Today I want to show you how to be in a relationship that doesn’t end in murder
Have you ever heard about the poor Chinese fella who killed himself by jumping to death in a mall, because he was annoyed by his girlfriend who wanted to buy one pair of shoes after another?
In case you haven’t, you should watch this video before you continue reading:
Well, the last thing I want is that you end up in a relationship with a girl who forces your brain cells to melt in such a rigorous way, that you regard suicide as the only option. Of course I also don’t want you to end up in a relationship in which you force your girlfriend to tomahawk you with a frypan, because she is sick and tired of your face.
I already wrote about what you have to do to get a girlfriend and I also shared my model of the perfect relationship with you. In addition to that, I gave you a step-by-step plan that helps you to get out of a toxic relationship once you were naïve enough to confuse the word psychopath with girlfriend.
You know how to get a girlfriend, what kind of relationship you want to have and how to get rid of her once you found out that she loves Prozac more than you.
Now it’s time to talk about all the things you have to do during your relationship to ensure that you will never end up in a situation in which you have to jump to death.
It all starts with a realization that a lot of men get when it is already too late.
Be in a Relationship With a Girl Who is Relationship Material
Let’s say you approach a beautiful girl. She is totally into your personality and you are totally into her sexy ass. You talk a lot during your first two dates and she sleeps with you on the third one. The sex is amazing, her body is incredible and your heart is beating. Of course you want to be in a relationship with her.
After you have been together with her for two years your nerves are at breaking point. You are sick and tired of her whims, her attitude and her immature opinion. Looking her into the eyes makes you question the existence of god and looking at her beautiful ass makes you regret that you gave up your dignity for this.
While you are sitting alone you remember some things she said during your first and second date:
“I just love to party. I could go out every night.”
“I am daddy’s little princess. I get whatever I want.”
“It’s so terrible that we must pay for refugees. Why don’t they just stay in their own country?”
“I absolutely hate kids. They are loud and stuff.”
“You will pay for that, right?”
Now that you remember her words of infinite wisdom you ask yourself the following question:
How could I have been so blind/dumb/naive to end up in a relationship with her?
You did what a lot of guys do.
You ended up in a relationship with a girl who
A: looks good
B: likes you
C: Fucks you
Without thinking about the most important question of all:
Is she relationship material?
In case you made the conscious or drug-related unconscious decision to end up in a relationship with a girl who is ignorant, arrogant and who drives you insane with every word she says, your relationship has the potential to end in murder.
Make sure that you look out for women who are caring, intelligent, down-to-earth and supportive and you won’t end like that poor Chinese fella.
Talk About the Future BEFORE the Future Comes
Dear honored reader, I don’t have the intention to insult you, but I feel obligated to reveal a really nasty habit that a lot of guys have:
Guy meets girl. Guy likes girl. Guy wants to stick his penis in girl. Girl wants that too. After girl is covered in sperm, guy says “yes” and “amen” to whatever girl wants from him. In some cases girl wants a relationship.
When I ended up in a monogamous relationship with my ex-girlfriend I dreamed about traveling the world, seducing women from different cultural backgrounds and having a hell of a good time. She dreamed about never leaving her tiny village and spending her/our holidays in all-inclusive resorts.
Do you see the problem?
Then stop ending up in relationships with women when you actually want something else out of life!
I know that the idea of not having a girlfriend who gives you regular blowjob seems a bit frightening, especially when she is the first girl who ever chewed on your noodle. However, a lack of honesty and communication can lead to a lot of pain, regret and accusations.
What’s the solution to this dilemma?
Talk about your future before the future comes!
The worst thing you can possibly do (I did it) is to be in a relationship for several years and to eventually reveal that you actually never wanted this in the first place. That’s like hitting her in the face with an oversized fly swatter.
Tell her what you really want BEFORE you end up in a relationship with her. Be honest about your desire to have adventurous sexual experiences with women from all over the world BEFORE you promise her that she is the last girl you will ever sleep with.
