You want to know how to start a new relationship after a breakup.
Let me guess:
I can feel your pain. Really, I do. My ex-girlfriend and I broke up about three months ago. I know how much it sucks. But I’m sure you’ve already worked on getting over the breakup. I mean, otherwise you wouldn’t be looking for a new partner.
You might even have tried to get what you want.
But you’re not sure. You don’t know if and how you should start a new relationship. Maybe it’s because you don’t know how to start dating again. I’ve written a book that shows you, step-by-step, how to attract the girls you want.
I’m sure the problem runs deeper than that:
I promise you one thing:
If you read this article until the end, you’ll know what it takes to start a new relationship and to turn it into an amazing experience...
How to Start a New Healthy Relationship
You won’t like this…
This article is about starting a new relationship. I’ll show you how to do it and what you have to consider. But I have to say something. And you’ll hate me for it. So…are you ready for the uncomfortable truth?
Your next relationship will most likely fail.
Yes, there are female predators. Some women are narcissistic. Others are just batshit crazy. And that’s EXACTLY why I decided to write this article for you. I don’t want you to make the number one mistake men tend to make in this situation.
I don’t want you to end up disappointed.
You deserve a relationship that makes you a better man, not a broken man. You also deserve a woman who is actually girlfriend material. Global Seducers don’t waste their precious time with insane chicks with mental health issues.
Here’s everything you need to know…
1. Make Sure You Really Want a New Relationship
Let me ask you something:
Do you REALLY want a new relationship?
“Yes, of course you gigantic moron! Why do you think I’m reading your shitty article?!”
I want you to think about it again. Most guys think they want it but they don’t really want it. Let’s be honest. You miss the affection, the regular sex, and the female attention. I have news for you: You don’t have to be in a relationship to get these things.
I don’t say that your desire to have a girlfriend is wrong. I mean, that’s why you’re here. I just want to warn you to not jump off a cliff thinking that you jump on a cloud.
Use the time you are single wisely before you consider something serious. Improve the skills you want to improve. Meet new people. Try to enjoy the single life as much as you can. This will give you the confidence you need for your new (and hopefully healthy) relationship.
Prepare for success and you will succeed…
2. Ask Yourself Why You Want to Start a New Relationship
This is THE most important question of all.
Why? Why do you want it?
Please don’t tell me you want it because…
There’s a reason why I put the evil word need in capital letters. Wanting a new relationship is totally fine. Needing it is dangerous. When you need something or someone, you have no other choice. You are dependent and dependency is not an attractive quality.
You risk choosing a bad woman because you NEED a relationship.
Please don’t make this mistake. If you are reading these lines because your loneliness is killing you, you should work on yourself first. Okay, forget about should. You HAVE TO (okay, no more capital letters) work on yourself…at least until need gets replaced by want.
When you want it, you get it. When you need it, you lose it.
3. Look Where Relationship Material Can Be Found
Where are you looking for your new girlfriend?
A lot of guys behave like mentally-handicapped vegetarians. They walk in the steakhouse, eat the steak, and then complain that the tofu sucked. Come on, man. You can’t expect to meet your future girlfriend in monuments of the hookup culture.
I love free-spirited women. But I would never date one of them. Free-spirited women are promiscuous, unable to commit, and a bit crazy.
Oh shit…I guess I’m a free-spirited woman.
Churches, malls and bookstores are better than raunchy clubs. Remember that before you hit on woo girls after woo girl.
4. Stick to a Zero Tolerance Policy
What do you need to start a new love relationship?
You need a zero tolerance policy.
In other words, you need the confidence and the hairy balls to walk away from women who are trouble. I don’t care if she’s hot and I don’t care if she can swallow two liters of milk at a single blow. Be careful, very careful.
You’re in a vulnerable state.
Don’t deny it. That doesn’t help. I still think about my ex-girlfriend and you probably do the same. That’s completely normal…and very dangerous. It’s dangerous because you might end up falling in love with the wrong woman, just because she likes you.
Keep in mind that a woman who likes you is not necessarily likeable.
5. Share Your Fears and Worries with Her
What if she’s not batshit crazy?
Congratulations, you’ve found yourself a keeper!
That’s the good news.
Are you ready for the bad news?
I ask you to do something you’ll hate more than eating raw eggs in a spicy fish sauce. Yep, it’s time to show your feelings. Let’s get emotional, my friend. Nope, don’t hide your emotions. These babies want to feel free and alive.
I know what you’re afraid of.
You don’t want her to know about your weaknesses. The picture you want her to save on her hard drive is colorful and perfectly photoshopped. It shouldn’t include your fears, worries, and your insecurities. Well, that’s too bad.
Your negative emotions are a part of you and she deserves to know this part.
Here’s how to start a new relationship after a breakup:
Show your vulnerability because sooner or later she’ll find out anyway. By hiding your emotions, you encourage her to do the same. Wonderful…now we have two people who start a relationship and both pretend to be perfect.
You don’t have to be a fortune teller to know that this won’t work out.
