What do you do when your sexual appetite has died?
In case you are in a relationship with a girl for a couple of years, the following situation must sound familiar to you.
Every day when you come home from work she waits for you. She opens the door for you, gives you a kiss that is filled with passion and leads you to the bedroom. Of course she does all of this completely naked. After you entered the bedroom she slowly undresses you and before you get out of your suit she starts to grab your dick.
She gives you an amazing blowjob, before she lies on the bed and spreads her legs for you. She is desperately waiting for you to finally fuck her. All of this happens after you have been together with her for almost three years.
But in case you are really in a long-term monogamous relationship that already lasts for a couple of years, the last time that you have experienced something like that was probably a long time ago.
Even though a lot of men think that getting a girlfriend is the best thing that can happen to them, because this gives them finally the chance to have sex every night, the sex life of a couple who is already together for a long time is usually not that exciting anymore.
Why Your Sexual Appetite Dies
It is no secret that your desire to have sex will eventually fade away the longer you are in a relationship. I don’t say that there aren’t any old couples who are still horny when they see each other naked. However, the chance that you are still hungry for the pussy of a girl you are together with for over a decade is comparably low.
Let’s have a look at the reasons why your lust dies slowly but steadily. I am quite sure that some of them will offend one or two of my readers. But hey, I am not here to tell you what you want to hear. I am here to tell you the truth.
The truth is also that there are reasons for the loss of your sexual appetite that you alone are responsible for.
Besides blaming your girlfriend you still have to do some work and change your lifestyle in a way that naturally increases your sexual appetite.
A big problem in today’s society is that the majority of men and women still believe that monogamy is the number one requirement for a healthy and happy relationship. Well, they are completely wrong.
I would say that monogamy is the number one reason why so many couples are sexually frustrated and why divorce rates are extremely high.
If all the couples who broke up because someone cheated would have allowed each other to have an affair from time to time they would still be together.
I am totally serious about that. I know a lot of old couples who are happily married and who regularly attend swinger parties, because they know that sexual frustration is the number one reason why relationships fail.
Sorry, but wake the fuck up!
Monogamy is a lie. There are only a few human beings on this planet who are able to live in monogamous relationships until the end of their days. Most of them use porn movies and Ashley Madison to be able to live this way. And yes, women also use this technique.
What do you feel when you undress a woman for the first time?
What do you feel when you put your penis in a woman for the first time?
If you tell me that this doesn’t feel exciting and that it isn’t one of the most pleasurable feelings in the world, you are a good liar or you just found out that you are gay.
The first time you sleep with a woman your desire to taste, smell and feel her skin is incredibly high.
What about a few months or even years into the relationship?
The truth is that there will come the point where you have tried everything that you can think of and you rather check your mails than checking her out. This is simply inevitable. At the beginning every position and every new move is exciting and new. After a couple of months you know exactly what buttons you have to push and in what positions you have to fuck her in order to make her cum.
Sooner or later there is nothing left that you can try out. This is usually the point in the relationship when it starts to get boring and when your libido begins to die.
She Gets Fat
Now we come to a reason for which some women will hate me. As usually, haters gonna hate because deep down they know that the person who they hate says the truth.
If you are currently in a relationship with a woman whom you are together with for a couple of years, I want to ask you a very simple question:
Does she look the same as she did when you first met her?
Okay, if you are together with her for over 10 years it is absolutely inevitable that she will be faced with some signs of aging but other than a few wrinkles…how has she changed?
Even though a lot of women simply refuse to accept this truth, the majority of them gain a lot of weight, as soon as they are in a relationship. I am sorry to say that but some women allow themselves to get fat as soon as they’ve reached the safe harbor.
Don’t believe me?
I don’t say that this transformation happens to all women. All I say is that the reason for the decline of your sexual appetite might be the fighting weight of your girlfriend. Just look at older pictures and you will see if I am right or not.
You Destroy Your Sexual Energy
Now that I bashed the ladies for becoming fat as soon as they enter a relationship, I now have to bash YOU my friend.
Even though some guys also get fat as soon as they are in a relationship, there are other things that they do that inevitably decrease their sexual appetite.
Men in today’s society tend to think that the activities they are doing are especially manly, when in reality they completely destroy their sexuality.
No, you are not a man just because you masturbate to porn movies. You are also not a man because you are able to eat the biggest and fattiest burgers. You are also not a man because you spend all your leisure time in front of your TV watching football matches.
That’s not what makes you a man. Killing your sex drive with porn, becoming lazy by spending your life in front of the television and eating shit all day that literally kills your sex drive are all things that are anything but good for you.
Besides blaming your wife for being fat, you also have to blame yourself for doing everything that is in your power to eliminate your sexual appetite. Work out, eat healthy and stop watching porn. If you do that it doesn’t take long until your sex drive will become stronger than it has ever been.
The Socially Accepted Response to a Vanished Sexual Appetite
It is painful enough to find out that you lost your lust over the years but it is even more painful to think about the possible solutions for this problem, at least when you believe in what society tells you about the male sexuality.
When it comes to our feminized society, every form of sexual appetite that a man has is evil, should be oppressed and doesn’t belong in the civilized world. That’s the reality we live in. In the same way as our society has a clear opinion of male sexuality, it also has a clear opinion of what you have to do in case you are completely sexually unsatisfied.
