How to Get a Girl Attracted to You (17 Techniques)

Do you want to know how to get a girl attracted to you?

Well, I have 17 techniques that will help you do exactly that.

But first, let me ask you a question.

What have you done in the past that didn’t work?

I’m sure you can think of something. Maybe you tried to get a girl attracted to you by sneaking in the backdoor. Yep, I’m talking about the “let me be your friend and I’ll bang you later” technique. Well, you have to get out of there because it didn’t work and it will never work.

You want her to want you, kiss you, and sleep with you, right? 

Then you need to find a way to make her FEEL attracted to you. Yes, it’s all about the feelings. No logical explanation on earth can provoke a strong sexual craving. Emotions, on the other hand, have this power.

And I promise to hand this power over to you because…

Let’s find out what it really takes to get any girl attracted to you…

How to Get a Girl Attracted to You with THESE Techniques 

Why do the techniques I’m about to share with you work?

Nope, it’s not because I say so. It’s because I’ve tested them on hundreds of girls. Over the last couple of years I found out what works and what doesn’t work. Or let’s say I got brutally reminded of what doesn’t work.

Let’s put it like this:

The following 17 techniques are the result of a long and painful path that allowed me to crack the code of the female mind and to see what’s really going on.

Nothing is as it seems…

1. Stop Being so Alpha

Let me guess.

This is not the first article you read about how to a get a girl attracted to you. You’ve watched a couple of YouTube videos and you’ve read a couple of articles. That’s fine. I don’t expect our relationship to be monogamous (P.S. You broke my heart).

I’m pretty sure you’ve come across the following advice:

I have to laugh whenever I read the last advice. Don’t show your emotions. Yeah, great idea! Attraction is all about emotions. If she wanted a man who doesn’t show emotions, she’d date an inflatable male doll with a huge artificial...

What about being alpha?

Don’t get me wrong. If you define being alpha as being a leader, it is solid advice. But if you define being alpha as standing in front of her like the Terminator after a cable fire, it does more harm than good. I see the result of this “be alpha” advice with my coaching clients.

I recently had a coaching with a guy who walked like Ronnie Coleman.

2. Say Yes to Manspreading  

Manspreading is a serious issue, don’t you think so?

No seriously. I even thought about removing one of my balls. This would allow me to reduce the space between my legs. I mean, I don’t want to offend anyone. Let’s stop it.

Manspreading is attractive!

If you approach a woman and you stand there like a soy boy, she won’t feel anything. Okay, she might feel sorry for you. But she won’t feel the vibrations in her panties. And no, a soy latte won’t change her mind.

You are man. So stand like one.

Come on. Let your legs breathe. Is a small space between your left and your right foot really too much to ask for? I hope not. Again, you shouldn’t stand like Ronnie Coleman in his best days. Don’t overdo it. But don’t hide that you’re a man.

Stand confident. Stand relaxed.

3. Say No to Agreeing on Everything 

What’s the worst thing you can say to a woman?

Me too!

Heck, now that I think about it. It’s somehow funny that they chose this word combination as a hashtag for Hollywood’s hysteria. Anyway, I’m not going to talk about actresses getting their big roles on the casting couch.

I’m talking about being a Me Too Man.

Unfortunately this sickness is wide spread. Once upon a time I thought that my fellow German men are the only ones who were infected with this disease. Now I know that it has spread all over the world…besides Russia and Ukraine.

Eastern European men seem to be immune to pussyfication. Kudos!

But I’m German and I was infected.

Why did I feel like that?

I’ll tell you. I felt bad because I betrayed myself and that’s the WORST feeling a man can have. I betrayed myself because I did not say what I thought or felt. I just said “yes” and “amen” to everything girls said. 

The moral of the story:

Have your own opinion because it’s incredibly attractive.

4. Speak in a Hot and Wet Language

Can you get a girl attracted to you with words?

Hell yeah!

If you were a woman, you’d be soaking wet after reading this article. Okay, maybe not. It doesn’t matter because you’re (probably) a man.

You are a man who can attract women with words.

Imagine what a girl thinks of when she hears the following word combinations:

After the third example, she won’t think about snorkeling anymore. She’s too busy imagining you getting her wet and doing something that requires deep thrusts. And boy, she’ll sweat like Jonah Hill before he lost more weight than I can lift.

