I won’t say that you can’t date Nigerian women without reading this guide. You can. But you won’t be successful.
The color of your skin is not the only thing that’s different.
You have been raised on a different continent, in a different culture and with completely different values.
I know, you are fascinated by these beautiful and sexy dark-skinned girls. Being together with such a woman would mean the world to you. You can’t stop thinking about how it would be to hold her, to kiss her and to…
I promise you one thing.
After you have read this guide, you will be able to attract, date and keep your Nigerian princess.
How can I be so sure about that?
Well, because I’m going to share the following things with you.
- I share my own experience about (kind of) dating a Nigerian girl.
- I reveal the true character of these curvy ladies.
- I tell you WHY these beautiful African women want to date a man like you and WHERE you can meet thousands of them.
- I share, step-by-step, what you need to do if you want to date and/or marry a woman from this country.
And do you know why I share all these things with you?
I do it because I want you to have more success dating Nigerian woman than I had with my beautiful friend Rita...
6 Characteristics of the Pretty Nigerian Girl I Was Dating
I want to be honest. Her real name is not Rita. Her name is…
She would never forgive me if I shared her name with hundreds of thousands of people.
She’s a good girl.
And no, I don’t say this with a sarcastic undertone. I really mean it. When I met her during my studies in England, I was at a stage of my life where I wasn’t interested in good girls. Back then I didn’t have the emotional maturity for a serious relationship.
I will never forget her smile when she looked at me with her beautiful big eyes and said “you dey make my head scatter”…or something like that.
She was in love with me.
I learned a lot about Nigerian women and about myself from this experience. But technically speaking, we weren’t even dating. I mean, the definitions of third base and fourth base vary. All I can say is that we didn’t go all the way.
She was way too religious for that…
1. Nigerian Women Are Very Religious
I told you that you would be screwed without this guide.
You would probably tell a girl from the north of Nigeria that you are Catholic and wonder why she doesn’t reply. Religion is a very important part of the Nigerian society.
Rita, the girl I dated, was so religious that sleeping with me was not on the menu.
I mean, she wanted to, but her religious belief was strong enough to resist the temptation…until one night where I was the one who had to be strong enough to prevent her from doing something she would regret.
She was from Lagos, the biggest city in the country. And she was so religious that the Bible was her constant companion. In fact, about 50% of Nigerians are Christians and many of them live in the South. The northern regions are populated by Muslims.
But don’t believe that the women from Christian families are more liberated. Some of them are, but some of them are like Rita.
Why am I telling you this?
Because I don’t want that you waste your time with the wrong woman.
I’m sorry to say this, but if you are a Muslim and you want to date a Christian Nigerian girl, your chance of success is 1 to 1.000.000. The same is true the other way around.
Keep that in mind before you meet Nigerian girls online.
2. Sexy Nigerian Girls Have Amazing Curves
You can’t imagine how painful it was to be in one room with Rita. On the one hand, she was more religious than the Pope. On the other hand, she had curves like Nicki Minaj.
That’s the definition of torture.
But don’t worry. Not every Nigerian woman is that religious. There are a lot of women in this country who don’t want to wait until they are married. They are proud to show their curves…but only to the right guy.
Damn, Nigerian ladies have curves to die for.
If you are into skinny girls with small boobs, you should go to Thailand. However, if you are into curvy girls with juicy asses and beautiful round breasts, Nigeria is the right country for you.
3. Nigerian Babes Can Cook Like Gordon Ramsey
Want to know why I dated Rita, even though sex was not on the menu?
Well, other things were on the menu, delicious things.
Let me say it like this: If you are looking for a beautiful African wife who can cook the most delicious meals for you, you should date a Nigerian woman.
Your future wife can cook. And it gets even better. She really enjoys it…
God knows that the meals that this woman cooked for me made me say “hallelujah”. One day her meal made me scream “hallelujah!” but only because she tortured me with green chilly.
Whenever I was with her, I felt like a king…a sexless king but a king nonetheless.
Maybe it was because of the Suya she cooked for me, maybe because of the Jollof rice that I loved so much. But it was probably because of the deep-friend battered yams that I got addicted to.
But your future Nigerian girlfriend is more than just a good cook.
