Do you really have to know how to introduce yourself to a girl?
Well, yeah…at least if you want to…
You need to have this skill. Think about it. Every interaction, no matter where and when, starts with a simple introduction. Unfortunately, a lot of guys use these three seconds to mess up a potential three-year relationship.
This can be easily avoided.
Just don’t make the same mistakes I made. Don’t walk up to a girl like a total creep. And don’t start off the conversation with a lame joke about why women have less brain cells than men. Don’t laugh. I did that once.
Okay, you’re probably smarter than me.
But you still need to know how to make an amazing first impression…
6 Tips to Introduce Yourself to a Girl and Get Her Number
Let me start this article with an important message:
Warning, warning, this article will self-destruct in five seconds. Okay, that was a joke and a terrible one. Sorry for that. But yes, I really have to warn you. I have to warn you that the following tips contain very basic information.
But they can make all the difference.
I decided to include some basic tips AND specific situations. Yep, I want to show you how to introduce yourself to a girl in different situations. I also link to guides in which I talk about these different situations in detail. I hope you like it.
But first, let’s start with the basic tips…
1. Introduce Yourself with a Smile
I saw it so many times.
I’ve done dozens of one-on-one coaching sessions over the last couple of years. I coached young men, old men, guys who never had a girlfriend, and divorced men. All of my coaching clients are great men and now also great seducers, but most of them had one flaw.
They didn’t smile.
Hey, I warned you. The advice is basic but important. Most aspiring seducers don’t do it. They just don’t. They walk up to a girl looking like the lovechild of the Terminator and Silvester Stallone after too many Botox injections.
I know why they do it:
Start with a smile. Then walk up to her. Smile before you take the first step. This won’t just make you feel better. It will ensure that you actually smile when you introduce yourself. And believe me, an introduction without a smile is not a good idea.
She doesn’t know if you’re a decent guy who wants to say “hi” or a psychopath who wants to rape her.
Without a smile she’ll assume the latter.
2. Introduce Yourself and the Situation
Pickup artists call this the situational opener.
Here’s the idea:
You introduce yourself to a girl by mentioning the situation. This means that your approach changes with the environment. You don’t have one specific line. You adjust your opener to the place you’re in or the time you’re meeting her.
Let me give you a few examples:
- In a club: “The music sucks but wow, you are really beautiful.”
- At the park: “I just came here to read a book, but then I saw you.”
- At night: “I know that it’s already dark but I have to know your name.”
- At the train station: “I hope your train is late because I have to tell you something.”
These are just a couple of examples.
All you have to do is to adjust your opener to the situation.
3. Shake the Hand of a Woman
That’s another mistake some of my coaching clients make.
Of course, they only make this mistake until I correct it. Then they do it correctly. The result: A smiling girl and a new number in their phone. The change is so small, yet so powerful. It’s about the way you shake a woman’s hand.
Here’s how most men do it:
I know. You’ve shaken a lot of hands in your career. You know how it’s done. But let me tell you something. Shaking the hand of a business man is not the same as shaking the hand of fragile woman who’s physically weaker than you.
Here’s how a seducer shakes a woman’s hand:
Do you see the difference?
Shake her hand as if it was a precious flower.
4. Say Your Name and Try to Remember Hers
We love to hear our names.
Blame your parents. It’s not only your mom’s fault that you thought buying flowers and chocolate for a girl will get you late. It’s also her fault (your dad is also not innocent) that you love to hear your name…you little narcissist.
But seriously, hearing your name gives you the feeling of being engaged.
Please correct me if I’m wrong, but that’s the goal of an approach. You want to engage her in the conversation. That’s why asking her for her name. And yes, you have to remember it…even if it’s terribly long.
You should mention her name every couple of minutes. Salesmen do this all the time…some of them way too many times. But anyway, you’re a seducer. Your job is to sell yourself and your sexual service. So don’t forget to mention her name.
She’ll remember how her daddy used to call her. Now you can be her daddy.
5. Don’t Forget the Positive Feelings
Don’t be German.
That’s the most important rule if you want to learn how to introduce yourself to a girl. Don’t behave like your average German. I only made it to the other side because I said “bye bye” to my home country a long time ago.
Here’s what you shouldn’t do:
German’s are the world champions in making women feel uncomfortable. That’s why I want you to do the opposite. Make a funny statement. Crack a joke. Make her laugh with a funny gesture. Just make her feel good.
A woman who feels good in your presence wants to make you feel good.
6. Remember that the Introduction is Just the Beginning
It’s just the beginning.
Yes, you’re here because you want to know how to introduce yourself to a girl. And that’s great. But don’t forget the big picture. You can’t shake her hand until the end of times. You have to take things to the next level.
Here are some ideas for the next level:
Why do I mention this?
Well, I mention the saliva and the body fluids because I’m a disgusting pig. But I mention the fact that you want to reach the next level because a lot of guys forget about it. They approach girls, make a great first impression, and then they do nothing.
They walk away without a number and without a date.
You want more.
Don’t just introduce yourself to any random girl without a goal in mind. It’s okay to practice introducing yourself at the beginning. But sooner or later you have to take things further. That’s how you make her your girlfriend…or at least sleep with her.