5. Share Your Vision with Her  

I have news for you.

Learning how to get a girl attracted to you is not all about smiling, touching and kissing. It goes way deeper than that. You don’t just want to scratch the surface. You want to understand the big picture and your vision is part of it.

Let me ask you: Do you have a vision and what is it?

You obviously want to become a great seducer. Otherwise you wouldn’t be here. But there must be more. You need a vision to succeed in life AND to succeed with women. Of course, your vision can change over the years. I’m not the same guy that I used to be when I went to high school or college.

Visions change. Their attractive power doesn’t.

Women are attracted to men with a vision. Having a vision is like possessing a magnet that magically attracts the hottest girls. Seriously, it’s better than a Lamborghini…and way cheaper.

It costs nothing to get her attracted to you by sharing your vision with her.

6. Start Leading Her Right After the “Hi” 

Did I tell you that you’re a born leader?

I’m dead serious. You are. You just don’t know it yet. That’s no surprise because our society does a pretty good job to convince you that you’re not a leader.

Who cares if a woman can lead a team of five software engineers without crying?

Here’s what’s really mind-blowing:

Women do NOT want to lead men. They don’t want to do it at home, on a date, or when they talk to you for the first time. When it comes to dating, sex, and relationships, women want to be the followers.

Yep, that’s not politically correct, but the truth never is.

Believe me:

If you ever want to get rid of a girlfriend or your future wife, you have to stop leading her. Become a follower and she’ll follow another man. But she won’t lead you.

Leaders know how to get a girl attracted.

Are you one of them?

7. Use Your Eyes to Attract Her 

Eye contact is attractive.

Every man and maybe even some chimpanzees know this. But most men do it wrong. Looking in her eyes is not enough. I can look a woman in the eyes in three different ways and only one will spark arousal and attraction.

Imagine you’re looking a woman in the eyes while thinking…

Do the experiment. Sit down with a female friend or your mom (okay, maybe not your mom) and think these thoughts while looking in her eyes.

What is this something?

She can’t describe it, but it’s there. She gets nervous. Her belly is tickling and she is saying “it’s time to produce fluid”. As a seducer you know how to get a girl attracted to you because you know how to use your eyes to communicate your thoughts.

8. Take Her on an Unforgettable Adventure 

Are you an adventurer?

Most men aren’t. That’s why women crave for adventurous men. They are sick and tired of boring dates, boring relationships, and even more boring marriages. Sometimes, being 1% more adventurous than the average man is enough to get a woman attracted to you.

Here’s how this looks in practice:

What kind of adventure?

Let your imagination run wild. From climbing to a spontaneous road trip…everything is possible. The world is your playground. Adventurers get rewarded because they figured out how to get any girl attracted to them.

Unleash the adventurer within you. He was hiding long enough.

9. Hang out with Other Women 

We want what we don’t have and what we can’t get.

Every human being has this issue, but women have it way more than men. I mean, let’s face it. We men are attracted to girls who are available. We don’t want to date a girl who slept with another guy the night before.

Women are different.

A woman’s attraction for you increases if…

If you have the choice, she does everything in her power to convince you to choose her. Yes, everything. If you don’t have any choice, her attraction fades like fog in the wind. It sucks, but that’s the female nature.

The more choices you have, the more girls will be attracted to you.

10. Let Her Emotions Jump on a Trampoline

Who told you that only entertainers know how to get a girl attracted?

I bet a lot of dating gurus told you:

Don’t get me wrong. The first two rules are important (forget about the last). A laughing, giggling, and smiling girl is easier to seduce than a girl who’s crying her eyes out. That’s true. But there’s another way to attract girls nobody talk about.

You can attract women by putting them on an emotional trampoline.

You don’t believe me?

What about now?

I get it. You’re still suspicious. Try this on your next date:  

Happiness, sadness, meaning...

Her emotions jump up and down. You put her on an emotional trampoline and she can’t stop jumping. She can’t explain it but she never felt so attracted to a man. That’s the power of emotions.

11. Impress Her by Not Being Impressed 

How would you react if a woman said one of the following three things?

I love the last one.

