Did you know that the desire to learn how to have sex in public might be the one thing that can turn your boring relationship into a sexual connection that others can only dream of?
In case you don’t believe me and still think that having sex in places where other people could catch you is just like sleeping with your girlfriend in your comfortable bed, there is just one thing left to say:
You are dead wrong!
Having sexual adventures in places that provide a high risk of getting caught and facing consequences for having fun that are anything else but fun can actually save your relationship from dying.
If you are currently in a situation in which you are together with your girlfriend for quite a long time and you want to spice up your relationship, having sexual intercourse in a public park might be the right thing for you to do.
But let’s face it.
Even though this naughty activity is the perfect ingredient for a struggling long-lasting relationship, it is also extremely helpful to provide fresh relationships with the required excitement that is needed to turn them into long-lasting connections.
In order to get the most out of this article it doesn’t really matter if you want to sex up your long-term relationship that lasts for over a few decades or if you want to finally overcome sexual insecurities, boundaries and biases with your new girlfriend.
If the idea of having sex in public is new to you and you have never tried it, you probably ask yourself the same questions, whether you are together with your girlfriend for two weeks or for two decades.
You might want to know how you can communicate your sexual desires to your partner and what kind of risks you have to consider when you ask yourself how to have sex in public. Maybe you have certain fears and biases concerning this topic and you don’t know how to deal with them. Even if your only concern is to make everything right during your first public adventure, I have the appropriate answer for you…if you can use the word appropriate in this context.
In case you really think that you can’t use the word appropriate when talking about having sex in public you definitely need to read every single word of this article. After you have had your first pleasurable adventure in public, you can share your experience in the comments below. I would love to know how it was for you.
How to Communicate Your Wish to Have Sex in Public
Before you even think about doing some naughty stuff with your wife, girlfriend, fuck buddy or your female coworker who just happened to be horny on the way home from work, you should communicate your desire to have sex in a public place to the girl you want to share this experience with.
Communication is the basic requirement for getting this whole thing going.
Tell your partner that you have this desire and that you want to try it out at least once. Don’t think too much about her possible reaction. This topic might still be taboo for quite a few people, but if you have a girlfriend who is at least a bit sexually open, you don’t have to fear a negative reaction.
In case you have a girlfriend who is holier than the Blessed Virgin Marry you should think about whether or not it makes sense to waste another year with her. Otherwise you might never enjoy having sex in public and if this is one of your deepest fantasies, you will regret dying without having tried it.
But don’t worry too much about that. All the girls I have asked if they want to have a little adventure at uncommon places were very thrilled by the thought of getting fucked while running the risk of getting caught.
How to Have Sex in Public: Overcome Biases
Isn’t having sex in public something reprehensible that only perverts do?
Do you really want to be one of those creepy perverts that everybody looks at with contempt?
In case you already have goose bumps I want you to calm down. I was just kidding.
The last thing you should care about is how society sees you for doing something that you want to try and that you are absolutely interested in. Unfortunately, we live in a world in which some people still condemn everything that slightly differs from the classic approach of marrying and having sex in the missionary position.
Making yourself independent of other people’s opinion is the first step towards having sex in public without feeling guilty or ashamed for trying it.
By showing interest in this topic you are NOT a pervert. Please ram this in your head.
The desire to have sex in public is not bad, it is not reprehensible and you are not possessed by the devil if you have the wish to fuck like the rabbits in an environment where hunters might see you. By having this interest you show that you are an open-minded person who is ready to experience new things. You are a completely normal guy who wants to broaden his horizon in terms of his dating and sex life.
Don’t let people who have a negative opinion about this topic ruin your plans. Keep in mind that your innocent-looking friend who tells you that you are crazy for even mentioning this desire probably masturbates to porn movies every day after he typed “public sex porn” into Google. Don’t let anybody discourage you from living out your sexual fantasies.
How to Have Sex in Public: The Risks
I want to encourage you to give this way of expressing your sexuality a shot, but I also want to prevent you from rushing things and from ending up in a situation that you’ll later regret. After you overcame the biases that surround this topic you shouldn’t go out and fuck your girlfriend in the middle of a shopping promenade in broad daylight as if tomorrow never comes.
Be aware of the risks that come along with having fun in places that were not designed to have fun.
The last thing I want is that you end up in jail and that you mention my name when the judge wants to know why you ended up in this situation.
When analyzing the risks of public sex there are basically two things you should be aware of.
I hate to say it but the law of your home country has more power over the freedom to live out your sexual fantasies than you might think.
As you may already know, I am from Germany. My home country is very liberal and extremely open-minded when it comes to sex. In Germany you find brothels on every street corner and in the summer people are lying naked on the beach.
If you think about having your adventure in Germany, you have nothing to worry about. Even if you get caught, the policeman will probably laugh at it and if he is in a really bad mood you have to pay a small fine.
However, if you are living in a very conservative country and especially if you are living in a Muslim country you should be extremely cautious to not get caught.
I know from some of my Muslim friends that if they would get caught having sex in public they would land directly in jail (or worse). Please study your local law before you do anything that you will regret. I think you don’t want to turn a thrilling sexual experience into bending down to pick up the soap.
Why is the Generation Y one of the biggest issues when you ask yourself how to have sex in public? Well, one thing you should know about my generation is that we are obsessed with taking pictures and making videos of every irrelevant shit and sharing it with the world, even if nobody cares.