4. Nigerian Women are Highly Educated and Fluent in English
The hot Nigerian women you’ll meet online might not be highly educated, but they have the potential to become highly educated.
There are many controversial articles about the intelligence of the people in this African country. One article even says that “Nigerians are stupid people who deserve what they’ve got”. I really don’t want to share this article.
On the other hand, there are articles like this that prove that Nigerians are the most educated people in the USA. Yep, they are better than Asians. And Rita is one of these brainiacs. She studies aerospace engineering.
The last time I checked you can’t be an idiot to build spaceships.
Many Nigerian women, especially the ones in the bigger cities and the ones who’ve been abroad, are educated. And it gets even better. They are also fluent in English. Even though Nigeria gained independence from England in 1960, English is still the official language.
5. Nigerian Mail Order Brides Can Be Materialistic
Okay, Rita is an exception.
She doesn’t care about cars, designer handbags and other material things. Unfortunately, she’s not like most Nigerian women. Many of them care way too much.
Whatever the reason may be, you have to deal with it. It’s not easy to find a non-materialistic woman who believes in minimalism.
Nigerian women expect their men to do two things:
- A: Take care of them.
- B: Provide for them.
That doesn’t mean that these ladies can’t be sweet and supportive lovers. They can. I know a guy who’s happily married to a Nigerian woman. He loves his wife…
…but splitting the bill is something that she had to get used to.
These women are born and raised with the belief that men who can’t provide for a woman are worth nothing. Sounds brutal, but it’s the truth.
Don’t judge her when her first question is “what do you do for a living?”
6. Sexy Nigerian Ladies are Wonderful Wives
Nigerian women can be wonderful wives.
Not just because I know a guy who’s married to one. No, also because they have what modern Western women don’t have.
They respect men and they want to submit to their husbands. Yes, they want it. That’s their culture. Heck, many feminine and beautiful Nigerian ladies in Western countries don’t understand it when a woman doesn’t want that. They just don’t know what’s wrong with being submissive.
Rita is one of them. Even though she studies aerospace engineering and speaks out against domestic violence, she doesn’t understand Western relationships.
Not wanting to cook, not wanting to clean the house, and not wanting to take care of the man…that’s unimaginable to her.
That’s how Nigerian women show their love.
You better appreciate it.
4 Reasons Why Nigerian Mail Order Brides are Looking for Men Abroad
Now you might ask yourself:
“If these women are so sexy, educated, and can cook like Gordon Ramsey, why do they want to date ME?”
Well, there are several reasons.
First of all, I’m sure that you are a great guy. You would do everything to make your Nigerian girlfriend or wife happy.
This alone makes you a good catch.
However, there’s one other thing about you and a bunch of other things about the local men that force Nigerian mail order brides to look for men abroad.
1. Pretty Nigerian Girls Are Victims of Domestic Violence
Just have a look at the following headline.
Maybe now you understand why Nigerian women are seeking men from Western countries.
Unfortunately, this is not the only forum entry that I found in which women complained about the Nigerian tradition to beat the crap out of their wives. It’s brutal, but apparently it’s true. Rita didn’t deny it. She said that she was lucky to grow up in a family where it’s not common to use your hand as a way to get artificial “respect”.
Apparently, domestic violence is a huge issue in this country. If you don’t believe me, have a look at the following quote from a Nigerian man about South African women (and yes, I cite it word for word):
“Here in South Africa you women are too free. Every little beating and you call the police. In Nigeria….if she is your girlfriend, the police would leave you to continue.”
Imagine you would be a Nigerian woman and you could have THIS reality or the reality that you see in Hollywood movies.
It’s not hard to choose.
2. Nigerian Men are Not Famous for Their Faithfulness
Why do you dream of dating Nigerian women?
Probably because you want a beautiful African girlfriend and maybe even a stunning wife with traditional family values who takes care of you and your children.
I am in a relationship with the foreign girl of my dreams. I know how fulfilling this is.
The good news is that she wants the same. She wants a man who takes care of her and who wants to be with her…not with her neighbor, her sister and the lady from the laundry shop. Unfortunately, this dream will never come true, at least not as long as she stays in her Nigerian village.
“I’ve never met a Nigerian man who even tried to be faithful!”
That’s what Rita told me and due to the fact that I chatted with many sexy Nigerian women on the biggest African dating site, I believe her.
