Knowing how to get a one-night stand with a girl makes life so much easier.
Just think about it:
"I'm sooo in love iwth you...."
Come on. Be honest.
You’ve done it before. You’ve been on at least one date where you pretended to be oh-so interested in a relationship…when all you wanted was to get laid. Don’t be ashamed. I’ve done it too.
It’s time to stop the lies.
The truth is that getting a one-night stand is not hard. Really, I promise. It’s actually quite easy, as long as you…
In the next couple of minutes I’ll share all these rules, places and steps with you.
Are you ready to have mind-blowing sex?
How to Get a Girl for One Night with the 4 Rules
Hey, I told you it’s not difficult.
You just have to follow four simple rules.
Most guys believe that have one-night stands are something only experienced seducers can have. That’s wrong. Heck, it’s harder to get a girlfriend than to get a girl for one night.
Unfortunately, most guys let their beliefs sabotage the party…
1. Not All Women Want a Relationship
What do you believe about women?
One of my best friends is married…and really naïve. A couple of days ago we had a discussion about love and sex. He called men who “use women for sex” jerks.
I had to laugh so hard because, well, here’s the truth:
Why don’t they do it?
Because they are afraid that you’re as naïve as my friend and that they can’t get rid of you in the morning. Yes, I’m serious. They want the fun but they are afraid to have a stalker in bed.
Women want one-night stands too!
Do yourself a favor and stop believing that women are innocent angels who only have sex in committed relationships. Grow up.
2. Look for Girls Who Are Alone
I’ll show you where to meet girls for one night stands.
But no matter where you go, the rule is always the same. Look out for the girls who are alone. This is so important. Yes, you can entertain her friends and turn them into your allies…but a lot of girls don’t want their friends to have fun.
They do it because they want to protect their poor friend, right?
Wrong!
Female friendships are based on jealousy.
Women either hang out with hotter girls to improve their status or they hang out with ugly girls to feel better about themselves. Nothing makes them feel worse than when a “friend” gets action and they don’t.
Yep, they block each other.
Oh, and girls who are alone are alone for a reason. They are looking for action.
3. Abandon the Sinking Ships Early
Let’s say you meet this girl.
She’s sexy and you would totally sleep with her. There’s just one problem. She talks about starting a family and raising kids. She wants to get married this year. That’s what she tells you.
What should you do?
Run! That’s what you should do!
Pursuing this one-night stand will only lead to drama and if you’re really unlucky, a condom that “accidentally” slips.
The same is true for….
it happens
Why force it when you can have it so easy?
Abandon the sinking ships and focus on the girls who want the same thing.
4. Ask and You Shall Receive a One-Night Stand
You don’t need to lie to get a one-night stand.
Ask and you shall receive. Jesus knew it and now you know it too. The more confident and direct you are, the higher your chance. Hiding your intention doesn’t make any sense.
That’s what it comes down to.
The principle is really simple and now I’m going to show you how to do it step by step in all kinds of situations…
How to Find a One-Night Stand for Free (The Best Ways)
It took me years to get a girl for one night because I made all the mistakes:
God, I really thought that daygame is a great way to meet girls for one-night stands. I mean, yeah. I got lucky from time to time. It’s definitely possible to get laid in 12 hours. But let’s face it.
It’s not the norm.
Do you want to skip the coffee date, the second date and all that stuff?
Then choose a venue that offers fast action at no costs…
How to Get a One-Night Stand at the Club
Clubs can be expensive.
My advice:
Don’t do any of that.
Instead, go to a club that fulfills two criteria.
Criteria # 1: It’s not a high end club (high end clubs attract gold diggers).
Criteria #2: It’s Ladies Night (The place is packed with beautiful women).
That’s a good start to make the following techniques work…
1. Look Out for Girls Who Dance Like There’s No Tomorrow
Why waste your time at the bar?
I mean, think about it.
Who’s more likely to go home with you?
- 1The girl who’s in a relaxed mood at the bar.
- 2The girl who walks around with her friends.
- 3The girl who dances, sweats, and grinds.
Here's your target group
You know the answer.
Move your body and hit the dancefloor!
