You want to be a good guy and not a nice guy, right?
Then you need the following survival kit:
That’s exactly what you need to stop being her friend, therapist, and tissue paper. But wait. You want to become an amazing man. You don’t want to be a gigantic asshole who hates women and who is hated by women. Believe me. You don’t.
What if being bad is not the solution for being too nice?
I really want you to understand this:
Wind can make a bird fly, but a tornado can kill it. What does this poetic gibberish tell you? It tells you that being a bad boy, an asshole, and a jerk is NOT the answer to “you’re such a nice guy, but”. A lot of guys take this elixir and find out that it’s nothing but poison.
You can be a good guy and yes, you can…
Here’s how you can be all these things and get the girl of your dreams…
How to Be a Good Guy and Not a Nice Guy (My Journey)
Why did I tell you about the bird, the wind and the tornado?
Well, because I’ve made this mistake in the past. I went from one extreme to the other. Have you ever met a guy who turned from being disrespected into being disrespectful? I was that guy. My frustration had reached an all-time high. I snapped.
Eventually, I made a pact with the dark side and transformed into Darth Harris…
“You’re such a nice guy, but…”
These words…I never wanted to hear them again. I promised myself that the days of being a pushover were officially over. I no longer wanted to be what I was my whole life. That’s why I turned to the dark side.
That’s why I did what I would soon regret.
My rage left me blind to the fact that being a good guy is the answer I was looking for.
I wish I had realized it sooner…
1. Good Guys are Friendly. Nice Guys are Nice
Yes, you should be friendly.
I know. It’s shocking…no, mind-blowing. Most recovering nice guys don’t believe me when I say this. They think that being friendly is the core of the problem. But it’s not. There’s nothing wrong with being a respectful guy who has manners.
“But Sebastian, I’m way too friendly. That’s why women reject me.”
Nope, that’s why you think women reject you. I give compliments, I open doors, and I ask women if they’re alright. All these things are friendly. However, I don’t fake niceness. There’s a big difference between being these two qualities.
Have a look at the following nice things:
These are things nice guys do. A friendly guy, however, is only friendly when she deserves his friendliness. He doesn’t fake it. He stays away from women who don’t deserve this positive quality.
2. Good Guys are Honest. Nice Guys are Lying
Here’s what I believe:
In order to be a good guy, you have to be honest.
Nothing distinguishes nice guys and good guys more than their attitude towards honesty. But don’t get me wrong. Being honest is not easy. According to recent studies, most people lie at least once a day. I try my best, but every now and then I fail.
Nobody is always honest, but nice guys are never honest.
“Yeah, I’d love to fix your laptop. I like to help.”
No, you don’t. You’d like to stick you pee pee in her vagee gee. That’s what you want. You don’t give a shit about her goddamn laptop. All you want is to make her your girlfriend. That’s why you agree to fix her laptop in the first place.
Nice guys are sneaky little liars.
“You can ask your friend Pete to fix your laptop. I’m not good at this. But I’d love to take you out on Sunday.”
That’s what a good guy says.
3. Good Guys Have a Dick. Nice Guys Hide Their Dick
Imagine you meet this girl…
One of your friends introduces you to her. She’s new in town. She has a beautiful face, soft skin, and nice C-cups. Her body looks delicious. Her breasts bounce up and down whenever she laughs. And her ass wiggles from side to side when she walks.
Let me ask you something:
Do you want to sleep with this woman?
Of course, the answer is a loud “hell yeah!”
Now let me ask you another question:
Will you let her know that you want to sleep with her?
A nice guy hides his dick. He doesn’t reveal his intent. He doesn’t let her know that he’s attracted to her. Oh God no. That would be too risky. Instead, he plays it safe and continues to pretend to be her good friend.
What about the good guy?
He’s friendly, respectful, and he lets her know that he’s attracted to her.
4. Good Guys Like Women. Nice Guys Hate Women
Nice guys always complain about “these jerks”.
Nice guys ARE even worse. A jerk, or asshole, or however you want to call him doesn’t like women. He’s at least honest about his attitude. A nice guy, on the other hand, pretends to like women. But deep down, he despises and fears them.
Seriously, that’s what nice guys do.
Do you really think the so-called male friends of hot girls care about them?
Hell no! They want to fuck them. That’s why they are their friends. Every girl knows that. Remember what I always say about women. They can feel when a guy hates women. Believe me. Women know what’s going on.
If you don’t believe me, maybe you believe these ladies…
A man who learned how to be a good guy has nothing to hide. That’s why he has nothing to fear.
No fear, no hate.
5. Good Guys Value Women. Nice Guys Overvalue Women
I believe in equality.
Nope, I’m not a male feminist. I don’t believe in the gender pay gap, I don’t believe that men and women are the same, and I also don’t believe in the evil patriarchy. Yes, men and women are different. But that doesn’t mean that one is better than the other.
