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Dear Woman Hater,
I feel your pain. I really do.
“which pain?” you ask.
The pain you feel every time you see a beautiful girl who holds the hand of another man. “He must be an asshole”. You know that he is a jerk, otherwise she wouldn’t date him. Because we all know that women only date jerks who treat them like shit. You would be better for her. You would make her happy. You hate her for being happy with THIS GUY.
The pain you feel whenever one of your friends tells you about their new girlfriend and the amazing sex they had last night. You like your friends, but whenever you are meeting them, you wish that none of them starts to talk about anything that is related to girls, sex and your relationship status. When someone brings up this topic, you look at him with disgust. You try to hide your shaking hands and your sweaty palms while you start to hate your friend.
The pain you feel whenever you are in a club holding on to your drink as if it was your lifeline, while you stare at all the sexy girls on the dancefloor. “Look at these sluts” you think to yourself. You would give everything for the attention of one of those “sluts”.
The Pain you feel whenever you jerk off to some hardcore clip in which women are treated like crap. You feel powerful while you watch how some aggressive guy rapes this innocent-looking girl. You want to be this aggressive guy. You want to have this power. Watching her getting fucked like a piece of meat gives you the illusion of power. The only problem is that you feel weak when you ejaculate in your own hands.
The pain you feel whenever you click on a website that is run by a guy who has the goal to motivate, educate and inspire men who are just like you. “This is a scam!” you scream before you even read the first paragraph. You don’t have any success with women and you don’t want others, especially a guy like me, to have what you don’t have.
Dear Woman Hater, Do I Make You Angry?
Dear woman hater, how do you feel right now?
Angry, I guess. Embittered, I suppose.
We tend to refuse to hear the truth, especially when it hurts…
I know exactly what you are thinking right now.
You want to close this article. You can’t stand it that I know everything about your pain. You can’t stand it that I undressed you in such a cruel and relentless way.
Oh, and you are already thinking about what you are going to write on the Slut Hate forum. You are also thinking about the comment that you are going to place under this article and the nasty email that you are going to send me.
It goes something like this:
“Hey asshole,
Yeah I am talking to you, Sebastian. Are you really stupid enough to believe that women don’t deserve anything but hate? Oh man, if you would know…
A couple of years ago I (insert the one bad experience that made you quit on women and life). This is proof enough that ALL women are stupid whores.
You will also come to realize that the only thing that these hoes deserve is someone who smacks them and who uses them as a sperm dumpster. They are good to put your dick in, but not for more. Women are useless holes because (insert a reason why you are a victim).
Fuck you!
Sincerely,
A Woman Hater “
In case you feel triggered to send me an email, you can use this as a template. The only thing you have to do is to fill in your bad experience and the reason why you are a poor victim who has every reason in the world to hate women.
I promise that I won’t tell anyone that the only reason why you hate women is because you can’t get them. I won’t tell anyone that you cry yourself to sleep at night while you wish you had a girl lying next to you. I won’t tell anyone that the only reason why you call women “whores” and “sluts” is because they sleep with other guys and NOT with you.
I won’t tell anyone.
I Was Just Like You
I will, however, tell you that I was just like you.
I am dead serious.
When you see through the fog, there are more than you think…
I remember how I was sitting in the park looking at all the beautiful girls and how I felt when I looked at their boyfriends. I was jealous, I was full of hate. Sometimes I even thought about killing those stupid motherfuckers. Have you ever had the same thoughts?
I remember how I was sitting in the old pub in my tiny hometown that my friends and I used to go to. I got nervous whenever I walked through the door, knowing that my friends were waiting for me. I prayed that none of them had a new girlfriend. Whenever one of them told the group about the girl they were seeing, my heart started to race and my palms began to sweat. Deep down I wished that every one of them had the same “bad luck” as I had. Did you ever feel like a terrible friend?
I remember how I was staring in the club, drinking one shot after another, just to numb the pain that I felt while I was staring at all the hot girls on the dancefloor. I hated the taste of alcohol, but I swallowed it anyway. I hoped that being drunk would finally give me the courage to talk to one of them…but it only made me feel helpless, which made me hate myself and women even more.
I remember how I was jerking off to porn that was so degrading for the girls that it makes me sick to my stomach to think about how many times I ejaculated to this poison. The power I felt was invigorating for the five minutes that I needed to come. The feeling it left me with was neither powerful nor invigorating.
I remember how I clicked on a website that was run by a guy who had the goal to motivate, educate and inspire men who were just like me. “This must be a scam!” I screamed. I was convinced that it is impossible to love women, to seduce them and to make them happy.
I wanted to write the same hate comment that you want to write right now. But right before I pressed the submit comment button, something inside of me clicked. My gut feeling told me that there has to be an alternative to hate.
