Are you ready to learn how to charm a woman into bed?
Let me guess:
Yep, you’ve tried being nice and you’ve tried buying her dinner. But it didn’t work. Well, I can tell you why it didn’t work. Doing what everyone else does is not charming. In fact, most guys are the opposite of an enchanting man.
They act insecure and needy.
That’s not what women want. And that’s not the type of man women want to sleep with. Remember, your goal is to get her in your bed. You don’t settle for a hug or for a kiss. Heck, you’re not even satisfied with a hot make out session.
You want more. You want her body.
Let me show you:
That’s what women want!
They want a man who knows how to do what they saw in their favorite Hollywood movies…
How to Charm a Woman into Bed
Why do you think women love romance movies?
Nope, they don’t give a shit about the lighting, the candles, and the beach house. That’s not why movies with George Clooney and Jude Law are so popular. As a man, I wouldn’t watch one of these chick flicks if my life depended on it.
Women, on the other hand, love them.
The main character is always a charming man.
That’s why Ben Stiller plays the role of the idiot who gets lucky and (somehow) gets the girl in the end while Jude Law plays the role of the enchanter who can get any woman he wants. Ben doesn’t have what it takes. Jude does.
Observe how Jude Law acts in this scene…
This man knows how to charm a woman into bed. That’s why he ends up banging the shit out of her on that snooker table. Then she gets pregnant and his best friend hates him forever while he plays the cuck who raises Jude’s baby. But let’s not talk about the movie.
Let’s talk about how you can become like Jude Law…
1. Greet Her with a Kiss on the Cheek
It’s date time.
You’re on your way to the café. She’s already waiting for you. God, she looks so beautiful. She dressed up and you can’t wait for your first date to begin. You walk up to her and she smiles while you’re getting closer. Then you do it.
You shake her hand.
She had such high expectations and now you take all her hopes, throw them on the ground, and walk right over them. That’s not nice. In fact, you were too nice. You thought to yourself “it might be too soon for a hug.” That’s why you settle for a handshake.
Here’s what I want you to know:
It’s NEVER too soon for a hug.
She is a woman and you are a man. You are two sexual beings who like each other. You’re not in a business meeting with some hairy 60-year-old butterball. Treat her like a woman, goddammit. Be charming and hug her.
Oh, and don’t forget to kiss her on the cheek. And no, it’s not too soon.
2. Talk Sexually about Innocent Topics
What do you talk about with her?
Well, maybe you talk about…
Let me share a secret with you:
It doesn’t matter WHAT you’re talking about. It’s way more important HOW you talk about it. Heck, I remember this one date. We talked about swimming for more than two hours (she was in a swimming team). It was a pretty innocent conversation.
At the end of the day, she jumped in bed with me.
How is that possible?
Well, I talked about and innocent topic. That’s true. But I did it in a way that was anything but innocent. I looked deep into her eyes. I presented my naughtiest smile. And I spent a lot of time talking about the wet water and the hot shower afterwards.
It’s up to you if you want to make innocent conversations innocent or sexual.
3. Dress Like a Charming Man
How to charm girls into bed when you look like THIS?
You can’t. Okay, you can…but it’s almost impossible. Only really experienced seducers can pull it off. Yeah, you can see it as a challenge. But here’s what I would do: Don’t make it so hard when it can be so easy.
What style do charming men have in movies?
Usually, they have one of three styles:
Yes, you can try to score with baggy pants, a base cap and a gold chain. But let’s face it. It’s so much easier when you look like the kind of guy who looks charming. Think about. With the right style, she already assumes that you have this quality before you do or say anything.
This makes it so much easier to get her home and out of her clothes.
4. Use Your Trauma to Charm Her into Bed
I’ve experienced some hardship in my life.
And no, I don’t say this because I want compassion and donations from you (feel free to send me thousand bucks via PayPal…or buy my book Rise of the Phoenix). I say it because it works. Talking about the things you’ve been through can lead to mind-blowing sex.
I’m not ashamed to tell girls about:
These are the things that define me, that make me who I am. I’m not ashamed of sharing my weaknesses with women…and with you. And I know that the more open I am about my weaknesses, the more open she’ll be to spread her legs for me.
Here’s how to charm a woman into bed with your trauma:
Share the stuff most guys desperately try to hide. Don’t be ashamed of your imperfections. Women love men who are strong and confident enough to share their imperfections. This simple act of opening up makes her trust you.
These are the emotions she needs to feel before taking her bra off.
5. Excuse Yourself for Your Potty Mouth
I have a potty mouth.
