Why do you want to know how to be sweet to a girl?
I wanted to know because I was a gigantic asshole.
Yes, I’m serious. I was an astronomical jerk with the manners of a five-year old kid with learning deficiency disorder. Rudeness was my last name and negging my profession. I treated women like shit and I’m not proud of it.
Do you know why?
It started with the realization that being nice doesn’t work. I no longer wanted to be the nice guy. Enough of this crap. Oh no, I wanted to be the seducer who gets the girls. And I was willing to do whatever it takes to achieve this goal.
Here’s what I didn’t understand back then:
I want you to understand one simple truth:
Learning how to be sweet to a girl can set you free.
Here’s what I learned after I recovered from being a gigantic asshole…
How to Be Sweet to a Girl You Like: The Practical Guide
Did you fall into the same trap?
Most of my one-on-one coaching clients know this too well. All your life you’re trying to get laid and nothing works. The flowers, the nice words, the presents…it simply does not work.
“If being nice doesn’t work, being a jerk has to be the answer.”
That’s what I thought and there’s a high chance that you came to the same conclusion. But let me tell you something. Just because drinking hot water burns your throat doesn’t mean that ice cold water won’t hurt. Wow…what a metaphor.
Here’s the truth:
There is a middle way and it’s called being sweet to her.
This is the solution. You are a gentleman without falling into the nice guy trap. You are friendly without ending up in the friend zone. You combine the best of both worlds and mix it together to an irresistible seduction cocktail.
It’s time to serve her the first drink…
1. Reward Her for Being Sweet
What if she’s a terrible human being?
Well, then you shouldn’t be sweet to her in the first place. You’re a Global Seducer. You only date girls who deserve your time, attention, and affection. Let’s imagine she has a great personality. And she’s funny.
What do you do about that?
Come on. Don’t say “nothing”. That’s not the answer she wants to hear. She smiles all the time, she tries to find out more for you and she cooks dinner for you. This woman deserves the Medal of Honor. Okay, a reward is enough.
Here are some ideas:
“I really like the way you are” is enough to make her smile.
2. Be Her Lifeline When She’s Drowning
Not every day is sunshine and rainbows.
She might be the hottest chick in town, but she has bad days too. Her boss might be an asshole. Then there’s her colleague who harasses her during every lunch break. And don’t forget her tummy. She has diarrhea since two days.
Okay, forget about her diarrhea.
I’m trying to make a point. The truth is that women have the same fears, insecurities and negative emotions as you. The context might be different but the symptoms are the same.
She needs someone to hold onto.
Be her lifeline and allow her to do what she needs:
Say “everything will be okay” before you hug her and enjoy your reward.
3. Open the Door for Her and Lead Her to Her Seat
Be a gentleman.
Whenever I talk about this to my coaching clients I see confusion. In the West, we unlearned what was once taken for granted. We’re no longer gentleman and yes, I admit it. Some spoiled brats react negatively to the following actions.
Not THAT kind of chair pulling…
I’m talking about the gentleman version. Yep, you have to push the chair when she sits down to make sure that she doesn’t break her ass. But yeah, like I said…some girls consider it awkward.
Here’s my opinion on that:
Amazing girls appreciate a real gentleman and you’re a Global Seducer who deserves amazing girls.
4. Say Something Sweet to Her
What could you possibly say?
Come on. Don’t be so uncreative.
Okay, ignore the last example. But the other two are good. Give her compliments and make them personal. Say something that reflects her looks, her style or her personality. In other words, don’t compliment her blonde hair when she’s brunette.
Compliments are an old but an effective way to attract women.
5. Make Sweet Gestures
What the heck does that mean?
I’m glad you ask.
These are gestures that make her say “oh, that’s so sweet from you” and no, I won’t include a Captain Obvious meme because that’s obvious.
Make her smile and think of you as boyfriend material.
You want some examples, right?
Here you go:
I hope it’s obvious what I mean. Otherwise you have to ask the captain.
6. Tell an Innocent Joke in a Naughty Way
I perfected this technique.
Shocking her with your inappropriate jokes is not that hard. Everyone can do it. And yes, it works. Women love inappropriate jokes, especially when they want to do inappropriate things with you. But there’s an alternative way to use jokes.
Tell a joke that’s kid friendly in a way that’s PG-18.
Here’s what you do:
“What are the magic words?” I hear you asking.
Here they are:
“I just wanted to make it more exciting. I can’t stop being naughty. I can’t help it.”
I know it sounds weird, but it works. Trust me.
7. Cook a Terrible Meal for Her
What’s the most disgusting meal you can cook?
Prepare that one.
I’m a terrible chef and there’s a reason for it. Okay, there are multiple reasons. I don’t have the time, I hate it, and I don’t have the skills. But the number one reason is that I never learned it because I don’t have to.
Do you want to hear the disgusting truth?
Disgusting meals get you laid.
I’m serious. My most disgusting meals got me laid more than the ones you could eat without terrible consequences. I honestly don’t know why, but my experience tells me that preparing a shitty meal for a woman is a sure way to get her in bed.
I guess it’s because women reward men who put in effort.