A Woman Hater’s Journey
I didn’t just want to find it out. I needed to find it out. Otherwise, my hate would have destroyed me.
So I went on a quest.
A quest that led me out of the fog and into the light…
I embarked on a journey that changed my life forever. I embarked on my own hero’s journey.
I studied the art of seduction. I read every article I could find and watched every video I could get my hands on. I tested every method and I had some success. I began to love myself. I began to love women. I began to love my life.
But the change didn’t happen overnight.
There were the dark days and there were a lot of them. The days where I tried something new and failed miserably were educational but also incredibly painful. The days where I got rejected over and over again taught me more than the days where I succeeded, but they also felt twice as painful.
There were a lot of dark days that forced me to question what I was doing. But I didn’t stop. I continued. I pushed myself a bit further, a bit further and a bit further.
This relentless determination allowed me to travel the world, to seduce more beautiful women than I could have ever imagined and to now teach what I learned on my journey.
I changed and you can change too.
But Only If You…
It is possible for you to become a man who loves himself, women and his life.
It is possible for you to become a man who has the power to attract and seduce the women you truly want and to make them happy and to make yourself happy.
It is possible for you to live the life of your dreams with the women of your dreams.
I know that this transformation is possible, because I went through it.
But it is only possible if you let go of your hate.
This leaves you with two choices:
Choice #1: You can use the email template that I gave you a few lines above, fill in the blanks and send it to me. Don’t be shy. There’s a big fat CONTACT button on the menu list of this website.
Choice #2: You can look through this website and get a copy of my bestselling book. Oh, and you can embark on your own journey by putting my advice into practice.
As always, the choice is yours…
Sincerely,
A Lover of Women
Summed Up Wisdom
I feel your pain, woman hater.
I know how you feel whenever you see another man who holds the hand of a beautiful woman. I also know how you felt when you landed on this website.
I am sure that I made you angry. I know that I triggered something inside of you that makes you want to write me a nasty email or leave a comment that is pure hate.
What you probably don’t know is that I was just like you. I remember how it felt to hate women, t and myself.
But I changed and I know that you can change too. You can let go of your hate and regain power over yourself and your love life. You can learn to love women and you can make them and yourself happy.
Are you submissive because you want to or because you are shy?
Have you ever coached someone who is submissive in bed? Most women want dominating men and I feel they would find me repulsive because I’m sumbissive.
Hey Steven,
you can contact me at any time and we can talk about how I could help you with a coaching.
This is a bunch of crap. I did everything that was told to do by top puas and dating coaches. So if your pain was just watching beautiful women dancing and not approaching, then I’m.diff. I approached hinders of women and have zero results. Nothing at all. I don’t hate anyone . I just think it’s extremely unfair that a girl can get dates within seconds while us men, let’s say, been 5 years since I had a solid num, let alone a gf.
I would most likely still have casual sex with her or a hook-up, date her just for the sex, but probably not a relationship.
Hey Andrew,
yes, it’s because these men could be potential threats, but it’s also simple psychology. Do you want to date a woman who hates you for being a man?
so why do you think women are very turned off if a man has feelings of resentment, bitterness or hatred towards them? is it a security reason because they sense that the man will instigate physical harm towards them or is it among other reasons?
Hey Andrew,
of course, women can sense it how a man feels about them. It turns women off because women are seduced through emotions. Men are seduced visually.
this is something I’ve noticed for a few years now, it goes kinda bother me a lot, it seems that having resentment, bitterness or hatred towards the opposite sex, as in, a man, guy who hates or has feelings of resentment, bitterness towards women, is 10X times worse than if a girl, woman, has those exact same feelings towards guys, men.
Just like Zan Perrion said, “a man who loves women is loved by women”, or when you said: “Even though hating women seems to be very popular at the moment, it is the fastest way to end up watching porn until you die.”
This is another response I got from somewhere: “If you’re angry, bitter and secretly hate women, don’t be surprised if you keep getting rejected. Women smell hidden agendas better than men every could.”
So ya it makes me wonder, because what I’ve noticed for a while now, is that a lot of guys, men, will overlook and accept, date a girl who has those negative attitudes, mindsets towards us guys, men, still have sex with her or be in a relationship with her even if it’s a shitty one, but if a guy is like that towards women, he won’t even get a peck on the check. So it makes me curious as to why having resentment or hatred turns women off a thousand times more than it turns off men.
