Come on. Let me show you how to get a girlfriend fast…
When I woke up today I already knew exactly what I want to share with you. I saw the image of the finished article and a voice in my head screamed at me “get up and start writing”.
Yes, I really have to. I have to write this article because of a website that gave me the creeps. Yesterday, I stumbled upon this website.
The idea behind it: Desperate guys pay a company to send them fake messages of girls that don’t exist to get the feeling as if they had a girlfriend.
To be honest, I couldn’t look at myself in the mirror if I would earn money with this. It’s a scam and the worst part of it is that the guys who use this service know that it’s a scam and they still sign up.
Would these guys sign up for this service if they would know how to get a REAL girlfriend instead of a stock image and messages that are probably written by an overweight hairy dude?
Of course not!
That’s why I had to write this article.
That’s why I feel the need to help you with this. I don’t want you to get an invisible girlfriend. I am here to show you how to get a real one and how to get her fast…
Learning How to Get a Girlfriend Requires a Mindset Shift
I look like a 16 year-old high school boy and I have a 30 cm scar on my belly. Oh, and I have a beautiful girlfriend who I love with all my heart. She is everything I ever wanted in a woman.
Do I say this because I want to brag? Nope!
I say this because I want to prove to you that it is possible to get a girlfriend who loves you, no matter what you think. And this brings me directly to the reason why you don’t have a girlfriend.
Your thoughts are your biggest obstactle. Your mind is the enemy.
I know from my own experience that learning how to get a girlfriend has less to with practical seduction skills than with the right mindset.
But you still don’t know how to get a girlfriend and how to get her FAST.
I could make it easy for myself and just rehears the same ten reasons that you can find on Thought Catalog and Men’s Health. But I won’t.
Instead, I want to share my own experience and show you what you REALLY need to do in order to get a girlfriend.
Become a Man Who Deserves a Girlfriend
This is not a feel-good article. I won’t tell you the same bullshit that others are telling you. You know what I mean. You won’t hear any of the “You are the maaaan and every woman who doesn’t want to be your girlfriend is a stupid bitch” kind of bullshit from me.
No bullshit, just challenge. I want to challenge you.
I want to challenge your mind and your emotions. Because that’s what you really need in order to get a girlfriend fast. And yes, you might hate me while reading my words.
Your ego will try to rebel and protect your fragile self-image. I mean, no man wants to hear that he might not be worthy of having a girlfriend…yet.
Are You Able to Love Your Girlfriend?
This is important, very important.
I have met so many guys who told me that they want to have a girlfriend and after ten minutes of talking to them I knew exactly why they will NEVER get one unless they change their mindset.
Call it misogyny, unresolved mother issues or whatever you want.
Women can sense how a man feels about women. A woman just has to look into your eyes and she knows exactly what you think about her gender. She feels it. It’s the infamous female intuition.
Do you really think a woman wants to be the girlfriend of a man who hates women?
Of course not!
You also don’t want to be together with a woman who hates men. It’s simple logic.
Women love men who love women. In other words, women want to be your girlfriend…but only if you love women.
“But there are so many abusive assholes with hot girlfriends!” I hear you scream.
Click here if you really believe that
Yes, there are abusive and violent guys with insanely hot girlfriends, but do you really think that these relationships are health…and that these girls are healthy?
I know plenty of models. Some of them are amazing women with great values. They would never tolerate an abusive relationship.
Others are narcissists with a Borderline disorder who date exactly these guys. They are hot, yes. But believe me when I say that you don’t want one of these chicks as your girlfriend.
Do You Have the Ambition that She Needs?
Most guys confuse being ambitious with being rich.
They see a hot girl next to a successful man and they immediately conclude “she’s a gold digger”. Well, not necessarily. The true reason why she is into this guy is because he is ambitious. This girl agrees with me on that:
Listen very carefully:
Women are attracted to the cause of success and not the result
This is a big difference. Money is the result, ambition is the cause and that’s what you need to get an amazing girlfriend. Heck, since I work on this site, I have an abundance of women in my life.
I follow my passion. I work hard. I try to eat healthy to be productive. I read a lot of books. I am passionate about improving myself, my writing and the service that I can offer you.
