How would you feel if you woke up next to the perfect girl?
Would you feel like the happiest man on earth when you look into her eyes?
Would your heart starts beating when she kisses you?
Imagine how it would feel…
Finding the perfect girl is not an easy task, but I know from my own experience that it is absolutely worth it.
Not every man has the cojones and the self-belief to ask himself how to find the perfect girl. So many men settle for less and end up in relationships with women that are anything but perfect for them.
This is sad and I am glad that you are different.
By clicking on this article you proved to me that you are different than most guys. You are different than the guys who settle for less. You won’t settle for less. You won’t stop searching until you have found what you were looking for.
You are on a mission. You are on the mission to find a woman who is perfect for you. You are on the mission to find a woman who deserves you as her boyfriend, lover and as her tower of strength.
The word “deserve” is a constant companion throughout this article. In order to attract the woman of your dreams you have to deserve her and she has to deserve you.
But before we are going to figure out who deserves who, you deserve to activate the left side of your brain…
How to Find the Perfect Girl With Logic
If there is one thing that you are probably sick and tired of hearing, then it is my constant emphasis on emotions. I know, we men absolutely HATE to talk about our emotions and we are even more upset when some random guy (like me) says that you should allow and show emotions. I get it.
But now you don’t have to worry about any of that emotional shit. Now it’s time for some straightforward logic that the left side of your brain will absolutely love.
Yes, when it comes to seducing women you shouldn’t push the feels away. You should work with your and her emotions.
But when it comes to finding the perfect girl, you should push the feels away for a moment and focus on the logic behind your desire.
Make a List: Who is She?
What’s the most logical thing to do (besides programing a freaking computer)?
Making a list with a lot of bullet points!
That’s exactly what you should do right now. This is the first step to finding your perfect partner. And yes, this list is all about logic.
At this early stage of the process, focusing on your emotions could actually lead to the wrong choice and child support for a woman you should have never met…let alone impregnated.
“But everyone else is telling me that I should listen to my heart. How can you say that listening to my emotions can lead to the wrong choice?”
This article is not about how to fall in love with rose-colored glasses. It’s about how to find the perfect girl.
Did you ever consider that her brain and her heart might not be as big as her boobs?
If our emotions would lead to the right choice when it comes to choosing a partner, there wouldn’t be thousands of men and women who are trapped in unfulfilling, toxic and sometimes even abusive relationships. That shit is real and our emotions are responsible for it.
Just think about what your emotions would say if you asked them to paint your perfect partner:
- She looks like a Playboy Bunny
- She walks around naked all the time
- She wants sex 24/7
I don’t say that the woman of your dreams shouldn’t be a freak in the bed. She should, but allowing your emotions to take over the “thinking” can make you blind for what’s really important.
You wouldn’t be the first man who hunts one fake-tits-fake-smile girl after another without realizing that you are running after borderline chicks who are not exactly relationship material.
Now think about what your logical brain would say if you asked it to paint your perfect partner:
- She is beautiful, but it’s just one part of the puzzle
- She has the same interests and values as me
- She is feminine and at peace with her feminine energy
- She has a nurturing and supportive personality
The process of finding the perfect woman doesn’t start with recalling some images of a hot girl that you have seen in a porn movie and putting a stamp with the imprint “perfect” on her ass. It’s rather about a logical thought process that leaves you with a clear picture of who she is as a person and partner.
Think About Why You Want Her to Be Like That
In the next step you can think about the WHY.
Why do you want her to have the same interests and values as you?
Why do you want her to be feminine?
Why do you want her to be nurturing?
In case your brain is already on fire and you think that “this shit is too complicated” you can close this article right now and settle for the first hot girl who spreads her legs for you.
You might have some fun in her but you won’t have a lot of fun with her.
However, if you are serious about learning how to find the perfect girl and if you want to be in the top 1% of men who can proudly say that they are together with the woman of your dreams, you should find answers to those questions.
Let me give you a few examples:
Why do you want her to have the same interests and values as you?
You know that having the same interests and values is absolutely crucial for a harmonic relationship. You are aware of the fact that opposites might attract, but that they don’t stay together.
Why do you want her to be feminine?
You want to feel comfortable in your own skin and you don’t want to give up your identity for a relationship. Therefore, you need a woman by your side that encourages you to be masculine, while she is in her feminine role. This Yin and Yang principle leads to happiness for both of you.
Why do you want her to be nurturing and supportive?
