I love daygame.
As an introvert, I prefer the hunt when the sun is shining. I’m not a vampire and I don’t like to go out at night. Heck, I’m a guy who values honesty, authenticity, silence, and deep conversations. Clubs are the worst environment for me.
Oh, and in case you didn’t know:
The name of my first and most influential mentor is Sasha Daygame. The name says everything. He coached me and he didn’t do it in a bar or a club. Yeah, we did some nightgame. But for the most part, we hunted girls during the daytime.
And I got her number.
God, I was so proud. Thanks to my baby face I believed that I would NEVER be able to pick up a girl who’s older than me. Sasha helped me to overcome this limiting belief, just as I hope that I can help YOU to overcome your limiting beliefs.
Today I’m a daygame addict.
I hope this quick starter guide will motivate you to lift your lazy ass from the couch and to approach some girls…
Everything You Always Wanted to Know About Daygame
I wish I had this guide when I started out.
Nope, that’s not my ego saying “yeah dude, this is the best daygame guide ever”. My ego doesn’t have anything to do with that. Back then I had infield videos and all kinds of different articles. But there wasn’t any quick guide that showed me the basics.
Watching guys picking up girls didn’t help me to get started.
"Didn’t know what to bring? What the hell do I need for daygame?” I hear you asking.
Well, you’d be surprised…
1. What is Daygame?
Here’s my brilliant, mind-blowing, and incredibly uncreative definition:
Daygame is the art of meeting and attracting women during the daytime in different locations and at different times of the day.
I’m pretty sure this will be included in the dictionary…someday. But seriously, that’s what it’s all about. You go out in the daytime, enjoy the sunshine and approach girls. The goal, of course, is to get them on instant dates, get their phone numbers, and set up dates.
“Do I have to enjoy the sunshine in order to do daygame?
Nope, you can also approach girls in buildings. The only thing that matters is that the sun is still shining. What if the sun is just about to go down? Okay, okay…I won’t be so German. That’s also okay.
Here’s what’s most important:
You don’t pick up girls in bars and clubs.
The good news is that you save a lot of money. I mean, you don’t have to pay entry to a club. You don’t have to pay for overprized drinks. In fact, you don’t have to pay for anything. But I also have bad news for you. There’s one downside.
You have to choose your approach…
2. Indirect Daygame vs. Direct Daygame
There are two ways to do this.
You can either approach girls in an indirect way or you can go direct.
Indirect openers don’t reveal your sexual interest from the start. You might casually approach her or use a situational opener. Or you ask her for her opinion. Direct openers, on the other hand, reveal your sexual intent from the start. These openers often include compliments.
I will share my best openers with you later.
For now, I want you to understand one thing. I’m not a big fan of indirect openers. Yes, situational openers can work, but asking girls for opinions is so lame. The typical “who lies more, men or women?” question has been beaten to death.
There are three reasons why I prefer the direct approach:
What does it have to do with my nationality?
Well, in case you know a German, or God forbid, you are one (I’m sorry to hear that), you know how a Germans like me thinks. I love to be on time, I value punctuality, if I could marry my schedule I would, and I hate to waste time.
Yep, I fulfill the stereotype.
Direct daygame allows you to save so much time, time that you can easily waste when you go indirect. I mean, you can ask her question after question. She smiles. Eventually, after 30 minutes, she mentions her boyfriend Josh.
Use a direct opener and she’ll mention Josh after 30 seconds.
3. The Best Daygame Spots
I have to warn you.
The following list of daygame spots is completely subjective. I decided to include the venues where I have the most success because well, you are reading my site and I guess you want my honest opinion. But I also include venues where I don’t have that much success.
Why do I have more success in some venues than others?
Honestly, I don’t know. I guess it’s a mix of comfort and experience. The best thing you can do is to go to all these venues and to test them. You might have a completely different experience.
Here are the daygame venues I absolutely love:
Here are some venues I don’t like so much:
No, it’s not because I’m afraid of what other people think of me. I don’t care if someone stands right next to the girl I approach…even if it’s her mom. I just feel more comfortable in quiet environments. That’s what works for me. You have to find out what works for you.
And you need the perfect timing…
4. The Best Times to Daygame
A day has many hours.
So what’s the best time of the day for daygame debauchery?
In my experience, these are the best times:
There you have it. These are the best times to do daygame. Of course, if you go out on the street, it also depends on the weather. If it’s raining like hell, you might want to wait one or two hours.
