Do you want to know how to find a good woman to marry?
Or do you want to have an amazing girlfriend and keep her?
It’s up to you because you’ll soon know what it takes to attract a loving, caring, and supportive girl you’ll never want to leave. And believe me. It took me a long time to reach this point.
The painful truth:
I wasted the best years of my life.
But I learned from my failures. And I grew. Eventually, I realized that finding a good woman and having the ability to keep her is about more than looking for her in the right places.
How do you find out what other men blindly ignore?
Let me show you how it’s done…
How to Find a Good Woman to Marry (or a Girlfriend to Keep)
What makes a good woman?
That’s a good question. But let’s be honest. Deep down, you already know the answer. She’s the kind of girl you dream of at night. She’s the woman you want to make your girlfriend and maybe even your wife.
There’s just one problem.
She’s hard to find because…
Let me share a quick story with you:
The first woman I ever dated was a part-time criminal. Sounds weird but it’s true. I was 18 and she was 16 (yep, that’s legal and totally normal in Germany). She was stealing stuff from grocery stores, stealing bikes and doing all kinds of other crazy shit.
I was desperate, she was hot, and I came to the following conclusion:
“She’s so beautiful. She’s the right one for me.”
Well, what could possibly go wrong?
1. Realize that Hot is Not Necessarily Good
The answer to the aforementioned question:
This is the number one mistake of guys who want to attract a good woman. They confuse a kind heart with the big boobs. Please don’t make this mistake. Don’t assume that a woman is good for you just because she’s hot.
Don’t get me wrong.
You deserve a beautiful girlfriend and wife, but…
These things are way more important than the size of her tits. Just because she has prolific hips doesn’t mean that she’ll be a good mom. Remember that before you choose the wrong wife.
You might be stuck with her for the rest of your life.
2. Become the Man Who Attracts Good Women
Don’t just ask yourself who you want to meet.
Ask yourself who you have to become. I know. You want a good woman and you want her now. I understand that. But really ask yourself.
Do I have what it takes to get her?
Be completely honest. You know me. I’m not a big fan of sugarcoating things. I rather risk you sending me hate mail than to lie to you. So…do you have what it takes? Sorry, but if you don’t know how to talk to women, rock first dates, and close the deal, you’ll have a hard time.
Even the best woman in the world wants to be seduced.
What does that mean for you?
The latter is not a requirement but it definitely helps. May the best seducer win.
3. Live the Kind of Life Good Women Desire
This is not about offering her a good life.
You don’t have to buy her anything. It’s about your lifestyle. If you don’t live your life, amazing women don’t want to be around you. Why should they? They can choose another man who grabs life by the horns.
Is this you?
Sorry for being brutal, but tell me something:
Why should a good woman choose you?
I can promise you one thing:
Upgrade your lifestyle and SHE WILL choose you. Be adventurous. Come up with a vision for your life. Go out and meet new people. Be active instead of passive.
Now you’re the desirable man she wants.
4. Stay Away from Sex and the City Girls
I’m German so I know quite a few Sex and the City Girls.
“What the heck is that?” I hear you asking.
These are girls that don’t have the character of a good woman. They drink and party in their 20s. They do the same in their 30s. Now they’re almost 40 and realize that it was all a lie. Hollywood told them that they can find their prince charming at 40.
Now they wake up to reality.
Too bad that prince charming decides to marry a feminine woman who’s 15 years younger and doesn’t drink. They end up bitter, cut their hair short and…you know the rest of the story. But hey, now they are ready to settle down.
Should you do it?
Nope. You should walk away with your head held high because the right woman is waiting around the corner.
5. Choose the Right Dating Site
Where’s the best place to meet a good woman to marry?
Not on Tinder.
It should be obvious. But there are still guys who believe that Tinder is a great app to meet their special someone. Then there are mostly Western guys who try it on local dating sites. It’s hard. You’re lucky if you get one or two replies.
Here’s my advice:
The best dating sites to find a good woman to marry are international.
I’ve reviewed so many of them and here’s why I believe in these international dating sites:
Avoid Tinder and hookup sites. Focus on international dating sites. You won’t regret it.
6. Avoid Nightclubs (Or Similar Venues)
“How can I find a good woman?”
I still remember the day my friend asked me this question. There was only one thing I could do.
He was hitting the club every weekend. That’s where he picked up girls. And then he had the nerve to ask me where to meet good girls. Dude, come on. If I want a haircut, I don’t go to a place where you can get a Brazilian waxing.
Use your common sense.
These are not the places where you’ll meet the kind of woman you want.
Instead, go where the money is…
7. Meet Her at the Church (Or Similar Venues)
What qualities are you looking for?
Let me guess:
Have you ever thought about going to the church…to meet women?
If you’re looking for a wife, the church can be the perfect venue. Alternatively, you can check yourself into a hospital and hit on the nurses. Hey, don’t complain. You wanted to know how to find a good woman to marry.
I’m just giving you some creative input.
8. Have Zero Patience for Stupidity
Do you want a dumb wife?