This was the first dating site I reviewed where you can choose between a monogamous relationship and a polyamorous relationship. That reveals a lot about the Nigerian dating customs.
In other words, Nigerian men expect that their wives accept or at least silently tolerate it that they bang the whole village when she’s at work. Many women don’t want that. They want a man who was born in a culture where being monogamous is the norm.
3. Nigerian Men are Extremely Good at Lying
I’m really grateful for my friendship with Rita. She showed me how amazing Nigerian people can be, especially the women.
What about the men?
Well, I’m sure there are many amazing men in this country, but I only made bad experiences. I had a Nigerian friend in college (at least I though he was my friend) who lied to me in order to get money. I never saw that money again. I trusted him. That hurt.
I was not the only student at my university who fell for this scam.
Then I found this article about Nigerian men. It’s an article that warns Kenyan women about these “conmen”. Apparently, many girls fall for their lies and frauds. The article ends with the words “you have been warned. Stay away from Nigerian men”.
You can say what you want, but I’ve never read such things about English, French, German, and American men. All these sexy Nigerian mail order brides haven’t either.
4. Nigerian Mail Order Brides are Attracted to White Men
Are you a Caucasian man?
In case you are, there’s a fourth reason why these dark-skinned beauties are chasing you. You have something what they are incredibly attracted to.
You have white skin.
Don’t even think about asking me if black women like white men. They do. Most African women are crazy for white guys, but Nigerian girls are on top of this list. According to Aljazeera and many other news outlets, Nigeria has the world’s highest percentage of women using skin lightening products.
Until today I thought that the Philippines are the leaders when it comes to this stupid obsession. Well, I was wrong.
“White skin is beautiful. It’s a sign of status. It’s a sign of purity. White skin is a sign of wealth.”
That’s what Rita told me. She uses skin whitening products, just like 77% of the Nigerian women. And like I said, she was obsessed with me…and probably also with my skin.
4 Types of Sexy Nigerian Girls Looking for Men Online
But who are these women you meet on African dating sites?
You have to understand that they are not all the same. There are different types of Nigerian women. Some of them are good for you. Others are very, very dangerous.
When I asked Rita about the different types of Nigerian women, she just said “that’s a long story…do you have time to skype?”
What I expected to be a short answer via Facebook turned into a Skype call that lasted for over an hour.
We had a great time and I’m sure that the result of our conversation will help you to find your dream girl…
1. The Religious Virgin Who’s Looking for Her Special Someone
No wonder this was the first type of Nigerian girl that Rita talked about. That’s her. No doubt about it.
You can find a lot of girls like her in this African country.
These girls won’t sleep with you on the first, second or third date. No chance. They might consider it when you are in a serious relationship, but most of them want to wait until they are married or at least engaged.
They know every line of the Bible. They know the New and the Old Testament and not only God, but also her father would kill her if she would have a sexual relationship with a Western man.
There are only two ways you can sleep with a girl like her:
- You are Religious (either Catholic or Muslim, depending on which part of the country she’s from)
- You wait until you are married or at least engaged
Being together with such a woman can be the most wonderful thing on earth. She wants to be a wife. She wants to be a good mother. If you are a religious man who wants to start a family, this type of girl is perfect for you.
What if you are not?
Don’t even think about it.
2. The Traditional Nigerian Village Girl
This type of girl can be very religious. But there’s a high chance that she’s only religious when her parents are around. Rita warned me about this type of girl. She said that they will do EVERYTHING to make a high quality man like you commit.
This girl has only one purpose in life:
Find a high quality man who takes care of her.
That’s it. That’s what she wants. She’s the kind of girl who gets nervous when she’s still not married with 18.
How are the traditional Nigerian village girls as girlfriends?
In one word: Incredible.
They have traditional family values. They respect their men. They are submissive to their men. Hell, they do EVERYTHING for their men. Dating a Nigerian woman like her will put you on cloud nine.
The only downside is that she will also do EVERYTHING to keep you…
And she has learned from her grandmother that sex and babies are a good way to make a man commit. Be careful that you don’t burn yourself while playing with her fire.
3. The Independent Nigerian Beauty Who Has Studied Abroad
She’s the complete opposite of the village girl. Her home is in Lagos, Abuja or Ibadan. And traditional is the wrong word to describe her. I mean, her parents might think that she’s traditional, but she’s not, at least not anymore.