Here’s what I don’t do:
I don’t devalue women because I’m not a misogynist. But I also don’t overvalue women because I’m not a nice guy. Instead, I appreciate the differences between women and men because these differences are necessary to create sexual tension and attraction.
Now think about what nice guys do.
They put women on a pedestal that’s higher than the Empire State Building. They behave as if she’s a perfect princess. That’s why they hide their truth. They are afraid of the flawless glitter-shitting creature they think she is.
She’s everything the nice guys is not (in his mind) and that’s why he continues to devalue himself.
6. Good Guys Follow Their Path. Nice Guys Follow Her Path
This is a deadly trap.
Don’t ever…and I repeat…don’t ever change your path for a woman. Learning how to be a good guy is about following your path. And yes, sometimes you have to say “goodbye” to a woman to stay on your path. If that’s necessary, do it.
A Global Seducer follows his path, no matter what…
Here’s what a nice guy does:
You need to understand this:
Women don’t want to date followers. They want to date leaders who follow their own path.
7. Good Guys Care about Her. Nice Guys Care About Her Approval
I care about the women I date.
And no, that’s not just an empty statement. I’m not a white knight and a lot of the things I do are morally questionable. Nevertheless, I care about the women who open their heart and their gates for men. I really do.
Today, the girl I’m dating told me she’s tired.
Nice guys do the same. But they don’t do it because they care. They only care about one thing and that’s her approval. They pretend to care to make themselves feel special. It’s never about her. It’s all about a sweet ego boost and a tap on the shoulder.
Caring about a person is not the same as caring about a person’s approval.
Guys who learned how to be a good guy care about the women they’re with and nice guys desperately want to be with the women they apparently care about.
8. Good Guys Can Be Serious. Nice Guys Explode
Good guys are friendly.
Does that mean that they put up with everything?
No, it doesn’t. Just because you’re friendly doesn’t mean that you’re a pushover. Let’s say a good guy is on a date with a disrespectful girl. She behaves like a five-year-old child. He doesn’t give her a compliment. He tells her to stop acting like a spoiled brat.
Let’s have a look at the nice guy:
He can’t be serious. Whenever she misbehaves, he smiles. He pretends as if nothing was wrong. What if she tells him that he’s so nice? He smiles and says “thanks.” What if she’s disrespectful? He allows her to be disrespectful.
He plays this game until the boiling point is reached…
He explodes. He can’t take it anymore. Enough! Not once has he been serious, but now he shows his true colors. The rage is terrible and the explosion is loud. She’s shocked because, well, he’s always been so nice.
That’s when she misses the serious good guy the most.
9. Good Guys Know They’re Worthy. Nice Guys Assume They’re Unworthy
I want you to understand that you’re worthy.
Do you believe these things about yourself?
If the answer is “yes”, you’re a good guy. If the answer is “no”, you might suffer from nice guy syndrome. Learning how to be a good guy is about realizing that you are a worthy man. You deserve beautiful women in your life.
Nice guys don’t think like that.
They believe that they are unworthy. That’s why they would never reveal their intent. They say to themselves “she’s out of my league” or “no woman wants a man like me”. Their mind is their biggest enemy on the path to a better dating life.
They feel unworthy and women can smell it.
10. Good Guys Fix Themselves. Nice Guys Try to Fix Her
Have you ever been in this situation?
You know this girl. You’re her friend. One day she knocks on your door. Tears are running down her face. You are shocked and she starts talking. She met this guy. He banged her and did something terrible. I don’t know. Maybe he shared her naked pics with friends.
“I would never do something like that!” you say.
“I wish I could find a guy like you.” she answers.
Ouch…that hurts. It hurts because you did everything for her.
And now this…
Here’s what a man who learned how to be a good guy would do in this situation: He stops fixing her, her life, and her stuff. Instead, he fixes himself. He does everything in his power to improve and to become the type of man women want.
Summed Up Wisdom
Do you want to know how to be a good guy and not a nice guy? Then stop agreeing with everything she says and for God’s sake, don’t agree with her when you disagree. Oh, and stop the lying. Nice guys lie about their intent and about the way they feel about girls. Please don’t do that.
Instead, be honest. Let her know that you are attracted to her. You deserve an attractive woman and she deserves a man who has the balls to admit his attraction for her. That’s the path of the Global Seducer. Speaking of your path…don’t change it because of a woman.
What do you really think about her? In case you’re a good guy, you care about her. In case you’re the opposite, you only pretend to care about her. These are the guys who are always happy and who always smile…until they explode. You don’t put her on a pedestal. You don’t devalue her, but you also don’t see the perfect angel she isn’t. You are realistic and you know that you are worthy of her.