And I am still dead broke (please buy some products through my links…pleeeease). But women love me and they will love you, no matter if your bank account is full or empty. Remember, all you need is the cause of success, not the result.
Are You Really Ready for a Girlfriend?
Don’t just say “yes, dammit, I am ready. Now give me more tips!”
Being ready for a girlfriend is not the same as wanting a girlfriend.
I know many guys who wanted a girlfriend, but because they weren’t ready, they lost her within a blink of an eye.
Why do you really want a girlfriend?
What if you want her because you haven’t had sex in a while and you need it really bad? She will sense your neediness.
What if you want her because you are sick of being single? She will sense your neediness.
What if you want her because your girlfriend broke up with you and you can’t deal with the loneliness? She will sense your neediness.
What if you want to get a girlfriend, because you are at a stage in your life where you are ready for love and an intimate relationship? She will sense this and she’ll want to be your girlfriend.
Sorry, but you can’t bypass the female intuition.
How to Get a Girlfriend Fast by Saying No
You are here because you want to know how to get a girlfriend fast. I assume you also don’t want to lose her as fast as you got her.
Unfortunately, that’s what most men do.
They get a girlfriend and within months, weeks, and sometimes days she runs away from them. Then they cry, curse and write nasty comments on my site in which they say that all women are whores. What these men don’t realize is that a simple “no” would have prevented all their hassle.
Instead, they say “yes” to the next narcissistic and depressed girl who promises a relief from loneliness and the blue balls syndrome.
Say No to Women Who are Not Girlfriend Material
I already wrote a detailed article on the signs that a woman is girlfriend material. You should have a look at this article before you continue reading.
Feel free to adjust my list to your own values and expectations. Once you have your personal list, you know exactly what type of girl you want.
“But what if a girl is not girlfriend material but she has a sexy ass/spreads her legs for me/doesn’t run away from me?”
Just because a girl has a vagina doesn’t mean that you should make her your girlfriend.
Don’t make the mistake to think that every girl who spreads her legs for you is THE ONE. She might be, but the fact that she slept with you doesn’t qualify her.
Say No to Your Ego When It Wants MORE
Imagine you found a girl who is girlfriend material. She is amazing. The time you spend together is wonderful. You fall in love with her.
What could possibly go wrong?
And again, your mind is your biggest enemy.
When your fears and insecurities (more on that later) mix with the poisonous beliefs of the pickup and seduction community, love is destroyed faster than it’s created.
You know what poisonous beliefs I am talking about.
“Only losers settle down with one girl!”
“She is not an HB 10. Don’t ever settle for less!”
“Girlfriends are for beta males. Real alphas live the playboy lifestyle!”
Yeah, right. That’s why people like my mentor Sasha Daygame, my friend David DeAngelo and Neil Strauss are married. They are all beta male losers.
Just be careful that your ego doesn’t destroy something that’s worth keeping.
Say No to Other Women Before She is Your Girlfriend
I don’t say this because I am an upholder of moral standards. I say this because I know from my own experience that pursuing other women while you pursue your future girlfriend will break your neck and her heart.
Temptations are everywhere and you are still single, so why not go for it? I mean, you have been on one or two dates with your future girlfriend but factually you are still single. Yes, but emotionally she might already feel like your girlfriend.
Just imagine how she reacts when she finds out.
She might even tell you that it’s okay because you haven’t been together at this time, but she’ll never forget it. This will always stand between you. Not a good start for a relationship.
Oh, and there’s another reason. It’s hard enough to focus on one woman. Women are complex and getting to know one takes time. Focus on three at the same time and you will lose all three. I speak from experience.
How to Get a Girlfriend through Honesty
Building up a relationship is like building a house. First you need solid ground and then the foundation. Then you can start building.
Unfortunately, a lot of guys try to build this house on a ground that has never been solid and on a foundation of lies that will sooner or later make the house collapse.
That’s why most couples are unhappy. That’s why most relationships end before they have even started.
Honesty prevents your beautiful villa from collapsing.
Be Honest About Who You Are
Don’t pretend to be an adventurous biker when you are a computer nerd who loves to play Super Mario on his old Nintendo 64. Lie about who you are and you will attract women you don’t really want.
I went through a phase where I believed that I can only call myself a successful seducer when I am together with a hot party chick. God, I was such a fool…and a very miserable fool. Dating these girls was pure hell.