A guy who can’t cook if his life depended on it but who does it nevertheless puts in more effort than a guy who has a natural talent for eggs, noodles and all the other stuff you can fry and boil. Sorry to all the hobby chefs.
Sometimes life is a bitch.
8. Share Your Thoughts and Feelings with Her
Do you have feelings?
I’m sure you have them. They might be buried under a layer of mother issues and fake arrogance, but they are there. Even the most alpha of the alpha men have feelings. Accepting this is healthy…and it makes you more attractive.
Here’s the truth:
Women love men who share their feelings because they are sick and tired of…
Here’s how to be sweet to a girl you like:
Be a real man and don’t be afraid to share your real feelings. I hope the day will come when men all over the world realize that being vulnerable is the opposite of being weak.
9. Be Her Caring Future Boyfriend
A simple act of caring creates and endless ripple.
You don’t believe me?
Then watch this heart-warming video before you continue reading:
Are you back? Awesome! I just wanted to get you into caring mode. Yes, you should care. I hope you care about women, even the ones you have strictly sexual relationships with. That’s what a Global Seducer does.
Here are some things I do for girls I share my bed with:
Do you really think she wants a boyfriend who doesn’t care if she gets wet, anorexic or raped?
Hell no. She wants a guy who cares about her and takes care of her. Okay, there are exceptions but you don’t want to date a crazy chick with borderline syndrome.And no, being caring is not the same as being responsive.
Here’s the general rule:
If you want to be her boyfriend, you have to show her that you care.
10. Show Your Affection with a Sweet Touch
What in the name of the holy cookie monster is a sweet touch?
It’s the opposite of a rough touch. Hey, don’t complain. You’re here because you want to learn how to be sweet to a girl. You didn’t ask me how to physically flirt with a girl. It’s more about being a little bit sexual than about being extremely sexual.
The bad news:
It’s less fun than the sexual touch.
The good news:
It’s also less risky. And let’s face it. You don’t want to risk a monstrous freak out because you touched her boobs in the middle of Starbucks. Nope, that’s not what you want. You want to get closer like a smooth operator.
Here are some suggestions:
That’s how you show your affection in the sweetest way.
11. Help Her But Be Careful
I know you want to help her.
But be careful. Some girls are angels and others are worse than Lucifer. Yep, some women use you. Keep that in mind before you turn into her helping hand for everything…unless you define “helping hand” as the guy who fingers her. That’s fine.
Anyway, here are some things you can do:
There’s only one exception:
Never, and I repeat, never help a girl who’s in financial trouble. Unless she’s your girlfriend and you are responsible for her financial ruin, you have to stay away. Run as fast as you can and don’t even think about buying her shit.
Helping women is a double-edged sword. So be careful.
12. Surprise Her with Something Romantic
Women love surprises.
They love them as much as spontaneous men. If you combine a surprise with spontaneity, she’ll be all over you. She has seen these moments in countless Hollywood movies but she has never experienced them in real life.
Most men are lazy fuckers.
Don’t be one of them. Don’t allow your laziness to destroy a possible romantic surprise with a happy girl, a happy night, and a happy ending.
Here are some things I’ve done in the past:
One last word about the nightly swimming session:
Be spontaneous and ask her after the date. She won’t have her bikini with her and that makes it so much more fun. You’d be surprised how many girls like the idea of swimming naked. Try it. She might agree.
13. Make Her Feel Understood
She wants a guy who gets her.
The sentence “I feel like you get me” is music to my ears. It’s better than what Mozart, Bach, and Lil Wayne have ever produced. These words are the ultimate sign that she thinks you’re the sweetest guy on planet earth.
Here’s how to get her to say these words:
Women want to date men who are trustworthy and respectful. They want to date guys who understand their struggles as a woman…or at least try. By doing the things I listed, you are this man. She’ll never want to let you go.
Make her feel understood and she’ll make you feel good.
14. Let Her Be Part of Your Life
Now you know what to do.
Oh, before I forget it…there’s one more thing you can do. Think about the ultimate goal of a girl who wants to be your girlfriend. Yes, she wants to spend time with you. But that’s not all. She wants more than that.
She wants to be a part of her life.
You came here to learn how to be sweet to a girl you like. That’s the basic requirement. You like her and you want her to like you. I assume you also want her to be a part of your life.
Here are some things you can do:
Women want to be around men who have an interesting lifestyle. That’s why seducers who are socially skilled, irresistibly charming, and who have the courage to live life on their own terms attract the hottest girls.
Summed Up Wisdom
Do you want to know how to be sweet to a girl you like? Then stop being such an asshole. Just kidding. I’m talking about myself. I used to think that the only way to get rid of the nice guy syndrome is to transform into a jerk.
Today I know better. I know that rewarding her for being sweet and being her lifeline when she’s drowning is way more effective. I also know that a simple gesture and a simple compliment are more than enough.
What else is there to know? Oh, don’t be afraid to show your vulnerable side. Women love it as much as they love adventurers. Don’t be so boring. Be spontaneous and romantic. And let her be part of your life. That’s what you both want.