How to Pick Up Girls at a Party

Are you ready to pick up girls at a party?

Let me show you how to do it…

Of course, that’s what you should NOT do. Unfortunately, that’s exactly what a lot of guys do. They are afraid to talk to sexy party girls. That’s why they decide to boost their courage with a lot of liquid courage.

After five shots, their balls have the size of watermelons.

Now they are ready to approach. Well, that’s fine and dandy. But 95% of women (5% are too drunk to care) don’t want to talk with a drunk dude who can’t say a full sentence without drooling like a Labrador puppy.

You need a different plan:

Does that sound overwhelming?

Don’t worry.

Hooking up with girls at parties is easier than killing a cockroach with a flamethrower…

How to Pick up Girls at a Party: The Path to a Party Hookup  

What do you want?

Come on. Be honest. Tell me what you want.

The choice is yours.

And yes, I know. That sounds like a big promise. But I’m confident. I crashed enough parties to know what you have to do. But I’m not a party monster.

And that’s my biggest advantage.

I’m a natural introvert. I love to read, to write (duh!), and to be with the one person I trust the most and the least at the same time…me. God, I sucked at picking up girls at parties. But I learned and I kept on trying different approaches.

Here’s what I learned…

1. Choose the Right Party

Who are you?

Wow…now it’s getting philosophical. But seriously, I want you to think about it because the way you are determines the kind of party you should go to. I mean, there are so many different types of events. You should choose wisely.  

Personally, I prefer American Pie like parties. 

I know I’m getting old, but please don’t tell me you’ve never heard of American Pie.

I hope generation Z isn’t too busy jerking off to virtual reality. The myth of the traditional house parties with beer pong and broken TV’s can’t die. Please don’t let this happen.

Choose the right party and get yourself in the mood…

2. Get off Your Couch and Jump

How do you get yourself in the mood?

It’s easy. Just jump up and down.

Imagine you’re a Kangaroo after an overdose of ecstasy. You’re happy and more excited than a bipolar person when they are on their high. That’s the mood you have to get yourself in. I want you to arrive at the party feeling like the king of Neverland.

Here are some of the things I do:

It might sound crazy, but it works. 

Mindset is king and if you feel like the king of the party, you’re mind allows you to take action.

Let’s take action…

3. Avoid the Pre-Party Drinking  

You want to know how to hook up with a girl at a party, right?

Then don’t take action!

I mean, don’t take the wrong kind of action. Most guys do something before the party that they shouldn’t do. My friends and I called it warm up. This innocent expression describes the act of getting too drunk to think, speak, and walk.

Avoid it at all cost.

Yes, you are nervous. I know that. But still, drinking yourself in a state of blissful blindness won’t help you to pick up girls at the party. Drinking is the worst seduction technique on the planet…aside from cuckolding.

Here’s the rule:

Not more than one beer and you’re good to go. More than one beer sabotages your success.

4. Bring Something or Someone to the Party

This works especially well at house parties.

There are several things you can bring to such an event. Let’s first have a look at what you can bring. Then I’ll let you in on a secret. The secret has to do with the fact that bringing people is better than bringing stuff…and it has nothing to do with human trafficking.

You can bring something to eat (snacks) or to drink (a bottle of wine).

But why should you?

That’s the whole secret. Oh, wait. I wanted to share the real secret with you.

People are better than things.

And no, I’m not talking about any type of people. You’re here because you want to learn how to pick up girls at a party. Your hairy friend Robert can’t help you to achieve this goal. Your sexy friend Roberta, on the other hand, is very helpful.

Show up with a girl and the ladies will shower you with attention.

Remember:

Women want men who are desired by other women. A sexy female friend is the perfect marketing machine. She’s your personal attractiveness booster.  

5. Socialize and Get Touchy  

Picking up girls at a party is about socializing.

It’s okay to be an introvert (I am one) and it’s okay to be shy (I have been). But it’s not okay to stand in the corner and to look at your glass as if it was your girlfriend. You want to interact with people. Okay, maybe you don’t want to. But you have to.

Do it step by step:

That’s what human beings do. Oh, but if you’re talking to a beautiful woman, you should mix the talking with touching. Yes, it’s okay to touch her arm and her shoulder while she tells you about her passion.

Use her horse Friedrich as an excuse to touch her.

No touch, no sex at a party. Remember that.

6. Hold Eye Contact During Group Conversations  

What if you’re talking to a group of people?

Remember the rule. Have a normal conversation. Instead of two human beings, you are five human beings who talk about stuff. No big deal. All you have to do is to focus your attention a bit more on the lady you like…but do it smoothly.

Don’t stare at her like a blood-hungry psychopath.

Instead, look at her every couple of seconds. Hold eye contact with the other members of the group. Talk to them. But every now and then, you look at the girl you like. Smile at her. Then continue the conversation with the group.

The smooth operator wins the heart of the party girl.

7. Come Up with a Reason to Talk to Your Target  

You want to pick her up, right? 