As a man you want to focus on your vision and you need a partner who supports you 100%. Her nurturing and supportive attitude allows you to thrive. Oh, and in case you think about starting a family, she absolutely has to have those qualities.
Good job!
You know exactly what kind of woman you want and why you want her. Now there’s just one harsh truth you have to accept before you can go out and find her…
Accept the Statistical Probability
My current girlfriend fulfills all the criteria that I mentioned above. She is feminine, has the same values and interests as me and her nurturing and supportive personality is just indescribable.
Would you believe me when I said that she was the first girl I approached?
I hope not.
I know you want them all, but you are better off choosing wisely
Yes, my ex-girlfriend was the first girl who I approached who approached me back in the days when I was a shy and insecure wimp. No wonder that this relationship was toxic, miserable and not healthy for both of us.
After traveling the world for 487 days, approaching thousands of women, sleeping with dozens of women from five continents (I still haven’t slept with an Australian girl and I have never been to the Antarctic), I eventually found my perfect girl.
I had to make a lot of approaches, survive a lot of nasty rejections and I had to sleep with a lot of women, which admittedly was not as bad as it sounds, to find the perfect girl.
Accept the statistical probability that she is probably not the first girl you approach. Don’t be one of the guys who delude themselves into thinking that she is. I did it and I will never get the four years back that I wasted in a relationship with a girl who was NOT perfect for me.
Where to Find the Perfect Girl
You know who she is. Now you just have to find her and the best way to do that is by asking your inner navigation system.
Come on, your logical brain is still working, so it shouldn’t be that hard to figure out where you will eventually meet the woman of your dreams. One of my best friends knows what I am talking about. His inner navigation system was so messed up that he searched in all the wrong places.
One day he told me that he is desperate because he always meets the wrong girls. When I asked him who he was looking for he said that all he wanted was a loving, caring and supportive girls to watch funny movies with. When I asked him where he was hunting, he said: “I usually go to clubs.”
Duh!
You have to understand that you can only find the perfect girl in the perfect places.
The Country She Lives in
“Wait a second? You just talked about clubs and now you are talking about countries?”
Yes, I am.
It might shock you, but having fun and unforgettable sexual adventures with beautiful women all around the world is not the only reason why my site focuses on international dating aka global seduction.
I also believe that you shouldn’t hesitate to leave your comfort zone AND the borders of your home country when the likelihood of meeting your perfect girl are much higher in another country…or on another continent.
Take me as an example.
I know from my own experience, from my friends and from hundreds of guys who sent me emails, that I would have never met such a feminine, nurturing and supportive woman like my girlfriend if I had stayed in my home country.
Show me one German Girl who is so breathtakingly feminine and unconditionally supportive and nurturing as my girlfriend and I color my pubic hair pink.
As a man who is determined to find the perfect girl, you should be willing to travel as far and as long as it takes to find her.
Just a suggestion…
The Places She Goes to
Now you know that your plan to start a family with a woman who is fulfilled with her role as a mother and wife is much more likely to work out when you leave your home country, at least when you are living in the West.
Good, you know where to look for her on a macro level, but do you also know where to look for her on a micro level?
Does she get drunk in clubs or does she educate herself in the library?
Does she earn her money as a UFC fighter or does she work as a kindergarten teacher?
Does she go to gangbang parties or does she sing in the church choir?
Don’t just put a ring on the finger of some random girl you met at a bar, because she likes giving blowjobs and you don’t want to spend $29 a month on a BangBros subscription.
Go to the places where you will meet the women that you truly want and that you truly deserve.
But do you actually deserve her?
Find The Perfect Girl By Becoming Her Perfect Partner
Honest question:
Do you deserve your definition of the perfect girl?
I know that this is the moment where your heart starts to pound one beat faster than usually. This is the moment where you look at your laptop, smartphone or whatever device you are using to read my words and think to yourself: “who is this guy for asking me this?”
It’s the moment you get angry at me for having the effrontery to question your right to attract the perfect girl.
Well, if you would be 100% sure that you deserve her you wouldn’t be angry at me.
Listen, my job is not to schmooze you by saying that it’s ALWAYS the woman’s fault if she doesn’t want you and that you are the prize, no matter what.
I am here to tell you the truth and the truth is that you first have to become the man that deserves her.
Allow her to see you as her first prize and the perfect girl will come to you.
Think About the Girl You Deserve Right Now
Do you still remember the list you made at the beginning?
I hope you made it and I also hope you haven’t forgotten about it, otherwise I would check a doctor and see if you have Alzheimer’s.
