Have you ever thought about going to a brothel for personal growth?
I am pretty sure you haven’t.
Actually, I am 100% convinced that you have never thought about personal development and visiting a brothel as something that can be closely related. In case you are just about to close this page because you think that I am insane for linking your personal growth to a room full of prostitutes, I want you to bear with me for a couple of seconds.
As you probably know my advice is far from the classic “bring her flowers” and “be nice and polite” advice that the mainstream media is feeding you with big spoons that force you to swallow it up. Yes, my advice might be politically incorrect, but it is field-tested and the emails I get are proving that it works.
I don’t say this to brag. I say it because you need to be open-minded for politically incorrect advice that nobody else has ever shared with you, if you want to fully understand and successfully implement the stuff that I am going to share with you in the following lines.
When somebody would have said to me a couple of years ago that I should go to a brothel to grow on a personal level, to lose my fears and to improve my skills with women, I would have laughed in his face.
Today I would say “yep, that’s a great idea!”
Please don’t get me wrong. The idea is not to bang a couple of hoes in a shady brothel. I have already mentioned in other articles that I have never paid for sex, even though the thought of trying it out is quite tempting. The last thing I want is to transform you from a life-affirming Global Seducer into a desperate sex tourist.
The goal is NOT to have sex with prostitutes.
Nope, that’s not why you are going there.
The goal is to make use of a room that is packed with naked girls who can teach you a thing or two…and I am not talking about sex.
When You Should Not Go to a Brothel
Yes, despite what probably anyone else would ever tell you, going to a brothel can actually help you to become a better man and a better seducer. However, there are situations in which you should first work on other things, before you put the advice from this article into practice.
There are two situations in which surrounding yourself with money-hungry prostitutes, who are very skillful in convincing you to pull out your wallet, is actually a bad idea. Let’s have a look at the two situations in which one sexy hooker can be enough for you to stray from the right path.
You Want to Lose Your Virginity
I recently had a very interesting conversation in the comment section of one of my articles. One of my readers is struggling with the fact that he is a virgin and he asked me whether or not it would be a good idea to lose your virginity to a prostitute.
To be honest, he was not the first guy who asked me this. I already received two emails from guys who were in the same situation and who were struggling with the exact same decision. You just have to type “lose virginity with a prostitute” into Google and you will see that a lot of male virgins are considering this move.
When I think back to the time when I was a virgin, I remember that I also thought about it. This guy did it:
Today I am happy that I didn’t do it.
Here’s why:
Your first sexual experience with a woman will be one of your most powerful reference experiences. Even though my first time was awkward and weird, it still gave me a lot of confidence in myself and in my ability as a seducer.
The moment I put my penis in a vagina for the first time, 90% of my remaining limiting beliefs went up in smoke.
I felt like a man. I felt like a conqueror, I felt like a seducer. I felt like a man who had what it takes to get a woman into bed WITHOUT paying for it.
The 55 seconds you enjoy in the first girl who allows you to take her panties off because she wants it and not because you paid her 50 bucks, are incredibly rewarding. It’s like kerosene for your self-confidence.
In this moment you have the proof that you can seduce a woman, so why shouldn’t you be able to do it again?
You know that you can do it again and you will do it again.
What do you feel and remember when you lose your virginity to a hooker?
You remember that you paid a woman to sleep with you who wouldn’t have slept with you if it wasn’t for your money. You don’t remember any conquest, seduction or achievement. All you remember is a transaction.
Most importantly, you know that you still can’t get laid without paying for it and that you won’t be able to replicate this experience with a girl who actually wants to sleep with you.
Think twice before you lose your virginity to a hooker and please share your opinion or experiences in the comments below.
You Want the Easy Way Out
Let’s assume you have already lost your virginity. You have had your first kiss when you were drunk at a party, you had your first time with an average-looking girl who was horny and bored and you survived two toxic relationships. You had some success with women, partly because of luck and partly because of your willingness to lower your standards.
You have been through the same stuff that a lot of guys have been through.
