Here’s how to make a woman feel special:
Does that sound like a good plan?
In case you just asked yourself “Sebastian, have you lost your mind?” you are on the right track. Of course, you should not buy her flowers, expensive stuff, and you should definitely not put a ring on her finger after the first, second, or twentieth date.
That’s why I’m not a big fan of mainstream dating advice.
God, I’ve read so much bollox. Apparently, you make girls feel special with flowers and expensive gifts. Let me tell you something. If you go down this road, you’ll end up in the friend zone, broke, and if you’re really unlucky, with a gold-digging girlfriend.
Do you want that?
If the answer is “no”, you have to learn…
Let’s have a look at what you really have to do to make a woman feel special…
How to Make a Woman Feel Special
Let me ask you a question:
Why do you want to make a girl feel special?
There are only three possible answers:
It’s your choice. I won’t judge you. I’m here to help you to achieve your goal, no matter what you want. And yes, you can use the techniques I share in this article to make a girl feel more amazing after one night than other guys make her feel after one decade.
Every great seducer knows this one secret:
It’s not about how much time you spend with a girl. It’s about the quality of time you spent with her. Do what I do to make girls feel special and they’ll enjoy every minute with you.
But I have to warn you.
She’ll most likely fall in love with you. So don’t play with her heart when you only want her body…
1. Choose the Right Words When You Approach Her
It starts from the moment you meet her.
Let’s say you walk down the street and you see her. You can’t keep your eyes off her. She’s gorgeous. You have to approach her. But you don’t want to be boring. You don’t just want to walk up to her and say “hey, you look really beautiful.”
You ask yourself: “What are the best lines to make a girl feel special?”
Here’s the answer:
Everything that’s specific and personal.
Don’t give her a generic compliment. Yes, words such as beautiful, hot, sexy can work. But they don’t make her feel special. I mean, most of the Kardashians are hot and sexy, but that doesn’t mean that you give a damn about them.
Find something that’s unique about her:
Give her a compliment that appreciates her uniqueness.
2. Make Her Feel Special Over Text
Did you get her phone number?
Then you’re ready to make her feel special through text. I mean, you have to text her something to set up the date. I’m sure you can’t wait to see her again. But you don’t want to send her the typical “hey, what’s up?” message.
She gets this every day from Daniel and Jake.
Those guys are in the friend zone. You don’t want to end up in the same miserable situation. No, you want to make her your girlfriend…or at least sleep with her. That’s why you have to send different text messages.
Here are some ideas:
These are the kind of texts that make a woman want to go out with you.
3. Impress Her with a Special Date
Great! She wants to see you again.
The date is next week and you’re super excited. You want to make a good first impression. You want to make this date special for her. That’s why you think about your first date. Mhh…she’s been to Starbucks before.
Her last three dates were at Starbucks.
She’s sick and tired of it. None of the guys she went on a date with was creative enough to suggest a different venue. That’s why she didn’t spread her legs for any of those losers. You, however, are a different breed.
You impress her with your unconventional first date:
You are different and that’s why you make her feel special.
4. Focus All Your Attention on Her
What do you do on the date?
Well, here are some things you (hopefully) don’t do:
Instead, you focus all your attention on her. You’re a confident Global Seducer. You don’t have to talk about yourself all the time. There’s no need to impress her. All you want is to get to know her. So let her do the talking.
I let you in on a secret:
Women love to talk about themselves.
Let her do what she enjoys most. Encourage her to share her stories, her beliefs, and her opinions. The more she talks to you, the more connected she’ll feel. While she reveals more and more about herself, you collect the information.
Guess what? You can seduce her with this information.
5. Do Something Unconventional for Her
Let’s face it.
Most guys are afraid to do unconventional things with women. And no, I’m not talking about controversial or inappropriate stuff…even though you can do that later in the bedroom.
I’m talking about innocent things.
You see, none of these things is controversial. It’s all PG-13. However, most guys are too lazy to do stuff like that. They go to the same bar every night. They watch the same boring movies every weekend. That’s not how you make a girl feel special.
Be different, do different things, and she’ll see you in a different light.
6. Surprise Her with a Cheap But Special Gift
Let’s talk about gifts that make a girl feel special.
I already told you that I’m not a big fan of mainstream dating advice. One reason is because mainstream sites mention gifts in every second sentence. Buy her gifts, gifts, and more gifts. I’m strictly against that. If you follow this path, you’ll only attract gold diggers.
Here are the rules (my rules):
FYI: By special I don’t mean expensive.
It’s something that makes her feel good. Listen to her when she talks about what she likes. Pay attention when she talks about her childhood. She might reveal the perfect gift idea.
Let me give you an example:
This one girl told me how much she loved a certain toy when she was a child. I went to Toys”R”Us and bought her one. It cost less than $5, but it made her happier than a Prada handbag. She had tears in her eyes when she unpacked it.
These are the gifts that give her the feeling that you really care.
7. Say the Words that Make Her Feel Special
Simple words can have a huge impact.
Here’s how to make a girl feel special with words:
Keep it simple.
You don’t have to write love letters. In fact, you shouldn’t. Everything that’s too romantic can backfire. You don’t want to be the awkward needy guy. You want to be the confident guy who uses confident words.
Here are some examples:
These are simple words that can make her heart beat faster.
8. Make an Effort Even Though You Have No Clue
Women love men who put in effort.
They want to know that you care about them. You don’t have to be perfect. Your effort doesn’t have to be perfect. The only thing that matters is that you do it. Do it anyway, even though you have no clue what you’re doing.