Every Jack has its Jill.
Nobody wins if she is disappointed and you are devastated because she leaves a man who pretended to be someone else. Just do everything you can to become the best version of yourself (ambition!) and allow the right girl to show up.
Be Honest About What You Want and Expect
Please don’t lie to her, just because you want to avoid an argument. I did this a million times and it always backfired. Again, be honest.
Let’s say you are like me and you want a girl who doesn’t drink. Now the woman who is sitting next to you tells you that she loves to party and that she gets wasted every weekend.
What do you do?
“Oh, that’s amazing. You are such an adventurous and amazing girl!”
That’s what most guys do. And they do it for one reason only:
They are terrified.
They are terrified that she will leave them when he doesn’t behave like an obedient puppy. What these men don’t realize is that exactly this behavior makes her lose the attraction for them. What they also don’t realize is that they’d be better off without a girl that belongs to them like a goldfish belongs to the sand.
Be honest about what you want in the relationship and what you expect from her.
How to Get a Girlfriend Fast With Girlfriend Game
There was a time (before I met my girlfriend) when I just wanted to have casual sexual experiences.
No strings attached. That’s what I wanted.
But I had a problem. I had the problem that a lot of the girls I slept with wanted to be my girlfriend.
I honestly didn’t know why.
Then I spoke with James Marshall about the difference between girlfriend game and the game that you should use when you are only interested in a sexual encounter.
After our conversation I knew what I did wrong…
A Romantic Seduction Leads to a Happy Relationship
I was sexual, I was the leader, but I also was hopelessly romantic.
Here’s what I did that made all the girls think that I wanted to be their boyfriend:
- I invited them to long romantic walks in the park.
- I watched romantic comedy movies with them.
- I held their hand while we were walking.
- I talked about the future and about all the places that we could visit together.
These are all things that a couple does. So, if you want to get a girlfriend fast, you should do the things that I wish I hadn’t done. Be the romantic seducer and show her how beautiful it would be to be your girlfriend.
Set Boundaries Early On
Okay, enough of the romance. It’s time for a little rant.
There is one thing that a lot of guys do that makes me so freaking angry that it’s hard for me to put it into words. It makes me so angry because I’ve done it over and over and over again in the past.
Whenever I am in a bar with my friends there is at least one guy who allows his girlfriend or a woman who’s not yet his girlfriend to treat him like shit, makes fun of him or makes a scene without a reason.
I want to cry whenever I see this.
I want to walk up to them and scream at the guy:
“Don’t you have any self-respect you castrated wimp?”
Please don’t be one of these guys. Don’t tolerate such a behavior and don’t even think about making a girl who behaves in such a disrespectful way your girlfriend.
A real man has boundaries.
Get to Know Her on a Deep Level
Have I already told you that a lot of guys end up in relationships because of boobs, asses and vaginas?
Yeah, I think I mentioned it a couple of times.
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Shut the fuck up
Listen to her
Listen to her stories. Find out more about her childhood. Connect with her on a deep level. Hell, you want to spend at least a few years and maybe even the rest of your life with this woman.
Get to know her!
How to Get Your Madonna in Bed
I won’t lecture you about the discoveries of Sigmund Freud. If you don’t know what the Madonna Whore Complex is, you can read more about it here. In case you have no clue and are worried that I am going to sing “touched for the very first time”, I’ll explain it with my own words in one sentence:
When a man sees a woman either as a holy Madonna or as a whore and is not able to realize that every woman embodies both aspects, he suffers from the Madonna Whore Complex.
We’ve all done it. You see a sexy girl in a club with a mini skirt and you immediately give her the label “whore”. You see an innocent looking woman in the library and you give her the label “Madonna”.
But what does that have to do with learning how to get a girlfriend fast?
More than you can possibly imagine.
Remember that Your Girlfriend is a Sexual Being
Men are stupid, at least sometimes.
We are stupid because we allow visual components or a label to define how we see a woman. The girl in the mini skirt is the slut, but we won’t say the same about the girl in the blazer.
We do the same with the label “girlfriend”.
