Have you ever wondered why you don’t know how to get any girl to want you?
I’ll tell you why.
But first, I want to know what you’re telling yourself. There must be things that you are telling yourself that stop you from getting the girls you want and from taking the action you know you need to take.
Breathe in and listen to the chatter in your mind.
Maybe you’re telling yourself that you’re too ugly and that women are just not attracted to you. Or maybe you’re telling yourself that you’re too fat or too bald. Heck, maybe you’re even repeating “all women are bitches” in your mind over and over again.
Let me tell you the true reason why you don’t know how to get any girl to want you:
It’s not because of your self-defeating inner dialogue…even though we’re also going to work on that. No, the problem runs deeper. Your inner voice is not the catalyst. The big problem is that you’ve wasted years of your life listening to the wrong advice.
It’s time to stop believing what everyone else believes and to stop doing what everyone else does.
It obviously doesn’t work.
“If you are doing what everyone else is doing, there is probably not an opportunity there.” – George Kaiser
He’s right. That’s why I will show you:
…and so much more.
Are you ready to learn how to REALLY get any girl to want you?
Then let’s get started…
How to Get Any Girl to Want You: Stop the “Be Her Friend“ Bullshit
Before I started writing this article, I had a look at what popular men’s health and dating magazines had to say about this topic.
Jesus Christ, that was a big mistake.
Here’s the advice I found in some of the most popular online magazines:
If you follow this advice, you’ll get any girl to want you…as a friend, a doormat, and a pet. But this shit won’t make her horny, wet, and it for sure won’t get her naked.
I was shocked. I was really shocked.
I mean, I know that a lot of mainstream advice is bad, but that it actually makes things worse is a hard pill to swallow. And it does. Bring the girl you want to seduce flowers and ask her to be her friend. Guess what? She’ll NEVER sleep with you.
Heck, I slept with women that are so beautiful that my eyes couldn’t take it. And I can’t eat with fork and knife without painting the floor with pizza.
What about the nice present?
I’ve never done it. Here’s what I’ve done instead…
1. Realize that Seeing is Not the Same as Wanting
Here’s what I want you to understand:
Just because you see a girl on a regular basis, doesn’t mean that she wants you.
Don’t get me wrong. It’s better to see her and to be seen by her than to be invisible to her. You might see her at class or at work. Or maybe you see her on the street and she notices you. That’s great. But it’s only the first step.
I get a lot of emails from guys who ask me:
“There’s this one girl. I see her at work/at college every day. She talks to me. I’m sure she’s into me. How do I get her?”
I hate to say it, but paying attention to you is not the same as wanting you.
It’s definitely a good start. But the desire to want you isn’t triggered by being around you. Sorry, but that’s not enough. You have to do a bit more because, well, friends hang out too.
2. Make Clear that You are Not Interested in Friendship
Do you want to be her friend?
Don’t even think about answering with “yes”.
I don’t care if your mom told you that befriending a girl is the way to get her. And I don’t care if Cosmopolitan, Wikihow, and all the other mainstream sites say the same.
IT DOES NOT WORK!
I don’t want to repeat myself. That’s why I want you to read it again. Read it, memorize it, and internalize it. Being friends with a girl is the most inefficient way to get even remotely close to her panties.
“But Sebastian, everyone says it works.”
Fine, let Mr. Everyone jerk off to porn while YOU learn how to get any girl to want you. You don’t want to be her friend. You want to be her lover. Friends don’t have sex. Lovers do.
So avoid the friend zone at any cost.
3. Believe That You Are a Man Who Deserves to Be Wanted
Mindset is king.
No matter if you want to increase your salary, the size of your biceps, or your notch count…you need the right mindset. Your mindset determines your success with women. You can either sabotage yourself or you can lift yourself up. The choice is yours.
“The man who thinks he can and the man who thinks he can’t are both right. Which one are you?” – Henry Ford
I’m sure you’ve heard this quote before. Heck, even Will Smith mentioned it in one of his award shows. Or was it in a movie? Fuck, I can’t remember. But that doesn’t matter. The principle is and will always be true.
