Filipino women love white men.
Does anyone doubt that?
The moment I landed in Manila, I knew how Harry Styles, Brad Pitt, and Justin Bieber must feel every single day. The attention I got was out of this world. Every girl I walked past was staring at me. Just staring? No. They were undressing me with their eyes.
I’ve never experienced anything like that before.
- I was confused when the first girl told me that I have beautiful skin.
- I was shocked at how much they admired me.
- I was embarrassed at how I felt about it.
My ego went crazy. I felt superior, like a God. Back then I didn’t know if this was a push from the good side of the force or a strong pull from the dark side of the force.
Today I know the truth about the white man Filipino woman relationship…
1. The Demand for White Skin is Sky High in the Philippines
Nobody who has ever been to the Philippines would doubt that white skin, especially white skin on Caucasian men, is in demand.
- It doesn’t matter if you are young or old.
- It doesn’t matter if you have a six pack or a one pack.
- It doesn’t matter if you have full hair or the same hairstyle as Bruce Willis.
As long as you have white skin, girls are throwing themselves at you.
Why?
Because Filipinas are obsessed with white skin!
- They buy skin whitening products.
- They idolize half-white half-Filipino celebrities.
- You won’t see an actress with dark skin in this country.
Just have a look at the ads in this article and imagine how they make a dark-skinned Filipino, or a black foreigner feel. It’s sickening and it’s a shame, but that’s the reality.
And as much as I hate to say it:
This is why millions of sexy Pinays want to meet you on Filipino Cupid
2. She Dreams about You Since She Was a Child
The sickening ads that you see all over Manila, Cebu, and Quezon City are not the only reason why young Filipinas dream about marrying a Caucasian man.
She has to dream about it because it’s the only dream she knows.
- At age 10, she saw a movie about a white-skinned man who fell in love with a dark-skinned woman.
- At age 15, she got obsessed with celebrities and found out that they all have Caucasian fathers.
- At age 18, her cousin married an American guy and since this day her goal is clear.
"My dreams will come true..."
TV shows, books, magazines, advertisements, her friends…no matter where she looks at, she gets told that marrying a white prince is the best damn thing that can happen to her.
I just hope that you won’t disappoint her.
3. She Wants to Believe the Stories and Tales about White Men
She heard a lot of things about you.
She imagines you as a generous gentleman, a knight in shining white skin.
Here’s what she thinks:
“He can support me and our future children. Oh, my children. They will be so pretty. My sisters and cousins will be jealous because of my half-white babies. My child will become a movie star because all celebrities are half-white. I will have a beautiful life in a big house. My husband will treat me like a princess because everyone knows that Caucasian men are way more mature, responsible, and caring than Filipino guys”
Aren’t these thoughts naïve?
Absolutely!
But that doesn’t change anything about the fact that they are inside her mind.
4. She Knows that You Can’t Treat Her Worse than Her Filipino Ex-Boyfriend
Let’s face it:
There’s no difference between what Filipinas believe about white men and what romance novels for women use to sell millions of copies. It’s a fantasy.
Unfortunately, this fantasy doesn’t always come true.
Not every white man is a prince in shining armor. Some white men are assholes. I can only hope that you don’t fall in this category.
But she doesn’t care. She has to risk getting disappointed because the risk of not trying is even bigger. Heck, she has probably already been disappointed.
- Domestic violence is a huge issue in the Philippine.
- 13.9 million Filipinos are single parents (most of them women).
- There’s a high chance that her Filipino boyfriend runs when her belly grows.
So don’t tell me that Western men exploit poor Filipinas when they marry them.
Since when is it exploitation to save someone’s life and future?
5. Your Sperm is Worth More than Diamonds
But saving lives can create new lives and that might be the last thing you want.
Yes, I’m talking about mini you.
It’s no secret that Filipinas tend to forget about condoms when they are in bed with a white guy. You can read it on dozens of forums. Think twice before you do it because it feels better. Five minutes of good feelings can lead to 18+ years of stress, problems and payments.
And no, she’s not on birth control.
"Come on guys, don't let Norbert win the race!"
“Sebastian, why do these girls want to mess up their lives?”
Who says that a child from you messes up their lives?
- It’s normal for Filipinos to have big families.
- It’s better to make a child with a wealthy and responsible foreigner.
- It’s even better if the child has white skin because that’s what every Filipina wants.
In a country where your sperm is worth more than diamonds you should be very protective about it. A lot of sexy thieves want to steal it.
6. She Wants a White Man and You Want a Traditional Filipina
Whenever I publish an article about Filipinas, I get at least one or two hate comments or hate emails from angry white women who call me a racist, a sexist, or the biggest asshole on the planet.
Seriously, I hit publish and two seconds later…bing…I get the message. It’s as if they open my website 24 hours and wait like hungry wolves until they can finally spit their hate. But that’s okay. I don’t hate them. I feel sorry for them.
I feel sorry for them because the Filipino woman white man relationship gives the Filipina what she wants and the white man what he wants.
Everybody wins. Nobody loses.
- She wants a responsible man who takes care of her.
- He wants a faithful woman who doesn’t plan the divorce during the honeymoon.
- They both want someone who loves them and respects them.
These three points sound so simple but in a day and age of staggering high divorce rates and completely unrealistic relationship expectations, such relationships are rare.
These relationships should be celebrated, not condemned.
7. Your White Ego Can Destroy Your Relationship
Danger is everywhere.
