You want to know how to get what you want from a woman.
Let me ask you: why?
I think I already know the answer. You tried to make girls do anything you want them to do…but it didn’t work. In fact, you tried it so many times that you’ve lost trust in women, the Game Gods, and Neil Strauss.
Let me share a secret with you:
No matter how many times you failed, I failed harder. And no matter how many girls you approach without getting what you want, I went home with empty hands and empty pockets more times than you.
It took me a long time to figure the following things out:
These are just some of the lessons I learned over the years. And I will share them with you in this article. But please promise me one thing before you continue reading. Promise me to not harm any woman with the methods and techniques I share with you.
Why do I say this?
Because what you’re about to learn could be considered manipulation…
How to Get What You Want from a Woman By Controlling Her Emotions
Manipulation. I hate this word.
So many people pretend that manipulation is bad, evil and reprehensible. Oh, those crybabies. Guess what? You’re manipulating as soon as you open your mouth. Communication is ALWAYS manipulation. Every child knows that, but as adults we pretend to have the moral high ground.
How did the child do it?
The child used the power of communication…but not logical communication. In the same way as a mother can’t be logically convinced to give her child candy, a woman can’t be logically convinced to do what you want her to do.
A lot of guys falsely believe that logic makes her spread her legs.
Here’s the truth:
Seduction is all about emotions.
It’s never about the nail. And it’s never about logic. The only way to get what you want from women is to control her emotions. If that’s too manipulative for you, you can still get a porn subscription. I’m sure they offer Easter discounts.
If you’re down for it, you can start with the first step…
1. Think about What You Really Want
You’re here because you want to know how to get what you want from a woman.
But what do you actually want?
Nope, I’m not asking what our society, your grandma and the movie industry wants you to want. I’m talking directly to YOU. It’s impossible to reach the finish line without knowing where it is. Unfortunately, you’re sight is blurred.
And what do you want?
Sit down and think about this question BEFORE you try to get what you want from women. Not getting what you want feels terrible, but getting what you want and then finding out that you don’t really want it feels even worse.
There is no wrong question and there are no wrong answers. I won’t judge you for what you want and you shouldn’t either. But think about it, really think about it. Once you know what you want from the ladies, you can go out and get what you want.
2. Find a Woman Who Wants What You Want
Let me ask you a stupid question:
Where do you go when you want a Big Mac?
You already know the answer. And no, it’s not Burger King because you want a Big Mac, not a Big King. You know what you want and you go to the only place that has it. If you follow this rule, figuring out how to get what you want from a woman will be so easy.
Let’s say you want to have a series of one-night stands. Or maybe you want to turn one of these one-night stands into a friend’s with benefits relationship. All you know is that you don’t want a monogamous relationship.
Where do you look for what you want?
Maybe I’m completely wrong and you want a monogamous relationship with your dream girl.
Where do you look for what you want now?
The moral of the story:
Stop looking for your steak in a vegetarian restaurant. It’s so easy to get what you want from a woman when you both want the same thing.
3. Make Her Feel Something within Seconds
Remember what I said about seduction and emotions?
Seduction is all about emotions.
You can’t logically convince her to like you. You can, however, make her like you so much that she convinces herself to sleep with you. And you can do it within the first couple of seconds of your interaction.
“Confused? How the hell can I get girls by making them feel confused?”
Let me explain.
I guess you’ve heard it before. “Make her feel positive emotions. Negative emotions ruin everything.” That sounds logical. But by now you know that you can’t win the seduction game with logic. Making her feel confused, irritated, and even sad can work.
Let me give you some examples:
These are not particularly positive topics. But they make her feel something. They trigger emotions and emotions, no matter if happy or sad, are the basis for a connection.
I say it again: Seduction is all about emotions.
Everyone can make a girl laugh with a joke, but only the best can make her do what you want from her after telling her a sad story.
4. Trigger Her Girlfriend Feelings
Let’s say you’re looking for a relationship.
You want a girlfriend who treats you like shit. Just kidding! You want a girlfriend who is loyal, loving, and caring. And you want this woman to do what you want her to do. Well, it’s not that hard. You just have to trigger the right feelings.
Ask yourself: What kind of boyfriend does she want?
Here’s the kind of man she (most likely) doesn’t want:
I mean, that’s the kind of guy she wants to sleep with when nobody looks. That’s the kind of guy who “doesn’t count”. But he’s not boyfriend material. In other words, if you sell yourself with this image, she won’t put you in the boyfriend category.
Here’s what you have to do instead:
That’s the kind of guy she wants to introduce to her mother.
5. Or Trigger Her Friends with Benefits Feelings
What if you’re not looking for a relationship?
Maybe you don’t want a loyal girlfriend. You hate being responsible for another person’s happiness. You’re a lone wolf. And because you don’t want what society tells you to want, you’re even more desperate to figure out how to get what you want from women.
Remember the guy who wasn’t boyfriend material.
Yes, I’m talking about the adventurer who’s not ready to settle and who flirts with every walking being on earth…including kangaroos. That’s the kind of guy you have to become…if you want her for one or two nights.
