How to Talk Dirty to a Woman for the First Time

Why do you want to know how to talk dirty to a woman?

Let me guess:

I mean, let’s face it. You are not interested in a platonic friendship. Otherwise you’d be reading an article about how to make small talk that bores the shit out of everyone around you. You’re here because you want results.

I’m here to make sure that you get the results you want because…

Believe me. I had to fail hundreds of times and sleep with dozens of girls to figure out how to talk dirty in a way that makes women jump on you and not run away from you.

Here’s what I learned about female desire and words…

How to Talk Dirty to Girls: The Core Principles

Before we get started, you have to understand a few core principles.

I’m sure you’ve read at least one other posts and maybe you’ve even watched a couple of videos before you stumbled upon this article. Well, what can I say? I feel sorry for you because…

Here’s the truth: 

Everyone who told you about using as many naughty words and sending as many dick pics as you possibly can has lied to you. It’s about doing the exact opposite. Talking dirty to women is more effective when it’s less explicit.

I’ll explain...

1. You Can’t Jump in the Ice-Cold Water 

Here’s what most dating gurus tell you:

“Let her know that you want to sleep with her. Send her a dick pic and call her your little slut. She likes that. She wants you to talk to her as if you had already fucked her several times.”

Wow…just wow.

I’ve read this advice in an article that supposedly teaches how to talk dirty to a girl you like. Come on. You know that this sounds too good to be true. Don’t get me wrong. You can do these things.

But you can’t start like that.

You can’t jump in the ice-cold water and then complain that your heart stops beating. You need to start slow. You have to slowly build up the tension. If you go too fast, she’ll back off.

Give her time to flip her inner dirty talk switch.

2. This is Not a Dirty Word Competition  

Do you have to say pussy, vagina and all the other words you’ve learned in kindergarten?

No, you don’t!

Most guys believe that this is what talking dirty to women is all about .The one who says more naughty words wins. I’m sorry, but that’s not how it works. She is not like you. Women are different and think different.

Explicit language is NOT what turns women on.

A woman can only enjoy talking dirty and want to sleep with you if you understand this core principle. She doesn’t care that you talk about your dick in the most creative way. That’s not what turns her on. She’s turned on by her imagination.

Don’t make her ears hear it. Make her mind see it.

3. Innocent Girls Love When You Talk Dirty to Them 

Does the following situation sound familiar?

You’re in a club and you see this insanely hot girl. She’s wearing a mini skirt, a tight top and she looks at you as if she wanted to swallow one specific part of your body right here and now. She’s such a naughty girl.

You’re sure she’s totally into dirty talk.

What about this situation?

You’re neighbors are throwing a party and you are invited. The host has a cute 18-year-old daughter who looks like an angel. She’s dressed conservatively and smiles as if you were the first guy she ever looks at.

You’re sure she’s not into dirty talk.

Let me tell you a secret:

The sky is blue and silent waters run deep. Don’t think that a girl doesn’t enjoy a naughty conversation, just because she looks innocent. She might look like an angel, but deep down every woman is a little devil who wants to break free.

Here are the exact steps you have to follow to release this devil…

How to Talk Dirty to a Woman for the First Time  

Let’s say you just met this girl.

You approached her on the street, at the mall, or at your weekly bible class. She’s smoking hot and you want to start questioning her about her sex life. You want to know what she likes and what she doesn’t like.

All these questions are racing through your head when you suddenly hear a voice in the back of your mind.

It’s my voice and I’m trying to tell you something:

Slow down, bro…

4. Start with an Innocent Sexual Conversation 

Remember the ice-cold water example?

Don’t jump right in and get a heart attack. That’s not how it’s done. First, you have to make her feel comfortable. Women are constantly afraid of getting judged.

You have to start to build up the tension:

Start a conversation that sounds innocent but isn’t innocent at all. Hot, sweaty, exhausted…you get the point. The goal of this first step is to put naughty thoughts in her mind without actually being naughty.

Now you can increase the tension with the perfect cover letter…

5. Let Her Know that You’re a Naughty Boy  

What do you do when you apply for a job?

You write a cover letter. This cover letter shows all your amazing qualifications. Do the same when talking dirty to a girl. Make her realize that you are qualified to talk dirty to her. Unfortunately, nice guys don’t have the necessary qualifications.

Why don’t you share a couple of stories no nice guy would ever share?

Now that she knows how bad you are, you can continue in the name of science…

6. Increase the Temperature with the Study Trick  

You’ve read this study, right?

Come on. You know what I mean. You’ve read this study that said women love rough sex. And don’t forget the study about how women like to make naked selfies. You’ve also read this study that said women like to be seen as sex objects (This is actually a real study).

And believe me. It will work. 

The moment you talk about a study, you have the right to start a sexual conversation. Otherwise, it might be weird. But because you’re mentioning a scientific study, you have a free pass to talk about all the naughty stuff you want to put in her head. 

How to Talk Dirty to a Woman You Like and Want to Seduce  

Now she knows that you’re a naughty boy.

Oh, and the way you talked about this study…all she thinks of is a dominant man in her bed (yep, that would be you) and being your sex object. She’s already a bit wet.

This makes it easy for you to take things to the next level.

And you also know that asking the right questions is the best way to make her talk dirtier than a porn star on the casting couch…

7. Ask Questions Other Men are Afraid to Ask 

What are the questions that make a girl talk naughty?

Nope, asking her about her work doesn’t count. That’s boring talk, not dirty talk. You have to be a bit more courageous…and curious.