You diamonds are not the only thing that you have to protect. You also have to protect her heart and your ego. Or should I better say that you have to control your ego?
Because guess what? It can get out of control.
Dating in the Philippines is dangerous for your ego. Living there with your Filipina girlfriend will poison it. Don’t let it win. Don’t let it destroy something so precious. Yes, relationships between Filipino women and white men are precious. But they are built on fragile ground.
It’s tempting for a king to treat his queen like a slave.
Do I say that you are a bad person?
No, but I know that special treatment can make you think that you are special and that thinking you are special is the first step towards thinking that others are insignificant.
Listen:
You are white. Filipinos treat you like a king. You get special treatment in malls, in hotels, and in restaurants. They call you Sir wherever you go. Some of them take a bow. Others ask you if they can take pictures of you. You are a celebrity.
Then you do this:
- You insult a waiter who doesn’t show you the respect you don’t deserve.
- You curse at a taxi driver for not stopping and rolling out the red carpet.
- You threaten your Filipina girlfriend when she doesn’t want sex every day.
You are not the same person that you used to be. The Philippines changed you. And she doesn’t like this change. Nobody likes it, not even you.
But you are a king and you don’t care when your slave walks out the door…until you realize that she was your queen.
Click here to meet your Pinay queen today.
Summed Up Wisdom
Filipino women love white men. Unfortunately, these couples have to deal with a lot of wrong accusations. Nobody seems to care that these are win-win relationships in which the white man gets what he wants and the Filipina gets what she wants.
That’s beautiful. But it can also be dangerous, especially if you don’t want to have children. And don’t even get me started on your ego. She dreams about dating and marrying a man like you since she was a child, but the dream can turn into a nightmare when her king starts treating her like a slave.
Thank you so much!
Hi Sebastian, kudos for your article!
I read a lot about relationships and seduction, and your perspective is refreshing: you have strong ethics but you aren’t judgmental, you have a positive attitude and it’s clear you really care about people.
A seducer with a great heart is not something you meet every day 😉
I didn’t know abut Filipino girls (I’m Italian), and they aren’t my kind of women (too traditional perhaps), but I like learning about different people and places, so this has been a great read.
Thanks!
Enterain yourself and she’ll be entertained.
Notice how he said that the woman learned to love, and be loved by, a man, but he said he learned to love, and to entertain, a woman. Since when is it the man’s responsibility to entertain a woman?
I guess I should check out these books.
So true. I just read an amazing novel that so differently expresses some of the comments on here. With lots of action and adventure in it, it’s about a guy who ventures to the Philippines. “One Unexpected Year” by R.V. Devlin. Got the ebook on Amazon.
It’s always risky if she does it to stay in the country but the right prenup makes it less risky.
Sounds like a keeper 😉
Thanks for sharing.
Here’s my experience as the daughter of a white American man, who after his divorce from my mom, married a Filipina from Cebu. Where do I start…Well, let’s see. My grandma bought her a car and paid for her tuition so she could go to college to get an American education but she made an excuse as to why she couldn’t finish, and still kept her brand new car. She has six siblings in Cebu, none of them working, so of course, who else is funding their livelihood? Not her because she works part time at a minimum wage job yet she’s been to Europe, and drives my dad’s new BMW, and carries designer purses and wears designer shoes. My dad is often broke paying for the mortgage, car payment, expensive trips, clothes, jewelry and her family’s living expenses that he never really had enough for me while I was growing up. So, yeah, that’s my experience. And to top it off, while she’s flaunting her diamond rings at me, she likes to tell me I should be grateful I never experienced poverty like her family as my dad can only offer me scraps once she’s done w/his bank account and credit card funds. And no, I’m not making this up. I actually had to see a therapist because of it but my therapist said there’s nothing I can do if my dad allows it.
This is a response from a Pinay when I asked for her address to send her a soon coming Birthday…
it is ok…..u dont need to send me gift right away, we r new acqusntance ..cud not be proper for me to ask a gift from u … dont u think?….i am appreciating ur thoughtfulness… thank u for being nice to me ..u r a wonderful person… maybe we can exchange call here its free in fb messenger cheers…gudnyt i go sleep soon
Sebastian Harris:
I am dating a philipino girl who lives here in the USA going to school and on a visa. We started out as friends and i was actually helping her get through a break up. Before we started dating she told me that she had chances to marry men in the usa but that she didn’t love them. She also hates that in her culture that the kids have to support their parents and feels like Mom’s and Dad’s have kids just to get money. So as her friends she was telling me that she wanted to get married for love and not for money. When we met i fell in love with her spirit instantly and she didn’t seem to mind that i was older (maybe the older white guy syndrome). She said that she tried being with younger guys and they are just not mature enough. At 34 she thinks she is getting too old to get married. Now that i’ve been dating her for awhile she seems to be putting pressure on me for marriage because i don’t talk about it. I told we haven’t even been together a year. Is this a culture thing? She also had told me before we started dating that there is a stigma that all philipino women just want to marry a guy only for money and status. While she conceeds that she would need to marry a US citizen to stay here she said that she would sign a prenup just to prove she is not in it for the money. I had a 20 yr marriage to an american that went south so i’m still a little shy about marriage plus it would affect my student loan repayment. What do you think about the fact that she is willing to sign a prenup?
Hey Michael,
thank you so much for sharing!
Hello, SEBASTIAN HARRIS.