No matter if you wrote down that you want a manly woman whose favorite hobby is to go in the woods to kill grizzlies with a shotgun, or if you wrote down that you want a feminine and nurturing woman who you want to cuddle and protect…
…ask yourself whether or not you deserve her.
Think about who you are and what you do.
Does it attract the kind of woman you want?
Again, let me give you a simple example:
It is no secret that extremely feminine women are drawn to very masculine men. They want to surrender to masculine energy. It’s the Ying and Yang principle I mentioned earlier.
Let’s say you dream of attracting such a girl.
Are you the masculine man that has the emotional strength to be her power of strength or do you show the same feminine behavior patterns as a woman when things get tough?
This might be a painful question, but it deserves an honest answer.
Hack the Law of Attraction to Find Her
Now that you have answered the question I just asked you in the most honest and sincere way it is time to throw another bitter pill at you that you have to swallow, at least when you want to find the perfect girl.
You can only attract who you are.
I honestly hate that famous book The Secret and the reason is not because my books will probably never sell that many copies, which is quite sad when I think about it. The reason why I hate it is because this crappy book is another proof that most people (besides you) rather enjoy to swim in self-delusion with their affirmations in the right hand and their dick in their left hand instead of taking action.
Nevertheless, I can’t deny that the law of attraction exists. Not in the “hip hip hooray I close my eyes, imagine a pussy and tomorrow I have a hot girlfriend” sense but in the sense that people who are on the same energy level attract each other.
That has nothing to do with an ominous and mysterious “Secret”, but with plain and simple logic.
A happy person doesn’t want to be together with an unhappy person, because the happy person doesn’t want to be unhappy.
It is so simple that every teenager with at least one pubic hair should understand it.
And yet, I recently got an email from a guy who described himself as an obese, fast food addicted couch potato. He seriously asked me how he can get a sporty and sexy fitness model. When I replied with “Become the man such a woman would want to date”, he replied with an angry rant.
How could I dare to questions his “plan”?
And that’s exactly where The Secret and 99% of dating coaches lie to you!
I could have taken the easy way out. I could have told him the same lies that others would tell him. I could have send him a link to a program for $99 that promises that he can weight more than three elephants and that he has to do absolutely NOTHING to INSTANTLY Get every girl he wants.
But no, I am an honest idiot who is dumb enough to tell him the truth.
I told him the same that I am going to tell you:
“Becoming successful with women requires some form of self-improvement!”
At least I hope that you appreciate my honesty and that you understand the real principle of the law of attraction.
Hell yes, you can attract beautiful sporty girls and you can even do it with a dad bod and three hairs on your head, but you won’t be able to do it by sitting on the couch all day, eating fast food and complaining about how lonely you are.
Learn the Skills You Need
What else do you need to find the perfect girl?
You need to know how to approach her.
You need to know how to start the conversation.
You need to know how to behave on a date with her.
You need to know how to escalate to sex.
The short answer:
You need basic seduction and dating skills.
You don’t need to be a master seducer and you don’t need to know every trick in the book, even though I can’t deny that that’s advantage. You simply need basic skills to start a conversation, to turn it into a sexual interaction and to turn this interaction into its physical expression.
The links that I just shared with you will provide you with enough answers. Otherwise you can contact me at any time. And yes, I am one of the few people who actually reply.
Attract the Perfect Girl By Taking Deliberate Action
Are you already sick and tired of my rant that learning how to find the perfect girl might require some lifestyle changes and the willingness to improve yourself?
Well, I don’t give a flying fuck.
Why? Because I want to help you, not lie to you. And here is more of that painful truth that others deliberately hide from you:
The day when the woman of your dreams, your perfect 10, finally bumps into you on the street, approaches you, asks you for your number and invites you to her apartment where she waits for you completely naked will NEVER come.
Nothing will happen unless you make it happen.
Things won’t change unless you do…
Maybe you are really lucky and you bump into the woman of your dreams on your way to work. Even if this highly unlikely scenario happens you still have to initiate the conversation, you still have to ask her out and you still have to explain why you accidentally knocked out her incisor with your left shoulder when you bumped into her.
If you really want to meet, attract and seduce the woman of your dreams, you have to take action.
Go out and Meet Her
You have to move your ass from the couch and leave your apartment to meet her. Even if you find her on an online dating site while sitting on your comfortable couch you still have to meet her in real life.
I know that there are some guys who claim to have relationships with virtual girlfriends and women they have never met, but they usually live in Japan and are married to their Tamagotchi.