2. Approach Her with Your Eyes and Your Hand
Now you’re on the dancefloor.
Look out for the girls who shake their bodies as if they get paid for it.
Oh, and look out for the girls with big booties. According to a study conducted by Dr. Colin A. Hendrie, associate professor of Human and Animal Ethology at Leeds University, wide hips stand for promiscuity. Women with wider hips admitted that 75% of their last sexual encounters were one-night stands.
Think about that before you approach a skinny chick.
And how do you approach her in the club?
Don’t use words. Use your body. I mean, you want to get physical anyway so…reach out with your hand. Invite her to dance with you. If she’s dancing like a stripper after a raise, you can dance up to her.
Have a look at how he does it:
Rock your body, baby!
3. Spin Her Around and Let Her Grind
She’s right in front of you.
You’re either looking at her face or at her body. It depends on how you danced up to her. Now get closer. That’s all you need to do. Get really close and put your hands around her waist. Dance like you’re in love.
Dancing is the vertical expression of a horizontal desire.
Never forget that.
4. Isolate Her and Take Her Home
What’s next?
Get her off the dancefloor and isolate her. Isolate her from everyone on this planet. Take her hand and lead her away from her friends and especially from the other guys.
You don’t want anyone near her.
As long as you’re (kind of) alone, she’ll do what you want her to do.
How do you take her home?
Tell her that your friends survived the last hour without her and that they will be okay for another hour. Tell her “let’s go” and then go.
How to Get a One -Night Stand in College
“How can I find a one night stand in college?” I hear you asking.
Or maybe you don’t ask this question.
It might have been a long time since you went to college. It doesn’t matter because the following advice can be used in college and at any random house party.
So listen up…
1. Go to a House Party or College Club
Don’t waste your time in the library.
Good girls study in the library. Bad girls sleep all day because they partied all night. And you want to know how to get a one-night stand with bad girl.
So go where the bad girls hang out:
These are the girls that are begging to sleep with you…or anyone who asks.
2. Hold Eye Contact with Every Girl
Use your eyes to find out who’s DTF.
It’s not that hard. You scan the room and you look and smile at any girl. Okay, skip the fatties and the ones who are already puking in buckets.
Scan the room for potential leads.
-It’s time to introduce yourself to your future wife…uhhm lover.
3. Approach Her with a Hug
It works. Believe me.
She’s in party mode and no, it’s not too soon. Just do it. Thank me later. No handshake and no “heeey…how is it going?” Walk up to her and say “hey” while you open your arms like a gate to another world.
This works so well because…
You get physical from the start and observe her reaction.
So…how does she react?
If she presses her body against you, she likes your hug. Give her more of the sweet stuff…
4. Touch Her Before You Lead Her Home
Talk to her about anything. The topic doesn’t matter.
Just make sure that you do these three things during the interaction:
She likes it
The last move is very important. My experience tells me that a girl who giggles when you touch and smell her hair wants to get kissed.
Did you kiss her?
Turn the kissing into making out and tell her that you live just around the corner.
How to Find a One-Night Stand on Craigslist
What if you want to stay home?
There are plenty of ways to get one-night stands without leaving the house. There’s this thing called the internet. It makes it possible to get laid without leaving the house.
You just have to go on craigslist.
But is that really such a good idea?
1. Understand that Craigslist Should Be Your Last Option
I wouldn’t do it.
I don’t want to be a fun killer, but the risk of meeting girls on craigslist is higher than the reward. Heck, you’re lucky if the girl who shows up looks at least similar to the girl in the picture. But that’s not what I mean.
Here’s why I wouldn’t do it:
Think about it. No normal girl posts naked pictures of herself on the internet so that thousands of guys can contact her. Most of these broads are mentally ill…and nymphomaniacs.
What if you still want to do it?
Here are a few quick tips before I show you a better alternative...
2. Choose the Right Craigslist Category
That’s pretty easy.
You should be looking for the categories “casual encounters” or “women seeking men”. These are your only two options…unless you’re a bisexual woman who’s looking for a guy (call me).
Choose one of these two categories and look around.
3. Send a Message with a Picture
You see a girl you like who doesn’t charge money?