Her parents are rich and that’s why they sent her to a college abroad.
Thanks to the influence of the Western culture, their daughter became everything they didn’t want her to become. She adapted the Western lifestyle of drinking, partying and forgetting about marriage. She’s not the kind of girl you want.
Or maybe she is…
Some independent Nigerian beauties don’t go to the extreme. They find the balance between traditional values and Western “freedom”. These girls can be amazing girlfriends because they combine the best of both worlds.
If she weren’t so extremely religious, Rita would be a great example.
4. The Classy Nigerian Lady Who’s Sick of Nigerian Men
She’s from a good family, but she hasn’t been abroad.
She’s religious, but she’s not a virgin anymore. In fact, she tried her luck with the local men but she’s disappointed.
She believes in a traditional marriage and traditional gender roles, but she’s too proud and too financially independent to put up with the cheating, lying and domestic violence of the local men.
Her mantra is “I deserve better”.
And she really does. She deserves a man who loves her and supports her, not a man who lies to her and beats her. She deserves a man like you. You will find a lot of these women on African dating sites.
How to Meet Hot Nigerian Girls Online
Now you’re probably asking yourself…
“Where can I meet these four types of girls?”
Well, you could travel to Nigeria. You could pay a couple of hundred bucks for the flight, another fifty bucks for a hotel room and fly to Lagos. Then you could run around the streets approaching women while you hope that you don’t get hit by a car.
That’s the complicated way. But there’s also an easy way and the easy way has a name:
It’s called Afro Introductions.
“What the hell is this?” You might ask yourself.
Well, it’s nothing less than the biggest African online dating site in this galaxy. With more than 2.5 million members, many of them from Nigeria, it is impossible to not find the right girl.
I tried to not get a reply. I send the most sexually inappropriate first message that you can possibly imagine and I received replies like this one...
What are you waiting for?
There are hundreds of thousands of beautiful Nigerian women on this site.
Click here to see the exact message I sent and the replies I got from stunning African beauties
Dating a Beautiful Nigerian Woman: A Step-by-Step Manual
Did you already join Afro Introductions?
You are already one step ahead of all the men who dream about dating Nigerian women but never actually do anything.
But you already know that finding your African princess is just the first step.
The day will come when you’ll finally meet her in real life. She’s beautiful on Skype but she’ll be even more beautiful when you meet her in person.
That’s why you don’t want to mess it up. And believe me. There are many ways to mess up a first date with a woman from this country. Hell, you can even mess up everything BEFORE you meet her in person.
Step 1: Approach Nigerian Girls with Confidence
How can you mess it up before you meet her in person?
Try it with shyness. That always works against you, at least in Nigeria.
I mean, in some Asian countries the girls consider it as cute when a guy is a bit shy. Not in this country. Nope, you are in Africa and the African women expect men to be confident.
I don’ care if that sounds brutal. It’s the truth. She is a submissive woman and she wants a confident man.
Why do you think these girls are so into my sexually explicit message?
Confidence is the answer.
Step 2: Choose a Cheap Place for the First Date But Pay for Her
I already warned you about the one negative characteristic of Nigerian women.
They are materialistic, at least most of them.
What if you are a minimalist and you don’t want to date a materialistic woman?
Find out if the stereotype is true. Remember, MOST of them are materialistic. Not all of them. Rita doesn’t care about what car you drive. One of her friends wouldn’t date a guy without a black credit card.
It’s your job to find out what kind of girl you are talking to. It’s easy. You just have to follow two simple rules.
- Rule #1: Don’t reveal your income on the online dating site.
- Rule #2: Choose a cheap place for the first date.
Rule number one repels the gold diggers. Rule number two reveals if she wants you or a delicious free meal. Don’t laugh. I went on a date with another Nigerian woman in London. She wanted the free meal.
Follow these two simple rules and you will find out if she wants you or a lobster.
Step 3: Prove to Her that You Are Serious
There are no F boys for cute Nigerian girls.
Hey, don’t complain about my inappropriate language.
And she’s right. I learned this the hard way while I tried to date Rita.