One day you sit alone in your apartment and think about how it would be to be able to approach every woman you want to talk to, no matter how beautiful she is. You think about how it would be to have a healthy and fulfilling relationship and how it would feel to sleep with a woman who doesn’t call McDonalds her second home.
You type “how to pick up girls” into Google and destiny leads you directly to my site. You are excited and you start to read one of my articles.
“That article has over 2000 words. I am too lazy to read all that stuff…”
You click on the link that says “My Book” and you scroll down the page.
“More than 160 pages and additional bonus products for $13 bucks…that’s awesome! But wait a minute. I don’t have the time to read that and I could spend the $13 on alcohol or fast food.”
You like my site and the few lines you read were quite interesting. You have all you need to succeed with women handed to you on a silver platter, but you are too lazy to read, too lazy to work on yourself and too lazy to live an amazing life.
Instead of investing $13 in a book that has the potential to change your life, you “invest” $100 in ten minutes of sex with a prostitute.
Congratulations! You successfully sabotaged your success with women.
“Reading a book and approaching women? Fuck that! I rather watch porn and pay 100 bucks for a fuck”
In case you just recognized yourself it is on you if you decide to take the easy way out, or if you are willing to put in some effort to improve your life.
You can either spend a couple of hundred bucks each month to get laid with girls who don’t give you the love and admiration you crave for, or you can stop being such a lazy bastard. The choice is yours.
When You Should Grow and Learn in a Brothel
What if you have already lost your virginity and you are motivated to improve your dating and sex life, no matter what it takes?
Then you are ready to…
- Lose your fears
- Improve your Flirting skills
- Increase your sexual confidence
- Learn more about yourself than ever before.
Yep, that’s what one visit in a brothel can do for you.
Hey, I just asked you if you are willing to improve your dating and sex life, no matter what it takes. The direct translation for “no matter what it takes” is “ignore the social stigma and surround yourself with beautiful naked women who suck and fuck for a living”.
You Want to Lose Your Fear of Women
One of the noblest goals you can have as an aspiring seducer is the goal to lose your fear of women. I think you agree with me when I say that attracting and seducing women is simply not possible when you are afraid to talk to them or to even look at them.
Without beta-blockers and a cardiac pacemaker you won’t survive your career as a seducer when you suffer from a paralyzing fear of women. You absolutely have to overcome this fear. There is really no way around it.
There is really nothing you have to be afraid of, unless…
Believe it or not, but going to a brothel can provide you with the necessary environment and experiences that you need in order to overcome your fear of women.
I share my own experiences about how I felt when I was surrounded by ten naked women who literally jumped on me in this article.
You Want to Increase Your Sexual Confidence
Now you know that the hours I spent in a so-called sauna club (in Germany we call them FKK club) helped me immensely to overcome my fear of women. After the tenth naked beauty walked up to me, sat next to me and pressed her boobs against my face, my fear of women, no matter if naked or fully dressed, was gone.
I got rid of a deep-rooted fear by using the exposure therapy (I am a huge proponent of this method). During this process that took less than a couple of hours I somehow felt more and more confident with every minute I spent with all those beautiful ladies.
I was still nervous. To be honest, my heart started to beat like crazy whenever a new girl tried her luck with me. Yes, I was more fearless than I was when I entered the sauna club, but something else had changed.
The more time you spend in a brothel, especially in a one where every girl walks around naked and every guest walks around with nothing but a tiny towel, the more confident you will be with your own sexuality.
It is really weird and difficult to describe to someone who has never done it, but when you are in a room with naked women and half-naked men, you suddenly regard your own sexuality and female sexuality as something completely normal.
You are naked, they are naked and nobody is weird about it.
Just a normal day in your normal new reality
For someone like me, who was always afraid of getting intimate with a girl, this was a revelation. For years I was afraid of getting naked in front of a beautiful woman and scared of the powerful impact that a naked female body could have on me (e.g. sexual performance anxiety). Suddenly, the doubt and insecurities were gone.