Or you pack the right tools…
5. The Tools a Successful Daygamer
“Tools for daygame? Are you kidding me?”
Nope, I’m not kidding you. I’m dead serious. You need the right tools. Of course, one of the best tools is my book Rise of the Phoenix. Heck, that’s the best daygame tool in the whole world. Okay, now that was my ego speaking.
But anyway, here are some tools you need:
And don’t forget your umbrella. You don’t want to get wet, sick, and die because it rains. But that’s not the only reason. Nothing beats umbrella game. Approaching a girl and offering her to stand under your umbrella is so romantic. She has seen it in movies. Believe me. It works.
Oh, one last tip:
Business cards…you need some business cards.
This trick works especially well in high social pressure situations. Just imagine you want to approach a girl who works as a barista. She doesn’t have time to talk to you. Other customers are waiting and her boss is watching her.
Smile at her and give her your business card.
P.S. This works even better in Asian countries because you avoid making her lose face.
6. How to Prepare for Daygame
There are different ways to prepare for a daygame session.
Here are my favorite activities:
And again, I’m not joking. While other pickup artists recommend that you approach women with a nutsack that’s overflowing with potential children, I do the opposite.
In my experience, approaching girls in horny mode is a bad idea.
Yes, being horny makes you want to approach girls, but…
Empty balls give you an empty mind.
Now you can focus, take it easy, and connect with the ladies without acting like a horny dog.
7. How to Approach Women During the Day
Now you’re prepared.
Maybe you didn’t have to jerk off. Pumping yourself up with a good song can be enough. It’s time to go out on the street…time for some daygame action. Come on. Leave your apartment, your house, or the bridge under which you live.
Go out and approach girls.
“How do I do that? How do I walk up to her?”
Listen to Jordan Peterson:
Stand up straight with your shoulders back…and add a smile. The last part is my two cents. Don’t forget it. It’s very important. A proper body language makes you appear confident and confidence is sexy. A genuine smile makes you appear friendly.
“But Sebastian, I want to be alpha, not friendly!”
Yeah, I know. But put yourself in her shoes. She doesn’t know if you’re a great guy or a rapist. A smile is the universal signal of “I won’t hurt you”. I know. A lot of other dating coaches recommend being alpha. I recommend a smile.
Try out what works best for you.
8. The Best Daygame Openers
Let me share a collection of my best openers.
What if you approach a girl on the street?
“Sorry, I just had to run after you. Don’t worry. I’m not a salesman. I just want to tell you something really quickly. You look absolutely amazing.”
What if you approach her at the park?
“I just came here to relax, but I have to be honest. I’ve never seen such a beautiful woman like you in this park. I like girls who still know what books are. What book are you reading there?
What if you approach her in a shopping mall?
“You don’t need a new shirt and you also don’t need a new handbag. I’m sure you’d be cute if you ran around in a plastic bag. But anyway, I was just on my way out when I saw you. I just had to say hi. Do you want to grab a quick coffee?”
What if you want more daygame openers?
If you buy my book Rise of the Phoenix, you get a free copy of my Cocky Cold Approach Cheat Sheet as a bonus. This eBook includes 72-word-for-word openers that you can use for every situation.
Now let’s continue with the instant date…
9. How to Turn a Daygame Session into an Instant Date
The instant date should be your goal.
A lot of dating coaches give the advice to go for the number close. I disagree with that. If you have the time, I’d always go for the instant date. An instant date can lead to an instant connection. And yes, almost every girl has five minutes.
“Why don’t we have a quick coffee and continue our conversation? Come on. It’ll only take five minutes.”
Here’s where I would take her:
Go to a café.
This is the most casual venue and that’s exactly the energy you want to create. It should be casual, without any commitment. Use the instant date to get to know her. Once she’s hooked, you can get closer, touch her, and sexually escalate.
Summed Up Wisdom
This is a beginner’s guide to daygame. You can either choose to go direct or to go indirect. I prefer the direct approach because it’s more authentic and I don’t like to waste time. But feel free to test both approaches. And feel free to test different venues.
I excel in bookstores and in parks. But you might have a different experience. As long as you have the right tools and your business cards, you are ready to go. Now get yourself in the mood and go out there to meet women.
Follow Dr. Jordan Peterson’s advice and correct your posture. Now you just have to smile and walk up to her. Use one of the openers I shared with you. What about the number close? Always go for the instant date. This makes it so much easier to set up the next date and to escalate.