As just one white guy still looking, that has been married to a Filipina for 20 years, and has lived in the Philippines for a little while, apx 10 months, has visited Philippines, and has nieces and nephews there, I can honestly say what you have said is true.
When I was there every woman watched me every where I went. When I looked at them and smiled they would smile back, giggle, and generally seemed wowed that I would notice them. They all treated me with the best respect, it was very strange for me as I never was treated like that before.
I felt like a rock star. as I said before I lived there, retired from work early with the expectation of marring the woman I had met on a previous visit. Then she said she loved me and would marry me if I came back so I did, but little did I know then, she had a secret boy friend while I was living in her house shack, and even though I was building her a new home, she would secretly spend time with her boy friend and pretend it was her friend. Well eventually I found out whats what, but I still wanted her to drop him and marry me happily ever after, but she told me to leave because she was a faithful woman to the man she loved. So I moved out, went to my nephews house in another town, before coming back here, USA. We are still friends but the love bubble I was in is gone. I deeply still want a Filipina for a wife, Yet now I am a little gun shy about jumping in blindly. I dated her for 2 years before I moved there, and visited her once, and I never saw the way it was. I guess I am a hopeful romantic still, as I keep wanting to find just this one good woman who will Love me. I am a very generous Christian man who didn’t get caught up in the rock star life over there. But it was a little strange, I had a body guard every where i went. I miss the Philippines and the wonderful people I met there.
I hope and pray I will find her soon, as ever,
Thank you for this wonderful I remember when.
Nope, I’m not.
I hope you are not an English teacher.
Yep, very true.
@ Sebastian, that’s true… 🙂 good woman is very hard to find and Good man is very hard to find too.. 🙂
Glad to hear that, John.
I am sixty three in September & my Filipina partner is 42 in September. Which means we are both Virgos.I personally would not date a much younger women for many reasons.
When a tall western man arrives in the Philippines you will quickly become aware of women watching you. I am living in Mindanao with my partner we are both school teachers. Here locally in Mindanao the attention is even more due to few western men living in the area, The way Filipina women look after their men is very different way to western women. Like washing you. The family is important so have a good rapport with her Nanay & sisters.Show respect. You will get the respect back in return, They have a caring & loving nature my partners family. I am mature enough to know why bother having other women when I am lucky enough to have beautiful woman in my bed.
@m. You will find marriage is a fine institution.
And like most “fine institutions”, half of the people in it are trying to get out, while half the ones out are trying to get in.
I can assure you, at your age. life will never be boring. Or for that matter quiet. AGAIN
Yowrrr….Marum.(isang pusa)
Hey Marum,
thank you so much for sharing!
Let us have a reality check here. If you are an old bloke going to the Philippines to get a wife, with no knowledge of the language and customs or the culture your plan is already flawed, and almost certainly doomed to failure.
When you meet at a young age, and intend to stay with your lady forever, you build your on language of love. This language is one that only you and your lover share, it both unites you, and separates you from others. It is your own mythology, and from it the magic grows, that forms your relationship.
Why do you think that so many marriages fail in the west? Couples are marrying later. (older) By then, you have both had many sexual partners, and there is no room for any magic to grow. She is just another woman, and you are just another man. Not THE one.
If you are 55+ lets face it, you are no longer some great stud, fulfilling some young lady’s fantasies. Don’t let you male ego tell you otherwise. You see it in the west too. Some wealthy old guy marries a young lady, or even a lady nearer his own age. After a few years the marriage fails.
It is the law of supply and demand at work. In the Philippines, you are supplying a wealthier, mature man, whom your lady can look up to. This can last quite a few years, but eventually it breaks down, because the dynamic/s of the relationship changes. This is pure Keynesian economics at work. THE MARKET FINDS ITS OWN LEVEL.
If it is your third or fourth marriage…Why will it work better than the others? To believe otherwise, is the triumph of hope over experience. Instead of looking into getting a, la Filipina, you should be looking into a mirror. and asking. :WHY?”
I met my lady when we were still just sixteen, withing 2 months we were lovers. Our intention was to wait until we were 18, then get married and have lots of beautiful mestizo babies. Our love language evolved as follows. (In those days most in spoke Spanish – my lady’s father was Spanish) Anyway, her lovely coño became her bunny.
When she asked why? I explained, coño sounds like Coney in English, which is another term for Rabbit. It was also logically consistent, for it was, soft and furry, absolutely delicious, and jumped around a lot. She thought the term was cute and approved. Her term for my male part became: la barra de hierro australiano, or the Iron Bar for short. Which i took as a tremendous compliment. Do if you extrapolate that, you can see how our “love language” developed. I also enjoyed the magic of seeing my lady change from being a girl, into being a woman, who knew what it was to love, and be loved by a man, and she saw me grow from being a boy, to become a man who could both love, and entertain a woman.
My contention is, of course, this is unlikely to happen in older, very disparate, (in age) relationships. Therefore the mythology and magic, never develop in the relationship. Thus, one of the major factors which hold a couple together never develop.
Purrr….Marum,(Maglaro ng chess na pusa)
I would say the Philippines is the best choice.
Sebastian
So the real question you should know is what are the 2 best countries where age difference does not matter. In other words where a 60 yo could date a 23 yo without it being a big deal..
Colombia, Brazil, Ukraine Japan, Thailand???