That’s very unlikely but not impossible.
She might be on craigslist
But hey, maybe I’m wrong about craigslist. You can prove me wrong by sending her a message. Don’t forget to include your picture. I know one thing about finding a one-night stand on craigslist.
No picture, no reply.
4. Exchange WhatsApp or LINE or Whatever
What if she replies?
Congratulations! Today is your lucky day. She might turn out to be a transgender with excellent makeup but hey, you’re one step further.
Ask her for her WhatsApp, LINE or whatever messenger you use.
Set up a date and please wear a condom.
How to Get a One Night Stand Online
What’s the best way to find a one-night stand online?
Nope, it’s not craigslist!
But you can stay online. That’s totally fine. You don’t have to leave your house. Use your laptop or your mobile phone and choose the right dating site.
Did you choose a dating site?
Then let’s get started…
1. Look for Girls Who Reveal Their Intention
Don’t waste your time with girls who are looking for their soulmate.
You want to know how to get a one-night stand with a girl and not how to get married. Focus on the ladies that want casual sex. Of course, most girls don’t reveal that in their profile…unless you join one of those scam hookup dating sites.
You have to read between the lines:
and if that's her profile picture...
These are the profile descriptions that make a guy’s heart beat faster.
2. Send a Sexual First Message
I repeat:
Don’t waste your time. Find out if a girl wants to get sexual and do it as fast as you can. The easiest way to do that is to use a sexual opener.
Here’s an opener I used in the past:
Hey NAME,
I hope I don’t offend you, but I just looked at your picture and imagined running my fingers through your beautiful hair and to kiss your lips.
God, your lips look so delicious.
I’m sorry if that’s a bit too direct, but that’s how I feel.
Kisses,
Sebastian
Believe it or not, but this message got me laid.
3. Start a Message Tsunami
How many messages do you have to send?
Send as many as it takes to get a few positive replies.
You will get rejected. Not every girl responds positively to a sexual opener. But it’s better to get rejected by 50 girls and to find one who’s down for it than to waste your time sending lukewarm messages to lukewarm girls.
Start a message tsunami until you find a girl who wants to ride you like a wave.
Copy and paste makes it possible.
4. Meet Her at a Bar Close to Your Apartment
Where do you meet her?
Don’t ask her to come to your place. Most girls don’t, not even the ones who are looking for a one-night stand. It’s too dangerous. I mean, you could be a serial killer or Louis C.K.
Suggest a public place.
Choose one that’s right next to your apartment and then…
What? It’s just a two-minute walk?
She’ll come with you.
How to Get a One-Night Stand on Tinder
That’s the question I get asked the most:
“How do I find a girl for a one-night stand on Tinder?”
The answer:
Tinder was made for hookups.
It’s so easy, if you follow these simple steps…
1. Let Your Profile Reveal Your Intentions
Do girls want to have a one-night stand with a nice guy?
Sorry, but the answer is “no”.
Look like danger and you’ll look like fun to her.
Don’t write “looking for love” or “sincere guy with a big heart” in your Tinder profile. You’re looking for a one-night stand. Be honest about it.
2. Swipe Until Your Fingers are Bleeding
You already know what to do next.
Don’t give up after 100 matches.
You want to increase your chances?
Then increase the number! Play the numbers game and swipe until your fingers are bleeding….or study engineering…
The more matches the better.
3. Escalate Quickly and Ruthlessly
Don’t beat around the bush.
She contacts a guy who’s direct and looking for fun. So don’t be a boring fart who’s anything but direct. Tell her the truth and next her if she can’t handle it.
That’s all she has to know.
Now she has the chance to decline or to come over.
4. Invite Her to Watch Vicky Christina Barcelona
That’s my secret tip.
Other dating coaches give the same movie recommendation. But we only do it because it works. This is THE movie to get laid. There’s something about this movie that makes women uncontrollably ready. It’s perfect for a one-night stand.
Seriously, watch Vicky Christina Barcelona.
You won’t regret it.
How to Make a One Night Stand Unforgettable
Do you want to know how to have the best one-night stand in history?