Yes, she might not agree with you on the way you want to live your life. In this case she is not the right one for you. An honest conversation with her gives you the chance to find a woman who supports your desires and dreams, even if you might have to go without regular blowjobs for a couple of weeks.
How to Be in a Relationship: Just Be
Now it’s time for some zen wisdom.
Breathe in, breathe out and repeat after me:
All you have to do if you want to learn how to be in a relationship that is based on happiness, fulfillment and love is to be.
Allow me to explain:
What I mean by “to be” is that you should stop pretending to be in a relationship. Stop leading her to believe that you are in a relationship with her, even though you are not. Stop acting as if you were her boyfriend, even though you tell other women that you don’t have a girlfriend.
In the end it all comes down to being in a relationship if you want to be in one and NOT being in a relationship if you don’t want to be in one.
I already told you that you should be honest to her about what you really want. Now I am talking about that you should be honest to yourself. Nobody wins if you lead a woman to believe that you are in a relationship with her.
No matter if you do it because you want to have sex on a regular basis or because your religious father won’t give you the family business if you continue to sleep with cute Filipinas instead of settling down – you will end up miserable.
What if you want to be in a relationship, because you love her, because she is your soul mate and because you want to spend every second of your life with her?
If you want to be in a relationship, be in a relationship. Embrace the idea of calling her your girlfriend. Enjoy every moment of it and promise yourself to do whatever it takes to make this a wonderful experience for both of you.
Overcome the Fairytale Phase
The fairytale phase is an essential part of every relationship. It usually lasts between two months and one year. In this phase you are convinced that your girlfriend is the reincarnation of Aphrodite. You only see her beauty and you ignore every little detail that indicates the fact that she is not a perfect creature that was sent from the heavens above.
You regard her body as a temple. The fact that she uses her ass to shit and her vagina to pee doesn’t even cross your mind. She is perfect.
You regard her behavior as the proof that there is still hope for humanity. You enjoy how she snuggles up to you at night and how she tells you that she loves you. You don’t see how she desperately craves for your attention, how she changes from happy to sad within seconds and how she behaves slightly arrogant and spoilt.
I don’t say that the fairytale phase is bad. It’s an important phase that has the biological purpose to make you say “yes” to things that would deserve a “maybe” if you would look at them from a logical perspective. This phase ensures the survival of our species.
It’s the phase that makes relationships happen, but it is definitely not the phase that makes relationships survive.
Unless you overcome this fairytale phase you will continue to be blind for all her negative sides and her imperfections.
“Isn’t that amazing? I will always have the feeling to be together with the perfect woman and my life will be like a fairytale!”
Not so fast, please.
The fairytale phase is like the Matrix. It is not real. You don’t know what it is, but it is there, like a splinter in your mind that is driving you mad.
At first your friends and family members will question your relationship. Eventually, the fairytale forms cracks. You finally see what it is really like to be in a not 100% perfect relationship with a not 100% perfect girl.
If you did already overcome the fairytale phase, this won’t shock you. You see her as the beautiful human being that you still love and still want to spend your time with, even though she is not perfect.
If you, however, didn’t overcome the fairytale phase, you will be shocked. Suddenly, you see her as a normal human being, while your mind still holds on to the fairytale image. Some men can’t deal with this shock.
Dependent on how many rings you put on her finger and how many babies you put in her belly, this late wake-up call has the power to ruin your life.
Be Her Indiana Jones
It is one thing to be an adventurous seducer and to give her a passionate night of deep conversations and exciting lovemaking. It is a whole other thing to be an adventurous boyfriend who has the motivation and the creativity to give her years of passion, adventure and excitement.
I don’t say that you have to entertain her every single night as her personal dancing monkey. If you end up in a relationship with a girl who expects that from you, you are highly at risk to end like the Chinese guy I spoke about at the beginning.
If you, however, stay at home for 365 days in a row and you wonder why she is bored out of her mind, you need an intense kick in the ass.
I am pretty sure you tried to be exciting and adventurous during your first and second date, so why the hell did you stop being her adventurous lover once she called you her boyfriend?
