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How to Date Multiple Women (Build a Harem)

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You want to know how to date multiple women…

Are you sure?

I can show you what you have to do and what you have to avoid. But I want to make one thing clear. Shit can hit the fan. I mean, getting married and signing a government contract is definitely more risky. But dating more than one girl at the same time is no walk in the park.  

Think about all the things you have to put up with:

  • Lauren and Susan are jealous as hell.
  • Samantha wants to spend more time with you.
  • Susan wants to kill Samantha because she secretly loves you.
dating multiple women

Fight!

Say hello to reality.

Dating multiple women sounds amazing. It’s every man’s dream. Waking up next to a beautiful girl and banging another chick in the afternoon. That’s a dream come true. Well, let me tell you something: This dream can easily turn into a nightmare.

That’s why you have to be prepared:

  • You must know what to say on the first date.
  • You have to know the things you must avoid.
  • You need to be able to sell this idea to girls.

Now that I warned you about the risks, I have one last question:

Do you still want to do it?

If the answer is “yes”, you need to fasten your seatbelt because it’s going to be a bumpy ride…

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How to Date Multiple Women: Your Harem Guide  
1. Write Down the Rules You Want  
2. Look for Girls in the Right Places  
3. Approach Her with a Direct Compliment
4. Find out about Her Sexual Experience
5. Ask Her What She’s Looking for  
6. Give Her the “I’m not Ready” Talk
7. Tell Her You Want to Date Multiple Women
8. Handle Her Non-Monogamy Objections
9. Sell it as an Adventure and New Experience
10. Don’t Act Like Her Boyfriend  
11. Always Use a Condom  
12. Don’t Talk About the Others When You’re With Her  
13. Discuss the No-Goes and Deal Breakers  
14. Avoid Talking about Future Plans
15. Accept that Your Future is Not Written Yet  
Summed Up Wisdom 


How to Date Multiple Women: Your Harem Guide  

There’s a right way and a wrong way to do it.

The dark side is tempting. They have cookies. Nevertheless, I want you to think about the consequences. There was a time when I wanted to learn how to date multiple women. So I went on a quest. Eventually, I uncovered the secret and understood this dynamic.

I just made one crucial mistake.

I wasn’t honest. I didn’t tell girl X about girl Y and Z had no clue that X and Y live, breathe, and bang me. God, I was living the dream until this one day. This day changed the way I looked at dating multiple women…and it almost ended tragically.

One of the girls found out what game I was playing.

how to date multiple women

She promised to kill the other two. Yep, she was deeply in love with me and I hadn’t told her about the others. That’s why she decided that “slitting their throats” (as she put it) was the best option. Thank God she didn’t do it.

Here’s the lesson I learned:

Always be honest when you’re dating more than one girl at the same time. I’m dead serious. This is THE most important rule of all. Unless you follow this principle, your harem experience will slowly but steadily turn into a horror show.

Now get a pen and a piece of paper…


1. Write Down the Rules You Want  

Do you have a pen and a piece of paper?

Okay, awesome. Yes, a word document is also fine. Let’s save the rainforest together. Now I want you to write down your rules. That’s the first thing you have to do. When you want a monogamous relationship, everything is clear. No cheating. That’s it

But what are the rules for dating multiple women?

You make the rules:

  • Do you want the girls to meet each other?
  • Do you want to cuddle with them or not?
  • Do you only want sex or also go on dates?

Think about your rules and then write them down. Later, when you meet a girl potential member of your harem, you can talk about these rules. Heck, forget about CAN. You MUST talk about these rules. Remember, honesty is the key to making it work.

Now that you know what you want, it’s time to hunt…


2. Look for Girls in the Right Places  

Where do you find girls who are open to this idea?

There are good places and there are bad places. I mean, yeah. You might get lucky and find one of your harem members in a church. But the chances are slim. You simply can’t sell the idea of dating multiple women to a hardcore Christian virgin.

You need a woman with the following qualities:

  • She’s sexually experienced.
  • She’s open to new experiences.
  • She has dated multiple partners before.

The last point is not a necessity but it definitely helps. Now think about all the places where you could meet such a girl. Yes, bars, clubs and swinger clubs (don’t laugh) are a good option. But you might see a really beautiful girl walking down the street.

What do you do in this situation?

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3. Approach Her with a Direct Compliment

You want to learn how to date multiple women.

So stop beating around the bush. Nobody cares that you have a little sister and that you’re looking for a birthday present for her. Heck, you want to build a harem. Your goal is to find out if she’s sexually attracted to you. And you don’t want to waste precious time.