“What’s the fastest way to a superior mindset?” I hear you asking.
Work on your confidence and jump in the hellfire.
You deserve to be wanted. Believe me.
4. Become a Man Who Women Naturally Want
Here’s how to get any girl to want you:
Be a man who women naturally want.
It’s not rocket science. Think about the type of guy women want. And don’t come me with “all women want assholes and jerks”. No, they don’t. They just settle for these guys because they are at least more exciting than the average dude.
Here’s what the average dude does all day long:
Adam Average doesn’t go on adventures. He doesn’t have an interesting lifestyle with travel, self-improvement, and an active social circle. This guy doesn’t go to meeups to meet interesting people. He also didn't read my book Rise of the Phoenix.
He’s too busy being average.
Do you really want to be like Adam and get no girls?
No? Then stop living your life as a passive observant and design it. A man who takes the hammer and nails of his own life in his hand is naturally attractive to women.
5. Approach with a Straight Back and a Smile
I love listening to Jordan Peterson.
I still haven’t read his book 12 Rules for Life: An Antidote to Chaos because I was too busy publishing my book Rise of the Phoenix. But I already listened to one of his talks. I can’t remember if it was the first chapter, but one of the chapters in his book has the title “Stand up straight with your shoulders back.”
This advice sounds so simple, almost unnecessary.
I mean, everyone knows that, right? Yeah, everyone knows that standing straight and having a back that doesn’t make you look like the Hunchback of Notre Dame makes you look confident, fearless and trustworthy.
We all know it. But almost nobody follows this rule.
From all the one-on-one coaching clients I had last year, I can only remember one who had perfect posture. Heck, I shouldn’t scream so loud. I had to remind myself of it every day. I won a fucked up back in the genetic lottery.
Let me ask you something:
Do you want that women see a confident, fearless, and trustworthy man when you approach them?
If the answer is yes, you should work on your posture.
I know. It sounds so simple. But it makes such a huge difference. Just think about it. Women want to sleep with confident men. They want a fearless leader who goes after what he wants. And if she doesn’t trust you, she won’t follow you to the bedroom.
P.S. You can increase your chances by adding a genuine smile to a straight back.
6. Show Her that You Want Her
Ask and you shall be given.
That’s what the bible says. Here’s what I say:
Show and you shall receive blowjobs.
If you follow my advice on how to get any girl to want you, this is a realistic outcome. But she won’t kiss your lips or other parts of your body if she doesn’t know that you want her.
In other words, stop bitching around.
No girl wants you when you don’t have the balls to tell her that you want her. Stop the “do you want to hang out?” bullshit.
Let her know what you REALLY want.
You want a date with her, don’t you?
Give her a compliment and ask her out. Don’t beat around the bush. Life is too short for indirect gibberish. Tell her how beautiful she is and how she makes you feel.
“Honesty is the first chapter in the book of wisdom” – Thomas Jefferson
Listen to Thomas Jefferson. That dude knows how to get any girl to want you.
7. Use Female Psychology to Your Advantage
Women don’t say what they want. They show you what they want.
Let’s face it. Men are more direct than women. When we want something, we say it. Women don’t have the same freedom. No matter what they do, they are judged.
Don’t judge her for something that you secretly want. Come on, you want to sleep with her. I know it and you know it. And I also know that women are conditioned to not reveal their desires.
That’s why you need to listen to her body.
How does she react when you approach her, when you ask her out, when you…?
Don’t be blind to her signals. There are already enough blind men who are too busy staring at her tits instead of a woman’s signals.
You can be better than them.
The ability to listen and to observe a woman’s movements and reactions is one of the keys to getting any girl to want you. She’ll let you know how to get her. Open your eyes.
8. Let Her Know that You Don’t Judge Her for Anything
Are you pissed at me?