Hey Andrew,
thanks for sharing your thoughts. You really have to work on yourself and learn to control your emotions before something bad happens. That’s actually why I wrote this article in the first place. I want as many hateful men to wake up and to learn to love women. If nothing helps, try it with therapy, but don’t give up trying.
even though i would never do this, i feel i can keep under control, but sometimes i have had the urge to physically hit a woman because i can’t stand how passive women are, i hate how women have to be hard-wired to be attracted to a mans confidence, or how women expect men to approach and make the first move, and to initiate/escalate with them, take the lead, basically, it’s a punch, or hit, metaphorically speaking, it’s a shy quiet introverted guy wanting to release his frustration and rage over the gender roles of life, reality, and shows women that shy, quiet, guys want love and sex too, on how us guys have to get that handled while girls don’t. Or times i feel like punching a man in the face for telling me to Man Up or Grow a Pair, it’s like i want to say to him “i may be a coward to approach that girl but i’m not a coward to fuckin’ hit you”
Last thing i want to mention here, another reason why i feel it would be easier if the human mating system was like that, in which males have to fight the other male, instead of having to rely on our social-skills, conversation-skills and had to fight instead, with fighting it would be impossible to make any social error or any creeper error in terms of social-skills, conversation-skills, etc. Hard to put into words but i think you get the point, i think it’s a natural human urge, especially more in men, to have feelings of wanting to fight or instigate a fight, to get violent, i’m sure it’s a natural primal urge from primitive times, but since we have civilization now, we have society we have laws, we have rules, we are conditioned to suppress this, hard to explain but i’m sure you get the point.
I know it will sound psychotic, even you said you have had the urge to kill at times but i think it’s normal and natural in human beings, here is what it said:
“it
is normal to kill, every animal does it, humans are nothing more, then a
modern version of ape-monkey’s, thru evolution, FACT, we are primates, killing in anger,
is natural, anyone who don’t get the urge to kill, has lack of emotion,
yes we all get the urge to kill, but most of us will never act out on it, we try to deal with it in a more civilized manner, since we have society now, we have rules, culture, laws, etc.” Thats why murder still happens every day in this world, Most of us will never act on it because we don’t want to get arrested or go to prison, the police, law enforcement we have today basically exist just to suppress our animalistic, beastly urges, hard to put into words but hopefully you get the point.
Hi Ross Thank you for the post I am the individual that posted the article on PUA hate (the former coach) I would like your advice seeing as you seem to have the most knowledge on the subject. I live in the UK not California so I don’t know if there is any further action that I can take from here.
Good point.
Hey Andrew,
I am glad that you like the article and I am confident that you are on a good way.
Hey Mickey,
by confronting your own emotions. Hate is often burried under layers of negative experiences and therefore negative emotions. Think about your past, face your emotions and try t overcome them. I know that it sounds easier than done, but it’s possible.
Learn to feel again…really? And how do you suppose one does that?
wow, i’m so glad you made this article, i have felt this way at times in recent years, like i have felt like beaitng up a girls boyfriend out of anger and rage, jealousy, and my gut feeling tells me that there is a primal urge in all or most of us guys when it comes to being angry, very jealous of a certain guy when he has the girl we want, for example, in the animal kingdom, the way a lot of male animals go about their mating ritual, buffaloes for example, the males will fight each-other by ramming, head-butting each-other, not just buffaloes but with lots of other male animals as well too, i have a feeling that was the case often times like that when us humans lived in caves.
Then you have to learn to feel again and to get back on your feet…
What happens when the reaction is not anger or hatred, but just plain apathy? The point where one is so beaten down to the point where he’s stopped feeling pain and truly doesn’t care anymore
hatered doesn’t solve your problems. This is true. I am sure that there are some guys who hate me for this article. I hope to inspire them, but I can’t and won’t force them.
But you wouldn’t deny that there are some few hopeless cases. Thankfully, very few.
Some ARE beyond the point of no return. They are not your concern.
Women are not prizes. They are flawed and frightened Human Beings, like men are.
It is the profit culture that turns women into objects. It is a combination of biology and egotism that
turns women into possesions.
Though I never expect to have sex and get depressed upon occasion, I realize that ALL negativity
is a waste, and that hatred gets you no where. People come and go. You must live with yourself
24/7.
thanks a lot buddy!
im too busy working 12 hours a day. i cant even exercise.
Hey Scott,
you boiled it down to an essence: “do they stay were they are and settle or do they go on the journey and do the work and become the fascinating man that those high quality women want.”
Thanks 😉
Genius
Here’s an interesting point with a lot of guys that are in this position, it’s not that there’s no women showing them interest it’s that the women they want or the hot attractive women aren’t showing them interest. It’s not the fact that other guys are getting girlfriends it’s the fact that other guys are dating the beautiful women they want to date, they don’t seem to have much beef with guys dating average to unattractive women, indeed these types of women don’t register on their radar. Now I will not tell anyone to settle for someone they aren’t into but they can’t call themselves incel as choosing to focus only on attractive women is a choice. So another choice for them to make is do they stay were they are and settle or do they go on the journey and do the work and become the fascinating man that those high quality women want.