Here’s what you do:

  • Approach her with a direct compliment.
  • Check her out and admire her body.
  • Look out for signs of interest.
flirtatious woman

It’s important to be sexual right from the start. Think about what you’re looking for. You don’t want to marry this woman and you are not looking for a life partner. Heck, you don’t even want to be monogamous.

It’s all about sex and that’s okay.

You have to let her know that this is what you want.


4. Find out about Her Sexual Experience

You have to know what you’re dealing with.

Like I already said, you can’t invite a virgin into a harem. I mean, you can try. And she might even agree because she’s so in love with you. But please don’t do it. Don’t torture an innocent girl who dreams about you being her first boyfriend.

Choose a woman who’s sexually experienced.

But hey, you can’t just ask her how many guys she has slept with. Not many girls will answer this question honestly. You can, however, share your own experience. Tell her about your adventures and see how she reacts. Be straightforward and unapologetically honest.

The more you share about yourself, the more she’ll open up.

Eventually, you’ll find out if she’s a potential candidate for your harem.


5. Ask Her What She’s Looking for  

Yes, talking about sex is important.

Every girl likes sex.

You have to be more specific. This time you can ask her directly. Ask her what she’s looking for. Your job is to figure out if this girl is looking for a monogamous relationship or if she’s open to a more unconventional relationship.

What if she just pretends to be a good girl?

Let her know that you don’t judge her. Make clear that you respect and appreciate sexually confident women. You should give her the feeling that she can say what she wants. Let her know that you like women who like unconventional ideas.

Then you give her the talk…


6. Give Her the “I’m not Ready” Talk

She wants to know “why?”

Believe it or not, but a lot of girls are not against the idea of being one of many. Yeah, I’m serious. But they want to know why. If you let her know why you don’t want a traditional monogamous relationship, the chances that she’ll agree are way higher.

Here’s what I used to say:

“I’m not ready for a relationship because…”

woman listening

That’s how you start the sentence. Then you continue with the explanation.

  • “I’m not ready to settle down.”
  • “I want to live out my sexuality.”
  • “I want to test other relationship models.”

A lot of guys don’t realize this but women will give you what you want as long as you are honest.


7. Tell Her You Want to Date Multiple Women

What did I just say?

I said that women will give you what you want as long as you are honest. Yep, that’s true. And you’re here because you want to know how to date multiple women. So…it’s time for some honesty. It’s time to let her know what you’re after.

Tell her the truth:

“I have to be honest with you. I really like you and I want to see you again. I also want to experience unforgettable moments with you. But I can’t promise you to be monogamous. I’m not ready for that. All I can promise is that we will share amazing memories together. Let’s see where this adventure takes us.”

That’s how you win her heart with honesty. 

Of course, you might lose her. But it’s worth it, believe me. It’s better to lose her than to lie to her. Think about short-term pleasure vs. long-term peace of mind.  Tell her exactly what you want or this whole endeavor will end with drama, tears, and a burning car.


8. Handle Her Non-Monogamy Objections

Oh these sweet objections…

Now she knows that you want to date multiple women and why you want it. But she still doesn’t know the rules. And she’s a bit upset. She’s on the way of accepting your proposal. However, there’s still resistance in her body.

She’ll verbalize her resistance:

  • “Do you sleep with every woman you meet?”
  • “What kind of girls say yes to that?”
  • “Have you always been a cheater?”

Here are my answers:

  • “I only sleep with girls I have a strong connection with.”
  • “Women who are open to new experiences.”
  • “I’m not. That’s why I’m honest from the start.”

The principle is always the same:

Honesty wins. And if you combine it with a good sales pitch, she’ll agree.


9. Sell it as an Adventure and New Experience

How do you sell this idea?

You can’t just say “I want to date multiple women because your pussy is so bad that I need another one.” I mean, you can try it. But she’ll probably end up slapping you instead of sleeping with you. I hope you agree with me that another sales pitch might be better.

selling dating multiple women

How about these options:

  • “I want to take you on an incredible adventure.”
  • “One day you’ll think back to this experience and smile.”
  • “Nobody can take these memories from us. You’ll always remember this.”

What if that doesn’t work?

Tell her that it’s a test and that she can end the test phase at any point.


10. Don’t Act Like Her Boyfriend  

You are not her boyfriend.

Let’s say she agrees with your conditions. She wants to make these memories with you and the idea to test it doesn’t seem to frightening. You’re spending time with her and you have fun. You talk, you laugh, and you undress each other.

What else do you do?