Thanks
Hey Bob,
that’s also a way of seeing it. Glad to hear that you’re so fulfilled.
Hey Jael,
that’s an interesting story. I experience it a lot that educated women in the Philippines have problems to find a suitable partner.
I am Filipina and I could care less what colour your skin is or what nationality you are. I’ve no need of a sugar daddy to support me. I’m an app developer and have my own house and cars. In saying that, Filipino men find me untraditional and/or scary and I did end up marrying a white male. But not at all for the same reasons in this article.
I love being able to help my Filipino family! I’m not greedy and always willing to share the excess money whenever I’m able. I wouldn’t trade my filipina for anything either. She is the best thing that has ever happened to me. I don’t think God keeps track of money, so I don’t either. It’s very sad that some men don’t understand how the World is over there, and are fine with family members who live in poverty. God has blessed me so I can be a blessing to others.
@Sunrio. What crap! I admit that we are this (mainly Anglo-Celtic) enclave in SE Asia, insular as all hell. Even in this day and age, most Aussies don’t see the value in learning another language.
My people emigrated from Scotland in the 1860s. So I, (by bloodlines) am three quarters Scots, and one quarter Aborigine. (from my mum’s dad) So my people may have suffered from lunacy but not larceny.
The last time some Pom called me a colonial, I punched him in the mouth. But then, my ancestors have always hated the Poms, since Culodden, and that pommy bastard Cumberland.
Grrrooowwwllll….Marum.(Isang pusa)
It depends on the woman. But most of them want to have children.
Hey Dirk,
now that’s an interesting story 😀
I sort of agree with John Smith, but it’s up to you, John Marshall.
Here is my experience:
The sex is ‘OK’. You can teach them to be better at it, but they’ll not likely ever be great in bed.
She’ll also put on weight as she gets older. It’s just their genes.
If you’re white and she’s dark, your kids will look like Mexicans.
She had to send money home after marrying you. If she doesn’t, then her family will be very dissapointed in you both. They will say you are selfish and they will be mad at your wife for it.
To be fair though, she has to get you to commit soon. She can’t afford to wait. She believes that if she dates you for three years, and does not get married, then her chances of marrying some one else go way down. She knows that just a few years of age makes a big difference in the Philippines when attracting guys. She thinks she must marry as soon as possible, or she’ll never marry at all. I know that sounds silly to us, but not to a Filipino girl.
Meet one that was already with an older white guy. My new “friend” was with her older partner for 4 years until he died in bed (must make her pretty special) and then she found that he left her a retreat worth over $400,000 USD. She’s selling it now and with the money we’ll travel the globe. Btw, I have my own money so we eliminated money as an issue.
What happens if you do not want to have children with your Filipina woman?
I wish you all the best.
They are not all like this.
Don’t do it they expect you to pay for everything, they have terrible memory, don’t appreciate anything, and they are like a sponge. They always send money to there familys in Philippines . I know from experience and wish i was better informed about this. They are all like this
best of luck
Hi; i’m 59 in september; I have never been married, and I am quiet happy living on my own. But i decided to answer an ad in the back of an irish magazine from a filipino lady in her 50’s. So, as you can see, I’m not a late middle guy trying to get young asian woman. She works as a caregiver. I explained that i’m not working, and don’t have a lot of money. She is a divorcee with 4 children. Maybe, nothing will come of it. Maybe something will.
Hey Adam,
I hope you like my website, despite of the name 😉
Name it Sebastian 😀
So so so true.
100% my experience.
Im a British white guy and can relate to this exactly.
I married a Filipino and I am under so much pressure to give her a baby its crazy. Endless pressure from her and her family to have a baby. Sometimes…maybe to much pressure.
We both now live in the uk….so i guess for us…shes living the dream of a white guy…..own modern apartment …nice car….government job…money….the envy of her friends and family…. but it comes with a great deal of hard work !!!
Just getting the visa for the UK was so challenging. Sometimes it’s good to take things slowly.
I wish you all the best!
Filipino Cupid is the better choice 😉
Totally agree. Try to look for professional Filipina women. A lot of them dream about marrying white men too! Try too look on dating sites where most professionals are like “OKCupid”.
This is so true! I’ve always dreamt of being in a relationship with a white man since I was a child. Not any kind of white man.. I have my standards ofcourse! My past relationships were all with Filipino men. It was when I reached 27 yo when I finally decided to sign up on this dating site called “OKCupid”. I met my boyfriend there, an American guy 1 year younger than me who doesn’t know anything about the Philippines, two years ago. We were just friends and skyping every week for almost a year until we decided to meet in Japan. Yes, in Japan! Let’s just say, I’m not the traditional Filipino woman who would ask a foreigner man to come visit me and then let’s get married so I’d come and live with you in the US.. no, I’m not like that! I chose to meet outside the country to avoid the stereotypes. I even hid the reason of me traveling alone in Japan to my friends and cousins. Btw, speaking of not being traditional.. we paid for our own expenses, I saved funds for the trip. We had seperate hotel rooms ’cause he’s not my boyfriend yet at that time.
We declared our feelings a few days after we got back to our own country. The major problem after that was how to make the so called “LDR” end. No one wants to live in each other’s country. Well, he’s actually willing to live in the Philippines but I don’t want him to. He has no future here and I don’t want to live in the US.
