you so much. My book will be published this month. Stay tuned 😉
Ash Ashu says
Hey,I really want to thank you.I m reading your blogs from last 6 months and came to know a lot about girls….And really after reading your blogs now I feel quite comfortable while talking a girl(its really not that much tough as I thought)…..And i m waiting Ur book eagerly……And again thx Sebastian u r the best….
Sebastian Harris says
she’s your friend. Ask her about her dating life.
what are the signs that a female friend you have feelings for is seeing or spending time with another guy?
Sebastian Harris says
you have to get over it. I know, it’s hard. If you want I can offer you a Skype coaching. I’m sure I can help you.
James Carter says
I can’t remember the last time my wife and I were intimate. I can tell you why, when we used to have a fulfilling and passionate sex life, it went south. My wife has a porn addiction. Her porn addiction interred with her being able to “finish” sometimes. This made me feel like less of a man, and very insecure, especially when she told me I needed to lose weight, even though i’m not that big in size. So I started sleeping on the couch, even though I am still attracted to my wife. There are other contributing factors, such as talking to other men on social media, i was able to gain access to all the activities going on in her phone in real time with the help of a high profile hacker (BIRDEYE dot HACK at GMAIL dot COM). He did it with only requesting her phone number. We are now separated and I feel like my life is over. I gave her 23 years of my life and she did that to me like its nothing…!!
Sebastian Harris says
thanks a lot! I will!
You are the boss man, you definitely know what you’re talking about and really experienced at least from some of your articles i’ve read. Hoping you release more articles on girls and women to enable us guys to have a better insight on how this shit works in general.