How to Ask a Girl to Sleep with You (13 Questions)

You want to know how to ask a girl to sleep with you.

That’s great. There’s just one tiny problem…

You can’t just ask her.

Sorry, but that’s not how it works. I know. It would be so amazing if it worked. In a perfect world you could walk up to a beautiful woman and ask her “do you want to have sex with me?” Unfortunately, we don’t live in a perfect world.

It’s not so much that women are getting judged from other men. That’s not the biggest issue. The biggest problem is that other women judge them way more.

Here’s what you need to do:

I’ve tried to be very direct and I failed. I approached girls with naughty offers. It doesn’t work…unless she stumbles out of a club, completely intoxicated. And believe me. You don’t want her to puke on you while she’s on top.

Have a look at what I found out…

How to Ask a Girl to Sleep with You WITHOUT Mentioning Sex  

Did I just tell you that I tried the naughty offer?

Yup! Believe it or not, but I was the creepy guy who ran around and asked girls the following question…

I tried it because I wanted to challenge myself. I also did it because it helped me to crush my ego and to skyrocket my confidence.

What about the results?

Don’t ask. It was embarrassing. I didn’t even ask 100 girls. I stopped after rejection number 43. I gave up. Or let’s say I changed my strategy. I stopped asking myself how to ask a girl to sleep with me. Then I changed my focus.

Instead of asking THE question, I asked THE RIGHT questions.

None of the questions I asked girls contained the word “sex”. Okay, some of them did. But they were still comparatively innocent. Nevertheless, these questions led to 100x better results and more kinky nights of pleasure than asking a girl “do you want to sleep with me?”

Here are the questions I asked women I wanted to sleep with…

1. Why Don’t We Go to My Place for One More Drink?  

Imagine you’re at the bar.

You see this incredibly beautiful girl. She’s stunning and her signals scream “approach me”. You walk over and start a conversation with her. You ask her questions and she smiles whenever she gives you an answer.

Everything works according to plan.

You want to get her number, but there’s something you want even more. You want to sleep with her. That’s why you want to ask her if she wants the same. Right before you open your mouth, you remember this article about how to ask a girl to sleep with you.

You change your question. Here’s what you ask her:

“Why don’t we go to my place for one more drink?”

She smiles and says “but I can only stay a couple of minutes. I have to wake up early tomorrow”. You smile because you know that it will only take a couple of minutes to get her out of her clothes. She’ll stay the whole night.

2. What’s Your Craziest Experience?

This is an amazing question.

Whenever you ask a woman about her craziest experience, you’re one step closer to her warm and wet palace. There’s something about this question that makes it way more effective than simply asking a girl to sleep with you.

Here’s why:

You can bet your behind that her craziest experience is not safe for work. Heck, there’s a high chance that she’ll lie to you. And that’s okay. She might tell you that climbing a rock was her craziest experience because she doesn’t want you to know about this one time where she had sex under the shower with a guy she had just met.  

She’s a good girl, you know.

Maybe she lies to you. Maybe she doesn’t. What really matters is that you help her to remember the sounds, smells, and emotions of her craziest experience. Once she’s in this state of mind, she’s much more likely to want to re-experience this incredible moment.

3. What Do You Like to Do for Fun? 

This question is pretty innocent, but it can be very powerful if you take it to the next level.

Here’s what I mean:

The question itself doesn’t have a huge impact. I mean, she won’t tell you that she likes rough sex when you ask her this question the very first time. That’s not how it works. She’ll say something along the lines of…

Smile at her innocent answer.

Why smile?

Because you know that it’s only the tip of the iceberg!

You want to know what’s hidden underneath her socially acceptable answer. You want to know the things she really likes to do for fun. The question “what do you like to do for fun?” is the perfect first step. It allows you to transition to more kinky questions.

The sky is the limit. Ask whatever you want to know. And don’t forget to ask her if she prefers coffee or hot chocolate…

4. Do You Like Coffee or Hot Chocolate?

I have to give credit where credit is due.

This time, the credit goes to Sasha Daygame. As you might or might not know, Sasha was my first mentor and coach. I took a bootcamp with him and on the second day of the bootcamp, he introduced me to his coffee or hot chocolate game. Or was it coffee or tea. I don’t remember.

I use this game in some form or another ever since.

Here’s how it works:

Continue to ask her “do you like X or Y” type of questions and increase the sexual tension with each question. Your goal is to get her from coffee or hot chocolate to rough sex or vanilla sex.

It’s easier than it sounds.

Women love to play games. As a man who wants to know how to ask a girl to sleep with you, you should use the power of games.

5. What If You Knew You Would Die Tomorrow?

This is a freaking powerful question.

It sounds like a question that Tony Robbins or Oprah would ask their audience. It doesn’t sound like a question that leads to sex. But it does. Heck, I used this question dozens of times…with a lot of success.

Here are some reasons why it works:

But you have to be careful. The right timing is absolutely crucial. You don’t want her to ask this question while she’s climbing a wall on your first date. She’ll think about falling off the climbing wall.

Here are some situations where this question can make her want to sleep with you:

These are the perfect moments. Make sure that she has the best night of her life before her days are over.  

6. Why Don’t We Meet for a Drink Tonight at 9PM? 

There’s a reason why this question can get you laid faster than an overnight delivery of an inflatable sex doll. And no, it has nothing to do with the drink. The fact that you ask her to meet you for a drink is completely irrelevant.

Here’s what’s way more important:

It’s happening at or after 9PM.

Whenever I asked a girl to meet me for a drink ADTER 9PM, it was a done deal. I don’t have any scientific explanation for that. Oh, wait. I do. Apparently, sleep deprivation lowers inhibition and enhances impulsivity.

All I can say is that women are much more ready to jump in bed with you when you meet them after 9PM. That’s the reason why it’s good to meet her as late as possible.