What answered this conflict was when I applied for a work visa in New Zealand. I have no job yet but atleast I have the visa that would let me stay and work in NZ for a year. We’ll try to live together for a year and then figure out what to do next. Maybe find an accredited company who would support us a visa that would let us stay in NZ permanently. We never talk about marriage.. maybe because we’re both not ready for a more serious kind of commitment. We fell in love with each other’s postive side. Hopefully, living together would let us fall in love with each other’s flaws too!
Soooo excited to be with him soon!
The Moral of the story: Stay away from bar girls.
Beware your finances! Many pinay women love to hit the casinos. I found out first hand. Though she was very beautiful and I loved her with all my heart, all she wanted to do is gamble. Yes, the afore mentioned is true about marriage.2 weeks into dating she professed her love for me and a week later she was on about getting married. This woman was already in America. Brought over by her first husband who was a Marine. She put him 25k in debt by her gambling with his credit cards. They had 3 kids together as well. She divorced him after he canceled the cards and left him with the 3 girls they had and moved to California. He told me how they met… She was a stripper in the Philippines. He said many filipina women are. Just some FYI for all. She also admitted to the same.
Hey Kevin,
you have to get to know her for a long time before you think about marrying her.
Dont do it man, run for your life. She will be asking you to support her cousin nefuew niece mother father sisters and all her family and expect you to send thousands. Then while living together she will try and control hou telling you that you cant go out or do what you want. Trust me the sex isn’t worth it, because most of them are terrible in bed. They lay there with no life.
Interesting article. I have been single now for over 10 years and very reluctant to get married again after being cleaned up from the previous marriage. I am from Australia, but I do find the lure of a sweet Pinay to be irresistible and I am now involved.
I have been to visit her family in Cebu and without doubt they live in extreme poverty and of course they see me as an opportunity for a hand up. It wouldn’t be normal if they didn’t. And I am happy to see what I can do for them within reason of course.
She is keen to get married but she also seems to respect my position and is not pressuring me to do so at this stage. I am still working and cant see myself living in the Philippines though she would love me to do so. I am finding that my concern in protecting what remains of my finances is affecting my enthusiasm. Is there anyone out there that has successfully navigated those murky waters? Any advice?.. other than the obvious of course.
Thank you
Glad to hear that a Filipina agrees 😉
This is kinda crazy but it is true! Haha!
I am full blooded filipino and this is what I see around me.
Hi Alan Filipino women do fall in love quickly. As to you becoming her husband she is pushing the pace. Calm her down by saying lets enjoy being together & not put pressure on our relationship. I want you I love you. I look forward to having a romantic time with you during my Visit. Leave marriage out of the equation until you are both ready. Much depends on your age. Can you stay in the Phillippines a long time. If you have a career and you are working and only have holidays up to three weeks long. Then much of the year your only connection will be the internet. I am 62 living with my Filipina partner near Cagyan de oro. In England many couples live together before marriage. This is how I am living with my partner, Enjoy your holiday in May. Be happy together she will wait if she truly loves you. Take the lead. Be her man.
All the best for you and your partner
I can see a bit of truth to this. The middle class/upper class rarely date out of their Filipino circles. Same really goes for most South East Asians. Although I could see a lot of truths in the initial article, deep down you have to watch out for why some of these girls chase after white girls, and it’s not because they find white men irresistable. White men have money and security, something which a lot of them do not have and will not get from a lot of Filipino guys. I think most would prefer to date their own kind if there was security attached to it. A guy that understands her, speaks her language, knows her culture etc means a lot more than what people get credit for. With that being said, I’ve seen Filipinas date Koreans, Chinese, African Americans for similar reasons.
Im a pinay, m8t my partner he from nz,we have daughter…but it alright even if he only visit me ..i not after of his citizenship,i only love him
Hey Sunrio,
It’s wrong. A Swiss friend married her ex in Zwitzerland and in the Philippines. In his country the divorce is granted long but his file for annulment has been in the court for more than 8 years now. Either his ex’s lawyer is sick or whatever reasons during the scheduled hearing or the judge has got better thing to do and soon.
Australia was a penal colony.What can you expect from a people descended from a hardened criminal ancestors? Of course not all them are cruel, nasty and a bully. But a lot of australians are such.
Ann Curtis dad is also white.
Ann Curtis is also half white. Her dad is white.
Foriegn guy or even filipino who grew up in foriegn land are exempted to No Divorce marriage law if ever they marry a pinay/pinoy. They can easily get annulment with not so much of hassle.
Bill, I met my Filipina GF in Dubai, there are thousands of lovely Filipinas there, they’re all working so you know they’re not scamming for money. Admittedly a visit there will not be as cheap as the Philippines but it’s a fantastic place to see.
Anyhow just thought I’d mention it, I looked online and it just happened that the one I clicked with was in Dubai & she’s a keeper.
Never heard somebody in my whole life point out their insecurities like that. You’re actually answering “I’M NOT INFERIOR” to a question nobody asked. Do you realize the conversation is about south asian women and european men?
Hey Alan,
you should definitely visit her first in the Philippines.
your comment about bigger penis is so wrong. women don’t care about that, especially Filipinas.
I am looking for a bit of advise please. I have been chatting on Facebook to a young beautiful Filipino woman from Cagayan de Oro for some months now. We first started off just chatting about everyday things but now find that we have progressed to the point where we are declaring our love for each other. She has asked me to visit her and I intend to travel in May. She said she will introduce me to her family and friends and take time off work to show me the sights. I am sure she is not a scammer but she has started talking about me being her future husband which did scare me a bit since I have not met her yet. I will probably be staying in a hotel so any recommendations will be appreciated and also can I ask, is it normal for Filipino women to rush into marriage. She has mentioned that eventually she would like to live and work in England so she can send money back to her family.
