Don’t you also want to know how to talk dirty to a girl over text?
I still remember the day I got my first smartphone. Yes, I’m THAT old. I was so excited. Finally, no more staring at a screen that’s smaller than my nostrils. God, I was so happy…even though it hurt that I couldn’t play snake on my new phone.
Little did I know that I held a deadly seduction weapon in my hands…
Unfortunately, I had no idea how to use naughty messages to get girls to take their clothes off and sleep with me. Heck, I didn’t even know what the word “sexting” meant. Maybe you can relate to that.
It took me years of trial and error to learn the art.
“What art?” I hear you asking.
Well, the art of…
After reading this article, you will be able to do all these things. But you have to promise me something. You have to promise me to not click away, just because the first example I share with you doesn’t start with “God, you are so fucking sexy”.
How to Talk Dirty to a Girl Through Text: Water Doesn’t Cook in Seconds
What happens when you cook water?
It’s the same with learning how to talk dirty to a girl over text. You can’t expect to send a naughty first text and get a reply from her that say’s “I’m so wet”. That stuff works in porn movies but it doesn’t work in real life.
Here’s my advice:
If you jump right into the cold water, you’ll die from a heart attract. Start slowly. You’ve probably looked at some raunchy sexting examples on other websites and thought to yourself “man, I really want to try this”.
I will share more dirty texts with you than your smartphone can send. But first, you have to understand that this is a marathon and not a sprint. Give her time to reach the boiling point. Then she’ll take her clothes off.
Here’s the step-by-step guide for learning how to talk dirty to a girl over text that makes her reach the boiling point faster than you could possibly imagine…
1. Realize That She’s Not too Innocent
I know, I know.
You’re sick and tired of me lecturing you about having the right mindset. But hey, I don’t care. I won’t stop because I know how important it is to have the right mindset…even when it comes to talking dirty over text.
Here’s what you need to understand about women:
I don’t care if she walks around in a conservative skirt, baggy jeans, or an angel costume. She’s NOT too innocent to get down and dirty in a heated text exchange. I also don’t care if she only sends you innocent texts.
Just because she doesn’t initiate the dirty talk doesn’t mean that she doesn’t like it.
She loves it. But she wants YOU to start. You’re the man and she wants you to make the first move. However, she doesn’t want you to send the selfie you made yesterday.
2. Delete Your Dick Pics
I know what you did yesterday.
You went to the bathroom, unzipped your pants and took the most beautiful dick pic in the history of photography. It looks like a majestic tree on a lawn full of curly grass. You want to use this godlike image to talk dirty to a girl over text.
Please don’t do it.
I know. There’s a subreddit with dick picks, but there’s a subreddit for all kinds of crazy shit. She doesn’t want to see it. Don’t worry. I’ll share an alternative to this infamous picture fail in this article. For now, you have to understand one thing.
Women don’t want to receive dick pics.
Instead, they want to receive texts and pictures that trigger there imagination.
And it all starts with an innocent first message…
3. Start with a Special Innocent Topic
What do I mean by special innocent topic?
Well, you can start the conversation with a regular innocent topic. You can talk about the weather, about politics or about why the hell the Kardashians are so famous. However, it’s hard to transition from talking about the weather to talking about sex.
Your innocent topic has to leave room for more.
Here are some examples:
Fun things to do, inappropriate jokes, crazy experiences…all these topics can naturally lead to a more kinky way of communicating via text. I mean,
Politics and the weather don’t offer the same room for a perfect transition.
4. Make Her Open Up Emotionally
You want to know how to talk dirty to a girl over text and you want examples. Well, I can give you some examples, but I have to warn you. At this stage, they are not as naughty as you expect.
You first have to open her heart before she spreads her legs. Remember the example with the boiling water. The only way to make her receptive for dirty talk is to make her emotionally ready for what’s about to come.
She has to feel three core emotions:
Let’s assume she already likes you. I mean, she wouldn’t be texting with you if she hated your guts. Comfort and trust are still left. Let me share some of the topics I talk about whenever I want to make a girl trust me and feel comfortable around me.
Here they are:
I know. This goes completely against what other dating gurus tell you to do. But it works. Look at the big picture. Now that she trusts you and feels comfortable with you, you can start to boil the water.
5. Continue with Accidental Misspellings
I don’t care if you blame Siri or your Parkinson’s.
Accidental misspellings are the Holy Grail for every man who wants to learn how to talk dirty to a girl through text messages. It’s so simple, yet so effective. All you do is to give innocent texts a whiff of sexual tension.
Here are some examples:
Wait for her reaction. She’ll probably send you a couple of question marks or asks you what the hell you’re talking about. Laugh it off. Send a smile and apologize for your mistake…knowing that she thinks about sex, dicks, and her wet you know what.
6. Let Her Mind Fill in the Blanks
Let’s continue to boil her fluids.
It’s time to get sexual…without saying anything sexual.
Don’t run away! It’ll all make sense. Talking dirty to a girl through text is not about sending the raunchiest message you can possibly think of. Nothing could be further from the truth. It’s about making her imagine things.
Women get horny by imagining scenarios and not by explicit images.
Why do you think there are 9p9 strip clubs for men for every 1 strip club for women?
We get aroused when we hear dirty words and naked pictures. Female arousal is more complex. That’s why women prefer reading Fifty Shades of Grey instead of watching explicit movies. It’s all about the imagination.
It’s your job to put the right images in her head.
And the best way to do this is by letting her fill in the blanks:
Now her brain starts to tell her all kinds of naughty stories. She can only imagine why you can’t concentrate…but she wants to know your thoughts.