I know guys who don’t care as long as she’s hot. But think long-term. You don’t really want to spend your life with someone who has the intellect of a chimpanzee after two bottles of Jägermeister. I mean, you can’t talk about anything with her.
Here’s what you need:
Patience Level Zero
You want to know how to find a good woman and keep her…so don’t waste your life with stupid chicks you don’t want to keep. And believe me. She can be hotter than Carmen Electra in 1998.
Eventually, you’ll get tired of her missing brain cells.
9. Focus on Women Who are Still Fertile (If You Want Kids)
Let me tell you a true story.
One of my friends wants to have a family. He’s a great guy and I would be a proud Uncle Charlie. For years he told me about this wish. Two years ago he ended up marrying an older career woman. Sorry, but I have to do it a second time.
I just don’t get it. It’s beyond my comprehension.
It might sound brutal but if you want to start a family, you don’t settle down with a woman in her thirties who has her most fertile years behind her and wants a career. She might be a good woman. But she’s not good for your purpose.
Feel free to call me an ignorant asshole, but I think it’s important.
10. Don’t Turn a Drama Queen into Your Baby Mama
That’s another bad idea on the list of bad ideas.
You shouldn’t choose a stupid woman. You already know that. And one part of being stupid is not being able to take the pill on time. This can easily lead to a nice surprise, 18 years of alimony payments and a messed up life.
But what if you want children with her?
Make sure she’s not a drama queen.
I hate to say it but if you’re living in the United States, you have to search a long time. I mean, wow. I think I’ve never met an American chick who didn’t have a screw loose. Even Germans know that a lot of American chicks have mental health issues.
What if you’re not from the United States?
You still have to be careful. Date her for a long time before you put a ring on her finger. Make sure she’s mentally stable. You don’t want you kids to get raised by a lunatic.
11. Be a Gentleman with Good Girls
Here’s how to find a good woman and keep her:
Be a gentleman.
Bad women prefer gangsters. Good women prefer gentlemen.
That’s why I love being a gentleman. I repel the girls I don’t want anyway and I attract the ones I want. I mean, think about it. A woman who reacts negatively to a gentleman speaks a clear language. She doesn’t appreciate being treated well.
Do you want to date or marry such a girl?
These kind of girls have issues. In my experience, they are nothing but trouble. They run away from the amazing man you are, straight into the arms of the gangster who treats them like crap.
Be a gentleman and you’ll find out if she deserves you.
12. Find Out If She Moves Forward in Life
Does her past reveal characteristics of a good woman to marry?
She might have had a terrible childhood. Life happens and shit happens. Not everyone grows up pampered and loved. The past can be an indicator of the future, but it’s not set in stone. People can change. She might have changed.
That’s the important question.
Her past becomes irrelevant when she turned it into a bright future. You want a girlfriend or wife who moves forward in life because that’s what a good woman does.
13. Find Out If She Wants to Go Left or Right
You’re here because you want to find a good woman to marry.
In other words, you want to settle down.
What if she wants the complete opposite of that?
Imagine you meet a girl with a great personality, a great sense of humor, and a great ass. She’s the kind of girl you want to date. You ask her out and she agrees. On the first date she tells you about her plans to move to a hippie commune and to participate in wild orgies.
Should you marry her?
You already know the answer.
You want something different out of life. And that’s okay. Just because you are compatible doesn’t mean that you want the same thing. I’ve met girls whose dream life looked like my personal hell.
She wanted to go right when I wanted to go left.
I did what was right:
I said “goodbye” and continued my search for a girl who wants to head in the same direction.
14. Test Her Loyalty Early On
How can you be sure that she has the traits of a good woman to marry?
The signs are not always clear.
You want to be sure that she’s the right one. You’ve wasted enough time with women who are unworthy of your love. That’s why you have to test her. Yes, test her. I’m dead serious. You deserve to know if she’s loyal in good times and in bad times.
Here’s what you do:
“But Sebastian, isn’t that a lie?”
Well, you don’t have to do it. Take it or leave it. It’s just a suggestion. But remember that you’ll only lie until you know her reaction. Then you reveal the truth. Her reaction will reveal everything you need to know. Yes, I admit it. This simple prank can lead to a breakup.
However, it can also lead to everlasting love with a supportive, loyal and good woman.
Test her loyalty and you’ll know the truth.
Are you loyal enough to buy my bestselling book Rise of the Phoenix?
Summed Up Wisdom
Do you want to know how to find a good woman to marry? Then stop chasing hot girls with small brains. Just because she has amazing boobs doesn’t mean she has a great personality. Stay away from bars and clubs. You’ll have more luck at the church.
What about online dating? Good luck finding her on Tinder. If I were you, I’d join an international dating site. These women know what family values are. And please don’t be naïve. If you want to start a family, you shouldn’t waste your time with women who are too old.
Does that sound too brutal for you? Then check this out: Stay away from drama queens. Marry such a woman and you’re doomed. Find out where she wants to go and whether or not you want the same. Now you just have to test her loyalty.