I can tell you why. You think that you don’t have to make an effort now that she is yours. Well, let me tell you something. Just because you have her doesn’t mean that you can keep her. Just because she wants to kiss you on the second date doesn’t mean that she doesn’t want to stab you after the second year.
Boredom makes women cheat, it makes them question the relationship they are in and it makes them crave for adventurous experiences that their boyfriends refuse to give them.
Do you really want that your girlfriend fantasizes about cheating with a guy who gives her what she needs?
No? Then take her to a nice bar. Surprise her with a spontaneous road trip. Come home early and rip her clothes off (of course only if don’t find her in bed with another man).
No matter what you do, do something!
Make Her Come…Often
A relationship without sex is just a friendship and a relationship with bad sex will eventually end in a friendship…or in frustration-related suicide.
If you want to know how to be in a relationship that doesn’t end in misery, you need to have the ability to make your girlfriend’s vagina shake.
Men are not the only ones who become depressed and frustrated when their sexual needs aren’t met. Remember, women have a clitoris and that thing wants to be stimulated.
I know that what I say is not very politically correct, but your ability to fuck her good is way more important than anything else. Listening to her and respecting her opinion are important aspects of a relationship, but unless you can’t satisfy her between the shits they are basically worthless.
Now, what do you do if your girlfriend faked 10 of the last 10 orgasms you gave her?
Well, learning how to have sex that ends in an orgasm is as important as learning how to be in a relationship that doesn’t end in murder.
How do you do that?
…and fuck her in a way that makes her want to spend the rest of your life with you.
Take Her and Her Complaints Seriously
I just said that orgasms are more important than listening to her, but that doesn’t mean that you should ignore her whenever she opens her mouth.
It is easy to listen to your girlfriend when she tells you how amazing you are. It is a lot harder to listen to her when she tells you that you are an ignorant asshole. While it is good to be self-confident, the arrogance to believe that you are infallible can break your neck.
Listening to your girlfriend when she just had an orgasm can improve your self-esteem. Listening to her when she just had a mental breakdown can save your relationship.
What if she complains about your behavior, the way you treat her and your body odor?
Listen to her and think about whether or not her complaints are eligible.
Now you can decide if you want to change and give her what she wants, or if you want to stay the way you are and risk losing her. I don’t say that losing her is necessarily the worse outcome, but unless you listen to her, you won’t even have this choice.
Allow Her to Breathe
This is a message to all the jealous boyfriends, possessive men and control freaks:
Your behavior won’t stop her from cheating. It won’t stop her from breaking free and it won’t help you to control her.
Up till now I always talked about how to be in a relationship that doesn’t end in murder in a slightly sarcastic way. This time I am very serious.
You have to stop controlling her and you have to stop treating her as if you possess her. Otherwise, she will eventually leave you for a guy who allows her to breathe. She won’t do this because she doesn’t love you, but because you force her to go.
You might get over it, but if you are an extremely possessive and jealous guy you might do something that you will regret for the rest of your life.
I don’t say that you are a potential criminal and deep down I am convinced that you would never do anything harmful. However, if you have the tendency to be possessive, jealous and controlling, thinking about the extremes might save your and another human being’s life.
How would you feel if you had the perfect relationship?
Summed Up Wisdom
If you want to know how to be in a relationship that doesn’t end in murder, you have to think twice before you start dating a girl who is just good looking. Once you made sure that she is relationship material, you should reveal your intentions and your future plans. In case you don’t do that, you will cause a lot of drama and tears later on.
Stop pretending and stop lying. Decide to be in a relationship if you really want to be in one. In case a relationship is exactly what you want, you have to be careful to not get trapped in the fairytale phase. The fairytale image is quite nice at the beginning, but ignoring the reality will eventually backfire.
She doesn’t want to be together with a dancing monkey, but she wants to spend her time with a man who is willing to take her on adventures and able to give her mind-blowing orgasms. When you then also take her complaints seriously and give her room to breathe, you know how to be in a relationship that is happy, fulfilled and that doesn’t end in murder.