I am sure she is genuine and she is extremely beautiful and I really want to meet her but I do not want to rush things and would like to visit her in The Philippines two or three times before I commit fully and would also like her to visit me in England so we can visit some places and she can get a better idea of life in England.
Many Thanks
Hey Bill,
I can’t recommend Filipino Cupid enough. I met so many sweet girls on this site and none of them asked me for money.
Sebastian,
Kamusta ka? I have had a sorry experience online with scammers. So much that I delayed my visit to PH & am reconsidering. I Am genuinely curious how (or if even possible to find a Filipina online who is not “chatting” dozens of guys. Now I’ve looked everywhere I can think and experience depressingly familiar. If I wasn’t as quick to question as I am I would be out $3000 and have a plane ticket to Davao. And this scammer followed me with new profiles because I was easy target. Originally I have dream of beautiful marriage with faithful woman. Now I begin to think any Filipina who marry will do so solely to get out of country. Sad thing if there are real girls out there…as I had agreed to pay her legal separation fee and live in PH until it went through (up to 4 yrs) so she wouldn’t have to be separated from her son & so I could adopt. But it was all just a scam and they go on from there. I’m not judging. It’s a third world country
I am very familiar with family code of PH. Here’s the good news guys. Go home & divorce them. Then pay them $1090 to sign the papers. It’ll be the cheapest divorce you ever got…unless you bring her home first
To Sherm….
White men came from black men huh… Explain Asians genius….
Explain why black males carry sickle cell….. Explain this to me.
You are a massive idiot…. Explain why most white men are far more sophisticated… Lavade livsformer….
Hey Sam,
many of them don’t mind. They can be excellent mothers.
Glad to hear that you agree.
You are such a moron. There are no words.
I get what you are saying but I am a white guy from the USA and I love this dark skin girl from the Philippines I had know idea about this white man stuff she told me about it and I told her over here in the USA the white woman are always buying products to make them darker go figure or laying in the sun getting a tan anyways true love See’s beauty in color but I love her because of who she is and that great big beautiful heart she has with respect and loyalty.
Eralia,
What a thoughtful post about your personal experience and views as a Filipina. Thanks for sharing. Blogs and sites such as this one tend to over generalize. However, there is also a lot of truth in many of the observations made by contributors. I’ve experienced being embarrassingly well treated while in the Philippines, presumably because I am a “guest” in a particularly friendly country, but probably also because I am a well-to-do looking white foreigner. Stereotypical situations become stereotypes for a reason, and there are ALWAYS exceptions.
I am an older white guy with many very good Filipino friends, most of whom I met working in the Middle East, including both men, who were colleagues or employees of mine, and women. It really is an interesting phenomenon that Asian women in particular seem to have this idea that white skin is better. I don’t think western men – at least none that I know – prefer light skinned Asian women. I’ve never discussed the matter with Asian men, so don’t know what they think. Beautiful is beautiful irregardless of skin color preferences. My own preference is for natural skin color, whatever it is, although given the choice I’ll select the woman with a nice dark tan! Whenever my long-term significant other Filipina starts complaining about her skin turning dark when she is out-doors a lot, I remind her that exotic skin tone gets extra points with me.
It angers me to hear stories of Asian women being mistreated in western culture. Unfortunately, younger western men in particular tend not to appreciate either the physical or inner beauty, and value system, of most Filipina women. I know I didn’t. Finally discovered it in my mid ‘50’s when my wife decided she needed more independence and separated.
I agree with most of the 7 “truth’s” the author presented, from my own experience, but there are Always exceptions!
All the best to you.
You have to be aware everywhere , don’t trust right away.. this woman in vedio ive seen them in youtube. I sense something not pure about the pinay,
1 of them
I love Filipino girls. Send them to me. I will treat them properly forever.
I’m done with American women. Saving up for a trip to Manila. How do Filipinas feel about single fathers?
Hey John,
it’s great to hear that you found the perfect woman!
That’s not true at all.It the new age.I am a Black man and I met my filipino wife on a filipino dating site.When ever I visit there,A crowd of woman,men,and children follow me where ever I go there because they think I’m a rich basketball player,Singer,or a rapper.So being a white guy being greeted like a king is obsolete now.Because most Filipino women listen to R&B and hip-hop music now and they watch the NBA games.So Filipino women mind of thought is different now because they figure if they have kids by a Black man,Their child would play professional Basketball or become famous singer’s or rappers.Thats the reality and not far from the truth.Because Black man is the Original man.Read your history books people.White man was grafted from the Black man,But with evil intent by a scientist.Just look at how white men tricked people that Jesus was white.The BiBle& Koran describes him as hair like wool(Like the Black man)And skin dark like bronze(Like the Black man)So to Filipino women watch out for white men they will treat you like garbage after a few years while the Black man will always treat you like a Queen always.Plus we are much better and more pleasurable to you when it comes to having sex(bigger penis)We believe in giving you pleasure(Orgasms)Before we complete sex sessions(fact).I always give my wife 3 or 4 Orgasms before I Orgasm.So to Filipino women don t believe the hype about white men.They don t treat their Filipino wives as good as you think!!!
