You want to know how to be charming with women, right?
I think I know why:
Ryan Gosling and George Clooney are the epitome of a charmer. These two men have the power to make girls faint with a simple smile. That’s all it takes. But it’s not all. These two ladies men move, talk, and behave completely different than the Average Joe.
What’s their secret?
Let me tell you a secret:
I studied these guys. I watched a lot of terrible romance movies with George Clooney, Ryan Gosling and all kinds of other male celebrities who know how to get women. And no, I’m not talking about Owen Wilson.
Are you ready to become the most charming man among your friends?
Then continue reading…
How to Be Charming With Women
“It’s all about the looks!”
I’ve heard it so many times. And no, I won’t let you get away with this ridiculous excuse. Take a look in the dictionary. I don’t know what kind of dictionary you have, but in mine, the word handsome is not a synonym for charming.
Unfortunately, the official definition is also not better.
It’s about so much more than being pleasant, likeable and delightful. The only word in the dictionary that really describes a charmer is the word influence. The techniques I share with you in this article allow you to influence women to think and feel positively about you.
“But Sebastian, influencing someone is bad. That’s manipulation.”
Only white knights who turn themselves into self-proclaimed moralizers think that way. Let me tell you the truth. As soon as you open your mouth, you influence. Every movement, gesture, mimic, and word has an influence on another person.
Everyone does it but only a few understand it.
The question is:
Do you want to influence her to sleep with you or to reject you?
1. Play with Heart and Her Hair
You’ve made your decision.
You want to learn how to be charming with women. That’s great. Now we just have to find out if you have the playful attitude that’s required. Yes, you need to be more playful than Bernd Boring. You have to smile and you have to make her laugh.
Stop being serious, now!
You are the kind of guy who makes her heart melt with a simple smile.
Don’t hide your yellow teeth. Men like George Clooney and Ryan Gosling smile all the freaking time. Oh, and they are not afraid to touch women.
And don’t forget to smile while you do these things.
2. Charm Her with the George Clooney Smile
What does it really mean to smile like George Clooney?
It means to be authentic. Yep, that’s the whole secret. You feel feel happy, fulfilled, and at peace while you’re smiling. While doing this, the wrinkles around your eyes move, too. Your cheeks get filled with blood and turn a bit red.
That’s a real smile.
Compare this with the smiles of Victoria Beckham or Britney Spears, the two queens of fake smiles. The only thing you see is their teeth. Their eyes don’t move, they cheeks don’t move, nothing moves. They are like puppets that smile because you press a button.
This is what a real smile looks like…
Charm her with the George Clooney Smile and she’ll be yours.
3. Make Her Imagine a Bright Future with You
What does a man who knows how to be charming with girls talk about?
He doesn’t dwell in the past. No woman wants to live in the past. In the past her violent ex-boyfriend used her as a punching ball. She doesn’t want to turn back the time…no matter how many times she listens to this terrible Cher song.
She wants to see the future…with you.
That’s what the George Clooney’s of this world do. They focus on the future and use descriptive language to make it look bright. They use words like imagine, see, beautiful, success, amazing. I’m sure that’s how he proposed to his wife Amal.
“Look baby. We’ll have two children and because you’re a workaholic career woman, they’ll get raised by the nanny and see you once a week, while you struggle to eat and survive. Being a mom will be freaking awesome.”
Okay, that’s a terrible example.
But you get the point. You paint a colorful picture of the experienced and adventures in the not so distant future. And guess what? She’ll believe that she can ONLY experience these things with you.
4. Speak with a Charming Voice
How does a man who knows how to charm women speak?
You already know what he’s talking about (Remember how George convinced Amal to have twins). Let’s have a look at how he says these words. Saying the words in a monotonous robotic voice that makes you sound like a German doesn’t work.
Here’s what you need to do:
You don’t want to sound like Darth Vader, but you also don’t want to sound like Mikey Mouse. When it comes to my voice, Mother Nature wasn’t nice to me. When I’m excited I speak like a Chipmunk. But I learned to control it.
I try to speak in a deep voice when I record a podcast for you.
Not everyone is blessed with a voice like Jason Beghe:
Speak slowly, deliberately, and a bit deeper…
5. Have the Style of a Charming Man
How does a charming man look like?
He has style, he has class.
I hate to use him again and again as an example. But look at George Clooney. He doesn’t walk around in sweatpants and a T-shirt that’s covered in ketchup and mayonnaise. In fact, I googled “George Clooney sweatpants” and had a look at the image results.
I couldn’t find one image of him in sweatpants.
Here’s what enchanters wear:
These men don’t run around in crazy Ed Hardy T-shirts with glitter, gold, and all kinds of colors. They are style minimalists who know that one color is enough for one piece of clothing.
6. Entertain Yourself and Not Her
Here’s how to be charming with women and laugh your ass off:
Entertain yourself, not her.
Let’s not talk about Georgie anymore. Let’s take Ryan Gosling, his younger version, as an example. He doesn’t say something funny to impress the paparazzi, women, or his fans. He says something he finds funny and then he laughs about it.
