Do you want to know how to get a girl to trust you?
I’m sure you do.
But even if you don’t want to learn it…you have to. Unless you want to live a lonely and sexless life until you’re too old to get it up, you have to know the secrets I’m about to share with you. There’s no way around it.
She won’t do any of those things, unless she looks at you and thinks:
“This guy is trustworthy. I feel comfortable in his presence. He makes me feel safe and secure. If he’d ask me to go to his place, I’d say yes because he’s a good guy.”
You want her to have these thoughts.
You’ll know how to make her think these thoughts after you’ve read this article. But I have to warn you. This is advanced psychology. I won’t share any “just be nice” or “be genuine” gibberish with you. Heck, you don’t want to be her friend.
You want to be the sexually confident lover she trusts.
That’s why I’ll show you…
Let’s turn you from an untrustworthy bastard into a guy she’d introduce to her bedroom and later to her grandmother Rosie…
How to Make a Girl Trust You Easily
I believed them.
It was a mistake to trust these guys. Every manosphere blog I read talked about being alpha. These guys told me to walk up to a girl with a Ronnie Coleman pose. They also told me that I have to look like a killer and that every emotional expression is a sign of weakness.
I followed their advice:
I was THE MAN!
Unfortunately, I was a chronically underfucked man. Almost none of the girls I asked out went on a date with me. And none of the few girls who actually went on a date with me saw my bedroom. I was unlucky. Okay unlucky is the wrong word.
I was stupid.
I was only interested in getting girls in bed and I was blind to the fact that trust is the foundation that makes women want to sleep with you.
1. Say What You Do And Do What You Say
Here’s how to get a girl to trust you:
Yes, another Captain Obvious meme. The simplest things lead to the best results. Just think about it. You want her to trust you and the simplest thing you can do is to say A and to do A.
Most guys say A and do B.
If you tell her to meet you at 8 pm, you show up at 8 pm. You say what you do (“let’s meet at 8 pm”) and you do what you say (you show up on time). It’s not rocket science. Anyone can do it. Unfortunately, a lot of guys don’t.
Say what you do and do what you say. It makes dating easier.
2. Say How Much You Hate Fake People
I hate fake people.
I guess that’s my German DNA. I can’t stand this “let’s pretend to be nice for the sake of being nice” bullshit. Let me tell you a secret: Women hate it, too. That’s why they don’t like nice guys. These men are fake and phony to the core.
Here biggest fear is that you’re one of them.
She doesn’t want to date a guy who pretends, lies, and deceives her. She wants to share her time and her body fluids with a man who has the balls to be himself. And remember: You want her to trust you. That’s why you have to go first.
Tell her how much you hate fake people.
She’ll assume three things:
Hating on fakers can lead to a lot of love from the kind of girls you really want.
3. Tell Her that You Want Her to Be Honest
“Hey, I’m honest. Will you sleep with me?”
I hate to say it, but she won’t reply with “yeah sure, take your clothes off.” Everyone can say that. I can also tell you that I’m the President of the United States. That doesn’t mean that it’s true. But still, there’s a way to talk her into believing in your honesty.
Here’s what I like to say:
“I want you to be honest with me. I value honesty more than anything.”
This is incredibly effective. You prove that you are honest by expecting her to be honest. It might sound confusing but that’s how our human brains work. When someone expects something from us, we instinctively assume that this person has and values this quality.
“I want you to be honest” is ten times more powerful than “I’m honest.”
Don’t blame me. Blame the human brain.
4. Be Honest About Your Intention
Let’s continue the honesty game.
Why are you reading this article about how to get a girl to trust you?
What’s your intention?
Maybe you want…
I doubt you’re here because you want to make female friends you can talk to on a lonely Saturday night. But hey, who am I to judge? You are allowed to want whatever the heck you want. I hope I can help you to get what you want.
And I hope you let the ladies know what you want.
I’m serious. Be honest, for God’s sake. Don’t hold her hand in public and take her on three romantic dates with flowers and red wine when you just want to get laid. You’re not ready for a girlfriend? Open your mouth and let her know.
You risk not getting the lay, but it’s the only way you can make her trust you.
She deserves to know and you (hopefully) deserve her trust.
5. Say What You Think Even if It’s Offensive
Or should I say:
“Say what you think, especially if it’s offensive.”
Here’s the truth about women:
They are not the fragile and easily-offended creatures the mainstream media tries to portray. Yes, there are a few hardcore feminists who feel triggered by mansplaining. They might have the majority on TV. But they don’t have the majority in real life.
95% of women (a rough estimation) love offensive humor.
Men without an edge are harmless. And in case you’ve listened to one of Dr. Jordan Peterson’s lectures, you know that women hate harmless men. Let’s face it. There’s nothing more harmless than a man who’s too afraid to offend anyone.
Do this and she’ll trust you:
Women don’t trust men who lie to make themselves look better.
6. Wear a Navy Blue Shirt
I made an experiment.
During my psychology studies in the UK, I learned about color psychology. Yep, there’s a reason why my logo includes the colors black and red. Black communicates strength, power and boldness. Red communicates passion, and desire.
What does that have to do with a navy blue shirt?
As you know, I love experiments. Everything I teach you has been tested in field. Yep, I’ve done a lot of stupid things in my life. Believe it or not, I also tested the effect of different colored shirts on first dates. That’s how nerdy I am.
Here’s the result:
I could swear that my navy blue shirt made girls open up more easily.
That’s what the color blue represents.