What about 11PM for a quick drink at the bar?

Even better! Go for it!

I know. This little trick is sneaky as hell. But you want to know how to ask a girl to sleep with you, so don’t complain.

7. What Would You Do If I Did This?  

Are you bold enough for this move?

Sometimes, girls show you when they want you to make a move. In fact, they do it all the time. Unfortunately, most men are blind to the obvious signals. But you aren’t because you’re a Global Seducer.

It’s time to kiss her. Or maybe it’s too soon. You’re not 100% sure and you know that asking her “can I kiss you?” destroys the sexual tension. Instead, you ask her another question. You prepare her for one second…then you take action.  

What if she doesn’t reciprocate your kiss because it’s too soon for her?

Make fun of this awkward situation. Say that you warned her and say it with a smile. Heck, you can even tell her that you are still waiting for the right answer.

Try it again in ten minutes. She’ll give the right answer.  

8. Why Don’t You Come Over and We Watch a Movie? 

Yep, the good old Netflix and Chill move.

Okay, back when I was young, we called it the DVD night. Believe it or not, but there was a time when you had to put something that looks like a CD in a slot in your laptop to watch a movie. Streaming wasn’t as fast as it is today.

I’m getting old.

But the question “why don’t you come over and we watch a movie?” doesn’t get old. It’s still effective, even though it’s not the perfect question to ask at the end of the first date because it’s waaay too obvious.

Thanks Tinder!

It’s way better to ask this question after the first date. Watching a movie is great for a second date because now she’s ready to give you more than a kiss.

What if she agrees?

She’ll definitely sleep with you.

9. I Heard That Women Like to Be Dominant in Bed. Is that True? 

This is another question for a bold guy like you. 

In case you don’t have the balls to ask this question or you are not sue if she’s attracted enough to give you a satisfying answer, you should check out my book Rise of the Phoenix. Read it and you can ask girls anything you want. 

What if you’re sure that she’s into you?

Ask her the following question and see what happens:

“I heard that women like to be dominated in bed. Is that true?

Of course, you can use different variations of this question. You can say that you heard that women are into long foreplay, into oral sex, or into blindfolding. As long as it’s a kinky question, she’ll give a kinky answer.

Heck, even if she beats around the bush…the images are in her head.

10. What Makes You Different Than Other Beautiful Girls?

This will make her furious.

But don’t worry. She won’t be pissed at you. She’ll be furious because you’re the first man she meets who questions her value. Everyone else treats her like a goddess because she’s attractive. You’re a man with standards. You want more.

You want to know what else she has to offer.

Ask her “what makes you different than other beautiful girls?” and see what happens.

I don’t know why, but more often than not, this question leads to sex…at least in my experience. It shows that you have the balls to demand more than beauty. And it gives her the feeling that you are ready to walk away at any minute. That’s why it’s so powerful.

11. What Would You Have Done in My Situation?

I already revealed the power of sexual innuendos in other articles.

Today I want to show you how to use them with one final question that can drastically improve your chances of getting laid. It’s really simple and it works like a charm. Sexual innuendos are ammunition for a man who wants to know how to ask a girl to sleep with you.

You just have to tell her an exciting story that’s full of sexual innuendos.

Let me give you an example:

Come on. You can turn this information into an interesting story. And even if you can’t, it doesn’t matter. She’ll only hear hot, naked, and wet. She won’t be able to remember any detail of the story.

Now that she’s turned on, it’s time to ask the following question:

“What would you have done in my situation?”

Here’s why this type of question is so good at making her want to sleep with you:

She imagines herself as the main character of the story. Suddenly, she thinks about herself as hot, naked, and wet. She’s already in your bed…at least in her imagination.

12. Why Don’t You Come Back to My Place for 5 Minutes? 

What do you think is more important…”come back to my place” or “5 minutes”? 

A beginner would say that the part where you ask her to come back to your place is the most important part of the question. A master seducer knows that the questions won’t get you laid unless it contains the 5 minutes at the end.

Here’s why:

Most girls say no when you ask them to come back to your place. She doesn’t decline because she hates you. She does it because she doesn’t want to be the easy girl. She’s afraid to be judged. Unfortunately, a lot of men do exactly that.

You are better than that.

You add “5 minutes” at the end of the question because you know one thing. You know that she needs this little add-on to say “yes “ to your offer. Why? Well, because 5 minutes are not enough time to have sex.

Now she’s no longer the bad girl.

She’ll follow you…even though, or let’s say especially because she knows what will happen once you are in your apartment.

13. Do You Want to Come Over and Talk?  

Imagine you are texting this girl.

It’s almost midnight. She doesn’t live far away from you, but you’re tired. You want to sleep. Wait, don’t go to bed yet. You want to know how to ask a girl to sleep with you, right? Then you need to know the following secret.

She’ll come over, but only if you give her an innocent reason.

An innocent conversation is all you’re asking for. You know that the innocent conversation will turn into something naughty and fun. She knows it too.

It’s past midnight and she’s lonely.

She needs someone to talk, to snuggle up to, and to sleep with.

She needs a man who knows these secrets.

Summed Up Wisdom 

You want to know how to ask a girl to sleep with you. It all starts in your mind. Change your mindset and your approach. Then ask her a question. No, don’t ask her “do you want to have sex with me?” Sorry, but that’s not how it works.

Instead, you ask her questions that inevitably lead to sex. That’s the art of seduction. You don’t scare her away. You give her a little push that makes her want to sleep with you. There are different paths that lead her in your bedroom.

You can ask her to come over to talk and you can tell her that she has to go after five minutes. You can share stories. And you can invite her to a bar after 9PM. Feel free to test a few of the questions I shared with you in this article. Now you know how to ask a girl to sleep with you.