Let’s have a look at the stuff at what moralizers of our society would tell you, as soon as you would reveal that your sexual appetite is gone. I think I don’t have to tell you that those measures are anything but helpful if you really want to solve your problems.
What’s the best way to get rid of a lot of money by paying some psychotherapists who want to keep you as a long-term customer, instead of solving your problems?
The best way to do that is by investing all your money in relationship counseling. Letting someone who is probably already divorced, analyzing your relationship life is a very widespread tactic to cure sexual frustration.
What if I tell you that the likelihood of rescuing your relationship through a couples therapy is nearly zero?
What if I tell you that all the conversations in the world can’t change the fact that the loss of your sexual appetite has some serious reasons?
In case you are not attracted to your wife anymore, no counselor in the world will be able to convince your penis that she is still the same girl you fell in love with twenty years ago.
In case you destroyed your desire to sleep with real women by watching ten hours of porn every day for the last few years, no counsellor in the world will be able to give you your libido back by talking with you.
If you really want to get your sexual appetite back you have to do more than just talking.
Search for Distraction
It is not a big deal that you don’t have sex in your relationship anymore. There are so many other things besides having sex that you can do. You can go swimming, you can read books and you can even take some dancing lessons.
A typical mainstream advice for people who are crossed in love is that they should simply distract themselves by meeting friends and going to parties.
Why don’t you just use the same tactic when you have lost all your sexual appetite?
What a great idea!
Let’s pretend that there is no elephant in the room by living your life as if everything would be normal.
Don’t get me wrong. Engaging in exciting activities is great but it doesn’t solve your problem.
Distraction is definitely not the solution to your problem. You can play as much golf as you want but at some point your issue will overtake you if you don’t face it.
Live with It
Why should you even try to get your sexual appetite back? I mean, we all know that male sexuality is something bad and that it should be oppressed anyway. Wouldn’t it be easier to simply live without any sexual appetite?
In case you want to lie to yourself, lie to your partner and never want to feel like a real man again, you can obviously do that.
I don’t know about you but I don’t want to feel like an empty bottle without any sexual excitement in life. I want to feel like a man who is aware of the fact that he has two balls and a dick.
If you also don’t want to feel like a castrated puppy, you should stop ignoring your problems and start facing them like a real man.
What You Really Should Do When Your Sexual Appetite Dies
Now that you know what our society wants you to do, it is time to think about what you really should do when you have lost your sexual appetite.
Do yourself a favor and stop going to those never ending therapy sessions.
Don’t even think about blaming yourself if you rather want to have sex with slim 20 year old girls instead of fucking your wife who has gained 30 kilos in the last couple of years.
You might have fucked up your sex drive with porn movies and shitty food, but that doesn’t mean that all you can do to solve this problem is to talk about it and continue to live in quiet desperation.
It is finally time to take the necessary action steps to come to grips with this problem.
Accept the Truth
Every meditation and yoga teacher knows that acceptance is extremely powerful. This is not only true if you want to live a less stressful life. It is also true if you want to heal your condition. Stop blaming, stop talking and start accepting that your libido is on the death bed.
Accepting the fact that you have destroyed your hunger for naked skin by doing things that are anything but healthy for your body and your soul is painful, but necessary to allow a healing.
Don’t fight the thought that you want to sleep with young girls instead of touching your house whale.
Work on Yourself
Working on yourself is great but there is a big danger that you are working on yourself in the wrong way, just because everybody does it.
What do most men do when they realize that their desire to have sex becomes less and less?
Besides the popular methods that I just described they usually run to a doctor who prescribes them some medication that supposedly helps them to increase their libido.
But is that really a long-term solution?
For me the expression “working on yourself” has nothing to do with giving all the responsibility for your life to a doctor who feeds you with pills that make you even sicker.
When I say that the best way to get your sexual appetite back by working on yourself I mean that you should think about all the possible causes, analyze your current situation and take the necessary action steps.
Do whatever it takes to get your sexual appetite back. For some men it might be quitting porn, for others it might be leaving their partner and fulfilling their sexual desires. No matter what it is for you, you have to do it.
Do it Now
You have to do what’s best for you and you have to do it now. Don’t waste another second in an unfulfilling relationship. And yes, if you have absolutely no desire to sleep with the woman you date, you are in an unfulfilling relationship.
Invest your energy in boosting your hunger for flesh, not in destroying it.
Do whatever it takes to get your sexual appetite back. You deserve to have a fulfilling sex life and to become a successful seducer.
Summed Up Wisdom
What should you do when your libido starts to die? Before you think about committing suicide you should think about why you lost your sexual appetite in the first place. In case you are in a monogamous relationship and you haven’t tried anything new in bed for the last couple of months, the reasons are very obvious. Maybe she also got fat and you destroyed your sexual appetite with porn movies and a shitty diet.
Society often tells you what you should do but most of the time the mainstream advice is complete bullshit. Stop blaming yourself for it, don’t waste your time with therapy sessions and please don’t think that distracting yourself helps.
Instead of living with it you should accept the truth and make the decision to work on yourself. Do whatever it takes to get your hunger for boobies back and do it now.