You will see so many naked women in one day that being surrounded by them, sitting next to them and even touching them, will be completely normal for you. The impact this has on your sexual confidence is indescribable.
You Want to Practice Your Flirting Skills
What has a successful seducer and a successful prostitute in common?
They both know how to flirt.
She knows how to flirt. Do you?
When I visited a brothel for the first time I had already read hundreds of articles and dozens of books about dating and flirting. I was convinced that I had excellent flirting skills.
Well, next to those girls I looked like a greenhorn who just learned to speak. The flirting skills of those ladies were outstanding. Seriously, if I ever make a seminar about flirting I will invite a prostitute as a female coach.
If they wouldn’t be professional seductresses with excellent flirting techniques, they wouldn’t earn a lot of money. You can learn a lot about flirting and female sex signals when you are receptive to their flirting attempts.
Just imagine that you are on a normal date (in a nudist camp). Become aware at how she wraps you around her finger and how you react. You just have to make sure that you are not too receptive. When you end up with your tongue in her mouth and your finger in her vagina, you have to pay.
You Want to Test the Lavish Playboy Lifestyle
Don’t we all just want to live a lavish playboy lifestyle?
I mean, there is no doubt that a horde of hot loyal girls aka high class escorts, a private jet and ten Lamborghinis is the path to happiness. That’s at least what a lot of us believe. Become the second Dan Bilzerian and your life will be one big party (except the three times you nearly die of a heart attack).
Besides overcoming your fears, becoming sexually confident and improving your flirting skills, going to a brothel taught me a lot about myself, my preferences and my goals in life. Before I visited a brothel I looked at Dan Bilzerian’s Instagram account with envy. Today I look at it without any negative feelings.
Maybe because I know that they don’t “love” him for his guitar skils.
But what does the Dan Bilzerian lifestyle have to do with visiting a brothel and with your personal growth?
In some way you can compare one day in a high-class sauna club with one day in the life of Dan Bilzerian.
You are in a huge house with a big swimming pool and staff that serves you. In addition to that, you are surrounded by dozens of girls who want to sleep with you because you give them money. It’s basically the same life that some Instagram playboys (pretend to) live every day.
Going to a brothel provides you with the answer to a question that a lot of young men without black credit cards ask themselves:
“Does the lavish playboy lifestyle lead to happiness?”
For me the answer is “no”.
Well, of course it was amazing to be surrounded by beautiful naked women who throw themselves at me. Every man who says that this is not an amazing feeling is a liar. However, as soon as I came to my senses I realized how fake and phony this lifestyle is.
After a while the feeling of “I am the man” turned into “that’s not me”. Being surrounded by girls who are only friendly and flirtatious (and naked) because they want my money is not how I want to live my life.
After this experience I knew that real connections with honest women who want to sleep with me because they are attracted to me and feel good in my presence is what I really want.
How would you feel if the hottest girls wanted to sleep with you WITHOUT wanting money?
Summed Up Wisdom
Going to a brothel to have sex can lead to a high bill for a couple of minutes of fun. Going there for the sake of personal growth can change your life forever. Just don’t go there when you want to lose your virginity and when you are too lazy to invest the time and the effort to seduce women who actually want to sleep with you without getting paid for it. Ignoring those two rules can easily lead you on the wrong path.
In case you have already had at least one sexual experience (dipping doesn’t count) and you are willing to do whatever it takes to improve your dating life, you should visit a brothel. Why? Because you will lose your fear of women, improve your flirting skills and gain a lot of sexual confidence. During this time you’ll also find out if the lavish playboy lifestyle of the Dan Bilzerians of this world is really something you want to pursue.
Good advice.
As someone who lost his virginity at 21 to a prostitute, I feel like I should put it my 2 cents.
