Listen while you read…
How do you feel when you wake up in the morning?
Do you feel energetic and excited, or do you feel tired, frustrated and exhausted before you even get out of your bed? In case you don’t even want to get out of bed you should ask yourself if the life you are currently living is actually the life you really want to live.
How do you feel when you walk out of you apartment?
Do you feel confident in your own skin and do you feel ready for the challenges that this day has to offer? Maybe you don’t even know how it feels to be confident and you walk out of your apartment with a burning feeling in your chest and the desire to vomit in the fact of the first person you have to say hello to. Maybe you should work on your confidence and make sure that today is the last day that you feel like a miserable piece of shit while you are leaving your apartment.
How do you feel when you see a beautiful woman on the way to work?
Do you feel thankful that the universe presented you such a perfect opportunity to meet a gorgeous, interesting and sexually frustrated woman so early in the morning, or do you curse God for being so brutal to let a woman walk towards you who is completely out of your league. Maybe you should ask yourself why you even believe in the concept of leagues and if this is a beneficial mindset or not.
How do you feel the moment she walks past you?
Do you feel excited and enthusiastic before you approach her, or do you feel intimidated and paralyzed after she already walked past you? It is on you if you want to continue feeling paralyzed and helpless in the presence of women for the rest of your life or if you want to do something about it.
How do you feel when you are talking to the attractive secretary of your boss while you are waiting for him in his office?
Do you feel relaxed and do you tell her that she looks beautiful today, or do you get nervous talking to such a beautiful woman like her? In case you can’t even imagine giving her a compliment without starting to sweat like a pig, you might finally want to expand your comfort zone and overcome your fears. Today is a good day to make her day, don’t you think so?
How do you feel when your boss comes in and sees how you talk to his secretary?
Are you confident enough to continue with your compliments or do you immediately stop talking to her because you don’t want to appear like a pervert for telling a woman that she is beautiful? If you really hope that he didn’t see you talking to her, you might as well hope that your dick will fall off over nigh. You won’t need it anyway.
How do you feel when you leave your office and see a happy couple on the way back to your apartment?
Do you feel happy for them, or are you jealous and do you start to hate yourself for not having the same “luck” as that guy? Maybe you should rethink your definition of “luck” and start to work on yourself, so that you will also end up “lucky”.
How do you feel when you arrive at your apartment?
Do you feel happy that you now have time to go on a date or at least to answer all the messages on your online dating profile, or do you feel lonely and scared to unlock a door behind which nobody is waiting for you? Maybe you should ask yourself why nobody is waiting for you and what you can do to change this condition.
How do you feel when you are going to the gym in the evening?
Do you enjoy flirting with the hot blond girl who asked you how many sets you have left, or do you just look at her awestruck, before you stand up without even saying a word? Maybe you should start to think about why you don’t even have the balls to look a woman in the eyes just because she wears tight pants and has a pretty face.
How do you feel when you meet a friend at the bar after you have finished your workout?
Do you feel excited to be in an environment that is packed with beautiful women? Do you feel ready to approach and seduce a girl who will spend the weekend with you? Maybe you don’t even dare to look at a woman, because the thought of approaching her, while your friend witnesses how you get rejected, makes your whole body shiver. If this is true you should ask yourself why you even care about what your friend or anyone else thinks of you when you would approach a woman who could be your future girlfriend.
How do you feel when you are about to go to bed alone…just like every night?
Do you have the feeling that the next day could be better than today and that you are finally ready for a change, or do you have the feeling that things will stay as they are and you won’t change anything in your life?
How will you feel on your deathbed?
Will you have the feeling that you seduced the women you wanted to seduce, experienced the adventures that you wanted to experience and did the things that you wanted to do, or will you have the feeling that you lived a life that was not worth living? In case you are afraid of living a life that is not worth living, you should start to change your life in a way that makes it worth living.
Hey Bob,
It’s never too late. Feel free to shoot me an email if you have any specific questions.
Hi Sebastian, I’m reading a bunch of your articles – they are really great, especially the one on introverts – but I can’t change my mindset. I feel kinda trapped.
I really can’t imagine a girl getting interested in me…let’s say I’m a bit late with “my schedule” in life, and I can’t forgive myself and wrap my mind about it. I know I have a severe self-confidence problem linked to my disastrous previous experiences with girls (I’m 27 and I never had a girlfriend, just dates).
Is seeing a shrink the only solution? Thanks in advance.
thanks a lot!
This article is a masterpiece…nothing less !