Commitment is the only way to win the heart of a Nigerian woman. That doesn’t mean that you have to marry her straight away. Just remember that the expressions “casual sex” and “friends with benefits“ are not in her vocabulary.
She already believes that you, as a Western man, are more responsible than the local men, but she’s still suspicious.
That’s why you need to prove that you are serious.
How do you do this?
Communication is the magic word you’re looking for.
Tell her that you want a serious relationship. Oh, and tell her exactly how you imagine your ideal relationship. Once she knows what she can expect, she will do everything to get it.
Step 4: Find out if her Father is Racist against White People
Breathe in. Breathe out.
You can do it. I know you can. You are nervous. I would be nervous too. Nevertheless, you need to take this step. If you have found the right girl, there’s no way around it.
She wants you to meet her family.
As a Western man, this can make you nervous. As a white Western man, this can scare the shit out of you. I mean, you don’t know if her father is racist against white people.
“Well, it can happen. But it’s very rare.”
That’s what Rita said.
One the one hand, Nigeria has been an English colony. Not so good. On the other hand, Nigerian people (especially the women) are obsessed with white skin. Not so bad.
If I can believe Rita, the father of a Nigerian girl won’t get a stroke when she sees her dating a white guy. Her grandfather might get one, but all I would care about is her father.
What about her mom? She will love you the moment she sees you.
4 Questions You Must Ask Yourself Before Marrying a Nigerian Woman
Let’s imagine that you are smart enough to read my Afro Introductions Review and to sign up on this amazing African dating site. Imagine that you meet a hot Nigerian woman who is so sexy, so sensual and so passionate that your head is spinning.
You take her to a cheap place. She smiles. You meet her family. She smiles even more.
You can’t wait until she finally gets the visa to live with you in your country. It’s just a matter of time until you ask her the question that she’s been waiting for since your first date.
“Will you marry me?”
The answer is “yes!” and you are the happiest man in the world.
You can’t wait to experience THIS every day…
You love her and she loves you, but for some reason you are asking yourself if this is the right decision.
You need answers.
1. Is it Okay for a Nigerian Woman to Marry a White Man?
For some, it’s the biggest dream. For others, it’s unthinkable.
I already told you that white skin is considered beautiful. Many Nigerian women would kill to date a white guy. However, some girls, even though the might want to, would never marry a white man.
Maybe their family is racist. Maybe they just don’t like strangers. They wouldn’t even marry a man from another tribe, let alone a man from another country. Whatever it is, you don’t have to worry about these girls.
You will never find one of them on an international dating site.
If you are dating a Nigerian woman you’ve met online, she wants to marry you. Otherwise, she wouldn’t have joined this site in the first place.
2. Why Are there so Many Nigerian Women Caught Cheating?
You won’t believe how much stuff shows up when you type “Nigerian woman caught in the act” into Google. Do this and you might think that I’m insane for telling you that marrying a woman from this country can be a good decision.
I looked at several videos, read dozens of articles that discuss this issue and watched three raunchy videos. Here’s what I discovered:
- All the girls were cheating on their Nigerian husbands. There’s not one video of a woman who’s cheating on her white husband.
- The girls who were caught on camera seem to be uneducated and live in run-down huts in villages.
In general, faithfulness is very important to Nigerian women. I mean, one reason why your girlfriend chose you is because you don’t expect a polyamorous relationship.
Yes, they cheat, but only on Nigerian men.
According to Rita, it’s because they know that the men do the same. Many of them don’t understand why they should be faithful when their husband has banged the whole tribe. Makes sense, right?
Would she act like this when she’s married to you?
She chose you because she wants a monogamous relationship and she knows that she would destroy everything by cheating on you.
3. Is My Nigerian Wife Married to Me or to Her Career?
That’s a good question. Heck, that’s probably one of the main reasons why you don’t want to marry a Western woman. You don’t want a woman who’s married to her career.
You want a woman who’s married to you.
I already answered this question by telling you that all these sexy Nigerian women have traditional family values, are submissive to their men, and love cooking more than drinking. But I answer it again with this popular forum question…
Calm down. You are marrying a feminine and supportive woman. Not a CEO.
4. Can I Keep up with the Sexual Demands of a Hot Nigerian Woman?
Until recently it was a cultural taboo in Nigeria to talk about female sexual gratification.