I love to start these questions with “I’m just curious”. It’s true. I really am curious. But I also know that asking a girl naughty questions AND getting away with it is a great sign. It’s a sign that she’s ready for more.

Now her mind is filled with naughty images.

How can you help her in this state?

Be a good guy and make her even hornier…

8. Share Your Mental Images with Her 

It’s your turn.

Now that she has all these naughty thoughts, it’s only natural to share your mental images with her. I’m sure you have one, two, or hundreds of thoughts that are not safe for work.

Leave the rest to her imagination.

This is what drives this cute little thing in her panties insane.

9. Encourage Her to Talk Dirty with Truth Bombs 

I love to throw truth bombs at girls.

Let’s face it. Some girls are too shy to answer your questions. Others react with “okay” and “oh, I see” or “haha okay” when you let them know what you think of their body. She doesn’t do it because she’s not into it.

She does it because she wants to be a good girl.

Your job is to get her out of her head and into her body. Make her feel so comfortable with you that talking about her sexy ass is a no-brainer. It has to feel natural to unload her truck of naughty thoughts in front of you.

Here are some things you can say to her:

She’ll be blown away by these truth bombs. All the other guys judge her and try to game her. You know what’s really going on because you know how to talk dirty to a woman. God, she can’t wait to let words become actions.

How to Talk Dirty to a Girl in Bed 

She wants action.

That’s why she allows you to seduce her. In fact, she helps you along the way by giving you clues.

She wants it and she wants it fast.

But that’s about to change.

Your goal is to use the right words to make her so uncontrollably horny that she wants to take her clothes off before you can remove your belt. It’s time to learn how to talk dirty to a woman in a way that gets her naked within minutes.

10. Tell Her You What You Can’t Stop Thinking of 

Don’t be shy.

You’ve already told her that you don’t buy her “I’m a good girl” bullshit. She knows that she can’t play you…and that she doesn’t have to. She can be herself…her naughty, kinky untamed self. And she wants you to unleash this naughty, this real self.

She wants to hear your thoughts.

Why don’t you tell her what you’re thinking of while you’re checking her out?

She wants to hear these things because she wants to sleep with a man who knows how to talk dirty to a woman without judging her.

11. Let Her Know that You Can Keep a Dirty Secret

She’s still not sure if you’re the real deal.

I mean, she likes the way you talk to her. But her ex was kind of a dick. He talked dirty to her and then told all her friends about it. It was so embarrassing. She doesn’t want this to happen a second time.

Let her know that it won’t happen again:

Give her the feeling that you want it to be a secret. It’s your idea, not hers. This takes all the pressure away from her. It makes her feel safe and secure because you have the same concern as she has. And you want the same thing.

You want to get naked while whispering dirty words into each other’s ears…

12. Ask Her What You’re Thinking While You…

While you what?

You kiss her and take her bra off...

While doing these pleasurable (or nerve-wrecking) things you don’t stop the dirty talk. You take it to the next level.

Here’s what you say to her:

She can’t wait to feel you inside of her and to hear what you’re going to say next…

How to Talk Dirty to a Girl During Sex 

Your prayers have been heard.

You’re finally on top of her, inside of her, and it feels so damn good. You clicked on this article because you wanted to know how to talk dirty to a woman. Now you got laid by using your words.

You can be proud of yourself.

The sex is good. She’s soaking wet. You’re about to explode. Think about your grandmothers teeth! Think about her rotten teeth! Good…you won’t shoot yet. You still have time to increase her pleasure with the right words.

Here’s what you’re going to say to her…

13. Tell Her How Much She Turns You on 

The hottest girls have insecurities.

You think she’s perfect, but she thinks her thighs are too big, her ass is too flat, and her boobs are too small. Some of the most beautiful women are the most insecure. Heck, that’s why a cute girl like her gets a boob job…

And it’s ten times worse during sex because she’s naked, she wants to look perfect for you, and she’s afraid of your judgement. This is the moment when she’s the most vulnerable.

Here’s how to use dirty talk to make her feel more secure:

These are the things a woman wants and needs to hear during sex…

14. Call Her Cute and Sexy Names 

Remember what I said earlier?

Dirty talk is not about using explicit language. Not every woman wants to be called your dirty little slut the first time you sleep with her. Some do, but not all. However, you can still use sexy nicknames…just don’t be too explicit.

How about one of these:

Once she’s comfortable with these names, you can call her your dirty little slut.

15. Tell Her What You Want Her to Do Next  

Women love to be dominated.

I hope I don’t “offend” you by speaking the truth. But if you wait for her taking the lead, you can wait until her body fluids turn into stardust. She wants you to take over control. She’s passive. You’re active. That’s how nature designed us.

Why don’t you tell her what you want her to do next?

Okay, now that she’s on top of you, she’s not passive anymore. But that’s okay because your dirty talk led her from being passive to being active.

Enjoy the ride and don’t forget to check out my book for more sneaky seduction techniques.

Summed Up Wisdom 

How do you talk dirty to a woman? You start slow. Don’t use explicit language before she’s ready for it. Increase the heat and once she’s hot, you can mention that interesting study you’ve heard of. For now, use words that only sound innocent.

Give her the feeling that you’re a naughty guy and ask her the right questions. You’re just curious. And you don’t judge her for her answers. Instead, you tell her that this is your little secret. She wants it that way.

Tell her how much she turns you on, but don’t call her your dirty little slut, at least not yet. Start with more innocent nicknames. And don’t forget to tell her what to say next. She wants you to take charge.