Here’s the uncomfortable truth:
Women date and marry boyfriends but they have fun with adventurers.
Let her know that you’re not into holding hands:
She’ll know that you won’t stick around. And that’s okay. She wants to give you what you want from her. And you will get it because you triggered the right emotions.
She won’t tell her future boyfriend about you.
6. Tell Her What You Value in Women
There’s a really simple way to get what you want from women.
Tell her what you want.
But don’t just tell her “I want you to do X,Y and Z for me”. That can work, but it can also backfire. Some women are turned on by the thought of doing anything you want. Others need a little push. The following method helps you to get what you want from both types of girls.
Instead of talking to her, you talk about women in general.
What do you value in women?
Let her know and see what happens. If she likes you, she’ll use these obvious clues to turn herself into your dream girl. Learning how to get what you want from a woman can be so easy…you just have to let her know what it is.
7. Make Her Feel So Good that She Does What You Want
Imagine you had a girlfriend.
Here’s what she does on a regular basis:
Now let me ask you: Would you do anything for her?
Of course not! You’d stay away from this chick. Okay, when I think of the women some of my friends married, I have to correct my answer. But you’re a self-confident Global Seducer. You have standards. You wouldn’t waste a second with such a woman.
The same is true for women.
Why would she give you what you want if you make her feel like crap?
Here’s what you can do to make her feel amazing:
She’ll feel so good that giving you what you want is a no-brainer.
8. Reward Her for Every Positive Action
I’m sure you’ve heard of Pavlov’s dog experiment.
He conditioned dogs to expect getting food whenever a bell rang. At some point, the dogs drooled without the food. This is called classical conditioning. But women are not dogs…even though they love doggy style.
You need operant conditioning to get what you want.
Operant conditioning is defined as an attempt to modify behavior through the use of positive and negative reinforcement. The goal is to create an association between a behavior and a consequence. And yes, it works with women.
The idea is simple:
Reward her for every positive action by…
Leave out the negative reinforcement. I don’t want you to treat women bad and I don’t want you to end up in trouble. Only use positive reinforcement.
9. Find Out What She Values in a Man
You can also play the game differently.
Your operant conditioning journey isn’t over yet. You know how it works. Now you can use it to make her do what you want from her by doing what she wants you to do. Of course, you should only do what you actually enjoy doing.
The first step is to find out what she values in men:
Now it’s your turn.
Collect the information. Then think about what you can do without betraying your own values, beliefs, and without losing your dignity. Come on. If she likes a caring guy, you can give her a back massage every Friday night. It’ll end with sex. So don’t complain.
Become her dream guy and she’ll become your dream girl.
10. Do Her a Favor to Get Ten in Return
You know what kind of guy she wants.
What are you waiting for?
Do her a favor by being the man of her dreams. Don’t let your ego stop you from what you want. Yes, you’re doing something for her, but that doesn’t mean that you give your power away. Remember the massage example I just gave you. It can be twice as rewarding.
And believe me. You will be rewarded.
Women are so much better at this whole empathy thing. We love to please women when it’s beneficial. Women, on the other hand, love to please men because it’s in their nature…at least the girls I date.
You do her one favor and you get ten in return.
That’s a better deal than getting a McDonalds menu for half the price. Damn, I’m still thinking about this Big Mac.
11. Continue with the Positive Feedback Loop
What? You’re already exhausted?
Come on. You’re here because you want to know how to get what you want from a woman. Stop complaining and keep hustling. You can’t expect to get anything you want by sitting on the couch. Okay, you can…
…but only if you conditioned her to bring you whatever you like.
Here’s the catch:
There will always be new things on your “I want to have” list. The same is true for your “I want to experience” list. That’s why you need to continue with the positive feedback loop. Don’t stop being her dream guy and don’t even think about ending the operant conditioning.
That’s why you need to say “yes” to the positive feedback loop and to the best seduction book in this galaxy.
Summed Up Wisdom
You want to know how to get what you want from a woman and you want to do it without force, weapons, and candy. Okay, maybe you can bribe her with candy. It might work. But believe me. Controlling her emotions works way better.
Think about what you really want and then go where you can find it. Don’t waste your time looking for it in all the wrong places. And don’t waste her time trying to convince her with logic. You have to make her feel something.
Seriously, what do you want? You can give her the feeling that you’re the perfect boyfriend or the guy her future boyfriend will never know of. As long as you make her feel really good and reward her for her positive actions, you’ll get what you want.
Sebastian Harris says
thank for your feedback!
awesome article–easy to follow/understand and the things you say make a lot of sense.
i also like how you mentioned that you need to find out what you want—whether it be a girlfriend, friends with benefits or a one night stand. i agree that’s important to establish.
one of your suggestions was to make her feel excited. for the most part, women seem to be attracted to guys who can make them feel excited. bad boys are exciting and typically the type of guys who get the girls.
one thing that really confuses me when it comes to girls/women—-is flakiness. in other words, you’ll be talking to them and thing seem to be going well—and then they just randomly drop off the face of the earth. and in some of these cases—i know for sure that i didn’t turn the girl off by saying something creepy/weird or being too needy—they just vanished. any idea why this happens?