In fact, one of the reasons why these beautiful dark-skinned ladies love to cheat on their men is because their husbands don’t give a flying fuck about their pleasure. There are dozens of articles about that.
“When you marry, you are there to satisfy your husband…you are not really told that you are there for any pleasurable fulfillment.” – Iheoma Obibi, Adult sex shop owner in Nigeria
Still wonder why they cheat on their Nigerian men?
It’s still a taboo to talk about female orgasms but things are slowly changing. These sexy, curvy ladies have demands.
They have desires and they want a man who wants to fulfill these desires.
If you can answer this question with “yes”, you don’t have to worry about a cheating wife and you for sure don’t have to worry about a boring marriage.
Summed Up Wisdom
Dating Nigerian women without knowing what to do is suicide. Without knowing about the characteristics of these sexy dark-skinned ladies, you will never know if you really want to date them. And without knowing the four reasons why Nigerian mail order brides go crazy for Western men, you might not believe your luck when you get dozens of messages from hot Nigerian girls.
It’s really easy to meet Nigerian girls online on the biggest African dating site, but you might still mess up the first date by taking her to an expensive place and by being way too insecure.
Oh, and if you are worried that your Nigerian wife might cheat on you, you absolutely have to read the last chapter of this article. Knowing why they cheat and when they cheat will blow your mind. And she will blow yours, but only if you can keep up with her demands.
Sebastian Harris says
thank you so much for your feedback!
Matthew A McCrae says
I wanted to personally thank you for your article.
I emigrated to South Africa when I was 12 and returned to the U.K several years later. Basically I grew up during the apartheid years in a country that had absolutely no respect for the colour of a persons skin. Being a bit of a maverick at heart (I blame it on my star sign) this had a profound effect on me.
I have worked like a dog for most of my life and had many of life’s lessons under my belt as I sit down to write this. At the age of 56 I have retired although I continue to work. My personality is that of an old school gentleman and I know that one day I will settle down and spend the remainder of my life with a lady that has more melanin in her skin tone than I have.
Your article has answered many questions I had, as I always had a feeling that marrying a lady from another background would be so difficult as many things including my personality would be lost in translation.
I believe that if I can help at least one person, then my life has been worth it. I am very selfless and find myself always doing things to help others. I just wanted you to know that you have helped me today.
I hope you have a wonderful life and God blesses you with reward beyond your desires and imagination.
Once again my friends, thank you.
Sebastian Harris says
I wish you all the best, but be careful with women who lie to you.
Sebastian Harris says
I’m sure you’ll soon start your journey!
The Capricorn says
Hey guys and hello Sebastian,
I’ve always wanted to share my opinion about Nigerian girls, some of them are ugly; BUT some girls have a body to die for.
I dated two Nigerian beauties, from the comforts of my home, via Facebook. Both were amazing.
Girl 1 description: Loyal, sweet and beautiful. Amazing ass and boobs. But, never showed me her nude pics despite of my haggling and sweet talk. Worked at a respectable institution. Sad, I never made it to Nigeria, so I purposefully broke up with her. Last but not the least, had a great respect towards her Christian religion.
Girl 2 description: She is from Calabar. Now for those guys who don’t know what they are, just google Calabar women. They too have a carnival. Their beauty and sex drive is way higher than other Africans. The only Africans to rival them in beauty are the Mestizo women from Cape Verde and Ethiopian women. Calabari women have the sexiest curves according to me. I date this girl now, but because of our time zones and work life we can’t get more time for each other. She is hot as hell, yet she is not arrogant about her beauty.
I am a Global Seducer with a difference, I don’t have the time and resources to make a thorough study like Sebastian does. But one day I will start the journey. But the articles posted here are amazing. Keep up the good work Seb.
bradley jones says
After reading all the information on this site – I understand the problems I am having with my Nigerian girlfriend – I keep getting told to be careful of any body from Nigerian – and this has occassionally caused me to get augre with my girlfirends behaviour
My girlfriend has lied to me from the start and it has taked over 10 weeks to get her to trust me and find out about her past – I hope to have her come to me in several weeks time
If you ever start chatting online with a woman from Nigerian – get ready for bad internet, bad english and accept bitcoin as the only way to get money to them
I think I will marry her when I finally met her
Sebastian Harris says
feel free to share your experience here in the comments. I hope it will inspire others to find a girlfriend.