We are dumb enough to believe that we can’t escalate fast with our future girlfriend. If she would be just a random girl, we would already be kissing her. But we can’t do that with THIS girl. Everyone knows that the girl who will be our girlfriend is different. She’s a good girl. She needs time.
No, she isn’t and she doesn’t.
She is a woman, just like any other woman. The difference between a girl who is predestined to be your girlfriend and one who is not only exists in your head. They are both women and they both have sexual desires that they want to live out with you.
If you hesitate, someone else will escalate.
Get a Girlfriend Fast by Being a Good Lover
Have you ever heard about oxytocin?
It’s the female lust hormone and it’s responsible for the fact that women fall in love through sex. Yes, you heard right. There have been countless studies that prove that.
Men don’ fall in love through sex, but women do.
But the woman of your dreams won’t just fall in love with you the moment you slide inside her. It’s not that easy. Your future girlfriend will fall in love with you, but only after the first orgasm…or third one. When a woman has an orgasm she releases oxytocin. This makes her fall in love with you.
That’s why it’s so damn important to become an amazing lover.
Be Prepared to Bleed Your Heart Out
Now that we discussed the sexual aspect of learning how to get a girlfriend fast, it’s time to talk about something that you will hate with all your heart. Yes, we’ll talk about your heart. To be more precise, we’ll discuss your emotions.
“But I don’t want to talk about my emotions. That’s gay!”
I know, I know. But you have to, at least when you want to find a girlfriend who loves you with all her heart.
There’s one reason why so many guys mess up a relationship with the woman of their dreams at an early stage and it has nothing to do with his seduction skills. It has everything to do with the fact that he is too emotionally immature to handle the situation.
I nearly messed up my own relationship, because of my own Insecurities, my pride and my stupid ego.
Be Ready to Cry Like a Baby
Falling in love can be a tough business. Be ready to cry like a baby.
I am serious. When you are not used to opening your heart and to feel such intense emotions for another human being, this can feel like a punch in the face…in a good way.
I met my girlfriend when I already had been single for more than five years. In these five years I had an amazing time for which I’m extremely thankful. At the same time, however, I also pushed a lot of emotions away in order to maintain the so-called player lifestyle.
There are many PUA’s who do this in order t to not get attached to girls they’ll never see again after one or two nights. And a lot of perpetually lonely singles do this in order to survive the loneliness.
It’s a way to deal with it but it’s definitely not healthy.
Now that you fall in love it can happen that all the emotions that you pushed away will fly back to you like a boomerang.
Knock, knock…your friends insecurity, jealousy, fear of intimacy and self-doubt are knocking on the door. They want to get in. And the more you fall in love, the easier it is for them to walk through the door.
You have to learn to deal with these old friends. Pushing them away will push away the only person that you don’t want to push away.
Open Your Heart For Her
The best thing you can do to control your friends insecurity, jealousy, fear of intimacy and self-doubt is to expose them. That’s what they hate the most. These suckers feel comfortable when they can control your mind while you pretend that everything is okay.
They hate nothing more than getting exposed. When they are naked, they run away and stay away. But therefore you have to get naked, emotionally naked.
Open your heart.
Get over yourself. Win the fight against your own ego and don’t be afraid to show your vulnerability. You want this woman to be your girlfriend. You want to share your life with her. If she can’t deal with the fact that you are honest about your emotions, she doesn’t deserve to be your girlfriend anyway.
I cried in front of my girlfriend.
Every man who is more in love with a woman than there are Chinese people in the world has done that. Most will never admit it. Heck, I am a dating coach who is, by the standards of the seduction community, supposed to be a heartless alpha playboy and I admit that I did it.
So you can at least share your feelings with her. Be honest about your fears. Share your insecurities with her. Cry if you have to. Open your heart and let her in. That’s when she’ll fall for you completely.
You don’t have to admit that you do it. Just do it 😉
Summed Up Wisdom
Learning how to get a girlfriend fast requires a mindset shift. You can’t be a misogynist without ambition and attract the woman of your dreams. Sorry, but that’s not how it works. You need to be ready and you also need the ability to say “no” to a lot of things and to other women.
Honesty wins hands down and learning how to be good in bed is required, at least if you don’t want to lose her to the FedEx guy. Once you have learned how to bang her like Roger Rabbit, it’s time to open your heart and to cry like a baby.