I remember this one girl who complained how every guy checked her out. I just smiled at said that she looked kind of cute but that I wouldn’t put her in the “sexy category”. She stared at me with her mouth wide open.

We ended up banging like rabbits on cocaine.

Here’s why:

I did everything right by not being impressed by her beauty. Most men are. As soon as they see a beautiful woman, they forget about their values and their dignity. Remember what I said earlier about having your own opinion.

She’s beautiful…so what?

That’s the attitude you need to have. And it’s true. There are billions of women on this planet. Beauty is more common than you think. I’ve traveled to Brazil, Ukraine, and Colombia.

Do you think I’m impressed when an American girl with love handles tells me she’s a 10?

I attract her by not being impressed.

12. Look, Talk, and Smell Attractive 

Let’s mix in some basic advice.

Here’s how to get a girl attracted to you (in the most basic way):

This is basic advice (I warned you). But you wouldn’t believe how many guys I’ve seen who go out and approach girls with unwashed hair and in baggy pants. Then they complain about women

Get the basics right before you give her a foretaste…

13. Give Her a Foretaste  

What do you want to do with her? 

Describe it in great detail…

She’ll ask herself:

Give her a foretaste, but don’t reveal too much. That’s how to get a girl attracted to you. She knows that something is going to happen…but she doesn’t know what will happen and when it will happen. She’s excited and curious.

She can’t wait to get out of the café…

14. Be Bold and Unapologetic  

It’s time to get physical.

You already know that you need to touch a girl if you want to end up sleeping with her. Physical couch is an attraction trigger. That’s no secret.

But what if it’s too soon for her?

You’re reaction has the power to make her attracted to you…or to make her lose any interest in you in a heartbeat. It all depends on how you deal with her “not yet” response. And believe me. You’ll have to learn to deal with it.

Okay, don’t do number one. And in case you have problems with number three, you should do what this dude does…

What if it’s really too soon?

Don’t apologize! Don’t ever apologize!

Acknowledge her reaction. Accept her decision. But don’t apologize for liking her, wanting her and pursuing her.

15. Be the Man She Wants to Have

Ask her what kind of guy she likes.

Okay, if she says she’s into black guys and you happen to be white, you can throw this advice in the trash can.

But what if she says one of the following things?

Here’s what you need to do:

Crack a joke, be a gentleman that makes James Bond look like a douchebag, and ignore the “I like nice guys” gibberish. She doesn’t like nice guys. She thinks she does, but she doesn’t.

Mirror the other qualities and you’re good to go.

16. Surprise Her with the Unexpected

What’s more attractive than an adventurer?

An adventurer who does the unexpected...

Calm down. I don’t want you to blindfold and kidnap her, take her to McDonalds, and scream “surprise!” That’s a bit too unexpected.

How about this:

Yes, it can be something as ridiculous as picking a flower. It’s not about the flower, the piggyback ride, or the hug. It’s about the excitement. You are exciting because you are unpredictable. And she loves it.

Women want safety when they get married and the unexpected when they get seduced.

17. Fill Her Mind with Naughty Thoughts

Games are a great way to get a girl attracted to you.

Women love games, especially naughty games. And even though nothing beats a session of strip twister, you have to start smaller. Before she does naughty things with you, you have to put naughty thoughts in her mind.

This game will help you with that:

Tell her that you’re a fortune teller. Pretend that the glass or plate in front of you is your crystal ball. Now you read her mind. In fact, you do more than that. You say exactly what you want her to do. You just sell it as a game.

Here is an example:

Now kiss her.

That’s how to get a girl attracted to you and this is how to make sure she ends up in your bed.

Summed Up Wisdom 

It’s not that hard to trigger attraction. You just have to understand that using logic and being alpha as hell isn’t always the right choice. Instead, embrace manspreading and the power of visions and leadership.

Let her emotions jump up and down and stop agreeing on everything she says. She’s not Yoda. But she’s sexy as hell. That’s why you’re tempted to worship the ground she’s walking on. Don’t do that. Don’t be impressed.

Instead, play a game with her and put some naughty thoughts in her head…but only after you gave her a foretaste. She enjoys the adventure and the unexpected. She wants more. That’s how to get a girl attracted to you.