bradley jones says
Sebastian – i currently have an Nigerian girlfriend online – i am hoping that she will joint me in 2 weeks time – i would like to share my experience with you if you want information from a male trying to get a woman out of Nigerian
Sebastian Harris says
Thanks a lot
Interestingly enough you are close to to correct, if not on point. Lol
Sebastian Harris says
Thanks for sharing your opinion. I’m glad to hear that a Nigerian lady agrees with me. I sometimes think about her 😉
Hello, I like your views on the Nigerian woman.it’s flattering and somewhat true, though some glitches, especially on the truth that not all Nigerian girls are crazy about or nuts for western guys… and there are many true and real men in nigeria….and pls, I’d like to know if you ended up with your Rita or whatever her name is,because you still sound like you have feelings…
Hi u very nice
Sebastian Harris says
I love your talk sebastine
Sebastian Harris says
I’m so glad I stumbled on this page, I was making a research for my next blog post on dating in Nigeria and why it is considered normal and expected for the guy to pay always. Lol, I’m from Nigeria. I’ve lived here all my life and I must say you are very correct but somethings are changing now though. Most of what you wrote here is true and I’ll find a way to share this so more Nigerians can read it. Good work Sabastian
Sebastian Harris says
nope. I haven’t done any research on that. I’m open for comments 😉
I must commend you on your research. Have you done any on Eastern men + Nigerian women? 🙂
Sebastian Harris says
you will definitely find one on Afro Introductions. Check out my review. You can find links to my review in this article. I wish you all the best.
Catalano Joe says
I have always found Nigerian woman incredible . I am now 61 years old and looking for a ( preferably ) Nigerian woman around the same age group. I admire women that are true to their men.
Is there a legitimate web site to try meet someone to have a lifetime commitment with? Thank you.
Sebastian Harris says
Sebastian Harris says
have fun going nuts 😀
Just Ron says
Sarah, can you post an audio of you chuffing?;)
Just Ron says
I think I would feel as if I was in heaven if heaven actually existed if I went to Africa.
When I was 16, I played drums & keyboards in jazz groups around Chicago.
One of the guys was Lennie who played tenor sax.
We became friends. One day he invited me to his house.
Here I am, a white guy from a racially ignorant suburban family.
Lennie lived in a black neighborhood in the city.
We were sitting as their kitchen table just talking about whatever when a sensual emanation seemed to coalesce in the room.
What coalsced was the most beautiful dark skinned black girl I had ever seen.
It felt as if she reached into my chest, puled out my heart and said, “This is mine”.
I could feel myself saying, “Yes, it is.”
We were in a wonderful relationship for 1&1/2 years till they had to move far away for Dad’s job.
This was before the internet so we drifted.
She still lives in my heart & mind.
I have enjoyed dating a dark woman ever since.
I’m an aggresively assertive guy who pretty much says what’s on my mind.
I’m that guy who says real men don’t hit women.
Real men do not have to hit a woman to get her to do what he wants.
Real men treat a woman with kindness, respect and caring so that she WANTS to be with him and wants to please him.
She does so out of respect and love. Not out of fear.
I think I’d go nuts if I went to Africa, what with all those gorgeous women.lol
I am very delighted in reading these posts. The dating experience that I have had with meeting and dating a Nigerian lady from Lagos has been a wonderful experience. I will start by saying that I am an African American male and well-educated. The lady I met and intend on marrying very soon is absolutely beautiful in appearance and has a beautiful heart and great integrity. I speak to her for hours on end and we often keep video chat running while she is sleeping and sometimes while I am sleeping. The connection and love that we have developed is very unbelievably powerful.
I have learned from her, that the reason she wants a western man is for security; financial and emotional. She has stated that dating men from her country is not an option due to cheating, lies, and physical abuse. So, I agree with your description of dating life in this post for Nigerian women. I will also agree with the intelligence of Nigerian women as being very high as she has assisted me with solving complex issues with business and life several times this month alone. For this, I feel that I have found a strong ally and companion in life.
I highly recommend Nigerian women to any western man, despite race or color. However, the pitfalls of meeting an authentic Nigerian woman on Afro Productions can be a great challenge. I would suggest using hand signals and return photos to authenticate the person in which you are chatting to quickly identify fake profiles and scammers. This is an easy process and necessary to satisfy due diligence on you internet search. Any questions, feel free to post here.