“But Sebastian, why did you wear a NAVY blue shirt?” I hear you asking.
Well, it’s the only blue shirt I have.
7. Tell Her How You’ve Been Betrayed Before
How to make a woman trust you
Someone who has been betrayed doesn’t betray.
Is that always true?
I guess not but it doesn’t matter as long as she thinks it’s true. Come on. Be honest. Imagine a girl told you about how she has been fucked over by her ex-boyfriend. Never in a million years would you think that she’ll do the same with you.
Make use of this loophole in the human psyche.
Give her the feeling that you’ve been through what she fears. That’s how to make a woman trust you.
8. Don’t Judge Her for Being Sexual
Women love sex.
Not every girl admits it but every single one of them does it. In fact, I believe that women are even more sexual than men. You might think I’m crazy for saying this. In case you doubt it, think about who makes more noise in bed.
We’ll never fully understand how much sexual pleasure women feel.
Here’s what you can (and have to) understand:
That’s why she wants to know what you really think. Heck, some girls are so sneaky and test guys by mentioning naughty thoughts and sexual experiences. Okay, only the bold ladies do it. But still, it happens. She wants to see how you react.
Do you judge her or do you encourage her?
The answer makes her either trust you or lose trust in you.
9. Share the Story of Your Life
It’s story time.
Nope, I’m not talking about the One Direction song. You don’t have to sing “story of my life” for her. Instead, you have to share your story with her. That’s how to make a girl trust you because stories allow her to relate to you and your experiences.
“Sebastian, I don’t have any exciting stories to share.” I hear you asking.
It doesn’t have to be exciting to be interesting:
In fact, sharing an intimate and personal story is better than sharing an exciting story. Yeah, her vagina wants to hear a story of you under the shower. But her heart (her trust central) wants to hear the boring story about you and your grandmother’s 85th birthday.
Storytelling is the fast track to Trust Town.
10. Be Open and Vulnerable
Let’s continue with your childhood memories…
Was everything rainbows and unicorns while you grew up?
I’m sure you had some shitty days. I mean, sometimes life sucks when you were a kid. You didn’t get the candy you want and when you were a teenager you got pimples whenever you ate it. Come on. You have some stuff to share.
Tell her about your cat Fridolin and how much you miss that cuddly thing. She doesn’t have to know that you are the one who threw the cat out of the window. Most men don’t talk about their emotions.
You are one of the few who opens up.
That’s what makes you different and trustworthy.
11. Hold Eye Contact While You’re Talking to Her
No, not THIS kind of eye contact…
You’re here because you want to know how to get a girl to trust you and not how to kill someone with your eyes…at least I hope so. No evil eyes allowed. You want to use your little footballs to communicate how trustworthy you are.
Yeah, that’s way better.
Here’s what I do when I look women in the eyes:
That’s the perfect mixture of sexual energy, pressure and release, and friendliness.
12. Emphasize Your Strict Don’t Kiss and Tell Rule
I already revealed this secret.
That’s a test if you’re actually reading this article or if you’re just skimming it. Dammit, I knew it. You’re a skimmer. Okay, I share the secret again.
Women are afraid that you’ll kiss and tell.
She doesn’t want anyone to know because she’s a good girl. She’s not a slut. Oh, and she also doesn’t want to end up on a revenge porn site. Just so you know. One of the biggest fears of women is to fall victim to a guy who kisses and tells.
Let her know that you won’t kiss and tell…no matter what she does with you. You keep your mouth shut. Trust is only one of the rewards you’ll get.
13. Change the Date Venue Multiple Times
Will you do it?
Most guys I tell about this sneaky trick don’t do it. Why? Well, I don’t know. I guess they are too lazy to think about a second venue. However, I don’t give up. Whenever you go on a date, you should take her to at least two venues (FYI: Your bedroom is number three).
Let me be honest here:
This is the most underrated seduction technique in the world.
But that’s not all. It’s also an unknown way to gain a girl’s trust. Taking her to multiple venues makes her believe that you’ve experienced multiple adventures together. I know. It sounds completely retarded. But that’s how the female mind works.
She will trust you more if you take her to more than one place.
14. Gain Her Trust with a Comforting Touch
Nope, I’m not talking about a sexual touch.
Don’t get me wrong. Touching her in a naughty way is also important. I already wrote an article about physically flirting with a girl. This article in combination with my book Rise of the Phoenix will show you when and how to touch a girl to make her wet and wild.
So…what is a comforting touch?
You could also call it a trustworthy touch. You do what her parents did when she was a child…and what her grandma still tries to do until this day. You touch her in a way that warms her heart and not her vagina. It sounds boring but it’s highly effective.
Here are some ideas:
Your comforting touch won’t make her moan with pleasure, but you will gain her trust.
Summed Up Wisdom
Do you want to know how to get a girl to trust you? Then say what you do and do what you say. It sounds complicated but it’s really simple. You tell her you’ll be there at 8 pm and you’ll actually show up at exactly this time. And you have to show up because she wants to meet you…unless you are fake.
She wants to meet you but does she want to be your friend with benefits? Maybe. Maybe not. Be honest about what you want and be honest about what you think. That’s how you gain a woman’s trust. And please don’t judge her for being a sexual woman. She’s a human being.
What about your life story? Share it with her. Don’t be afraid to share the intimate parts. Being vulnerable is not a weakness. Every vulnerable moment gives you brownie points. And every time you change the date venue, her heart beats faster because you’re the first man she really trusts.