Take me as an example:
I can’t cook if my life depended on it. Heck, I can’t even fry an egg without setting the kitchen on fire. If you ever hear me saying “I’m going to cook a meal” in one of my podcasts, you can call 911. I’m probably already dead.
Nevertheless, I like to cook for girls.
None of the girls I cooked for could eat the disgusting shit I prepared.
But that doesn’t matter. I made an effort and that’s all that counts. It’s always the same. We throw away the food, order something, and have fun in bed until the delivery guy knocks on the door.
9. Use Affirmations to Make Her Feel Special in Bed
Did I just say that we ended up in bed while waiting for the delivery man?
Hey, it takes up to 45 minutes. I mean, you have to do something.
What if you end up in bed with the girl?
Do you want to make her feel special in bed?
I’m sure you want. Or let’s say you should, especially if you want to make her your girlfriend. Women want to date guys who make them feel good in bed.
Here’s what you have to do:
Give her the emotional support she needs. Yeah, I know. That sounds so unsexy. In case you expected wild dirty talk, I have to disappoint you. This article is about how to make a woman feel special and not about how to give her an orgasm…even though that’s also important.
Use affirmations to encourage her:
She’s naked, wet, and vulnerable. She needs your emotional support.
10. Remember What She Likes and Give it to Her
Give it to her hard…
Sorry, that was inappropriate. Let’s not talk about sex anymore. You already know that she needs emotional support. Instead, let’s talk about all the things she likes to do when she’s not naked in your bed. That stuff is important, too.
When you know what she likes, you can give it to her.
Remember, simple things can have a huge impact. Her love for chocolate is already a good start. Take her to a candy store (oh man, that sounds creepy). Or prepare a chocolate fondue.
What if she likes action movies?
Watch the new Mission Impossible with her (Spoiler alert: It’s amazing). Yep, making a girl feel special can be so easy. All you need is Tom Cruise.
11. Mention Shared Memories Again and Again
You’ve already been on one or two dates.
Maybe you’ve already had sex. Maybe you haven’t. Anyway, you experienced a lot with her. Remember this one moment when she accidentally spilled the water and blushed? Good!
Use this memory to seduce her.
That sounds weird, but it works. Think about all the experiences you had. Remember the moments that made her feel awkward and the ones that made her laugh. This is your ammunition. Load your gun. You’re ready to shoot.
Make her remember these moments.
That’s how you make a girl feel special by going down the memory lane.
12. Stay Attuned to Her Emotional Ups and Downs
You can’t seduce a woman with logic.
If you want to learn how to make a girl you like feel special, you have to forget about logic. It doesn’t work and it will never work. Millions of guys have tried to convince a woman to sleep with them. But it’s the guy who makes her feel good who gets her in bed.
Women are emotional creatures.
“Sometimes I hate to be a woman.”
I know many girls who told me that. And yes, she knows that she has these ups and downs. But she can’t control it. All she wants is that you are there for her when the waves come crashing down.
That’s how you make her feel protected and loved.
13. Talk about Her Fears, Goals and Everything in Between
You need to connect with her.
Making in a girl feel special is about more than small talk. Yes, it’s nice to know where she grew up and what college she went to. But it’s more important to find out about her fears, dreams, goals, and the things she really cares about.
Have a deep conversation to create a strong bond.
Let the other guys talk about Justin Bieber, Donald Trump, and the weather.
You talk about special topics with her.
14. Make Her Feel Special with Your Touch
How do you touch a girl in a way that makes her feel special?
Here are some examples:
I love to touch women when they least expect it.
Let me give you an example:
Last week I went on a date with this beautiful girl. She was totally into me and I was into her. It’s hard to describe these moments. I walked up to her and her smile already revealed that she was looking forward to this day.
We talked, had fun, and got to know each other.
I could feel that she was into me and that she wanted me to make a move. That’s why I held her hand. I just did it, No prior warning. I held her hand and continued walking. She smiled like a happy child while we continued our walk.
This is the touch that makes a woman feel special.
And this is the book that gives you the power to make her your girlfriend.
Summed Up Wisdom
Do you want to know how to make a woman feel special? Then don’t waste your time with expensive gifts. Real seducers don’t buy handbags for gold diggers. Nope, you’re going down the memory lane and you’ll touch her in ways that make her feel good.
But first, you have to choose the right words when you approach her. Now that she goes on an amazing date with you (don’t take her to Starbucks), she deserves your full attention. Listen to her and talk about deep and meaningful topics.
What if you’re a lazy bastard? Change your attitude, my friend. You don’t have to set the kitchen on fire (that’s my job), but you can do something else for her. Make an effort. Women appreciate it. And don’t forget to make her feel good in the bedroom. She needs the affirmation.
Sebastian Harris says
thanks a lot for buying my book Rise of the Phoenix.
Of course, you can spice up things with adventures and with kisses and touching that she doesn’t expect. Feeling special is only one part of the equation. Feeling desired is the other.
Yo, tengo los cojones para postar mi opiniόn con tu Senor Sebastian.
And I sure do hope that the Spanish above is grammatically correct. Well. I do agree with you to a point. But what about the turmoil that you have to inflict from time to time, just to make you relation more passionate & strong? What the article says is to create a sentimental oasis where she will feel safe & nice. But as you know, the better the desert you taste, the sooner you get bored of it. Soon you want the neibourhood’s bakery icecream, from the machine, at the cone. So is she!. Soon she will be bored at your paradise & will try another icecream flavour. With the above system, how are you going to keep this from happening?( Note: I already bought your book)