Even if you are Japanese you have to understand that fantasizing about the “perfect” profile photo is not the same as being in a real relationship with your perfect girl. In order to be in a real relationship with that said girl (I am talking about a human being), you have to go out and meet her.
Leave your apartment. Go to the supermarket. Go to the library. Hell, you can even go to the club…even though I doubt that you will find the woman of your dreams there.
Go out and surround yourself with beautiful woman. Your perfect woman is somewhere out there waiting for you.
Sift Out Relentlessly
In case you are one of the amazing guys who put my advice into practice you will soon realizes that there are many beautiful women. You are swimming in abundance.
Will she fit through your sieve?
However, as you already know by now not all girls are good for you. You’ve already determined your perfect girl with logic. Now you have to sift out relentlessly.
You love dancing and yoga, but she thinks it’s gay? Next!
You believe in freedom of speech and she supports the censorship movement? Next!
I think you get the point.
No matter if you have to date hundreds of girls and sleep with so many girls that you lose count (like I did), eventually you will find the perfect girl (like I did).
Reveal Your True Self
Did you choose carefully or did you take the first girl who smiled at you while she swallowed two make-me-happy-pills at once?
Don’t lie to me. I’ll eventually find out in the next email you send me, in which you either thank me or ask me how you can get rid of you psychopathic girlfriend.
Let’s assume you sifted out like the most brutal sieve that has ever been built.
No matter where you are in the dating process, you have to be 100% honest and authentic. Yes, even when her amazing boobs motivate you to lie about who you really are. Don’t make the same mistake that so many other guys make. Think about the next email you are going to send me.
Be honest and authentic during your first interaction, on your first date and on your first anniversary.
That’s the only way to find the perfect girl and to keep her.
If you ignore this advice you might end up with a girl, but I doubt that she will be perfect.
Show Her Your World
You were honest about the fact that you love board games more than anything else.
You were honest about the fact that you can’t sleep without your favorite pillow.
Awesome!
It’s time to show her your world.
Invite her to be a part of your world. Show her who you really are and what you really like. Nope, not the “cool” and “hip” version that you show to every stranger you meet at parties. Allow her to get to know your true self.
Take her to the places that you love to visit. Show her the things that you love to do and invite her to do them with you.
Show her your world and she will show you if she is your perfect girl…
How would you feel if your perfect girl were next to you tonight?
It’s not too late to take action…
Summed Up Wisdom
If you ask yourself how to find the perfect girl, your logical mind is your best friend. Making lists and accepting the statistical probability of finding her are the best way to start. Once you have done that it’s time to change the venue where you are looking for her…and maybe even the country.
I won’t lie to you by telling you that you don’t have to do jack shit to attract your dream girl. When I tell you that you should think about whether or not you deserve her, that you should become a person who she would be attract to and that you should learn some basic seduction skills, I tell you the truth and nothing but the truth.
Once you have done the inner work, you have to go out, meet her and share your story and your world with her. Oh, and don’t forget to sift out. You don’t have to be the next guy who asks me how to escape a toxic relationship.
Hey Lucas,
thanks for sharing and yes, I know how hot Colombian girls can be. You said that you want her to be beautiful and you alsorealized that not all beautiful women are whores. At the same time you say that those women are “out of your league”. There’s your sticking point. Change your mindset my friend.
Its interesting that I found this great article just now that i was thinking of how my perfect girl is.
I live in Colombia and if you have been around here (or not) you should know the kind of sexiness madness we got here. Women are ridiculously beautiful here, and i really like very beautiful women (who can blame me living here?) but what disturbs me is that most of extremely physically beautiful women here are prostitutes. Seriously. And i know it because my whole sexual life at my 23s consists of 5 prostitutes (2 of them models), all of ’em arguably expensive and super hot. See, i met this “photographer” and “model manager” who showed me all the models that you can fuck paying…every single model that you can think of in my city was there, i mean it was ridiculous: the instagram fitness addict who posts porn like pictures with a bible quote? you got it; the one who is on a beauty pageant, there you have it; the news host, no problem. Fuck. Me.
Now, don’t get me wrong, i’ve known really beautiful women who are not whores (and they’re out of my league of course), but i can say that at least half of hot girls here are escorts. It might be that i’m too frivolous and only see the looks (maybe because i’ve never dated a girl before or being in a relationship), but what can i say? my perfect girl has to be really beautiful, and here is a problem as you can see.
I’d like your thoughts on this, thanks beforehand and hope you understand my english.