Wrong you can an annulment of marriage now in the philippines.
Hi Sabastian I am British & retired early from teaching with a good company pension. Aged 62 & when I am 66 the main pension is paid to men like me. The wages in the Philippines are very low. My Filipina partner has a degree & is a teacher. 18000 pesos a month is the normal pay. Then she has other deductions. She has worked abroad to be able to buy her own home. Men who have had successful careers & they are mature & confident men will attract many Filipina women. A lady looks at me they do not see a old man they see a tall white handsome man with blue eyes & brown hair. Western women are more materialistic than Filipina ladies. Now we are living together she has no worries. When you find a lady that loves you deeply & respects you. She becomes this feminine sensual passionate woman. Who enjoys caring for you.
Hey Mike,
this has a positive and a negative aspect.
To the guy who says about Filipino women who date white guys in Dubai…ok first off, Filipino women there have bad reputation on that part of the world. Filipino women accuse Filipino men of cheating? Well guess what, the women are no better! Many that I’ve known cheated their men while working overseas as maids.
A good example is this white American guy who’ve slept with many married Filipino women in Hong Kong while he was married to a Filipino woman gold digger. Even back home I’ve had maids who I’ve grown up with that had different men from time to time into my house when my parents were away and while still married! In Philippine adultery, it takes two tango hun.
As a Filipino woman growing up, I’ve never been attracted to white men. I’ve had uneducated and poorer neighbors who I found having relationships with some old white men. One cried a lot when her German boyfriend got abusive towards her. This was back in the late 1990s in Cebu. So my early impressions on them hadn’t been really positive.
At school, I had a half-black (Nigerian father) Filipino girl schoolmate who was constantly called “unggoy” (monkey) because she had a very dark skin and flat nose. Poor girl, I thought and these people who made fun of her worship anything “white” or very light skin through putting on this skin whitening cream.
It wasn’t only her. When I watched some local media show, I would see only half white people representing “Filipinos” but then when they show a person who’s actually non half white and look like everyday dark skinned Pinay/Pinoy they often portray her/him as either a clown, an irrelevant extra in the show, or a villain who we should view as “ugly”. I find it despicable really. Ugly propaganda.
The final nail in the coffin for me on zero attraction to white men was when my family moved to Australia around mid-2000s. I went both to private and public schools there. The white boys and girls were either nasty to me or treat me like some animal in a zoo. There was a lot of xenophobia that I’ve experienced in those schools.
There were boys who hit my head with a footy ball and they just laughed. Another, an ignoramus creep who thinks that just because I’m Asian doesn’t mean I am cheap whore and sexual which this red head xenophobe in my school would treat me as and makes me feel ashamed at one point that I’m even Asian due to these unfortunate circumstances.
Then there’s cultural differences. I can’t stand Anglo/Irish food. Bland! Like their family/dating life. White guys who I befriended with were nerdy and those who weren’t were such cavemen arseholes to me! Either way, both groups didn’t arouse any romantic interest out of me. They weren’t even romantic. They were rude, obnoxious and some are just not good at approaching an introvert like me.
The irony was that there was this exception of a friend, a white girl of Croatian descent who actually cared about my existence, hung out with me and would listen to even my views on a lot of things – be it philosophy, faith, science or movies. I thought if she were a guy I would’ve wanted romance. And I’m not even lesbian! That’s how bad I thought about many Aussie boys/men through these years with how they treated me. Imo, Filipino guys in my school were/are still more romantic than those Anglo/Irish with cold, rude attitudes.
Filipino family values are very important whereas to Anglo/Irish culture it seems the family doesn’t share the same kind of close knit kinship. They’re more close to their friends than their families. I would only have relationship with a man with similar sense of strong bonding with family – something which I haven’t found in white culture. It is no wonder the beta white single males seek out to Asian nations since looking at his own culture, it is bland and lacking much of passion and warmth.
I do not hate white men. I am just never attracted to their looks and culture. Only very few white guys who I’d even consider handsome. Too many look pasty plain. My other relatives back home are also not very interested in white men due to difference in point of views and personality types. The only kind of Filipino women mostly into white guys are those who are not very educated, have extreme inferiority complex about her looks or really want to be social climbers. Others in my life couldn’t be bothered dreaming let alone think about a white guy as this narrow minded post is blatantly generalising.
I wonder why you never brought up about actual cultural reasons why these said Filipino women think white is attractive to them? And quite disingenuous that you also never mentioned discrimination and prejudice that darker skinned Filipino girls go through because of this.
You also haven’t mentioned about our history filled with colonial past by white/light skinned invaders like: Spain, U.S. and Japan who’ve each made impact on how we viewed ourselves and our greater society.
You fail to mention how white colonizers like Spaniards would ban brown not half Filipinos in any high positions of power or how Americans treated us when they invaded us as if we were their little children who can’t think for themselves. It is no wonder that these things have been ingrained in us to think that foreigners are always better than our own.
That we have “alipin” and “colonial mentality” to think that being better in life and have wealth and beauty is associated with white and light skin whereas being brown and dark means ugly and always poor. And never has there been skin hierarchy being this accentuated as that of Philippine society – almost to a level of India’s caste system. Something I suspect you’ve ignored deliberately to bolster your ego.
This post doesn’t represent me at all. In fact, it alienates me. I have never grown up dreaming about a white guy whose culture and past have slaughtered and enslaved my ancestors. It sounds almost like Stockholm Syndrome.