Yep, I admit it. I swear way too much and in situations where it doesn’t make any sense. And I don’t even limit myself with the English “fuck”. When it comes to swearing, I’m so goddamn creative that I use the German “scheiße” and the Polish “kurwa”.
That’s how I role…and how I get laid.
“But Sebastian, women don’t like it when you swear. That’s impolite.”
I’ll never forget the dude who told me that. He was married and while he gave me this moral lecture, his wife rolled her eyes. She was sitting right next to him and she was more into me and my potty mouth than into his politeness.
But anyway, here’s how to use your potty mouth:
“Oh my God, I’m so sorry. I’m such a fucking bastard. Goddammit, I’m sorry.”
She’ll laugh and think to herself “that guy has balls. He’s confident and funny. I want to sleep with him. “
6. Take Her to a Place That Makes Her Inner Tigger Rawr
Your first date venue determines the outcome.
By now you know…
That’s great. But it won’t work if you take her to a run-down bar with cockroaches on every table, mold on the wall, and dead rats in the corner. That’s not the right setting. You can be as charming as Jude Law…it won’t work.
The environment matters more than you think.
Women don’t sleep with a guy when they don’t feel comfortable. That’s why you have to choose a date venue that allows her to feel safe and comfortable. Choose a place that looks good, smells good…and has dimmed lights.
Dimmed lights are perfect to go in for the kiss.
But it doesn’t end there. Think about your apartment. In case you haven’t cleaned your bathroom since the fall of the Soviet Union, you have some work to do. Remember, she’ll only fall in love with you if she feels comfortable.
7. Be Sexually Playful from the Start
Why are you here?
Because you want to know how to charm a woman into bed, right? Then don’t be so serious. Women don’t want to sleep with serious men. I’m German. I know what I’m talking about. It took me years to unlearn my German way of interacting (Hint: we are robots).
What about you?
Are you too serious or are you sexually playful?
A serious man talks about serious topics. He wants to discuss politics and religion on the first date. That’s why he fails. She smiles because she wants to be nice. But deep down she’s bored…and a bit scared. All she wanted was to have a fun evening.
Here’s what you should do instead:
Combine funny topics with sexual touching and you have the two main ingredients for sexual playfulness.
Let’s take the touching to the next level…
8. Support Your Arguments with Body Contact
She wants to be touched.
Think about it. You’ve been the definition of a charming gentleman…and she still didn’t run away. She enjoys talking to you, she wants to get to know you, and yes, she wants you to take things to the next level. Take action…now.
What’s the next level in every seduction?
The next step is the next touch.
The more time you spend with her, the more times you touch her. At least that’s how it should be. And believe me. She’ll give you many opportunities. You just have to look out for the signs.
Touching is important but there’s another way to use your body.
9. Charm Her into Bed with Your Body
It’s impossible to charm a woman into bed without the right body language.
What is the right body language?
It’s not needy and cowardly. Women want to sleep with confident men. But she doesn’t know if you’re confident unless your body communicates confidence. You can’t stand there like a wet sack of seaweed and expect her to take off her panties.
Here’s what your body should communicate:
That’s the body language that makes women weak and wet.
10. Make Your Compliments Extra Saucy
Giving compliments is effective.
“Compliments don’t work. That’s needy blah blah blah.”
We’ve all heard it before. The seduction community is full of people who believe that compliments are needy. And yes, they can be needy. But only if you hope that you get a positive response. A confident man is not attached to the outcome.
He gives compliments…
Don’t even think about telling her how nice she looks.
You want to charm her into bed. Women don’t spread their legs for nice. They spread their legs for attractive and sexy. Let her know that you’re sexually attracted to her.
Your unfiltered honesty makes her decide to sleep with you.
Summed Up Wisdom
Don’t shake her hand. You are not in a business meeting. You are two sexual beings of the opposite gender. Give her a hug and a kiss on the cheek. That’s how you greet a girl. And don’t forget to dress like a charming man. If she assumes that you have this quality, you’ve already won the game.
Let’s talk about bad experiences and bad words. Don’t be afraid to share your most painful memories with her. That’s the stuff that makes her feel connected with you. Your weaknesses are your biggest strength. And believe me. Swearing is not as bad as your mom told you.
And don’t underestimate the environment. She wants to be seduced at a place that makes her feel good. She also wants to be seduced by a guy who makes her feel good. Be playful and sexual at the same time. Crack jokes and touch her. Your body language should communicate that you’re calm and confident. And your compliments should be sexual. That’s how you charm a woman into bed.