My book Rise of the Phoenix will show you how to take things far beyond the sun.
How to Introduce Yourself to a Girl: Different Example Situations
Let’s have a look at specific situations.
I just shared some basic introduction tips with you. Now I want to share advice for specific situations with you. I’m pretty sure I included the most common situations. However, if you have another environment in mind, you can leave a comment and I do my best to answer it.
Here are the situations I included:
- In person.
- On an online dating site.
- In an online chat like Facebook.
- At the gym.
- Through text
- In high school or college.
Are you ready to learn how to introduce yourself to a girl no matter where you are?
Then continue reading…
1. The Best Lines to Introduce Yourself to a Girl in Person
This is the most common situation.
You walk down the street and then suddenly the time stops. You feel as if somebody hit the pause button. You’re walking in a busy city but the only thing you see is her. She’s so incredibly attractive. You have to introduce yourself to her.
You walk up to her and right before she sees you, you turn around.
Well, because you don’t know what to say. Heck, you don’t even know how to start the conversation. Don’t worry. You’re not alone. A lot of guys have this problem. That’s why I decided to give you a couple of lines for the perfect start.
Here you go:
- “Excuse me, I just saw you and had to talk to you.”
- “Are you in a hurry or do you have a second?”
- “I have to tell you something really quickly.”
- “Hey, can I ask you a quick question.”
I hope these examples help you.
I’m sure you can come up with your own lines to introduce yourself to a woman in person.
2. The Best Way to Introduce Yourself to a Girl on an Online Dating Site
“How do I introduce myself to a girl on an online dating site?”
The most important rule:
You don’t do what everyone else does.
Please don’t start the conversation with “hey” or “hi”. That’s lame. Address her by her name (remember, we love to hear our name) or give her a cute nickname. And please, for God’s sake, make it personal. Don’t send a copy and paste message.
Yes, I know. I do it all the time in my international dating site reviews.
But I already said that you’re smarter than me. Look at her profile and send her a personal message. Make it longer and better than your competition. And don’t forget to include a funny P.S. at the end that motivates her to reply to your message.
For more information you can check out this article about starting conversations on an online dating site.
3. How to Introduce Yourself to a Girl in Online Chats like Facebook
What if you contact her on Facebook?
Don’t be creepy. That’s the most important rule of all. There’s no other place on earth where men are creepier than on Facebook. That’s why some dating coaches don’t even touch this subject. Picking up girls on Facebook? Hell no! But you know me.
I’m stupid enough to walk into the lion’s den.
Here are the basic rules for introducing yourself to a girl in online chats:
The good news:
Women make it so damn easy for you. Look at the Facebook profile of an average 22-year-old girl. She reveals everything about herself. The only thing that’s not on her Facebook profile is her breast size. But hey, you just have to look at her selfies to figure that one out.
Analyze the information and attack her with your knowledge.
Oh, and read this guide about hitting on girls on Facebook.
4. The Best Way to Introduce Yourself to a Girl at the Gym
Now that’s tricky.
I love the situations that are almost impossible. Remember, it’s only impossible until you make it possible. That’s also true for introducing yourself to women at the gym. It’s not creepy if you follow a few simple rules.
Here they are:
Come on. You know what I mean. Don’t be the guy who walks up to her and says “actually, you’re doing it wrong”. It’s lame and she’s probably fitter than you. Instead, wait until she has no barbell in her hand and say “hi”.
This gym guide shows you what to do after you said “hi”.
5. How to Introduce Yourself to a Girl Through Text
How do you do it with a simple text message?
Don’t be lame. Yep, that’s all you have to do. I mean, you already talked to her in person or online. Or did your friend give you the number of the last girl he banged and she has no clue who you are? Well, the following tips could even work in this weird situation.
Here’s what you do:
I prefer voice messages, but there are different options.
I introduce all these options in this article about text game.
6. How to Introduce Yourself to a Girl in High School or College
High school is all about social hierarchies.
College is no different. You have the popular cool kids and the unpopular nerds. I always belonged to the second group…until I did one thing. Yep, I’m still a nerd (God, I love Star Wars). But I’ve also been one of the cool kids in my college in England.
Yes, you can also approach girls in your college class or in your high school class. But I have a better idea.
Here’s what I did:
Are you ready for the incredibly creative line I used?
Here’s my boring but effective line:
“Hey, I’m Sebastian. Are you also studying subject X?”
Then I started a conversation. I talked about how I’m new on campus (which was true) and how I want to meet interesting people (which was also true). I did this over and over again. That’s how I build up a social circle with many beautiful women.
Summed Up Wisdom
Are you ready to learn how to introduce yourself to a girl? Then stop walking up to her as if you were a serial killer (you’re hopefully not). You don’t want to win a Terminator contest. Instead, I want to see a bright smile on your lips.
Your approach depends on the situation. But your handshake doesn’t depend on the size of her hands. She’s a woman and not your male business partner. Shake her hand as if it’s a precious flower. And no, squashing precious flowers is not cool.
Can you remember her name? I hope the answer is “yes” because you should mention it more than once. And don’t forget to make her smile. What if you want to know how to introduce yourself in different situations? The links in the article guide you to the right source.