This not only results in countless selfies and pictures of every meal that has ever been cooked, but also in the nasty habit to film everything that could increase your Facebook and Twitter followers by at least 1%.
As you can imagine, filming someone who just has sex in public is one of those interesting things that get shared like crazy.
The following couples ignored the fact that 99% of my genration is addicted to their smartphones:
I hope you don’t make the same mistake.
Before you have your public experience make sure that nobody is around, especially nobody with a smartphone. In case you want to become the next YouTube sensation you should completely ignore this advice.
The Best Places to Have Sex in Public
Now that you have checked your local law and hopefully found out that they won’t behead you for having fun in a not so private area, it is time to decide where you want to have your first kinky adventure outside the comfort zone of your own apartment.
I am sure that you can think of countless places that are suitable for such an experience. Basically every place that is not your own apartment and that is frequented by at least a few people can be defined as a public place.
However, there are just a few public places that give you the thrill of getting caught and the necessary logistics to avoid that.
If you are worried that you can’t get an erection in a dirty and muddy forest and the thought of having sex while earthworms are watching you banging the shit out of a girl is anything but exciting for you, a forest might not be the optimal place for you.
However, if the thought of having rough sex in nature while feeling like a horny caveman who enjoys his freedom turns you on, this is the place you should go to.
I once had sex in a forest and it was amazing. If you search for a place that is out of the way and that allows you to hide, nobody will ever find you. Just don’t wear dear horns. This could motivate the forester to shoot you.
In the evening when all the joggers and the young families with their annoying brats are gone, a public park can be transformed into a naughty adventure park. You can have sex at every corner and on every bench. I once fingered a girl in a park until she had an orgasm while a couple of people were walking past us who thought we were just making out.
This was a crazy experience and I also remember another time where a girl gave me a blowjob behind a statue in a park near my hometown.
The Parking Place
The best time to have sex at a parking place is at night. I wouldn’t do it in broad daylight, because the chances of getting caught are extremely high. Please don’t be so stupid and choose to have sex on a parking place of the most frequented supermarket in town during the opening times.
In my experience the most thrilling way of testing how to have sex in public at a parking place is by choosing one that is located near a club or a bar area. Go there at night.
If you hide in your car you will see all the drunk people passing by who don’t even consider for one minute that there could be a couple having fun in one of the cars.
One of my friends told me a girl once gave him a blowjob in a cinema. Of course she only did this because the row they were in and the rows behind them were completely empty.
The next time you go to the cinema you have to choose a movie that is already running for a couple of weeks. This increases the chance that only a few people want to see it. All you have to do then is to choose two seats that are far away from the crowd. Watch the last scene of American Pie Reunion if you want to know how this works.
One of my best friends told me recently that she had sex in a library during the regular opening times. Yes, she is a girl. She wanted to try something new in order to spice up her relationship. All she had to do was to book a quiet study room, position the chair in a way that people who walked past could only see the back of the chair and the back of the head of her boyfriend.
After this preparation she pulled down her panties, sat on his lab and started to ride him like a rodeo horse.
The fact that she is basically the female version of me motivated her to tell me everything in detail, including the sentence “I was riding him like a rodeo horse”. The next time you are in a library you know that you should do something else than learning.
Enjoy Having Sex in Public
Have you chosen best place to have your first public debauchery?
Great, then there is nothing that can hold you back from trying the things you want to try and fucking your girlfriend where you want to fuck her.
No matter if you decide to do it in a cinema, in a park, at a parking place, at the library or during the Olympic Games directly in the stadium – I want you to enjoy the process of learning and testing how to have sex in public without feeling ashamed, guilty or awkward.
Take your Girl by the hand and go with her to a place that you have never associated with sex until this day. Relax before you undress each other and take a few deep breaths. Look around one last time and make sure that nobody who has a smartphone is close by. Now put your penis inside your girlfriend and hope that you don’t become the next social media sensation.
Instead, become the next seduction sensation.
Summed Up Wisdom
Having sex in public is a guaranteed way to heat up every relationship, no matter if you are together for two weeks or two decades. The only problem is that there are so many biases and false beliefs that surround this topic.
That’s why it is absolutely crucial to not only communicate your desire to have an adventure in places that offer the risk of getting caught, but to also overcome the related biases. This helps your partner to understand the reason for your desire and it helps her to realize that there is nothing bad about it. Of course you should also be aware of the risks that are in relation to this experience.
Have a look at your local law and make sure that nobody with a smartphone is near you when your girlfriend is riding you. After you compared a few places that are suitable for having sex in public it is time to decide for the place that you and your girl feel most comfortable with. The only thing you have to do now is to enjoy your public experience and to hope that you don’t end up on YouTube.
Sebastian Harris says
glad to hear that.
Poly Sam says
Very thrilling! Your article stimulates a new angle to our relationship!
Sebastian Harris says
Man, I love your open-mindedness
Totally agree with this. If people think it’s weird or taboo that’s their problem. It’s in our nature to have sex outside!
Sebastian Harris says
glad you like it.
Cecelia Paya says
Wow your blogs is actually very informative! Suprised these words comes from a guy .Oh well they do say western guys are much more gentleman ,in a way .Keep up the good work!! 🙂
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