I’ll show you…
You’re watching Vicky Christina Barcelona and the temperature is rising. The movie is almost over. The sexual tension reaches a painful level. It’s painful to resist the temptation.
She doesn’t want to resist any longer…
1. Be Prepared for Action
Sorry to interrupt your naughty thoughts, but I have to ask you something.
Are you prepared?
That works
Women are very sensitive to smell and they love aromatic candles, especially vanilla. And they love men who are prepared for sex. Keep that in mind.
2. Do More than In and Out
I know what you want to do.
You want to thrust and you want to come.
I can’t blame you. You’re a man. There’s nothing better than thrusting and coming. But you’re not alone. The girl who’s moaning underneath you has a soul, you know.
Turn this one-night stand into a pleasurable experience for her. That’s what she wants. And admit it. You want her to have some fun.
That’s food for the ego.
3. Act Normal After the Sex
There’s nothing awkward about having a one-night stand.
Unfortunately, most men make it awkward. They ask weird questions and act as if they’ve done something forbidden or completely unbelievable. Yeah, you had sex with a girl you just met.
Don’t make a big deal out of it.
That poor thing is completely dehydrated.
4. Offer Her to Stay the Night
Let her make the choice.
I know. That goes against the whole “you’re the leader” advice I usually preach. But this is a different situation. You just banged her. Now she’s most vulnerable.
Be careful to not hurt her feelings.
You’re here because you wanted to know how to get a one-night stand with a woman. Now that you know it, I can tell you to be a gentleman when it’s over.
How to Get a One-Night Stand to Leave
It was nice but you can already see the red flags.
Enough! She has to leave!
Here’s how to get rid of a one-night stand without breaking her fragile heart…
1. Make Her at Least a Coffee
You don’t have croissants at home. That’s okay.
Offer her a coffee or a hot chocolate or any other hot or cold drink that might motivate her to leave. Let her drink it and pray to God that she gets the clue.
What If she wants another coffee and another one and…?
Come up with a believable reason.
2. Say That You Have Work to Do
Sorry, but the following reasons are NOT believable:
However, there’s one excuse that always works:
“I have work to do.”
She doesn’t want to leave but she respects your work ethic.
3. Give Her the Choice to Stay in Contact
Now she knows you’re hard-working.
You’re boyfriend material. She can already imagine buying a house for you and Justin…that you pay for. Remember Justin? Yes, your son. She can already see it. That’s why she wants to stay in contact with you.
How about you?
You could turn a one-night stand into a two-night stand.
Then you don’t have to hunt again. But she might try to tie you down. Well, life is hard.
Choose but choose wisely.
How to Get a One-Night Stand to Like You and Date You
Oh God…
I could spend another two hours writing about how to get a one-night stand to like you and date you.
But that would be a waste of time because I’ve already written a book that teaches you everything about attracting, seducing and dating women.
Read Rise of the Phoenix and you’ll know the answer.
Summed Up Wisdom
You want to know how to get a one-night stand with a woman. That’s great, but are you willing to follow the rules? Good, then stop believing that women don’t like fast sex with strangers. Grow up and accept the truth.
And don’t hide your intentions. She wants it and she wants to know if you want it too. Be honest. There’s a reason why she came alone tonight. What if she ends up wasting your time? Say “bye bye” and go to the next girl.
Or look for a girl for one night on Craigslist. But that sucks. Instead, choose a real dating site or Tinder. Alternatively, you can go to the club or to a college party…or to any other house party. As long as you get physical, everything is possible.
Good luck!
“Most guys believe that have one-night stands are something only experienced seducers can have.”
i’m one of those guys. i guess i’m naive. i’ve always believed that getting a one night stand was difficult. safety is very important to women–so I thought that getting them to come home with you when they just met you–would be a difficult task.
i’ve used tinder for years and met some women in person, but i’ve never got a one night stand. when i use tinder, i try to get to know the girls and then i’ll eventually ask for their number. maybe that’s what i’ve been doing wrong all this time.
i love your articles, but especially this one. i read it TWICE. picking up chicks at a bar/club is difficult in my opinion. that said, you certainly know more about this stuff than me–which is why i’m reading your articles lol
i’m heading to a bar tonight. take care Sebastian