Okay, enough with the group chit chat. You’ve talked to Jim, Ron, and Sam long enough. It’s time to focus your attention on the girl you want. That’s easy…at least when nobody else is around.

But what if you’re still in the group?

You need to come up with a reason to talk to her:

It can be anything. The good news is that the reason doesn’t have to make sense.

“I’d love to ask you about your travel plan because I love to travel, too.”

It’s a good enough reason to start an intimate conversation.

8. Ask Her if She’s Thirsty

You’re still not happy.

You want to pick up a girl at a party, but the other guys won’t go away. Yes, you are talking to her and only to her. But the dudes are still waiting for their chance. And the more they drink, the more courageous they get.

It’s time for a change of scenery.

You want to be alone with her, right?

Then take her to the kitchen. Yes, the kitchen. Alternatively, you can take her outside. Making out with her behind a tree can be a lot of fun. But not every girl agrees to leave the venue (which is what you’re doing when you go outside) with a guy.

The kitchen is innocent and effective at the same time:

Ask her if she’s thirsty. If she likes you, she’ll say “yes”…even if her bladder is fuller than the Atlantic Ocean.  Now you can get closer. Heck, you can even touch her hand while she opens the fridge.

You can still get fresh air later.

9. Get Her Contact Details Right Now  

You’re alone with her.

What the hell are you waiting for? Judgement Day?

Her friends could show up at any time. The drunk dudes could show up even faster. This is the moment to take action. The light doesn’t get greener. Keep it simple and do it fast. And boom bada bang…her number is in your phone. 

Here’s how to get a girl’s number at a party:

You better get her number (or other contact details) sooner than later. Parties are unpredictable. You never know when a dwarf, a car, or a rhinoceros shows up at the front door.   

Act fast before the whole place blows up.

10. Get Touchy While You Take Her Number  

Remember what I said about touching?

It’s okay!

You’re a man and she’s a woman. Unless you want to be her friendzoned puppy, you have to touch her. I already told you how to do it during the conversation. Remember, the gentle touch on the arm or shoulder? Good!

Here’s what you can do while you’re taking her number:

Don’t be afraid. Physical flirting is important, especially at parties. I mean, she’s already a bit tipsy. And you just took her to the kitchen to get another drink. Now she’s even tipsier. She’s in the mood for some fun fumbling.

Party hard and don’t ever stop touching her.

11. Continue the Isolation Game

What if the drunk dudes come back? 

Take a deep breath, don’t get angry, and…

You want to be alone with her. 

The kitchen was your first attempt. It’s usually successful. But some guys, especially when they drink alcohol, are very persistent and extremely annoying. The good news is that she trusts you enough to go outside with you.

Take her hand and lead her to a place with less smoke and less dudes.

12. Use the Fresh Air to Make Out with Her 

Fresh air leads to a fresh kiss.

Okay, she drank too much alcohol and smoked too much weed (such a bad girl!). The kiss won’t be fresh. But you’ll enjoy it anyway. Now you just need an excuse to kiss her. Oh, wait! You don’t even need an excuse. You already have one.

You’re enjoying the fresh air and soon her tasty lips.

You don’t need another reason. Every woman on earth knows that “let’s get some fresh air” means “let’s go somewhere quiet where we can make out.” Nobody cares about the freaking air. It’s about creating an unplanned (secretly planned) romantic moment.

Now is the moment.

Kiss her. Then go all in and make out with her.

13. Try to Take Her Back to Your Place or to Her Place 

You’ve made it to the end.

Now you know how to hook up with a girl at a party. Jesus, your mom must be proud of you. Anyway, I’m proud of you. However, I will be even prouder if you take one last step. You’ve already made out with her. You’re so close.

You can already smell the finish line.

Do you smell that?

It’s the sweet scent of a woman’s naked body. You can smell it, taste it, and touch it if you take her back to your place…or invite yourself to her place. You might be lucky and she lives just around the corner. All you need is a reason.

Here are a couple of reasons I came up with:

Don’t laugh.

The last reason worked for me. She ended up inviting me to her place. Her apartment was beautifully decorated. But I have to tell you the truth.

Her naked body looked even better.

What? You don’t know how to get a girl naked?

You have to read my book!

Summed Up Wisdom 

Do you want to know how to pick up girls at a party? Let me show you how you can hook up with girls easily. It starts in your mind. Get yourself in the mood with music and physical exercise. But don’t even think about drinking yourself in the mood.

Instead of alcohol, you should bring a gift. Or even better: Bring your hottest female friend. The other girls will stare at you like hungry tigers. Unfortunately, the tigers are surrounded by dudes who want to domesticate them. That’s why you have to isolate her.

Come up with a reason to talk to her and she’ll follow you to the kitchen. Once you are there, you can talk to her and touch her. Don’t forget the body contact. What if the drunk dudes come back? Get some fresh air and then try to get her to your place. The night is still young.