Be honest. I’ll survive it. I just told you that you should stop judging women. Whenever I say this to a group of guys, there’s at least one who screams “but what if she’s a bitch?”
Sorry, but that’s not how it works.
If you want to be a man who knows how to get any girl to want you, you have to understand three simple truths about women:
Why could she possibly be afraid?
Well, she’s afraid of getting judged. And you should be afraid of it too because the more you judge girls, the less sex you’ll have.
Most men judge women.
Be the one who doesn’t jump on this train and you don’t ever have to ask yourself how to get any girl to want you again. You’ll be in demand because you’re like a rare diamond.
9. Be Friendly But Don’t Be Nice
Do women want to be treated like shit?
Do they want to get verbally and physically abused?
Unfortunately, a lot of guys believe the opposite. They believe that they have to become assholes to get any girl to want them. Be careful.
This dark path can lead to an even darker future.
Here’s what you need to understand:
She’s not dating an asshole because he’s not friendly. She’s dating him because he’s not nice. Being friendly and being nice is not the same thing.
These two men couldn’t be more different.
So…do you want to be nice and jerk off to porn or do you want to be friendly and get laid?
A real smile is friendly. A fake smile is nice. Never forget that.
10. Get Social Validation and She’ll Want You Even More
But she’s not the only person you should treat with respect.
Don’t think of her friends as cockblockers. No, no and nope. That’s the wrong approach. Her friends can be your enemies or your biggest allies. It all depends on how you approach them.
Just know this:
It’s 10X easier to seduce her when her friends like you (the same is true for her granny).
Use the power of social validation.
Social validation is defined as a psychological phenomenon where one or more passive individuals follow or conform the actions of others within a group.
Here’s what this means:
Her friends think you’re an idiot = She thinks you’re an idiot
Her friends think you’re a good catch = She thinks you’re a good catch.
Now go and bake cookies for her overweight friend Brenda. She’ll eat them, tell her how awesome you are, and the girl of your dreams will ride you like a rodeo horse.
11. Make Her Want You by Not Wanting Her too Much
I know that you want her.
Otherwise, you wouldn’t be reading an article about how to get any girl to want you. Yes, you want her. But does that mean that you should be with her 24/7? Absolutely not!
She wants you to want her, not to obsess over her.
These are the three stages. It’s your job to stay on the first stage.
This is one mistake my coaching clients love to make. I teach them how to approach women, get numbers, and succeed on dates…and they obsess over the first girl who lets them taste her saliva. That’s not good.
You’re entering dangerous territory, my friend.
Women want men who have a life, a vision, a plan. They are repelled by men who throw all these things away for a pair of juicy tits.
12. Allow Her to Join You on Your Path
Will you give up your dreams to hang out with her juicy tits?
I hope not.
You are a man and a man should follow his path, no matter what. However, that doesn’t mean that you have to embark on this path alone. Achieving your goals with a beautiful girl in bed is better than doing the same with a bed full of your stinky boxers.
Allow her to join you on your path.
What if she wants you to join her on her path?
Let’s get real. You want to be a man who knows how to get any girl to want you. Work towards YOUR goals, not hers. Let her know that you are not affected by her answer and she’ll say “yes” in a heartbeat.
Why do you think women are so into successful business men?
Women want men who are so busy with their life and their goals that they do not care if she jumps in the car or stays on the side of the road. Heck, want is the wrong word. They are addicted to this type of man.
Do you have what it takes to become this man?
Summed Up Wisdom
You want to know how to get any girl to want you. Good, then stop listening to mainstream advice about manners and friends. Yes, friends. Don’t even think about being her best buddy. Instead, show her that you want her…without sabotaging your goals and vision.
Have a life and a dream. A man who works towards a goal is naturally attractive to women. Women want such a man, especially if he’s friendly but not nice. Be friendly enough to not judge her. You’ll thank me later.
Use her psychology. Women reveal all kinds of things when they’re attracted to a guy. You don’t want to miss out on these clues. And she doesn’t want to miss out on the chance to be a part of your life.