  • You cuddle. That’s totally fine.
  • You call her “honey” or “babe”. That’s critical.
  • You hold hands in public. That’s a big, big mistake.

Remember that you are not her boyfriend. 

You’re reading this article because you want to know how to date multiple women. If you want a monogamous relationship, this article teaches you how to get a girlfriend.

Don’t hold her hand in public and don’t tell her how much you love her.


11. Always Use a Condom  

I just talked about love. Now I want to talk about sex.

Call me conservative. Call me a pussy. I don’t care. I’m not a big fan of STDs. And I’m also not a big fan of transmitting them to women. In fact, I recently got tested and I’m clean. Yep, I use condoms when I date multiple women…always.

No, I won’t tell you to raw dog women.  

I might not be the most responsible person on earth. But I’m responsible enough to know that having unprotected sex with multiple women at the same time is not a good idea. Do yourself a favor and use a rubber when you’re sleeping with more than one girl at the same time.

By “giving her an unforgettable experience” I don’t mean a doctor’s visit.


12. Don’t Talk About the Others When You’re With Her  

When you’re with her, you’re with HER.

  • You don’t talk about the other girls.
  • You don’t mention their names.
  • You don’t text or call them.
man dates multiple women

It’s hard enough for her to be one of many. That’s why you have to give her the feeling that she’s the only girl in the world for you…at least when you spend time with her. Once she’s back home, you can call Cindy and text Dora.

But not when you’re with her.

Break this rule and she’ll transform from a cuddly cat into a jealous monster.


13. Discuss the No-Goes and Deal Breakers  

You have to talk about these things.

Hiding the no-goes and deal breakers in the basement is a terrible idea. She deserves to know the rules and you deserve a woman who follows the rules. Yes, as chaotic as dating multiple women might sound…rules are important.

I already mentioned one important rule: condoms.

What else?

  • Not lying about where you are is a good idea.
  • Not making promises you can’t keep is not bad.
  • Not telling others about your agreement is also great.

A lot of women have no problem with you seeing other girls. But they have a problem when others know it. Remember, she doesn’t want to be labeled as a slut. That’s why you shouldn’t kiss and tell. Women do a lot behind closed doors but they won’t do anything when the doors are wide open.

Keep the door shut.


14. Avoid Talking about Future Plans

Don’t underestimate this.

Avoid any future talk. Don’t even think about saying something like “I can imagine traveling to Europe with you” or “one day we might live together”. It sounds romantic in the moment you say it but the consequences can be devastating.

Remember why you came here.

You want to know how to date multiple women. If you talk about your future, you give her the impression that the other girls don’t exist. It can be tempting to give her this hope. But it’s not fair. It’s cruel and to be honest, it’s not what a Global Seducer should do.

She has to know that you don’t commit to her. You are free. So is she.

Does that mean that it will always be like that?

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15. Accept that Your Future is Not Written Yet  

Feelings change.

Yes, right now you want to date multiple women. And that’s fine. She accepted your conditions and you enjoy the time you spend with her. But that doesn’t mean that it will last forever. In fact, your desires can change in a heartbeat.

happy couple
  • What if you don’t want to see her anymore?
  • What if you fall for another girl and want to commit to her?
  • What if you fall in love with her and want to make her your girlfriend?

Be honest. 

I can’t guarantee that she’s happy with your decision. I also can’t guarantee that she wants what you want. All I know is that being honest is the only way to make dating multiple women work. And yes, it can be an amazing experience.

Click here if you want to have even more amazing experiences with hot girls…

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Summed Up Wisdom 

Do you want to date multiple women? Then don’t lie. Be honest with the ladies and look out for them in the right places. You can’t expect to build a harem with church girls. You have to be direct in the first interaction. And don’t forget to write down the rules.

You have to talk about these rules on your first date. But first, you have to find out if she’s sexually experienced. And you have to find out what she’s looking for. If she wants to marry a loyal man, you are the wrong man for her.

What if she agrees to your conditions? Don’t act like her boyfriend and don’t act irresponsibly. In other words, use condoms and don’t make future plans. You never know what the future holds. But I know that you shouldn’t talk about Jenny when you’re in bed with Jessy.

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  1. Tim says

    September 24, 2018 at 9:13 pm

    i’m not too good with women, which is of course why i’m on this website. but even i can get girls numbers and get them to meet me for food and such

    my issue is raising their interest level in me. in other words, getting them to initiate a text or call……instead of it always being me the one to start the convo

    the coolest thing is when you can make such a great impression on a girl that she’s actually pursuing you and she’s the one hitting you up and wanting to hang out

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