Sebastian Harris says
Sarah Bee says
I’m just super chuffed you even wrote this! Especially in the current climate where most Nigerian guys are so critical of Nigerian women. It’s good to know there are men out there who appreciate us for our quality. I think the article is fairly accurate. Well done!
Sebastian Harris says
thank you so much for your insights!
Hello. I just came across this and it’s funny. It got me thinking. I am a Nigerian from the north and contrary to what you said, there are a lot of christians in the north. I am one.
You raised very interesting points. Based on your grouping, I suppose that I would classify myself among the class of “religious, virginal ,educated girls who don’t take shit but are quite unsure how to proceed in this scary relationship waters”.
The reason why most Nigerian women are more desperate to get married than build careers is largely due to how they are raised. Every lesson and training at home is geared towards becoming good wives. Till date, I can’t seem to make any mistake at home without my mother or grandmother asking, “Is this how you will behave in your husbands house?” Note that my mother is very educated.
Most of the men are told that they are the heads and have supreme power. They are encouraged to lead and control. Infact, my little cousin is being groomed as the father for his elder sisters.
You mentioned cheating by men. I have to agréé. It is so widespread that both men and women have accepted it as the norm. I hear some women saying, “All men cheat. Just accept It. Will you break your mariage just because he hits you?” etc. It sickens me. One of my uncles recently impregnated a girl. He was barely cautioned, instead the bulk of the blame was placed on his wife. Some of our relatives insisted that she had bad attitudes that pushed him to it.
Of course, there are good husbands here. I know some quite well. But most see themselves as gods.
Whenever I want to amuse myself, I tell my mum and grannie that the last thing on my mind is marriage and that my interests are on earning money and building a house. Tempers flare and fresh moral lessons ensue.
When I was 5, my dad sent us out of his house and married another woman. My mum didn’t remarry, raised me and built her own house where we now live. So she has personally had a shitty experience. Yet, she insists that marriage gives fulfilment and respect. She always reiterates that just because her marriage failed, it doesn’t mean all others do.
I often wonder if this stems from how she was raised, her desire to encourage me or her fear that I would be alone forever. Perhaps it’s a combination of all these.
I have nothing against marriage though. I intend to one day but the mentality of the men I’ve met terrifies me. I refuse to condone abuse or cheating. And I sure as hell don’t want a man like my father.
This is the dilemma of the average Nigerian girl (I think).
*Not every Nigerian girl wants to marry a white man. I have never thought of doing that but I admire some aspects of western marriages like equality and the ability to easily count on the police for help.
In addition, it’s true that many of our girls want to marry rich men but a lot would prefer understanding men who listened to them and didn’t cheat. At least, I know I would.
As you can see, I used certain instances from my family. It’s what I’m familiar with.
Just realised how long this comment is. Wow!
Sebastian Harris says
Houston, then you need a Western man 😛
Sebastian Harris says
could you explain that further?
It takes a Nigerian man to fully understand the level of cunning these women have developed in order to make themselves worth chasing.
BiafraMan is behaving like your typical Nigerian guy. He’s territorial about Nigerian women but when she wants commitment he will look away and find the next best thing. He doesn’t want to see Nigerian women with men of other races and some of them are social climbers. He will date a girl if she’s financially comfortable. Ladies don’t want to feed a man, we don’t mind assisting but when both wifely and husbandly duties come our way, ‘ Houston, we have a problem!
Sebastian Harris says
Even though I don’t agree with everything you say, I appreciate that you share your thoughts. I’m going to ask Rita about your comment 😉
ha-ha, I can’t stop laughing, am a Nigerian, live in Lagos, most of what you said are true. but the only reason a Nigerian girl will Mary a white man is because of security. which means money and more ego around her friends: not so long it was a fag for white husband rush- one question you should ask your Rita is “whether you don fall maga”. for the sex part: Nigerian girls knows by playing hard to get with magas, it increase their value. for the Village girls: Rita had been watching a lot of home videos, in reality it not like that, it the opposite instead. for the men Nigeria men are unfaithful due to the materialistic altitude of the women, Nigeria women dreams of marrying a rich husband.