Info.: if you marry in the Philippines, you are bound by Philippine law….
Re: Marriage; divorce is iliegal, your married for LIFE!
Hey John,
I#m sure there are plenty of guys who would love to meet them.
Glad to hear that a Filipina who’s married to a white guy agrees with me.
Coming from the Filipina side, I married a white guy because I think Filipinos are cheaters and would have no second thoughts about having mistresses. Not stereotyping but mainly talking from experience growing up. I am also typically cast into the subservient type as I stay at home while my husband works to provide security. Meanwhile, I am happy to live in my bubble caring for my half white kids and secure in the knowledge that my husband won’t cheat because if he does, he loses everything haha. Just having a little fun here. Seriously though, I agree with this article lol. Have a wonderful day! Sorry for broken English
Hi Sabastian I am in a relationship with a Filipina. I am being asked by my partners friends & cousins to find them a British man similar to me. I have contact details of many Filipina ladies.They are not scammers & they wish to be contacted by real British white men. They prefer mature men. Who are prepared to live in the Philippines & be loved & looked after by the lady. British men should be the man in a relationship not a Beta male when with a Filipina lady. Sorry men with dark skin they have no attraction for. John
It’s definitely worth it.
Hi guys, lots of interesting points in this article and comments. And lots of truths too.
One point I want to make is the difficulty of learning and living with Filipinas is very true but nowhere near as difficult as the white women in your home in western countries.
Much of what is said here is also true of any Asian countries.
I have had a 10 year relationship with a Filipina which was great til I discovered she was going with other white men when I wasn’t around.
So, you win some and lose some, but the ride is worth it.
Good words. I can’t argue with much but there’s more to the story as well. My experience is that Filipino’s (in this case my fiance and her family) have a very inflated view of the financial capacity of Americans. They seem to thing that someone just backs a truck full of money to our front porch every day and we get to take what we want. lol I love them dearly but it gets frustrating when I’m doing my best and they don’t do much to improve their own situation.
You are a Filipino who lives and only lived in the Philippines as to what I see. Because if you actually lived a number of years in major cities you will not deny the absolute white supremacy in Filipino women. Find about 20 immigrant filipino women in one day and finding at least 1/20 that has a non-white BF and isn’t closed to dating only white is a lucky strike. That is how rare it is.
You can see white men in LA, NYC, Dubai, Singapore with various different GF’s but you’ll unlikely find a Filipina with out a white man. You mentioned a celebrity named Ann Curtis, well that’s great but i just researched her on google and she is married to a half white guy. In fact, a lot of your celebs as it shows are married to either half white or white guys. When i researched on beauty pageants like the Miss Universe winner Pia – her dad is white. Then the other pageant winners like Miss World: dad is white.
You can make any excuse you want but take it from people who are from different cities that are considered melting pots. Filipinas are very white obsessed.
Yeah, you are lying or have never left the Philippines. As a non-filipino who lived in the LA, NYC, Dubai, London, and Singapore i can tell you that finding a filipina who wants to date someone who isn’t white is extremely rare. Why do you think most well known Filipino celebs like that Miss Universe winner have a white dad and a filipino mom?
You mentioned Ann Curtis but the majority of your celebs are dating white men. In the cities and counties i mentioned, Filipina who are dating non-white men are given the nickname “lotto ticket” because it’s like finding a random lotto ticket on the street.
Filipinas are really white supremacists. They even reject their own in terms of dating..
Poor Justin
Sebastian
Im 70 in a few days.have spent 5yrs in asian countries.love the girls.moving to phillipines after i sell house my college pal and fellow vitnam vet is there married to filipina.my chinese wife flew from her nest for a job so im divorcing her.some of the filipinas are right on others have played this game with other white boys and know what to expect..we are too kind as well..we shouldnt get carried away with our egos and be assholes but we shouldnt put them on pedestals either..im not into using females so that should be easy to avoid
It’s not true that all Filipinas are attractive to white guys. In fact, I know a lot of Filipino women who are educated, well-travelled and come from rich families would’nt even take a second look to a white guy unless perhaps he is Tom Cruise or something. Another example, a Filipina celebrity and model Anne Curtis was noticed by Justin Beiber (in his concert tour in Manila). Justin asked Anne for her number but the Filipina celebrity just shrugged her shoulders and said no thanks, I’m engaged. Lol! By the way.. She just snobbed Justin Beiber.
Hey Charles,
thanks a lot for your feedback. Glad to hear that you won the lottery 😉
Hi. Your article is right on. I’ve seen so many posts (mostly on youtube) where they just assume the only reason a young woman would date and older guy is money. That’s American thinking. The way I’ve come to think of it is that it’s true that on a looks scale 1-10, 3’s date 3’s and 9’s date 9’s. BUT, in the Philippines, white men are super attractive to Filipinas, so add 5 if you are white. Also, dark skin is considered ugly and lower class, so if she’s dark-skinned subtract 4. That’s why I might be a 4 in the US, but I’m a 9 in the Philippines (especially in the provinces), and my wife is a 10, but she’s dark, so she thinks of herself as a 5 or 6. So she’s a 6 dating a loyal, kind, stable 9 and she thinks she hit the lottery. I’m a 4, but I’m dating a 10, so I think I hit the lottery, too! We are both very happy, and she takes care of me very well, while I take care of the household very well. Thank you for the article.