Here’s a great example of Ryan Gosling and Harrison Ford (another incredibly charming man):
They make fun of each other, they tease each other, and they laugh their asses off. Not one time do they pause and think “wait a minute, is this funny for the audience? Will my interviewer like this?” No, they just have fun. They entertain themselves.
That’s exactly what you have to do in every conversation with a woman.
7. Make Her Feel Unique and Special
We all want to feel special.
Why don’t you do something that makes her feel special?
Come on, buddy. Don’t be so uncreative. There are dozens (no, millions) of things you can do to make a woman feel special. Most guys are boring beyond belief. All they say is “you look beautiful” and that’s it. You can do better than that.
Here are some ideas:
Most guys don’t tell a girl that they appreciate her intelligence and sense of humor. Say it to a girl and she’ll be amazed. Most guys don’t take a girl climbing, to the park, or on a boat tour on the first date. It’s too much work.
Make an effort and you’ll be the one who charms her.
8. Respond in a Cheeky Way
Men who know how to be charming with girls are cheeky.
And I’m not just talking about your smile. Of course, a cheeky smile is a necessary ingredient to bake a charm cake. But there’s more to it. It’s also about the way you respond. A lot of guys respond in a way that’s anything but attractive.
Follow these simple three steps and every woman you meet will put you in the friend zone. No, that’s not what you want. You want to be in the lover or boyfriend zone. That’s why you need to respond in a different way.
Here’s an example:
Let’s say a woman say “I think you’re player.”
- How does Bernhard the friendzoned beta male react?
- “I’m not a player! I’m a good guy. I don’t just want sex.”
- How does Adam the charming alpha male react?
- “I can’t deny that I want to play the game with you. Can you catch a ball?”
You already know which one of these two guys gets her in bed.
9. Be Sexual Right After Being Romantic
That’s one of my personal tricks.
Don’t ask me why it works. I have no scientific data to prove it. All I can offer you is my year-long experience with women. In my experience, being ONLY romantic can make you look needy. That’s the last thing you want.
Remember what the typical nice guy does?
Yes, you can. You just have to add a little bonus at the end. Say nice things and bring her the box of chocolate. Then you lean in and whisper something in her ear.
“I’m going to eat the chocolate off your body…”
That’s the moment she realizes that you are not the right guy for the friend zone. She doesn’t admit it, but she’s already wet. Nobody has ever done that before (remember, the effect of being special). You are special because you are sexual right after being romantic.
Will she pretend to be offended?
Maybe. Look into her eyes and you’ll know what she really feels.
10. Find Something You Have in Common
We like people who are like us.
Human beings are more likely to be attracted to someone who has the same level of education, the same beliefs and values, and the same humor. Heck, there are even studies that prove that we like people who look like us.
We are weirdos who like our own genes.
Mhh…maybe my baby face is the reason why I’m so attracted to Asian women. Anyway, you can use this principle when it comes to being charming to women. Be a bit like her and she’ll like you more. But don’t worry. That doesn’t mean that you have to walk and talk like a woman.
Here’s what it means:
Just don’t tell her that you’re attracted to her because she looks just like you. It might be true, but it’s a bit creepy.
11. Do Things Old-School Gentlemen Do
What do gentlemen do?
They do all the things young men consider redundant or weird:
Not every girl wants an ignorant Jersey Shore (or Gordie Shore) douchebag who doesn’t give a shit about anything. Believe it or not, but a lot of women are into old-school gentlemen…at least the women I’m attracted to.
Do you like beautiful, smart, and educated girls?
Those are the women who appreciate gentlemen.
As a gentleman, you know how to be charming with women because you do things to make them feel comfortable. When a woman feels comfortable around you, she feels more comfortable to say “hello” to your bedroom.
12. Take Her to the Most Charming Places
Can you charm a woman in a dirty toilet?
Okay, maybe if you’re George Clooney and she’s pissed drunk. But any other man fails at this attempt. Oh, and good luck trying to do it in a bar that smells as if the windows haven’t been opened since 1934. That’s not going to work either.
You need the right atmosphere.
That’s the right environment to charm a woman out of her pants. Think about a place that’s warm, cozy, and that makes you feel at peace. That’s the kind of place you want to be with her. That’s where you want to seduce her.
Summed Up Wisdom
You want to know how to be charming with women. And I’m here to tell you that you just have to be like George Clooney or Ryan Gosling. Well, that’s easy, right? Before you give up, I want you to know that it’s easier than you think. Being playful and smiling in an authentic way can be enough.
Don’t forget to use the right words. You don’t want to talk about the past and you don’t want to use negative words. Make her imagine a bright future with you and talk with a slow and deep voice. That’s what makes women weak.
What if she asks you a question? Respond in a cheeky way. And don’t forget to be sexual right after being romantic. It works like a charm. Now that she’s aroused, you can find something you have in common and talk about it on the way out. What if it’s cold outside? Be a gentleman and give her your jacket while you leave the romantic first date venue.