6. Let Her Know What You’re Looking for
Lying doesn’t help. You want a new relationship and you have to find out if she wants the same. It doesn’t make any sense to pretend that you’re interested in a friendship or a friend’s with benefits relationship if that’s not what you want.
What if she doesn’t want a relationship?
Then you have to make a decision.
First Path: Make a compromise and agree to her conditions.
Second Path: Move on and look for a girl who wants the same.
Here’s what I would do:
If I really wanted to start a new relationship, and this might be the case in a couple of months (or years), I would not waste my time. I would focus on girls who want the same and allow all the other women to move on.
In Germany we have a saying: Every pot has its lid.
Let her know what you’re looking for. She might be the pot of some other lid. You’ll find yours soon.
7. Start the Relationship Slowly
Why the rush?
I know. You want to date her. This chick is absolutely amazing. And I want you to be happy. But I also want you to slow down. Just because she’s perfect in the first couple of days doesn’t mean she’ll be perfect after one year.
Take your time and get to know each other.
If you want to know how to start a new relationship after being hurt, you should walk in slow motion. There’s no need to rush things. You should take everything step by step and let time pass between the steps.
Here’s what I wouldn’t do in the first couple of months:
Of course, you can ignore my advice. That’s up to you. But you have been warned. Rush things and the disappointment will rush towards you.
8. Don’t Mention Your Ex-Girlfriend
Don’t do it.
Okay, you can mention her once. Tell your new girlfriend that your last relationship ended and that you have an ex-girlfriend. She exists. That’s all she has to know. You don’t have to list all her qualities and the memories you have about her.
Oh, and don’t even think about talking about:
Your new lady doesn’t want to hear it. And if you force her to hear it, she might turn into Medusa. This only leads to jealousy and drama. So be careful. Just think about it. You also don’t want your new girlfriend to talk about her muscular ex-boyfriend with the horse penis.
Focus on her and you. Your relationship matters. The past doesn’t.
9. Don’t Compare Her to Your Ex-Girlfriend
That’s another no-go.
Please don’t fall into this trap. Unfortunately, there’s a high chance you’ll fall into it before you even realize it. Our brain designed us to make this mistake. Psychologists call this phenomenon memory bias and believe me, it’s a bitch.
It’s a protective mechanism from your brain.
You memorize good events from the past while you forget the bad events. And it makes sense. I’m sure we’d have a lot more suicides if our brain didn’t trick us in this sneaky way. I mean, my grandpa believed that life was good “back then” even though he spent his youth as a war prisoner.
That’s what memory bias does to us.
Here’s what it does to your new relationship and your new girlfriend:
Be careful, my friend.
Now you know that your brain is biased. It can be devastating to compare your ex-girlfriends kindness with your new girlfriend’s jealousy…and to forget that your ex was bipolar.
10. Share Your Hobbies with Her (For Research Purposes)
You have to find out if you’re compatible.
Of course, you also have to find out if you’re compatible in bed. But that’s something you can find out on your own. You don’t need my help with that. Okay, one tip. Don’t forget the protection because alimony payments are ridiculously expensive.
But I’m not talking about sex.
I’m talking about all the time you spend outside of the bedroom. Don’t get me wrong. I’m sure you have a lot of fun in your bedroom. But let’s face it. You only spend about 5% of the time naked. The rest of the time you do stuff.
Here’s the stuff you should do with her:
Share your hobbies, passions, and interests with her.
Yes, it’s fun. But that’s not the main purpose. You’re doing research because you want to find out if you are compatible as partners.
The results of this research can be an indicator for the survival of your new relationship.
11. Get Out if the New Relationships is Toxic
Now you know how to start a new relationship the right way.
But what if it’s terrible?
Imagine you meet a beautiful woman. The first date is amazing. The second and third date is heaven on earth. You want to make it official and call her girlfriend for the very first time. You are both happy. Two months later everything changes.
What do you do now?
Well, I can tell you what I would do.
I would end this misery as soon as possible. I mean, you wanted a new relationship because your old one ended badly. Heck, maybe you’re even divorced and lost half your savings.
Do you want to experience the same drama again?
Don’t waste your time with a woman who would waste your life. Get the hell out of there before she uses her hip movements to convince you to put a ring on her finger.
You deserve a healthy relationship.
12. Continue if the New Relationship is Healthy
What if your new relationship is the best you ever had?
I’m happy for you. She’s loyal, caring, and sweet. She’s one of the few good women out there. Make her as happy as she makes you. I’m sure she’ll stay with you. You should keep her.
What? You don’t know how to keep a girlfriend?
Summed Up Wisdom
Do you want to know how to start a new relationship after a breakup? Then don’t waste your time with the wrong women. Oh, and don’t forget to find out if you really want a relationship. Thinking about the true reason why you want it helps, too.
You are too vulnerable to have tolerance for drama and crazy chicks. Zero tolerance is the answer and please be smart. Don’t go to the wrong venues. And don’t be afraid to share your fears and your worries with her.
But don’t rush things. A new relationship is exciting. Nevertheless, it’s better to start slowly. And don’t mention your ex-girlfriend all the time. Be careful with the comparisons. Your brain is biased. Let’s hope she likes your hobbies.