You, however, are a mean guy.
Instead of revealing your explicit thoughts, you give her clues:
Now she’s getting turned on. She’s ready for more.
7. Turn on the Heat with the Right Questions
It’s time to turn on the heat.
You just need the right questions. This is not the time for emotional questions. It’s time for the kind of questions that make her imagine deep thrusts.
Let me give you some examples:
Yes, she likes dominant men.
Ask her these questions and wait for her answer. But don’t expect too much. She wants to be a good girl and not the easy slut. She probably won’t reply with “I like it when...” it’s much more likely that she calls you out on being dirty, naughty or a little pervert.
Show her that you play the game better than her…
8. Tease Her for Being Naughty
Of course, it’s easier to tease her for being naughty when she fills in the blanks. But it’s still possible…even if she “only” fills in the blanks in her own mind.
Tease her for being such a naughty girl.
Feel free to use one of these examples:
Let her know that you know what’s going on in her mind. Once she is 100% sure that you know what she’s thinking AND that you want the conversation to head in this direction, she can relax and fully enjoy the experience.
You can even take it one step further and give her sexy nicknames:
Use these nicknames when you tease her for having thoughts that are anything but PG-13. And use one of these nicknames when you ask her the next question…
9. Ask Her What She’s Wearing
“What are you wearing?”
This is THE most important question for guys who want to learn how to talk dirty to a girl through texting. Write it down. Remember it. And use it over and over again. It’s so easy to talk dirty after asking her this question.
No matter what response she gives you, you can use it:
What if she tells you that she’s already naked?
Okay, that’s the golden invitation. I don’t get this reply often, but whenever I get it, I know that I’m already inside of her. But not every girl makes it so easy.
Continue to feed her imagination with wild images that make her yearn for more…
10. Tell Her What You Would Do with Her Clothes
I already know what you want to do with her clothes. And she knows it too.
In fact, that’s the only thing she can think of. She wants you to take her clothes off. If she’d be next to you right now, she’d do the same with your jeans.
Now it’s time to fill her imagination with more details:
One of two things will happen:
Scenario #1: She takes the bite and tells you what she would do with your clothes.
Scenario #2: She wants to keep her good girl image by calling you a pervert.
Let’s have a look at what scenario #2 really means…
11. Let Her Call You a Pervert
What if she says any of the follow three things to you?
Most guys take these “insult” the wrong way. They assume that they’ve gone too far. But that’s not the case. She either wants to keep her good girl image or she wants to test you. In both cases, she wants you to continue.
Do you know what I say whenever a girl calls me a pervert, a devil (I love that one) or bad?
I respond in the exact way she wants me to respond.
She doesn’t want a guy who talks dirty to her and then apologizes. That’s the same as apologizing for approaching a woman. It’s the opposite of attractive.
You own your dirty talk and you take it to the next level. Now she’s boiling.
12. Star the Sentence with “I Bet You Like…”
Her fluids are already hotter than the Earth’s core.
It’s time to make her melt like lava. You can either do this by asking her more sexual questions or you can use the “I bet you like” technique. I prefer the second option. Why? Well, it works like gangbusters.
Women love games and betting is a game.
Here are some of the examples I used in the past:
Have a closer look at the third example.
Yes, it’s sexual, but it’s not explicit. I let her imagine where I will touch her. Use this example and she’ll feel a warm feeling all over her body because she doesn’t know where your hand will land.
13. Send a Picture of Your Abs or in Underwear
This one is optional.
You can either spice things up by sending a picture of yourself or you can continue with the next step. It’s up to you. However, don’t even think about making another dick pic. This is not what I mean when I say “send a picture”.
Instead, send one of the following pictures:
Always remember that you don’t want to send her pictures that are too explicit. Send her whatever her imagination needs to take the next steps. That’s how you talk dirty to a girl over text by using the right pictures.
14. Say What You Want Her to Take Off
Let’s continue with a demand, not a question.
You don’t ask her to take her clothes off. You tell her what you want her to take off. That’s why women get wet when they think about Christian Grey. The movies might suck, but this dude is demanding as hell. He goes for what he wants.
What about you? Do you go for what you want?
Send her one of the following text messages to prove it:
Wait for her response.
The best thing that can happen is a response with the words “yes, sir” or “as you please”. And believe me. If you follow the advice I share in this article about how to talk dirty to a girl over text, you will get this kind of responses over and over again.
15. Tell Her to Send a Sexy Picture for You
It’s time for the grand finale of dirty talk over text.
You told her that you want to undress her. And you told her that she should take off whatever you want to see removed from her body. There’s only one thing missing. She still hasn’t sent you the result of your demand.
You don’t give up so easily.
Here are some texts you can send her after your “get naked for me” request:
Send her one of these texts and she will send you the picture you’ve been waiting for since you made the decision to learn how to talk dirty to a girl over text.
I hope you also make the decision to learn what to do when she finally comes over.
Summed Up Wisdom
Imagine sending a few text messages would be enough to make women wet. In fact, it can be enough. But only if you realize that no girl is too innocent and that you should delete your dick pics and never ever send them to a girl.
You have to start slow. Don’t go from zero to hero. That’s too fast for her. She needs to trust you and feel comfortable before she can allow herself to boil like a hot water. Ask her the right questions and let her imagine what you want to do with her.
What if you want her to get naked? Don’t be shy. A man who wants to learn how to talk dirty to a girl through text doesn’t ask. He demands. Of course, you also want to see proof. I bet you can’t imagine to see her in person.