One: don’t do it. I felt embarrassed and didn’t want to lose my virginity at 22. In hindsight, that would at least have been better than losing it at 21 to a hooker
Two: for guys who are virgins and insecure, be careful if you go to a brothel. The temptation is going to be great. That’s how I ended up paying for sex
Three: for those that have lost your virginity to a prostitute, don’t despair. No one loves the way they lost their virginity. Instead of beating yourself up about it, realize there are thousands of girls who can look past this. I have, since that experience, dated many beautiful women
Lucky you man
A good age a good age.
In my country women are hard to game so in my situation it was 24.
It depends alot how open or closed are women – girls are to this.
You need a lot of game skills to get through in traditional or religious countries like here in Centre and Eastern Europe.
The women who are poor are looking only for money -> gold diggers as it is in the west known
Hey Michael,
I lost my virginity right before my 19th birthday.
How old you were when you first became a true man in the sense of not being anymore a virgin?
From the first day when you became serious about this thing and started practical approaching or whatever you did how long did it take you to reach your first sexual “conquest”?
Thank you
Danke schon
Hey Derek,
don’t feel guilty about not being able to “perform”. Actually, don’t call it “perform”. That puts too much pressure on you. Go out and approach women and realize that every man (yes, also me) had at least one experience where he couldn’t get it up. That’s normal. The more confident you will become around women, the less you will be afraid of having sex.
Hey Sebastian, I actually visited a brothel last year to get with a hot woman to see if it would help me get on the path to quitting my porn addiction. I’m 29 and have been addicted to porn pretty much since I started masturbating as a teenager. I lost my virginity at an average age at 19 and have had several normal partners since then but have never had a long term sexual relationship and recently over the past few years whenever I would find myself about to have sex I couldn’t perform. I’ve tried quitting so many times and no matter how hard I try I always relapse. My question is would you advise I try to quit porn and better my self esteem before I start approaching women (something I’ve always had anxiety with) and feeling guilty and anxious about the possibility of not performing, or just start approaching women as part of my recovery?
Hey Sono,
when you go in one of the clubs that I described (for example a sauna club in Germany) the entry is either free or it costs about $30. Once you are in you can talk to all the naked women that are in the club and you can even touch them a bit. I’ve never paid for any sexual services in these clubs, so I can’t tell you anything about the prices. But as an exposure therapy it’s worth gold.
I’m a 23 year old kissless virgin. I 100% agree with what you said above about exposure therapy being the right way to reduce fears.
Honestly I just want to touch a woman and to see her body, which means I would not kiss, penetrate or do oral with an escort ( as I want dont want to take any risk), but fingering her, getting a handjob and just a girfriend experience type thing is what I need.
Do the girls go for this kind of stuff and would it be cheaper than straight oral or sex?
Hey Charles,
Thanks buddy. It’s a great way to lose your inhibitions and fears.
Great article Sabastian! For about month 1/2 I thought about going to brothel but talked myself out of it and decided to loss it on my own. Your right about learning a thing or three from women that do it all day (no pun intended…completely). Love your other articles too btw.
Charles
True. Don’t let your biases and negative beliefs hold you back!
A classic example of the False Cause fallacy. Logical fallacies and biases are a huge bitch, but it happens to everyone. I fell prey to a form of bias called Reactance for basically my entire childhood. Don’t let them hold you back man, be all you can be!
Awesome! Let me know if he acts upon your advice 😉
I actually thought 🙂 and advised one friend on a very similar line just a few months back !
Yes you are 28 and not 18, but deep down you know that beign a virgin and not being able to approach women is not correlated at all. Do you have a mouth? Can you walk? Can you talk? You CAN approach women and you CAN change something about your situation. Sorry for the harsh tone, but I want to help you to break free from your own excuses.
I wouldn’t recommend it if you end up in jail 😉
Nice article!would you recommend going to brothel in a country like india where it is banned?
“Your first sexual experience with a woman will be one of your most powerful reference experiences. Even though my first time was awkward and weird, it still gave me a lot of confidence in myself and in my ability as a seducer.”
Yeah, but you were 18 or something. I’m already 28. There is a big difference. I’m just never gonna be able to approach women as a virgin. That’s the problem.